finally told my wife

[natalieout]

2 weeks ago my wife asked me if I wanted to wear her dress. Finally I was honest. She has been amazing helping me with makeup and all. She still is not sure of this and we know we need a lot of work to make this work for both of us. The most amazing part is when I told her that I needed a day where I could freely roam the house, she worked it out for the kids to stay elsewhere. So I am sitting Here watching tv in a beautiful dress wig makeup and all, and it fills so **** good.

[Dana44]

Natalie, good for you. Go slow with her and let it sink in and communicate your thoughts with her.

[RADER]

Yes; Please go real slow, when she is convinced that you are not going
to run out on her and the kids, You just might have more days like this.
My wife was OK with my dressing; the deal was not to embarrass her
by going out of the house. I had no problem with that, I would never
pass as a female on any given day. Just to darn big.
Rader

[AnnaMarie]

Fabulous. I'm still to come out and know I should but have certain reasons why I'm not its great to hear positive stories

[natalieout]

Thank you for the encouragement and advice. That is why oh joined. New friends who understand me.

[DanaR]

My wife used to do that for me too, taking the kids somewhere for the day. Treat her well for her consideration.

[Suzie Petersen]

Hi Natalie,

Good for you, great to hear.

The advise from Dana, RADER and Dana is really worth listening to, Take it slow and keep your feet on the ground.
Make sure you dont make your wife feel she and your children are being pushed away!
If the space she is giving you to be girly make you happy, let most of that happiness go directly back to your relationship with your family.
If your wife senses that you are less stressed, more relaxed etc, she will likely see that what helps you, is good for the entire family :)

Hugs
Suzie

[katieann1]

I told my wife but she says it is just a behavior that I do and I know CD is not a behavior and I am willing to make some comprises to avoid my kids seeing me cd

[Marcelle]

Hi Natalie,

CONGRATS on such a great step. The important thing now is to keep the communication lines open with your wife as things move forward. This will help to avoid any potential problems. I started a thread some time back about communication post reveal which others here added great advice. This might be helpful as you move forward.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?226009-Communication-and-moving-forward-All-observations-welcomed-GGs-encouraged/page2&highlight=

Hugs

Isha

[SonjaThompson]

The best thing is to be totally open about your crossdressing. Tell her your thoughts and feelings and don't hide anything from her. It is the being open that will keep you both together. I know this from my own experience.

S

[chris63]

Sounds like my story. Amazing how we all have traveled similar paths. So glad you have an understanding wife. I do as well. It's a real blessing. It does feel good doesn't it!!

[Isabella Ross]

The truth does set you free (well, usually, anyhow).

[Karan]

Yes, go slow. Buy her flowers and have them delivered to her at work. Do little things just for her. Express gratitude and reassurance for your love for her.

[bridget thronton]

A wonderful wife

[ChristinaK]

Sounds like a dream come true. Take it slow, don't overwhelm her and don't be surprised if she has a change of heart later on. It can happen. Good luck and I'm very happy for you.

[Jazzy Jaz]

My recently aware SO supports me as well and a major thing I've learned is to make sure it benefits her. Don't just tell her you love her but express it to her in creative ways on a regular basis. Be honest, listen to her, and just be more loving in general and mean it,not just so you can score points although you likely will. I've noticed that our sex life has improved quite a bit and not just one sided in my favor but that I've actually become more attentive to her and cding has definately become a win/win for both of us since I came out. I'm very happy for you and just remember the turtle wins the race.

[Teresa]

Natalie,
I'm really pleased for you I hope it continues in the right direction !
One question is how long have you been out to your wife, was it some time ago or just the two weeks you mention ?
I managed to persuade my wife to let me dress and clean the house she wasn't feeling too well and stayed in the bedroom, the deal was I took her coffee at eleven in drab !
I have a feeling if she let me dress and stayed with me she'd call my bluff and say OK now what ? The one concession I have is wearing a nightie in bed but when she sees me she comments that I don't have to flaunt it, I have to go for a pee some time ! Initially it helped with my sleep but the issues are piling up again and my sleep pattern is dreadful !

[natalieout]

Natalie,
I'm really pleased for you I hope it continues in the right direction !
One question is how long have you been out to your wife, was it some time ago or just the two weeks you mention ?
I managed to persuade my wife to let me dress and clean the house she wasn't feeling too well and stayed in the bedroom, the deal was I took her coffee at eleven in drab !
I have a feeling if she let me dress and stayed with me she'd call my bluff and say OK now what ? The one concession I have is wearing a nightie in bed but when she sees me she comments that I don't have to flaunt it, I have to go for a pee some time ! Initially it helped with my sleep but the issues are piling up again and my sleep pattern is dreadful !

It has only been two weeks, but has suspected it for many years. Lots of work to do to make sure I keep the love of my life.

[chris80]

Take it slowly, accept what is given and don't let the pink fog cloud your judgement. Good luck.

[Trishpdxcd2]

I think cding was the last thing my wife would have imagined with respect to me but I came out about a month ago. Thank god my wife was open and while a work in progress, I think it has brought us closer together in some respects.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Natalie, The ball is in her court now Just don't overwhelm her with this program.:hugs:

[Kristie23]

So lucky to have a wife like that.

[anna.h]

That's wonderful -- especially the part where she brought it up. Why did she ask you that? Did she already know, and you two just hadn't acknowledged it?

[AKADonna]

I would give anything to have such a discussion with my wife!! Be very appreciative and protective of that!

[Gwinnie]

Congrats on telling her and it going well. My wife is very accepting too. She says she has the best of both worlds. I'm her man but we can shop together and do each others nails and stuff. She even offered to let me dress when we went out for father's day. Tempting, but I declined.

Gwendolyn

[Alexa Lynne]

I told my wife 2 days ago that I had been dealing with this since i was 18 or 19. (I'm 32 now). I snuck around a few times when I knew I would be alone for a while and tried on my wife's clothes. They felt good. I even slept in her night-gown once. My wife isn't taking too highly to this. She told me she can deal with the clothes, as long as I don't go out in public (which i'm not ready to do yet), but that me wanting to be a female was something she couldn't deal with. I went out and bought some make-up, fake nails, eye liner, and other feminine things. I even wear female deoderant. This has to be hard on spouses, and she keeps telling me that she doesn't want to be with another woman. . . . I'm not sure if i'm going to be able to keep her or not. Good luck with yours, Natalie. I do hope you and your wife are able to make it through this. It looks like you probably will be able to. :)

[Patrica Gil]

Honesty has been the best policy for me. My girl new about me before getting truly involved. This way she had a choice whether she could deal with me or not. Dressing as I feel is nice, and she has learned my moods very well. The pay off is not having to hide the real me, dressed, or not.

[veola]

I didn't say anything, but just when she came out wearing her purple tights. When she returned she asked like if I could be in pantyhose. And after that I didn't hide anything.This was before the wedding

[Chrissy1966]

Also congrats to you and your wife. Starting a new journey together is exciting. My wife has also been very open and accepting. I'm very lucky to have her.

[Beverley Sims]

The liberating experience must feel ecstatic don't bust it by pushing too far.

You should have many happy years ahead of you if you do it right.

[vallerie lacy]

So happy for you. Don't forget that your wife may need one of those days to roam free also. Hope it only gets better for you both.

[Alleybee]

Wow, this will be a huge relief for you - It takes a lot of courage. She is a very special lady, so keep remembering to tell her. I am also very fortunate to have my wife supporting me, taking me shopping for clothes and bling, we sit in front of the tv and have 'nail' sessions....very lucky and I tell her so, I make her breakfast in bed in the weekends etc. Its the very least I can do.

[angelica92]

Congratz Katie Ann,

What a wonderful wife!

Regards

[Melissa1520]

I came out to my wife shortly after we were married. 11 days after we said our vows, I sustained a major injury from an industrial accident. I was working on a 50 gal. air compressor, when a coworker turned it on. My left middle finger got caught in the belt pulley. My finger had been cut to my first knuckle, and I could see the bone.
I filed a workers compensation claim, and stopped working. During this time I became depressed, because I didn't imagine beginning a new marriage like this. My wife had been using alternative "medicine " to deal with being sleepy. I asked if I could try it to get my mind off work. I took a dose, shorty after, I lost my inhibitions, and TOLD ALL!!!!
I could not believe what I said to her. I figured that we are over. She sat quiet for a minute, absorbing everything I had just confessed. She got up from where she was sitting, and went into our bedroom and brought out her wedding dress and asked, "Would you like to try this on???" She asked this with the same beautiful smile she gave me when she walked down the aisle.
To this day, 15 years later, I still cross dress with her helping to make me up. It has strengthened our marriage, I believe honestly is the best way to go, despite not knowing how a SO will react.