in my comfort zone

[Bobbi46]

fmany years now I have been interested in crossdressing and have always like lingerie. i have been on my own now for the last three years and can now relax properly. i go out with lingerie underwear on and when i return I like nothing better than to relax in a blouse and skirt with lingerie underwear on. My only problem is what should I do if someone visits, how do i go about telling my close friends that this is what to expect when they visit me. I have found that lingerie underwear is so much more comfortable that i wonder why I did not change before

[Marcelle]

Hi there and welcome as I see this is your first post :)

Getting comfortable with yourself is always a good first step. WRT telling others should they visit the questions you have to ask is . . . How comfortable are you with others knowing? Many here dress in various states and do so in private with nobody else ever knowing and that is what works for them. Still others are out to many and that is what works for them. If you don't have an overwhelming need to let others know about what you wear when at home then there is not need to share and should someone drop by unexpectedly to visit, then you can either choose not to answer the door or change and then answer the door.

However, if you feel you really need to tell others then I suggest one on one with people who you know are likely to drop by. Tell them honestly about yourself and why it is you like to do it. Give them time to process and answer any questions then let it go. Next time they drop by then you can answer the door knowing they are somewhat prepared. However, once you let this information go to one person, you loose positive control over it and they are free to share it with whoever they like. So again it comes down to how comfortable you are with others (including family and friends) knowing.

Hugs

Isha

[Teresa]

Longlegs,
Why let it worry you now, if you enjoy dressing at your age let others get use to it ! Like most of us you've probably earned the right to please yourself after years of thinking about others, besides what harm are you doing ?

[Melissa in SE Tn]

Longlegs--- Isha is right on target!!! Enjoy being a cd, mel

[Bobbi46]

Hi Isha, welcome words indeed I have no qualms about going to to the door dressed in blouse and skirt stockings and lingerie underwear to greet someone I do not know from what you say i think I wil confide in a close friend first. Crossing islike a dream come true

[Beverley Sims]

Do what I used to do, quickly throw on a sweater and some man pants.

Make them wait.....

You are in the wash room.

[Jazzy Jaz]

If you're comfortable going public then great, if not what i do is keep my doors locked and all windows have curtains. I can use going for a walk or something as an excuse for why my vehicle is home.

[CarlaWestin]

As you stated that you are on your own, you have been afforded a lot of uninterrupted time to experiment with makeup and different clothing looks. Why not achieve a subtle yet very passable look for exploring the world. Some of us here can't find enough time to shave our legs. Take advantage of your situation.

[Alice Torn]

If your lingerie is underneath your other clothes, that should not be a worry. they won't see it. Maybe a sweater, or man shirt, and trousers or pants , or socks nearby, and a quick trip to the washroom to wash off make up. Like Isha said, maybe tell friends one on one about your hobby. But feel them out first. Some won't be friends anymore.

[Bobbi46]

is it such a problem to loose some friends because they do not/cannot accept the new "me"? in many respects friends are a valuable thing to have

[Alice Torn]

longlegs, i find it hard to make friends, as i get older. Some of my old friends do not accept that i CD. For many people, they cannot get their heads around a man wearing weomens clothes, and they are very uncomfortable with it. it is hard to find someone who understands, and accepts you. I keep it away from all my family, and most people. So, i am a loner.

[docrobbysherry]

Ah yes, I remember those days, LLegs! Back when I first began dressing and so excited I underdressed. Once the erotic thrill passed, the girdles, nylons and bras began to cut, bind, and over heat me.:sad:
End of underdressing.

I used to love coming home to an empty house after a long work day and throw on some sexy things like hose, heels, and forms. But, over time that also lost it's exciting charm. Now, it's all 9 yards or I don't even bother!:battingeyelashes:

And, as I began dressing more and more? My invitations for friends to drop by decreased more and more. Now, after 15+ years, they just don't!:straightface:
So, it just depends on "Out" u want to be, LLegs. I have all new dressing friends now!:hugs:

[LexiMay]

I'm in the same boat right now, I think the best thing you/we can do is just take things at a pace that works! 💜

[Bobbi46]

What does it feel like to slowly loose friends? that thought haunts me a bit only a bit. I am what I am, but talking to all of you is a great help and every bit of help is good to have.