Feelings change with familiarity

[joank]

I was sitting on the veranda this morning in a sundress with full make-up, wig, accessories (the whole nine yards) and I had a strange feeling. The more regularly I dress, the more I dress like a GG. Now I have been retired for 7 years and most days are spent in dress for some of the hours plus sleepwear. One thing I noticed is I wear lower heels (1-1 1/2) or flats, wedges and loafers allot. I also wear much more day wear clothes, including capris, crops and shorts as well as skirts. My make-up has a daytime look in the daytime. I also pay more attention to nails (fingers and toes) and use facial cleansers and moisturizers as well. I guess the more regularly I dress (it has been every day all day for the last number of years) the closer I dress to the GG norm and less to the dress for the evening. Now I still put a nice on a dress for special times such as Sunday's and birthdays. Anyone have experienced something similar?

[Adriana Moretti]

me too...its awesome to calm down a bit from the "cd uniform" and just be you ! ...i own more pants than dresses, more shorts than skirts, more sneakers than heels......more blazers than bras actually..which i guess is weird LOL

[Michaelasfun]

"Daytime look in the daytime" made me smile. I feel like I'm evolving too in that regard. I use more moisturizers, lotions, etc. to maintain myself ( helps a lot to have laid the foundation for nice skin, not as much work to do to look more natural when I go out dressed).

I was at the store recently wearing a nice summery dress & gladiator sandals, and was feeling overdressed, as most of the GG customers had on jeans/sweatshirt/no makeup. I guess that means when I go out in guy mode I'm actually dressing more like a normal female? Oh the irony lol

[pamela7]

The urge/force to conform, to not stand out, to camouflage, is probably irrestible to us all?
It's just easier on everyone else, and we all like an easy life?
I liked to stand out in guy mode pre-cd (bright colours), so the same goes now.

[Michelle 78]

I agree with you, when I started out it was all about dresses and heels and everything basically that Woman don't wear day to day, some do, but mostly from watching how girls really dress they are all wearing trousers and tops. I recently went shopping in one women's department in a major store it was a bit like spot the dresses!! because it was all patterned trousers as that's what the girls are wearing these days not dresses. I like to dress to blend anyway really so I mostly wear Jeans, or Jeggings and a top, but of course I love dresses and skirts the most but they are not normal day to day wear these days for most women.

[Sarah-RT]

I'm the same, to blend, but most importantly, to be authentic is to be minimal. GG's don't look like they are going to the prom every minute of the day, and style changes by age category.
When I was a teen I used to stick to underwear and lingerie as it's the peak of femininity but I've grown on to blending

Sarah x

[dee anne]

the more I dress the less I dress up. this is true for me, it is great being comfortable and feminine

[prene]

I agree, for me the more I dress the less sexy I dress.
I mean I use to wear tight skirts and had bigger breasts, the last 3 times I was out I was in gg jeans(JAG, Cruel Girl and levis 529) with just a nice top.
I feel all I want to do is blend in.
... more comfortable.

[jigna]

I feel more and more sexy, when I wear different ladies wears.

[lorisdream]

Me as well...wife and I just spent the afternoon shopping for me some cute tops and capris. I just told her I did not want to wear a dress every single day, but to dress more casually sometimes.

[GeauxStacy]

I am the same way. I started looking at what GGs wear out and about where I live and try to copy. Not surprising, but it seems everyone in Texas is jeans or shorts, cute tops, and sandals most of the time. :)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Joan, It's fun to dress to the nine's, but some days you only want to dress to the two's or the three's. :daydreaming:

[Nikki Heat]

There are some great thoughts here. Yes, dress to blend in. Yes, dress to be comfortable. Yes, dress more casual for casual and daytime events......BUT......I worry that we might slip into the "wear no make up and lay around in sweats" mentality that is so common today.

One of the interesting things I heat repeated is that CD's dress more girly that GG's, that we strive to act womanly, and in doing so, out woman the average woman. While I don't suggest we dress and act JUST to stand out, I think that dressing nicely and acting like a lady should never go out of style!

Think of the man who wears a blazer when he flies. No one does that anymore...unless you're a traditionalist...and you want to make an impression on people. A man once told me he ALWAYS dresses up to fly--always with a sport coat. He treat the airline staff with utter respect and he said "you wouldn't believe the perks I receive, the special attention, the upgrades--mostly without asking! The airline employees respond to his good manners, dress, and confidence level.

I think that applies to CD's as well. Dress nicely, act like a lady, smile, be friendly, strike up conversations with people, and the world will be your oyster! There are as many ways to live and act as there are people to live and act.

Think about this: who makes an impression on us? Who do we remember? And what kind of impression do you want to make? How do you want to be remembered?

Maybe we should all develop "a look." A friend I met online went to dinner with me a couple of months ago. She asked me what my style was. What kind of look was I trying to achieve? I didn't have an answer. I always try to look the best I can. I try not to be too obvious--it can be a challenge at 6'3" and 220#--but I hadn't put real thought into it. So, I asked her what her style was. She said: "I'm going for the sexy soccer mom look!" And I think she's nailed it! So, if I were her, I would ask myself, "What would a sexy soccer mom wear to the store, or to the movies, or to go out to lunch with her girlfriends, and I would dress to fit that image.

Sorry for the rambling post, ladies!

[Krisi]

Yes, that's my experience as well. There's no need to go all out and dress like I was going to the ball when in reality I'm going to stay home and do the laundry. It appears some crossdressers don't feel like they are complete until they put on the six inch stripper heels and false eyelashes. I think many of us get over that at some point and just dress like a woman would.

[Claire Cook]

Hi Joank,

Absolutely. I look at my clothes as my clothes, and the best way to wear them. During the day I wear my comfy clothes just as any GG would, and more and more I feel like the woman inside. Yes, shorts, capris, summer slacks and the occasional long (bot cool!) skirt, usually sleeveless blouses. Use a moisturizer with sunblock every day, keep after my my nails and in general do what other women do for their everyday look. And you are quite right, this is evolving in me it seems daily.

I think a lot us are finding this out the more we are out and about.

[josrphine]

I looked at this blog, as I sit here with shorts an a tank top very little make up an waiting for my wife to wake up. I love making breakfast for her. less makes me feel more like a women then more.

[Heidi Stevens]

Hey Joan, I'd say I'm in the same routine you are. I'd just as soon put on a skort as a skirt. To keep from floating into the "no makeup, sweats" look, I try to wear more upscale clothes or stuff of good quality. So my shorts are linen, not denim. My tops are not cotton but a mix of other materials. You can dress up even though you look casual! And you still blend in to have some fun.

[Candice June Lee]

When i was younger and dressed a bit more often, i thought the large breasts were the rage. As i look back in reading this thread, and experimented a bit with some ballons to see what feels and works best, i found a smaller breast looks much better. Then, as much as i like to be provacative and sexy, the sexy comes from more conservative yet sexy wear. At least i think so. But we all see things diffferently.

[MsLana]

Nikki Heat nailed it I think..."sexy soccer mom look"...you can still dress / look sexy without being "over done". Comfort especially is important to me as I live in the Southern heat...capris , top , blingy flip flops ....I'm ready to go. Something that is especially rewarding and is such a confidence booster is to go to lunch or shopping with my wife and the waiter will ask " can I get you ladies something to drink before you order?"...or the cashier or sales person will say "you ladies have a good day"...maybe they know or suspect..but who cares?? they referred to me as a lady....:daydreaming:

[kimdl93]

Time and experience have revealed something within me that was buried far too long. With each passing year I've grown more and more comfortable with living as a woman.

[MissTee]

I hear and feel your observation. Now that I can dress when I want, my style is more casual. Light make up, skirt/blouse/panties and comfortable clothes. On occasion I still love to get dolled up for an evening, but it's not every day.

[Robin414]

Hi Joan, I completely agree! In September of 2014 I hadn't dressed in over 20 yrs and suddenly had the need I couldn't contain! I reverted to wearing a Marilyn Monroe wig with huge breast forms and calf high 3" heels! I looked like a hooker!! Since then I've come to some acceptance that I AM a woman and I don't ( and shouldn't ) try so hard to be one, I wear a hat with no wig and flats now most of the time and I'm completely comfortable (phsycologicaly and physically)...and I still think I look damn good😊

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Joank
I'd guess it's all about time available, being comfortable.
You certainly are enjoying yourself, wether you realize it or not, good for you!
Keep that normality goin!
Much Love,
Kristyn

[docrobbysherry]

That is fine if you're TS. But, I'm a CD. That's who I am, Adriana, so that's how I dress!

Dee Ann and others mentioned comfort. Nothing is more comfy than my loose, drab, cotton pants, undies, and shirt. My boat shoes r twice as comfy as my lowest, best fitting, heels. But, I don't WANT my ladies gear to be comfortable. I want to know I am, and feel, dressed!:devil:

My days of hanging around in a few ladies things r long past. If I'm not prepared to dress all the way to the max? I'll skip it all together, thank u!:battingeyelashes: