Gender Identity - How do you feel?

[Julie1123]

Do you feel like you should have been a woman? Are a woman? Do you feel like a man but want to feel like a woman? Somewhere in between? Somewhere else entirely?

I'm interested to see the spectrum we encompass.

For myself, I feel male and don't think I should have been otherwise. I do like dressing in women's clothes and wouldn't mind pulling off a full make over once in awhile.

[Krisi]

I am a straight crossdresser and while it might be interesting to be a female for a while (if it were possible to swap bodies with my wife for a week or two), I am a man and always have been. I don't really know what it would feel like to be a woman.

[Mollyanne]

I'm in the last third of my life and have finally accepted the "real me" so to speak. I have always wanted to be a girl but have stifled that thought(s). I feel soooo much more comfortable when I am partially or fully dressed, in the company of women, thumbing through women's magazines looking at the current fashion trends etc etc. The sad part (for me) is that even if I could drastically change everything about my outward appearance I would still be considered a male(by birth). I have tried to emulate the female persona but can not even comprehend the thought patterns, feelings and overall female conceptions. I WOULD ABSOLUTELY, WITHOUT HESITATION DO THESE THINGS. I really want to be a girl!!!!!!

Molly

[Kate Simmons]

I'm just myself. I love dancing and performing en femme but also en homme. I guess it's just my nature to have fun being who I am. Recently I decided to take a break from dressing en femme for awhile and enjoying dressing en homme. Of course I always have the freedom to return whenever I wish. ;):)

[Candice Mae]

I am female.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IYhlRYKMfAc

[Sarah-RT]

I was born male, I am male and I most likely always will be but through some process of chemistry my brain has given me a back seat driver that's female. I look at myself as bi gendered, not androgynous but distinctly two separate genders, 1 more dominant than the other

Sarah x

[Marcelle]

Hi Julie,

Right now it depends on the day/week/month. Sometimes I identify as a woman and present accordingly while other times I identify as a man and present accordingly. In essence, still trying to figure it out.

Cheers

Isha

[Nadya]

Just like with Isha, I'm still trying to figure it out. I used to think I was only interested in crossdressing but I've been finding out that I'm probably somewhere else on the transgender spectrum. What that means? I'm not sure. I don't plan on going SRS but I'm interested in hormones as I believe I do have a mild gender dysphoria. For now, I'm just me who doesn't always conform to gender stereotypes. :)

[Dianne S]

Female who unfortunately happens to have XY chromosomes, but is working hard to correct the outward expression of the wrong genes.

[pamela7]

The trouble with a question like this is that we have to then look at what some of us don't want to look at, and what we don't know the answer to, or don't want to know. If we have not questioned it, it's cos we believe in the physical evidence until we start to look at other evidence, to look at social things. For example, I've always had great intuition, causing surprise in others, but if I'd a female body probably it would be put down to "feminine intuition". I prefer female clothing, have read the odd romantic novel and liked it, I do seem to identify better with female characters and with women, I get on better with women than men. I am indeed finally starting to wonder if perhaps I have a female brain in a male body.

[Joansometimes]

I AM ME! And I like who I am! :cheer::bighug:

[CONSUELO]

I don't really feel as if I want to be a woman. If I did I would have followed the path Caitlyn Jenner is following. I do feel that I want to express myself in a feminine way not only by dressing but in other things. I feel more comfortable in a feminine environment and avoid masculine environments. Another example is that I really enjoy having my bedroom look very feminine.

[Dana44]

Well born a male, under duress of synthetic estrogen with a female and male brain. Must say that I have felt female many times and also male many times. Get along better with women. Like the company of men. Body much like a female and it was hard to be comfortable as a male. Yet I think it is better to be male than female. It is easier for a male to get things done. Yet many times when I was most male, the girly part would kick in. Thinking both male and female gives one some strange thoughts and had to really focus to accomplish things. For the strangeness in me, I considered it a gift early on and used my creation and art ability to create. I must say that letting my female side of my brain take over, it is harder for my male side. But some mantras and focus helps me get back to male. I could say that I have never been totally comfortable in my skin. I have always thought that as a female I would have accomplished many things also.
I could exist in any of the two modes. For now it is male part time. My hair is long and when I look in the mirror, I think I look prettier as a girl than a handsome man.

[Debra Russell]

I am male - always will be but seriously would like to experience being female and always have ........................Debra

[Ineke Vashon]

I feel as if my personality involves both Yin and Yang.

....yin and yang (also, yin-yang or yin yang) describes how apparently opposite or contrary forces are actually complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another. (ref: Wikipedia)

Ineke

[Rachael Leigh]

I'm a man born male and don't desire to change that, if I could be a women for a time yes it would be interesting but I know this is who I am. A man who enjoys the fun the excitement of dressing up when I can oh and of course shopping

[STACY B]

To Many Way to many Different age groups here to answer correctly , Because if you would have ask me this 10 years ago I would have given a different answer than I would today. And I know for a fact that all who answered are dead serious in there answer and they are positive about there answer at this time.

But we all have different reactions to hormones in our bodies and some lose T earlier than others that is why we transition at different times,, To much T will alter our decision to transition or not too. Hormones are a Powerful thing for sure. An we can answer one way today and have a different answer later.

So be careful what you say today for the Crow may be in your own mouth before you know it,,lol,,,,

[Tanya+]

i would have said i'm 30 or 40% female, then i did an interesting questionnaire, it scored masculinity and femininity, in a way i didn't expect. 100 being average, i scored 94 for mass and 94 for fem. I am a man who loves to feel femme.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Julie, I'm just a regular guy that loves dressing like a lovely well dressed lady.:hugs:

I like having the best of both worlds.:daydreaming:

[Sarasometimes]

I frequent this part of the forum because I'm a crossdresser in the eyes of society in my part of the globe. If non conforming gender expression by males was accepted and heck even encouraged I may not cross dress to pass just cause I want to express femininity through my appearance.

[UNDERDRESSER]

Mostly like you Julie, with a little bit of Pamela, and maybe a bit more of Sara.

I'm a male, don't want to be female. I now wear skirts, pretty much full time, with male tops, even at work where I deal with the retail public. Oddly enough, I think I'm getting more respect as a guy now. Do want to express some parts of me that others would describe as female, or feminine. Disagree that those parts are specific to the female gender. Another way of saying it is that I reject the "Macho male" thing. Like being with females generally, but don't like excessively "girly girls" Dislike women that come over all helpless. Need something from the top shelf and you're 4'11"? Sure! Need another pair of hands, or someone who can lift something heavier than your bodyweight? OK! ( Having said that, I work with more than a few women that have better grip strength, and a couple that can outlift me ) Tell me that you have no clue how to something and you're not capable of learning? Well now....Dislike Macho male types even more. Don't feel totally comfortable with very camp guys, though through exposure it's got a lot better lately.

I get a kick out of some of the clothing, in addition to it being more comfortable. I am becoming interested again in actually trying a full makeover. ( Never have dressed fully as, a female. Curious to see if it has any effect ) Continually thinking about clothing techniques and structure. Want to come up with some new ideas in clothing types, something that is obviously male, but with elements that people will identify as coming from the female side. The effect I'm aiming for is '"Whoah! That's... actually that looks really good! Why has nobody tried that before?"

[Michelle_Diane]

Female who unfortunately happens to have XY chromosomes, but is working hard to correct the outward expression of the wrong genes.

Dianne summed it up perfectly. Female but with an unfortunate Chromosomal mix up. Which I can correct on the outside at least.

[Ceera]

For myself, I see myself as a male with some definite female aspects to my personality. I live most of my life as a male, and probably would only rarely tip past the 50% point in terms of time spent as a female in any given week. But I love dressing up and presenting as a female and being acceped as a female by those around me. I suppose the term 'gender fluid' fits me. My mental gender shifts occasionally to the feminine, though it always reverts eventually back to male. When I present as female, I try very hard to pass. I want people to accept me as a female, and often I do get that acceptance, even though they may realize I am genetically a male.

[Zaack]

I am agender femme. Underneath any gender expression/role/personality, there is a void where gender would be? Do I want to be called male? Nope! Does being called a woman fit? Nope again! I am neither of these. I don't feel any gender.

My personality? I would say is more 'feminine' than 'masculine'.

My expression? I am getting more comfortable in public with more androgenous clothing, but Id rather be feminine. It takes a lot of mental effoet now to wear a 'male' tshirt. I can barely stomach with guys pants or formal guys tops anymore.

[franlee]

I am a straight crossdresser and while it might be interesting to be a female for a while (if it were possible to swap bodies with my wife for a week or two), I am a man and always have been. I don't really know what it would feel like to be a woman.
I have to agree. As a matter of fact I thought I was reading my own words when I read this.

[Confucius]

I am a man with a great appreciation for the feminine. I love many things about crossdressing, but I do not want to be a female. I don't think I could crossdress for more than a single day. Even so, I don't think I could go a single day without thinking about crossdressing either.

So I am heterosexual, happily married, and only a limited crossdresser and I am happy that way.

[PaulaQ]

I am a woman. Feminine, caring, loving, nurturing.

I sacrifice my personal time to help others.

I've saved lives.

[Taylor186]

I easily pass as a male without trying. I never pass as a female no matter how hard I try.

[Pump1]

I am a male who really enjoys crossdressing. I have never thought about being a female. I just enjoy wearing feminine clothes.

Angela

[Bridget Ann Gilbert]

I find myself flowing between the masculine and feminine, sometimes on a daily or even hourly basis. Sometimes it's dictated by circumstances, others it just happens without rhyme or reason. If I were single I'd be living my life like Isha dressing as my feelings dictate, but marriage complicates things. I'm still searching for that balance point.

Bridget

[Heelios]

I feel like a man and I'm quite happy with that. I just love wearing women's clothes. I've never had any desire to be a woman but then I would like to think I am definitely in touch with my my feminine side.

[Suzanne F]

Paula I am with you.

I am a woman. I love a life shared with others. I am a nurturing and caring person. I finally make sense to myself. My journey to be me is supported by my children and wife. I am truly living a miracle that I want to share with the world!
Suzanne

[Rachelakld]

Today in the public pool, relaxing swim followed by soaking in the public spa in my blue speedo one piece with breast forms on.
It felt right
It felt to right and scared me.

[Robinadress]

I have never felt I should have been a woman. I have always had a fascination for women clothing, and I can’t even remember the first time I dressed. When I’m in a dress or a skirt, I’m still feeling male.

[mbmeen12]

My body portrays all male, broad shoulders and framed as to my Irish heritage. My mind portrays as womanly like, walking that sharp edge. When I dress I am super happy.

[AletaHawk]

As best I can figure it out, I'm genderfluid. My male side is by far the dominant side, but that's also because I have to keep my female side very much under wraps.

[Jennifer H]

Definitely male. I had a very male job before I retired, I love looking at girls but the reason I crossdress is it makes me feel good.

Jennifer. xxx

[Katey888]

The answers to this question may very well be at the core of our individual motivation and why we are satisfied by the way we behave as individuals... I've pondered this a whole day before replying, and unsurprisingly someone else has hit on something that resonates strongly with me:


I am a man with a great appreciation for the feminine. I love many things about crossdressing, but I do not want to be a female. I don't think I could crossdress for more than a single day. Even so, I don't think I could go a single day without thinking about crossdressing either.


Similarly I have no uncertainty about identifying male, and no desire to express overtly feminine aspects of dress or presentation while in male mode (although smooth legs and neat eyebrows and nails are a byproduct of feminine presentation, I wouldn't be embarrassed or coy about these covert signs being spotted) but I experience great satisfaction and harmony with fully transforming and adopting more feminine mannerisms and behaviour for a limited time to express this otherwise hidden facet of my persona...

When a teenager I also had fantasies about 'magically' flipping between male and female but there was never any further substance to those fantasies - intellectually, it would be fascinating to 'know' what it felt like to be a woman, but I struggle with seeing how any of us could really approach that understanding without the immersive, societal development that takes place in childhood and puberty and the obvious maternal aspects of womanhood - just another aspect for me that deepens the respect and awe I have for folk that transition socially (and physically) and why I can understand how they see many aspects of 'just' crossdressing as trivial by comparison. I think we do face other complexities but that's not for here... :)

I just wish I knew what it was that makes us pursue these rather peculiar and inexplicable behaviours, AND why it makes us feel so comfortable... :thinking:

Katey x

[Mjane]

Thank you for that post Katey, i was just wondering if it really matters why you pursue this form expression? or would the focus be on enjoying the experience without out questioning the reason behind it ?

[suchacutie]

Even after a decade it's not easy to answer this question. There are times I just need to be Tina, and as I transition to her there is no sense if any need to transition back to guy mode. Tina has a life she loves and we really miss it when I've been a guy for a while.

But then after Tina has gotten some time, missing my guy life comes into play. When transitioning to my guy life, I'm really completely caught in that process.

Then after a few days it starts again. I'm like a light that turns on and off, and it's either on or off with no in between.

[MsVal]

I do a pretty good impersonation of a man, but it's tiring and lacks the satisfaction it once had.

Best wishes
MsVal

[Tabitha_Lynn]

Like others have said, "I am me".

There are many times when I wish that I were female. However being born and raised male, I am male; although I love to try to present as female at times. I dont want to transition to full time female and cant see myself doingthat.

I like my life and myseld as is.

[Alice Torn]

I, unfortunately was born a male, but I think about 50% female. I have never been very comfortable in my own skin, and have been bullied, and picked on and ridiculed much of life. I don't enjoy male company much, unless they are kind, and self controlled, act civilized. I know i cannot ever change my sex, though. I am conflicted about a lot of things, but try to have a little fun.

[ChristinaK]

When I was young, I fantasized about being a girl. I wanted to be an adult young woman with breasts, wearing the exquisite clothes of the seventies. I think I was born the wrong sex. However, if I had been born female, would I have enjoyed the hair, the makeup, the sexy, stylish clothing, or would it have been a burden in a mans world?

The grass is always greener. When I became an adult male, I had a fetish for women's clothes and felt very ashamed, and so repressed the urge to dress up. Got married, did the man thing most of my life as a closet dresser (with my wive's knowledge, yes plural) and feeling SO guilty. (Second wife was SURE I was gay).

Now, I am much older, less testosterone and wish I could dress every day. I make a fairly ugly, broad-shouldered and tall woman, but they do exist. I would never want a relationship with a man (discusting, hairy brutes with all the wrong parts in all the wrong places), but would love a lesbian relationship with another woman. Some people on this forum have SO's that conform to such a relationship. Unfortunately, my current wife conforms to the more normal thought that I am a pervert and can control my actions and feelings. It's all in my head and has nothing to do with the way I have felt all my life.

So, I retain my DADT relationship, dress when I can and try not to expose myself to her (except for panties and nylon pajamas). Others in society, well, they are subject to my feminine side, sometimes to my delight and sometimes to my embarrassment. It's a tough life, but I feel like I would not have wanted it any other way. Normal, muggle men, just don't know what they're missing!

[colleen_cd]

I am male - always will be but seriously would like to experience being female and always have ........................Debra

I'm pretty much inline with you, Debra. I'm a male who crossdresses and never felt I was born with the wrong body - but I sure wouldn't mind trying it out for a while :daydreaming:

[Sandra-Bumstead]

I am male and have no desire to transition, but sometimes fantasize about being female. Those fantasies are independent of cross-dressing. Sometimes when I see a good-looking woman dressed sharp I wish to be her, only for the outfit and look, not the s*x.

Sandra

[Lacey New]

For the purpose of answering this as it seems to be a bit of a survey, I am a guy who will always be a guy who happens to like to dress in women's clothing from time to time. I am not attracted to men and the look, shape and dress of a well put together woman is a real turn on. While I would like to emulate that in my own dressing, I know that is nothing more than a fantasy.

To shift a little bit, I think there are a fir number of guys on this site who are very much like me. Have no interest in living full time as a woman (Jenner for example) and have no interest in transitioning. I think Isha and her story represents us well. However, aside from her successes, we do not hear about or see many success stories about guys who can present as male most of the time and then switch to female mode easily.

[Marie-Claude, France]

- Do you feel like you should have been a woman?
- No. But if I had been a woman I would have been as happy as a man. It is roughly equivalent.

- Are a woman?
- Genderly yes, sexually not.

- Do you feel like a man but want to feel like a woman?
- I wish I could experience that feeling.
But I conjecture that what women feel, is not what we fantasize they feel.

[flatlander_48]

I don't think that I have ever felt that I should have been female. I am decidely male, but these days I would describe myself as about 80% male and 20% female. That seems to be a pretty stable situation. I identify as bisexual and transgender. I cross gender boundaries and present as female with some regularity. It feels a bit like acting in that I allow the other side of my personality to surface and behave accordingly. Not have been born or reared as female, it involves the creation of what the feminine version of my personality would be.

Academically, I find dressing to be a fascinating experience. It is a window to a very different perspective and I think it is helpful for my general understanding of how the world works. If every male had to spend some time as a female, sexism would probably be a thing of the past.

DeeAnn

[krissy]

Me im a cross-dresser and love it .but there are times i wish i had real breast , so im still seeing where it goes.:c9::belly:

[LucyNewport]

I've had a somewhat uncomfortable realization these past few months that I am in fact a woman, and just set up incorrectly. This truth has been a long time coming but is now crystal clear. What this means on a practical level is TBD.

[IngeInCO]

I'm a dude, just like being fem sometimes...it's fun

[sometimes_miss]

I'm a male with a whole lot of stereotypical female desires. Yeah, that pretty much sums it up.

[Abby Kae]

Having only recently started doing a lot of soul-searching on this issue, a lot of my life seems to make more sense (today, anyway) if I try to look at it from the perspective of having been born in the wrong body.

Then again, I still feel male most of the time, with a strong desire to express my more feminine side in order to achieve whatever balance is best for me and my life.

Having lived 33 years as male has done a lot to shape how I view myself - whether it's societal conditioning, lack of questioning, or just part of who I am, I don't have a single permanent answer to the question of "Who am I?"

For today, I am a man who wants to dress as an attractive woman. Tomorrow? I dunno.

[Tina_gm]

Somewhere in between.... although as time goes on and I gain more acceptance and comfort of myself, I can see that my brain tends to work more as a woman's than a man's. I cannot say that I ever feel uncomfortable or wrong as a man, yet I am fairly certain that I would feel just fine if I was in fact a woman. But then, thinking back on the 4th, I was being like a mischievous teenage boy, lighting fireworks, with other middle aged men feeling and acting the same. "what does this do? I dunno, lets light it and find out hehehehehe" I was having a blast and totally connected to the man I am physically. I love playing golf hitting from the back tees, and playing aggressive and hitting it past the other guys. I still have chest thumping moments at times. So, even though it does appear that more of my brain seems to work as a woman's, there is still some boy brain function in there too. I guess for me, if asked internally am I a man or a woman, I would just say yes.

[Chris100]

I have long fantasised about being fully dressed as a woman. Unfortunately I haven't been able to go that far, even though I have enjoyed my limited forays, starting when I was quite young. Opportunities for my partial dressing are quite rare, but the feeling of femininity is fully savoured and when I'm indulging myself I could easily struggle to maintain my normal male identity and I question how far this might go, in other circumstances. I find this hard to understand and to come to terms with, although I try not to let it bother me too much or spoil my fun!:battingeyelashes:

[Catherine383]

I identify more as a female than male, and this has been the case since I was seven. There was a time when I yearned for SRS, and to find an understanding man who would love me, but those feelings have subsided as I have grown older.

I have come to the realization that I can be feminine without actually becoming female. I can feel like a woman without having all the female parts. Besides, there aren't that many men who would be sexually-interested in an older transsexual female, and that is perhaps the only reason I wanted SRS in the first place.

I might consider having breast augmentation, and SRS may be an option in the future. But for now, that isn't practical due to my career. If I had to choose over again? I would definitely choose to be female! :)

[Teresa]

Julie,
As I get older I didn't think this question would be harder to answer, but it is !
I don't feel I'm a woman trapped in a male body but at the same time I have less and less interest in doing male activities, I'm tired of still having to live with what is expected of me as a man, I want to be able live with all my identity feelings and not just male !
I have to agree with Isha that I'm still trying to work it out but the difference is I'm trying to do it in a DADT situation and when you don't have acceptance and understanding it's mentally very hard if not near impossible !

[Robin414]

Good topic and I've thought a LOT about it lately over the past 10 mo. I've always considered myself male...to the max in fact but I've always known there was a woman in there (sorry for the cliche). Long story short though I've come to realize after much reasearch and reflecti g on my entire life I really am (or should be) a woman, so much so I feel like a woman about 90% of the time now even dressed full on in guys clothing (I feel like a girl dressed as a man) most of time but I fake it not too bad 😥

[Jennifer0874]

In some ways I feel indifferent to gender. Not feeling an overwhelming allegiance to either male or female. No desire to transition, but at the same time if you told me when I wake up tomorrow I would be s woman I think I would be fine with it. I no longer feel the need to prove how masculine I am.

I am fortunate enough to have a wife who allows me to express whatever I am feeling on the current day. Fully dressed en femme fine. Butch male fine. Lounging around the house in yoga pants but in otherwise male mode, fine.

[TrishaLake]

I am a guy...for sure. Like hanging out as a guy, love my wife, play softball etc...but aways in the back of mind is dressing and someone wanting me as a women...my wife does sometimes but it is acceptance, vurnability, and a turn on.I am a bit of both...but isn't everyone..

[Dora]

As time goes by my gender identitiy is a woman, I am 75% woman but have alot of male interests, I am a car person I have an interest in cars and recently bought a really awesome classic truck, but also at the same time I am interested in guys, over time I am turning more and more interested in guys but have alot of male interests such as cars, video gaming, etc.....................

[tiffanynjcd24]

To be honest i would say 50\50

[karenpayneoregon]

I thought that my identity was male who was a cross dresser but as it turned out I was female so I went and had bottom and top surgery and feel great.

[Mona]

I wish I could have chosen, as the characters of the anime Simoun could, and though I have a good life as a male I would have chosen female.

[Mayo]

I'm still trying to figure it out. [...] I've been finding out that I'm probably somewhere else on the transgender spectrum. [...] I believe I do have a mild gender dysphoria.
I am decidely male, but these days I would describe myself as about 80% male and 20% female. [...] I identify as bisexual and transgender. [...] It feels a bit like acting in that I allow the other side of my personality to surface and behave accordingly.
Since my teens I've felt as though I would have chosen to be female if I'd been given the option, but I largely accepted the gender I actually got, at least until recently. I think the quotes above pretty much sum up my position at the moment, though my gender identity is still in flux - whether or not I'll end up as a TS is still an open question for me (up until about two days ago I would have said 'probably not', but I'm not so sure now).

[xoMindyxo]

I don't mind living life as a guy and doing guy stuff as well as getting ladylike. =) I been at the crossroads where I thought about transitioning but with counseling and soul searching. I realized I get in "pink fog" moments. I get in phases where I can't wait to get to paint myself all pretty, and there's periods of time where I just like to run around in guy clothes and do guy things. =) Transitioning just isn't my path. But I respect those and support those who need to so that they can be whole and complete.

[Sandie70]

Do I feel like a man or a woman?

Actually, neither and both... I feel like me.

When I'm dressed, I'm me - that doesn't change. I feel feminine and enjoy all that entails, but the clothes don't change who I am. Because I'm bi I still notice a beautiful woman or a cute guy. Although, after admiring the beautiful woman I immediately skip to what's she wearing (lol).

But what does happen when I dress is that I get a chance to view the world from a different perspective. And that can change someone to the core of being "me." It gives your male self a new awareness that might not have come to pass otherwise.

[Angela Marie]

I had always thought that I would have an easy answer to that question. But over the past year my journey has taken me to places I never would have dreamed. An honest and inward perspective have given me an answer to that question; an answer that needs no further clarification.

[erin_nicole0112]

I am a guy that so wishes I had been born female. I relegated myself to being a male that enjoyed time as a female but over the years I find myself leaning to being more female. I would say I am more 75% Erin and 25% a drab form of my male self.

[Glendy]

I am male but the more I dress as a female I feel more feminine. I don't want to transition to a female, but I like to increase my breast size that way I would not have to use breast forms. I know once you increase your breast size you can never go back and I would never want to. As for now I love and enjoy very much crossdressing, I just wish I could do it more often. My SO knows about my dressing but she isn't to happy about it and I don't get to dress up as much as I would like to. I think if I could I would spin more time dress in female clothes than male clothes.

[Belle Cri]

I feel most comfortable right now in a state of what I call advanced androgyny. I like to keep people thinking, guessing, engaged, and being nice. I do that by intriguing them. If they are oafs, then they will stay that way without the benefit of my and my SO's company.

[KARI AN]

I know Im a male but from a very early age I wanted to be female. It has taken a long time for me to come to terms with what I really desire and feel. It is great that my wife goes shopping with me buying bras panties and what ever I need. I really feel good wearing bras and panties both at home and out. Make up is something else I do try mascara and lipstick and prefer to dress as the female that I feel in me and yes I would have SRS given the chance. I havent purchased any dresses for some time now but have dresses, tops and shoes just need more like all girls the more the better

[Tracii G]

I am a male but most of the time don't feel like one.
Really hard to explain.

[Karen RHT]

The word "feel" makes your question intriguing Julie. I've never considered myself anything but male, and I've spent the vast majority of time looking like and "feeling" like one of the guys. Although I'm very comfortable wearing what society deems "women's clothing" I don't have any illusions about my gender changing when I put them on. Sure...my physical appearance changes to a certain degree, especially when wearing a wig and makeup. I've allowed my imagination wander now and then while dressed that way, but the reality is I still "feel" like the male me.


Karen

[Sandie70]

Some extra thoughts in regards to my last comment: As I said before, I tend to be "neutral" when dressed or not dressed. However, I realized that when I'm out in public I now find my perspective and my mind going "female" on me. Without consciously doing so, I start noticing things and reacting as a girl. One of those reactions being as to how I feel when men look at me. I now understand how women feel when men impose themselves on them out of the blue. It's uncomfortable. But, I find myself trying to be nice and empathetic at the same time. As a woman I feel both empowered and vulnerable... a state I don't experience when in drab.

[AutumnCD]

I identify myself as a male with some desires to be a woman. I definitely love women and have no feelings toward being with a man. It's kind of confusing though, because I am also attracted to other crossdressers. Of course, it's the feminine aspect of crossdressers that I'm attracted to.

[Christie ann]

My birth certificate says male and my body sure looks male, but my mind screams female. I have long ago stopped trying to figure out why and now just try and live my life as well as I can, mixing in female when ever I can.

[NoraTV]

I am both. I cherish my female side but can enjoy my male side. For me, the combination works.

[ChastityInFemme]

I just wish I knew what it was that makes us pursue these rather peculiar and inexplicable behaviours, AND why it makes us feel so comfortable...

I wish I knew too...and if it were possible to switch it off I most definitely would. I say this because I fear where I'm at genderwise.

I feel it's more than just crossdressing to me. I feel that in order to be happy in my own body, I'll have to transition. That's what scares me because I've done my fair share of reading on the internet about transitioning. It's an astonishingly large mountain to climb. I'm scared of the friends I'd lose. Scared how my parents would take it. But at some point my happiness will overcome my fears. Until that day, I present as a male but feel my brain is 60+% female. I have more female friends than male. I get along better with females. Yes, I do plenty of male things and don't avoid them but I think had I been born female, I'd likely do those things anyways. Who knows what my future holds...guess I'll find out eventually.

Actually, this is precisely how I feel.


I've had a somewhat uncomfortable realization these past few months that I am in fact a woman, and just set up incorrectly. This truth has been a long time coming but is now crystal clear. What this means on a practical level is TBD.

[Mayo]

I accept my male identity (though I'm moving away from that end of the binary these days) and am not sufficiently dysphoric about it to feel a need to transition but it would be wonderful if I could magically change sex any time I wanted. I suspect that I'd spend the majority of my time as a woman.

[Danika Jane McKenzie]

I still look& act as a man, but I feel all woman inside. I am a crossdresser but I feel that I am transgendered and I want to transition soon.

[Saikotsu]

I usually state what I am ad nauseum in any post to give people context, but since it's the topic at hand I can do so without guilt.

I identify as Gender fluid. My gender identity fluctuates over time. Some days I'm female, others I'm male, some days I'm neither, and occasionally I'm both. I've even had days where I'm not on the spectrum.

Most of the time I'm a mix of masculine and feminine. Right now, I'm 80% female and 20% male. There are days where I have some serious dysphoria and hate my baldness and my male body, and then there are days where I'm happy in my male body, proud even.

Right now, I'm content walking around the house in my capris and a bra with forms ( I just woke up. ) in a couple of hours I'll have to dress like a man and go to work. Whether I'll be Adyson or Adam at the time, only time will tell. Regardless of what I feel I am at any given time, I will always be me though.

[lily1974]

This is a really good topic. I see myself in the mirror and wish "why cant I be female?". I hate that I was born a man but I am extremely afraid of making the transition. I love every aspect of being able to dress up and look pretty. However my family does not condone nor would they ever understand. They dont even try to understand. The latest comments my family has made has prevented me from ever coming out to them.

[Saikotsu]

So sorry to hear that Lily. As much as I'd like to come out to my dad and my best friend, I know that doing so is a bad idea, so I know what you're going through.

[flatlander_48]

But what does happen when I dress is that I get a chance to view the world from a different perspective. And that can change someone to the core of being "me." It gives your male self a new awareness that might not have come to pass otherwise.

Exactly. This was a very unexpected, but welcomed, revelation to me.

DeeAnn

[ChubbyLeahCD]

Do you feel like you should have been a woman? Are a woman? Do you feel like a man but want to feel like a woman? Somewhere in between? Somewhere else entirely?

I'm interested to see the spectrum we encompass.

For myself, I feel male and don't think I should have been otherwise. I do like dressing in women's clothes and wouldn't mind pulling off a full make over once in awhile.

Personally, I'm a man. Feel like a man. I like my penis and I like hanging out with the guys.
BUT, I do like to dress up to feel attractive, to get in touch with my sensitivity and because I was always one of the girls growing up, just being as close as possible to being one of the girls but not giving up being one of the guys.

[Kimberly Adams]

I would love to know it feels like to be a real girl but perfectly content being who I am. I love dressing and fantasizing and content to leave it that.

[julie marie1]

Life is what it is. We are born either male or female. Some of us are inclined to change our sex. But what if the grass is not really greener? Is there a sex change-change operation? A women has the potential for an experience that a man will never have, not simply to be insanely sexy, but to give birth to a new life. But a father can see that life come into being and be profoundly affected. I enjoy being a man. i can not help but notice the splendor of the female form. But I also enjoy imitating that form when I have the chance. The fact that I enjoy makeup, heels, perfume, and a dress does not change my inner self.

[Alexis08]

Do i have a desire to be a normal woman with a vagina, uterus, breasts, etc? No. I'm happy to be like these three drag queens in movie High Heels (1995) starring Patrick Swayze and Wesley Snipes. They call themselves drag queens, but they dress as women even when it is not for entertaining purpose, which make them crossdressers too.


I'm skinny and not as tall as them, so i'm a bit more passable. ;)

[KittyD]

Candice

Now that is a beautiful video - no words needed :)
Wonderful, love it :)

Kate

[prene]

Would I mind if I had a vagina, breasts, hips and such...NO.
Am I totally unhappy who I am NO.
Would I transition if I could a get away with it? Maybe
Do I love dressing YES.
Do I get confused ... yes, that is why I have a therapist.
She is great.