Need to sleep with one eye open...

[KimBarely]

Ok so, I was talking with my wife about planning for my first conference and that "I have nothing to wear!" She started suggesting some things then I felt I had to hit the brakes and say, "You need to remember that I have hairy arms and legs and what not so, keep that in mind. I can't wear any of what you mentioned."

She then told me, quote, "Oh! Don't worry! We're going to Nair the hell out of you!" My eyes bugged out and my jaw dropped. I stared to reply, "But I'm not wanting to or planning on shaving. I just need to work around it."

Her reply: "You've signed up and in for a penny, in for a pound! We'll Nair you and make sure you're as pretty as you can be!" I'm gobsmacked.

She hasn't seen me in undies yet, is basically telling me she'll tie me down and Nair me so I can look my best. I think SHE has the pink fog. Ermagurd!!!!!

(I realize this is the jackpot of "problems" to have but, I'm a little bit scared!) I'll be sleeping with one eye open.

[Ineke Vashon]

Lucky you. Let her Nair you. Suggestion - Put on a long skirt with hairy legs and then wear it with shaved legs. You won't believe the difference and how it feels . Then you'll beg your wife to Nair you:worship: .

Ineke, from experience :)

[OCCarly]

Wow, lucky you!

[Isabella Ross]

I'd be hoping, not dreading. Ineke is correct...you will enjoy the luxury that comes with smoothness.

[sometimes_miss]

Go with the flow. Just don't get any nair on your genitals or anus, or you'll never forget it (the amount of time that it takes to rinse is ok while you're showering it off, but use soap too to make sure none of the residue stays 'down there'). Not on your face, either. Rinse very well, because everything from above drains into your groin, or you won't be able to walk right for a few days. Enjoy your next few days. It's when it all grows back that the issues start to arise.

[baldy1]

I would let her tie me down and do it?

Julie

[Kiwi Primrose]

For goodness sake let her get on with it. Once you are not hairy and get into some lingerie and stockings you will wonder what took you so long.
And be thankful you have a real gem helping you. Be nice to her and look after her.

[Rachelakld]

Oh the feeling of hairlessness, problem being you'll never look back, never want to be hairy again.

[Shelly Preston]

There is nothing to worry about the hair will grow back.

However I know I will never go back to having hair again.

Let her help you and be forever grateful for making you aware how good it will feel.

[Dana3]

I fail to see what your problem is. With that said, she like all of us are human, and so her day-to-day interest, participation, etc will vary from one day to the next! I wouldn't take her offer as carte' blanche? (Read in the Loved Ones section by Marla ~ as to why? Other that, I would just enjoy the moment for what it is.

[Michelle 78]

Sounds like a great problem to have, as the others have said the difference is amazing and you won't want to go back.

[Linda E. Woodworth]

Oh, if only we all had problems like that.

Being smooth and hairless is incredible and you'll be amazed at the difference it makes in both appearance and feel. I just love the feeling of smooth legs in nylons.

Might I suggest instead of Nair that you get a body wax instead? The discomfort is overrated and the effect is the same without the harsh chemicals. Nair never really worked on my thick hair so I was always having to do something in addition to get rid of everything.

Sometimes miss is correct in that it's after the hair starts growing back that you have to be careful. Your wife can give you suggestions on that as well.

Good luck and have fun!

[kimdl93]

She's absolutely right. In for a penny....

[kellibra]

warning… smooth legs are addictive. once hair free and wearing your hose, you’ll be hooked for life!

[CarlaWestin]

is basically telling me she'll tie me down and Nair me

OK, you had to go there.

:straightface:

[larry]

Wax Wax Wax--By a Pro !!

[Kristy 56]

I'd love to have that problem, but I'd rather go to a salon for a professional waxing. I've done it,and loved the experience,and the feel of smooth legs. Good luck :)

[Debra Russell]

Oh gawd ! wine wine wine , Just keep it up and let her enjoy her self:D - now stop smiling and get pretty ,,, enjoy:heehee:.......................Debra

[Judith96a]

Kim,
If you get the impression that some of us are rather envious of your 'problem', then you'd be right. If MY wife decided that she wanted me to lose the 'fur', OK, I'd put up some token resistance but not enough to dissuade her!

[giuseppina]

If DSW insists on a depilatory, I would insist on trying a small patch to see what happens first. Some people's skin burns before the hair is removed. The instructions provided usually suggest using a depilatory on the face or genital area is asking for trouble.

[Dana44]

Kim, holy smokes, what a problem to have. Heck she may be all you can handle. I bet we all wish we had one like that.

[Bridget Ann Gilbert]

Depending on how dense your body hair is, one application may not be enough. The first time I tried hairless legs I used Nair but ended up using a razor to clean things up. I just stuck to razor shaving after that. Of course that was my experience. Others' may vary. Have a great time at the conference!

Bridget

[KimBarely]

Of course this isn't really a problem and I'm not really scared. I'm only going to do what I feel comfortable doing. My point was I was very caught off guard with her matter of fact reply. I hadn't asked, suggested or desired to go that route but her enthusiastic support and "problem solved!" response surprised me.

I know I'll at least have to shave off my goatee for the conference for the first time in 19 years. I'm not wanting to be rid of it at all but not too bothered since I know in a couple weeks it will be back the way I want it. Leg and/or body hair...well I never considered that. I've never done that. Ever! Where would I stop? Legs? May as well arms for same reason. Pits too, why leave that, then chest....

Plus, I remember the whole Seinfeld episode where it only comes back itchy, darker, thicker, MORE!

I guess what I'm wondering is if anyone has had the experience of being encouraged by SO or someone else to do MORE or go further than what you intend or are comfortable doing?

[MissTee]

Stand your ground and insist on remaining hairy. Otherwise, she'll having you wearing a dress or some such nonsense.

[KimBarely]

Hahaha! Touché MissTee. Touché ;-)

[Stephanie47]

Kim, I read some of your earlier posts concerning your interaction with your wife. It seems you and her have a deep understanding, especially concerning women. She made you realize women are discriminated against in the work force, etc. She tells you she feels women's clothing are restrictive and not as comfortable as you think. When my wife and I had a conversation concerning cross dressing, she basically told me there is more to being a woman than wearing pretty clothes. She brought up having a baby. She is not accepting of my cross dressing.

If you wife of 19 years is supportive and on board with helping you, get some extra Nair. With summer you're going to love all the cut sleeveless summer dresses. And, as far as your wife tieing you down....hmmm!

[RADER]

Maybe you should think of buying stock in Nair. With all the product she will
be using, you might as well reap some profit out of it. LOL
Rader

[Jorja]

So we haven't heard lately, how do you like being hair free?:)

[Robbin_Sinclair]

Lucky you. Let her Nair you. Suggestion - Put on a long skirt with hairy legs and then wear it with shaved legs. You won't believe the difference and how it feels . Then you'll beg your wife to Nair you:worship: .

Ineke, from experience :)

The stuff smells positively toxic but it works. And my sentiments about the before/after feeling exactly. Nothing like it. Then, the maintenance. But the journey is worth it. Enjoy.

My wife wasn't as understanding. Back to hairy. A drag but still married and found a center path. :hugs:

[Krisi]

If I could shave or Nair my body I would do it in a minute. My wife is uncomfortable with this so I do the best I can.

[Melissa in SE Tn]

Waiting on chapter 2 to be published... or are you having too much fun to post? Peace, mel

[Sarah-RT]

Kim that gave me a good chuckle!
I too work around the male problems of CDing, I rarely wear scrappy tops since I get a little hair growth on my shoulders, I avoid deep plunges at the front because of chest hair and my forms sticking out so I mostly wear high necks or cleaveage-less tops.
I wouldn't mind trimming it off but it's a nuisance and the maintenance and itching involved deter me.

Sounds like you have a great SO though, I say let her nair away and rock it and see what you think. Anything to be done about bicep muscles? :D

[Jorja]

Anything to be done about bicep muscles?:D

Look around, there are a lot of girls that have big arm muscles these days. Just tell them you workout.

[nathaliedove]

Lucky you! I think you should embrace your wife's enthusiasm and enjoy yourself!

I have the same problem myself. Very hairy arms, hands, shoulders, chest/stomach, legs. Usually in the winter months I shave everything smooth but my arms/forearms/hands...one of these days I'll work up to it tho ;)!

[KimBarely]

Sorry everyone for not replying! I keep forgetting to subscribe to my own threads when posting. That and life has been crazy.

I haven't "done the deed" yet regarding my fur. The conference isn't until September so it wouldn't be until closer to then if I do. As many have pointed out, rightly, I should consider myself very lucky for my support and I truly do. I just want to remind some of you that I'm coming at this situation a bit differently than most. CD'ing is still VERY new for ME! I'm one of the late or recent bloomers. I only realized what I've been doing maybe 2-3 times a year for only a couple years is called crossdressing. That was less than 2 months ago and have only gone further than undergarments only about 5 times in the 2 months. As a matter of fact, I haven't done a "full on" in 3-4 weeks. I've been in a very stressful hectic place with work and need to unwind after all that has transpired. My only outlet, and it's a big one for me, was to register and book for my first conference. Next week vacation so I can hopefully reduce my stress/anxiety then I hope I can have some clarity to see how I want to pursue this.

Stay tuned!

[LauraWeb]

So jealous. My wife won't let me shave my hair off. And of course I am very hairy. That is why I love winter; high collars, long sleeves, tights. Still I did shave my legs once back in 96 I think. That was one of the best things I ever did. It was worth her not being happy when she got home from Europe. (See, she was gone for a month, so I thought it would grow back before she got home. Right...) I had an opportunity to go it right now (as she is gone again) but with it being summer, I know that we will go swiming and such with my boy when she gets back and that would be hard to explain. Sigh, I wish i could get her to let me shave in the winter...

Sincerely,
Laura

[Tracii G]

Chapter 2 please

[Kiwi Primrose]

You posted this over a month ago.
Can we have an update please.
And yes, my SO has always helped in leading the way - e.g "would you like to borrow my epilator?" said many years ago.

[KimBarely]

Posted what over a month ago? This just happened a couple nights ago! Chapter 2? I'm not writing fiction here. This is my reality. I'm not trying to be anyone's entertainment.

Please excuse me if I'm over-reacting. I probably am. I am pretty sure I am but I'm in a vulnerable place. If you think I'm thin skinned or knee jerk reacting or defensive, you may be 100% right! I'm new to all of this. Very very new. I'm a bit freaked out in all honesty. Upon clicking edit on this post I saw that this thread, this little thread of mine, has had over 1700 views. OMG! Nothing I've ever said and definitely nothing so deeply personal has been known to 1700 people before. Basically my wife said to shave and that's sweet. Proves she's a champ. I am lucky to be supported but I'm still befuttled. I've never thought of the idea myself. Point is that my emotion is not gratefulness, it's shock and unpreparedness.

[Jorja]

Kim, slow down and breath girl! Go at your own pace. When you are ready to try something more, try it. Everyone here means well with their postings, it is just that they may be a little more advanced and tend to forget just how nerve racking this can all be when just starting out.

[KimBarely]

Thanks for the reassurance Jorja. I've been under tremendous work pressure lately and feeling snappish. :-/

[Teresa]

Kimbarely,
How lucky can you get ,to have your wife in full agreement on losing your body hair in order to look your best for a conference event !
Why the hell do you want to fight it, the feeling of being totally hairless is one of the enjoyable parts of CDing ! The sensation of how clothes really feel , and not seeing the gross hair spoil the look, even when I don't dress I don't want hair back ! My wife never passed comment on my body when it had hair, she isn't saying much now apart from she thinks my dressing is getting worse, to me it's getting better, perhaps she'd like to be a cross between a doormat and a hairy gorilla to realise how ugly and uncomfortable it is !
I would sleep with both eyes tight shut and hope my wife had done a total makeover as well !!

[Jacqueline85]

To everyone who wishes they could go hairless, but think society won't allow it, I have one word. Cycling. Cyclists have a free license to go completely hairless. I started cycling in high school and let me tell you, once you've had a fall and had hair in the wounds, you will never need a new excuse to shave. Let's not forget the added bonus: Your legs will look even more amazing in those stockings and heels.

[LauraWeb]

Hey Kim,

I totally agree with Jorja. Slow down if you need to. Certainly don't let us girls rush you forward. :) Most of us have been at this for years and started slowly, so I can only expect that to go from 0 to woman in 60 seconds can be a bit of a rush. If you have to, tell your wife how much you appreciate her support, but want to explore this new area slowly. She should understand. Sometime women can be over zealous in a rush to support their partner. I know I had that problem with a girlfriend once that was cool with my dressing, but wanted to push me beyond my comfort zone.

We are always here is you need to talk about things. Hopefully we can tone our zealousness down and remember this is about your life and not our dreams. ;)

Sincerely,
Laura

[KimBarely]

Update: ok so, wow what a good night! Today was my family's first full day of vacation. We're at the beach and it had been unseasonably hot and humid. Since my sweet wife's supportive stance of "I'll Nair you", I've been noticing my body hair, TRULY for the first time as far as being able to do something about it, HURTS!

I realized how for so very very very long, body hair has caused me such pain! I'm talking physical pain. Without a thought of being able to do anything about it because, that's just part of being a guy.

I just spent an hour manscaping. Yeah, it took that long. My wife helped. It was weird but physically, the pain of tugging pulling hairs is gone for the first time in my adult life!!! I'm mad at society and myself for not realizing sooner that, forget socially acceptable norms, it's ok guys, hair can be a pain in the you know where.

I feel comfortable now.

[Jorja]

Wait until you experience a totally bare body with a cool silk nighty. ;)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kim, Just wait till you pull on a pair of pantyhose over those clean smooth legs, You will be hooked for life.:daydreaming:

[KimBarely]

Don't worry Blue Orchid. ;-) I packed properly for vacation! And....YES!

Honestly, the best so far is not feeling the hair being pulled constantly.

[LisaKarenAZ]

Take the opportunity to get rid of the horrific, nasty, body hair. Due to much of my lower leg hair stopping growth, from socks, I ended up shaving the rest of my legs in the last 2 days to balance out my OCD about the hair being completely uneven.
You will not believe the feeling after you first remove your hair. For me, it was almost a spiritual feeling to have bare legs under a skirt, or even in the pool. It's too hot here in AZ for stockings or pantyhose right now, but in a few months, that will be a heavenly feeling in these legs, especially when I start having them waxed, as recommended by my wife.

[Sissy_Michelle]

Kim,

My wife has been using Nair on my chest and groin area for about two years now. The first time she did it I found out the next day I had to wear a bra because of the movement of my t-shirt across my chest became a little sore. The bra helped me with the soreness. I usually always wear panties so the bottoms area want so much of an adjustment. Lately she has been removing more and more of my underarm hair. I was worried at first but it feels nice so I haven't objected to her when we have our remove hair evening (which is this Thursday). Every two weeks she uses Nair on me. I had removed my leg hair many years ago when I was swimming a lot. She hasn't removed any on my legs yet. Not sure why though.

Good luck
@--}---
Michelle

[KimBarely]

Just gave my wonderful wife a full mani pedi! It was fun for both of us. She's a gem. That was fun.

[Tina B.]

Kim, I feel your pain, well don't worry lose the hair, and you will feel the pain! Nair can be tricky to use, but it works at least it did for me. But then, being a red head, I don't have a lot of body hair anyway. After shaving it all off, I let it grow back, not cool, itchy and uncomfortable at best.
Over the years I shaved and let it grow back many times, always clean shaving I felt at risk of discovery, always felt like I just could not wear what I wanted to wear. Now the hair is gone, and I never plan on letting it grow again, if they want they can call it manscapeing if they want, but manly has nothing to do with it. Now I can wear shorter skirts, as are in style, lower necklines, which I prefer, and I feel better about my femininity. I think if you let her have her way with you, you will love it, if not it's just weeks to grow it back.
Besides, I think with an offer like that, I have to say "Go ahead and tie me up, Oh then the rest of it is up to you!"