Nickie had her first night out

[nikkim83]

I have to say it was a feeling of mixed emotions. Part of it was fun I kind of felt free, and let caution to the wind. Had some laughs with my wife, enjoyed a decent show, and the drinks were really good.

Another part was borderline horrendous.

My wife was ultra defensive over me not usually a big deal but it really had her wired.

I got pegged leaving the club and a girl made a snide remark on her cell phone. Honestly I didnt care because, I was out to be me. My wife went on a rant about ignorance.

I got called out by the old drag queen on stage for being on my phone during her act. Honestly the reason I was is because I found her act extremely crude and borderline offensive. I may be a crossdresser and I am ok but it is extremely unlady like to have foul mouth, and I could only take so much of it before I had to zone it out.

Lastly I got hit on twice and it was an awkward experience. I had thought and prepared myself for every situation I thought may arise. That was one I was very unprepared for. I was extremely taken aback and really didnt know how to handle myself.

It was nice to let Nickie breath.
I enjoyed the singing and dancing.
Overall would I do it again I am not convinced that I would. If so I might find a place with a little more class.

Knoxville and East Tennessee are not exactly known for class, and openness. It was an interesting first experience.

[Lilblondecutie1407]

Inspiring story for me personally, and as long as you enjoyed your self and had fun at the end of the day that's all the matters.

[Alexa Lynne]

Congrats on going out. Sounds like a lot of funI wish i could go out in public. Wife wont let me due to her being a public school teacher.

[Rhonda Darling]

I don't know Mackenzie, the kids might get a REAL dose of education from meeting you. I'm surprised they're not learning about TG at school these days, what with all the recent publicity.

Nickie, congratulations on your night out. Don't sell yourself short by ruling out going out again. Choose a higher class place with a good middle of the road crowd of socially liberal/progressive people.

best, Rhonda

[Jaylyn]

Nickie sounds like you had a good first time. Not only Tenneesee but West Texas is also not known for its openness.
Mackenzie I can also relate to protecting the wife's school career. That was my profession and is also wife's. I will never get to experience what Nickie has but I'm ok with it. Better to have a secret life than one with no paycheck....

[Pat]

Congratulations! Getting out is cool but you should pick a better venue next time. No reason you and your wife can't just go to a movie or some theatrical event that you'll both enjoy.

[Krisi]

If you go to a performance and then ignore the performer and talk on a cell phone during his/her act, well, that is pretty rude even if you're not enjoying the performance (I use to be an entertainer and I know this first hand from the other side of the stage).

Couldn't you have shown some respect for her efforts and gone out of the room to use the phone?

[Katey888]

Sounds like a good outing on balance, Nikki - good for you and your wife! :cheer:

Part of going out is being read - sure some comments may be made but you're best just walking away... :)

Getting hit on? Well, take it as a compliment, smile sweetly and explain you're with your wife and that just ain't your scene...

As for the DQ: I think you pretty much walked into that one - a gift to any sort of comedy performer would be a token heckler or similar; I'm guessing a lot of drag acts will be borderline offensive so just go powder your nose if you don't like the act...

And class - yes, upmarket definitely sounds the way to be heading!

Thanks for sharing an important first experience... :D

Katey x

[Meghan4now]

Nickie,

Sounds like a decent evening. Thanks for sharing it with us. You might consider going out to another town for a late evening or over night. I've heard Lexington KY had a fairly open population. That just a couple hours north, and you are less likely to run into people who may recognize you if that's a concern.

[Lauri K]

Congratulations on your first time out, like others have said getting hit on says you look attractive and approachable.

As for the DG incident, you know better now.

The snide comment by the girl on the phone was likely jealousy, or just plain old hate due to geographics...TN

Sounds like a good outing with a few interesting encounters, looking back in a week or so you will say these are good memories of the first outing. Time to get back out there, keep that chin up.

[AngelaYVR]

Bars seem like a safe place to go but really they are just noisy, expensive and quite often filled with people getting obnoxious from the booze. A film, a play, dinner - most things are preferable.

[nikkim83]

If you go to a performance and then ignore the performer and talk on a cell phone during his/her act, well, that is pretty rude even if you're not enjoying the performance (I use to be an entertainer and I know this first hand from the other side of the stage).

Couldn't you have shown some respect for her efforts and gone out of the room to use the phone?

Truthfully a bad performance I can handle but this was not a bad performance it was an outright disgustingly crude performance. Maybe it was rude and truthfully getting called out didnt bother me I am what I am. I dont care to please anyone outside of friends and family. If I repeated some of what I heard I would be permenantly banned from this site.

I could have gone outside to use my phone, however the dusgusting show really made me not want to be polite. Did I get called out yep did it bother me not one iota beca7se it broke the constant stream of adult x rated talk

[Lorileah]

personally, most DQ acts don't require a lot of attention. So I wouldn't worry. I work in a lounge, 90% of the time the guests are talking to each other while I sing...that's life.

[Maxi]

Today was my first real day out shopping. We spent 6-1/2 hours shopping Dress Barn, Lane Bryant, JC Pennys, Burlington, and Zales Jewelery. We had an awesome time. Maybe it's just Colorado Springs, but everybody was so nice. Not one negative vibe from anybody.

Here is a pic of me taken by a Dress Barn employee in their store, with my phone. I love that store.

[nikkim83]

personally, most DQ acts don't require a lot of attention. So I wouldn't worry. I work in a lounge, 90% of the time the guests are talking to each other while I sing...that's life.

The rest of the performers were ABSOLUTELY awesome impressive and I absolutely wanted to ask one girl where she got her heels I loved them. Nothing but applause and tips

[Robin414]

Take the whole experience as a positive! I truly believe building confidence is of the utmost, and surviving uncomfortable experiences, as 'uncomfortable ' as they are is the key to success, in ANYTHING 😧

[Krisi]

OK, you didn't like the act and felt it was OK to talk on the phone but what about other customers? Perhaps they would have liked to hear the act without you talking over it. If you don't want to be treated rudely, don't be rude to others. Take your phone outside if it's that important to you.

[nikkim83]

OK, you didn't like the act and felt it was OK to talk on the phone but what about other customers? Perhaps they would have liked to hear the act without you talking over it. If you don't want to be treated rudely, don't be rude to others. Take your phone outside if it's that important to you.

I didnt talk on the phone i was web surfing quietly on my phone