First Therapy Appointment

[claire_hollinger]

So my wife said that even she can tell the difference between me when i get time to dress, and me when I cant at all. She wanted me to make an appointment and see if I can get "help". I told her of the many, many, many different outcomes that could happen, and then she told me...."If she says you need to start hormones, I'm going to to punch her in the face." I don't even know how to process that.

[Bria]

Claire, I guess you have a pretty good idea where your wife stands at this point in time. Certainly not the positive support that one would hope for, but she is not on the fence on this issue. I think that my wife has a similar position, but I'm not in therapy or moving in that direction.

Hopefully your wife will be able to grow with you as you go though the process to whatever end that occurs.

Hugs, Bria

[AllieSF]

She told you to make an appointment, so, by all means do it. If your therapist eventually tells you that hormone therapy would help you, make a joint appointment with your wife so that the therapist can explain what is happening to you and then tell your wife that he/she recommends HRT. That way you follow all of your wife's directions, including not being the person who may have to tell her that you need HRT. It may sound like I am making light of the situation. But, you really know what you need to do and she at least is in agreement about getting professional help. I think that she may pull her punch after listening to a third party professional explain your issues and situation. She just needs time to get her own mind around it too. Good luck.

[PretzelGirl]

I wonder how that came out. If she sees the difference in you, she could easily already be settled in this. Tone of voice and all that applies. The question is, are you feeling like you are ready for therapy? Are you ready to process this and accept the outcomes, whether it means transition, staying where you are at, or whatever you come to terms with?

[claire_hollinger]

I actually am....I dont really think full transition will be the outcome. I dont feel that need (would absolutely love to, but not necessary). This is more of working through the anger and irritability that comes with any real repression. I understand that transition may be the best possible thing for me, and I'll cross that bridge if it comes to it. I think this is really more for her than me, but since she brought it up, i hopped on the train :)

[I Am Paula]

IMHO, you would know if transition was right for you. It's not an optional thing. Good luck!

[Janelle_C]

A good Gender Therapist will be able to help you sort though all your feelings. I was very fortunate to have a very good therapist. But for me once I pulled that cork out of that bottle it took me on a path that I waited a lifetime for. There was no putting that cork back in. My wife went to a few therapist appointments with me and I think it helped. Make sure that you find a therapist that has gender experience.

[claire_hollinger]

The office said they had a woman whose speciality was gender therapy. That's who they scheduled me with.

[Jorja]

If you feel the need, if you think this is a direction you need to take, I highly suggest Meral Crane and The Gender Program of Central Ohio at 704 Highland Dr. Columbus, OH 43214.

[claire_hollinger]

This place is closer, and as well know, being a woman is expensive lol