The deflowering of Arula Sommers

[arula]

Hi girls, Some of you know of me, some are new and don't know me, I joined this forum back in Dec. 2004, and have never looked back since. A Lot has happened to me in the past year that I wanted to share with all of you, mainly because this forum was instrumental in helping me realize my true desires about my dressing. I started, like most did, around the age of 11. A couple of articles in the beginning and over the years adding a little more each time. It wasn't until I had joined this forum that I realized I was way behind. I was so overwhelmed and inspired by seeing girls in their twenties and thirties, already complete, with gorgeous clothes, hair and makeup. I began, to learn all that I could about makeup, mannerism and what I wanted to get from it. For me dressing is very sexual, and after I had achieved the look I wanted, I began my search for a boy who would appreciate who I was. After joining a dating service on the web, and being bombarded with a gazillion emails ( well, not quite that much) I finally met a boy who had seen my profile after searching for two years for someone like me. Me! He found me, I was in heaven. When we started to write to each other, I could feel such sincerity in his words. This was a dream come true. On our first date I was presented with flowers and a card. I thought to myself, I can't believe this boy is doing these things! He doesn't want just sex, he wants a companion also, like me. My deepest desires came true that day. Thank you ladies, ones that I have had the pleasure of knowing, the ones that just said hi, ones that made me laugh, and cry, and feel good about who I am inside. I wish all you ladies and this forum all the best. Thanks again for all your inspiration. Sincerely, Arula Sommers. XO

[Melinda G]

That pink print is pretty hard to read.

[Lilith Moon]

That pink print is pretty hard to read.
Workaround:
Left mouse drag to hilight it. Colors are then whitish text on a navy background...much easier :)

Oh...and hi arula, glad things are working out..cool

[Natalie x]

Yes, congratulations Arula. Everyone deserves someone special in their life - I hope you have nothing but happiness together.

[Julie York]

Congrats!






Where shall I send my opticians bill? That pink lettering is a challenge.

[Tina Dixon]

Don't you just love happy endings, good for you hon.

[pattied]

Workaround:
Left mouse drag to hilight it. Colors are then whitish text on a navy background...much easier :)

Oh...and hi arula, glad things are working out..cool

Yep.. that was what I did after squinting through the first couple of lines.... :)

Best wishes Arula. Sounds like you found Mr. Right;)

[paulaN]

so glad for you. this place has been a big help to a lot of us. even those who just read what other people have to say.

[Tiffany Tuesday]

I finally met a boy who had seen my profile after searching for two years for someone like me. My deepest desires came true that day. Thanks again for all your inspiration. Sincerely, Arula Sommers. XO[/COLOR]

Long may it last darling,

Confuscious he say ... 12" makes Arula :D

luvnhugz x

[Sherlyn]

Arula Im confused here ...I was sure you told me you had a wife and only dressed while she was out and you played in a band ...sorry perhaps Im mixed up here ...in which case I send you best wishes

[KathrynW]

Where's the "deflowering" part?
Did I miss it? ;)

[arula]

Its a whole new direction in my life. Tiffany, very cute! Sherlyn, Its just one more aspect of my life, I have to juggle with the rest. Thanks again ladies. XO Arula

[arula]

Where's the "deflowering" part?
Did I miss it? ;)

Well theres some things a girl shouldn't talk about openly you know.:rolleyes:

[KathrynW]

Well theres some things a girl shouldn't talk about openly you know.:rolleyes:
If you didn't wanna talk about it...WHY put it in the thread title? :doh:

[arula]

If you didn't wanna talk about it...WHY put it in the thread title? :doh:

Lets just say that the sex part was a natural progression to what took place, but the fact that I was treated like a ladie from start to finish no longer made me a virgin, in this respect. XO Arula

[KathrynW]

Lets just say that the sex part was a natural progression to what took place, but the fact that I was treated like a ladie from start to finish no longer made me a virgin, in this respect. XO Arula
You're married? So you're cheating on your wife, having sex with some guy you met online, and this is a "natural progression" ? :doh:

[Julie York]

You're married? So you're cheating on your wife, having sex with some guy you met online, and this is a "natural progression" ? :doh:


hahahaha

Oh it's so nice to take a day off when you are around KAthryn
LOL

[arula]

You're married? So you're cheating on your wife, having sex with some guy you met online, and this is a "natural progression" ? :doh:

Kathryn, are you not a guy who dresses in womens clothing and pretends to be a girl?

[KathrynW]

Kathryn, are you not a guy who dresses in womens clothing and pretends to be a girl?
Yes, I do cd...
But, pretend to be a girl? I'm still just a guy who occasionally enjoys cd-ing. It's that simple. I don't have a relationship with or sex with any guys. Big difference, ya know... ;)
Don't get me wrong...you can do whatever you want with your life...
But if you're married, and having sex with a guy, and stating it's a "natural progression"...
well...I think you can figure it out on your own... ;)

[arula]

"Cheating" and "some" are very open words, when you don't know the person or what they view as acceptable in their life in relation to yours.

[arula]

Yes, I do cd...
But, pretend to be a girl? I'm still just a guy who occasionally enjoys cd-ing. It's that simple. I don't have a relationship with or sex with any guys. Big difference, ya know... ;)
Don't get me wrong...you can do whatever you want with your life...
But if you're married, and having sex with a guy, and stating it's a "natural progression"...
well...I think you can figure it out on your own... ;)

you see, we are very far apart in these feelings we have.

[KathrynW]

"Cheating" and "some" are very open words, when you don't know the person or what they view as acceptable in their life in relation to yours.
Ok, let's review...
Are you currently married? In a past post of yours, you state that you are. Are you having a relationship and/or sex with some guy you met online? If so, that doesn't leave any other options for the terminology for this. It's called cheating. Period.
What you view as acceptable doesn't change this fact. enough said.

[arula]

When I dress, I see a girl, not a man crossdressing, When I'm with "the guy" he sees me as a girl. A grand illusion for two people with a similar want in life. A mutual want.

[arula]

Oh! Sorry. It's Arula.What a nice story. It's such a nice feeling being happy isn't it? The alternative really stinks. Big hugs and wish you the best. You look fabulous at 50! And your right. We gals can't tell all our secrets.


Love
Jeannie

PS. Tiffany! Great joke!:) You're really quick. That's what my ex always told me! Do you know why women fake orgasms?......They think we care!
If you want to get the job done always do it yourself honey! Never fails!

Thanks Frankie, it's fun. XO Arula

[jennifer easton]

Whooooooaaahh!! xoxoxoxJennifer

[MsJanessa]

I understand Hon----. Sounds like you are experiencing growth and change on your own. Good Luck

[arula]

Thanks Janessa, Kathryn's ok, I think she realized I'm on a completely different plateau than her. XO Arula

[Keyplayer74]

....that make me embarassed to be a CD. Reality check - <---SNIP---> Sorry for the flame earlier - I got a little carried away.

[Tamara Croft]

I have a question, are you still living with your wife? or is there a bit we are missing? Because you have gone from living with your wife, to seeing someone else.... what about the bit inbetween?

[Sherlyn]

:angry:Okay everyone ...this is 1 persons experience...shes sharing ...if its gonna turn into a flame ...I will lock the thread ...everyone has their opinions ..but no need for trashing each other ..

[Keyplayer74]

:angry:Okay everyone ...this is 1 persons experience...shes sharing ...if its gonna turn into a flame ...I will lock the thread ...everyone has their opinions ..but no need for trashing each other ..


Noted.. and edited. Sorry about that.

[Shelly Preston]

I hope you will be happy in the path you have chosen.
But i have a few concerns

Does you wife know you have met someone else.
Is she helping you along this path.
Are you still living together.

Now I dont care if you answer these questions but at least think about them

It is these things that have people concerned

Best Wishes for the future

[TGMarla]

I am happy that you have found something that makes you happy. Is your wife in the know about this, though? If not, it truly is cheating. Remember that promise you made when you married her? If you do, and you still pursue such a path, it makes you both a liar and a cheat. As for your perception that when you dress you see only a girl, then you are living a bit of a lie as well.

When I dress, I look like a girl, too. But I don't attempt to fool myself. Nor should you or anyone else. You should choose your path, and remember that a person cannot walk two paths at the same time. On the one hand, you are married to a woman, who likely expects her husband to remain faithful to her. Not true in all cases, of course, but still likely. On the other hand, you are engaged in homosexual relations outside of your marriage. I hope you are at least excercising safe sex, for her sake.

I am glad that you are happy, but I do not approve of your behavior.

And Sherlyn? I'm sorry if my reply here makes you want to lock the thread, but I felt this response was merited. No offense.

[Gwen]

Just proves that the only thing crossdressers have in common is crossdressing.

[Deanna2]

Way to go girl!!!

Keep with the positive vibes.

[Penny]

Ok I am new to the forum so I'm going to need some clarification here. Your a man who has had sex with his wife, dressed up as a girl and had sex with a man. Have you had sex with your wife dressed up as a woman? Have you had sex with you'r boyfriend as a man? I guess whatever is what makes you happy

[Keyplayer74]

TGMarla, very well put! That's what I meant to say earlier, but couldn't keep my temper under control. Personally I don't think you were inflammatory at all- nicely put. Thanks for putting it out there.

[arula]

Ladies, first off, thanks to the ones that can appreciate what has happened to me. That being an inner drive to dress as a woman, and then the inner drive to express that femininity to a man. Secondly, by no means did I post this to step on peoples values. It was about a life long struggle in the beginning of dressing and feeling ashamed, and at the same time, having the constant urge to keep on dressing, and wondering why. As I continued to improve myself I felt more confident that I could share ( not fool ) my feminine side with someone. I had to know if I was being true to myself in wanting this to happen. I am attracted to women first, and only when I am dressed as a woman, do I feel the attraction to men. I could not see myself being with a man any other way. I feel no need whatsoever to justify my actions to anyone but myself. No other soul has to worry about this drive in me that has been planted for as long as I can remember. We are all of free will, free thought, free industry. I have stepped beyond boundaries which were the same as yours. Not with any malice intent, but with wonderment, curiosity, experience and lastly, but probably not least, destination. Like I had said earlier, I need not defend my actions, but I do understand your need to know all the facts, for you to make a final decision about the person inside Arula. I have been on the other side of the fence. I look at life as a universal entity now. Needs and desires can run very deep, so deep, that you need to know what to do with them so that they don't unravel your life that you have already created. I could go on forever, not to try and convince anyone, but because whoever I am, it dosen't matter. What matters to me is that this place, out on the world wide web, has helped me find my reason and destination within. Sincerely, Arula Sommers.

[KathrynW]

Arula:
You've still avoided answering questions from me and others within this thread...
No, you don't have to answer any questions. But if you don't, we can only make logical assumptions.
Are you still married?
If so, do you feel your marriage vows mean nothing?

[Sharon]

Arula placed a thread here and, whether her behavior meets with your approval or disapproval, this has gotten out of hand. She does not need to answer any questions she chooses not to, and there is no call to continue interrogating her like a pack of Johnny Cochrans.

Therefore, this thread is being closed.