urge to dress growing stronger

[Brooke H]

I have been crossdressing in the privacy of my home and only when no one else is around for about 18 years now. All of a sudden i have the urge to dress more and more. I have taken a walk on a beach at night fully dressed and gone for a drive. Yesterday i wore panties and a womens long sleeve shirt under my work clothes and i am an tradesmen on big commercial jobs. Today i wore a skirt while in the car and changed into my pants when i parked outside work.

Well i just wanted to share this and ask for any advice you might have as to how to cope with the increasing urge to dress.

[Jaylyn]

I've gone thru urges and after they pass I'm fine for a while. Underdressing just seems to settle the urge or calm it. Usually these small urges will build till I have to go whole dress even to the make- up and purse, jewelry, and necklaces. I wear that for a few hours and the urge seems to be satisfied for a while.

[Sarah-RT]

Hi Brooke, unfortunately o can't offer any advice, I'm in the same boat. I dress about 2-3 times a weekend depending on who's at home or what way I have to work but I find myself constantly thinking about it, coming here usually helps take my mind off things

Sarah x

[Sarah Doepner]

I've been dressing with some consistency for well over 30 years now and I have yet to figure out what drives the level of desire to dress. And sometimes really falling in and going head of heels on a "binge" doesn't resolve it. You just have to avoid letting the desire cloud your good sense with pink fog. That can lead to making poor decisions that may lead to unwanted consequences.

Find as many good options for your urges as you can to avoid showing up at the job site in a lbd, a single strand of pearls and non-OSHA approved heels instead of steel toe work boots.

[Candice June Lee]

I have similar issues. Been under dressing for 20+ years. But the real urges come when I am out and about seeing the clothes on the rack and desirous of them. Most recently I had to come clean about it. So now I can dress in the house more often, and can go get some clothes. Soon as I can. Ooh can't wait. The under dressing send to help keep the urges at bay some though.

[Tristessa]

+1 to what others have already said. The Pink Fog comes in waves, sometimes strong, sometimes not at all. When it hits, I lean in more and dress more at home, and tend to spend a lot of time shopping for my next look. Then it disappears and I spend more time in guy mode. Really important to keep the Fog in check and not let it drive you into making rash decisions re: who you come out to. If it really hurts to be in guy mode, take some time off from work and feed your femme side by getting really girly and rating yourself to a few indulgences that aren't part of your normal repertoire.

[Megan Nicole]

I know its not polite to as a girls age, but I am curious. My desire has gotten much stronger with age. In my younger days the urge would come and go and surging volumes of testosterone always seemed to dominate my mindset (girl chasing). These days I'm more girl than I am guy, and I like it. Like Jaylyn said, underdressing seems to help, but I crave those times when nobody is home and I have a few hours to drag my stuff out of hiding.

Meg

[Jennifer H]

I must admit that I am the same, sometimes I can go weeks without the urge to dress but other times I can't get home quick enough to put on that little black dress.

Jennifer. xxx

[Melissa73]

i admit, when i began dressing, i was 11. And it was for pure sexual reasons! NOw, im out, i find i love just being dressed.... fact being my normal daily wardrobe consists of lady clothes (underwear, socks, pants) and when at home im always dressed.

[Teresa]

Brooke,
These things happen, try and not to worry too much about it , it may pass or not what does it really matter just enjoy it !

I can't speak for everyone but I would think many of us have done many of the things you mention .
I occasionally dropped the kids off at school and slipped into a skirt and heels to drive home, driving out fully dressed at night is exhilarating . I did underdress once in suspender belt , stockings and the rest but I found that impractical and too hot when moving about while doing a wedding !

[Kandi Robbins]

The urge will continue to grow as you feed it, at least that's my experience. I finally decided to stop fighting the urge and embrace it because it's not going anywhere. My personal ability to try and control it is to do other things, find other things to occupy my mind. For me, an idle mind is a mind filled with planning outfits, thinking up things to do en femme, coming up with things I "need" (like I really need any of this, they are more like "wants").

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Brooke, Just be careful until you are ready to come out.:daydreaming:

[Taylor186]

I find underdressing every day, whether I feel like it or not, reduces the periodic pink fog peaking to a manageable level.

[TrishaLake]

for me its 50 50...I like to dress for sexual reasons enjoying the feel and being submissive at times. The other half appears to be stress related...I either hide in it or just find safety(Maybe the same thing).

I do not go out dressed anymore since coming out to my wife and I don't feel that urge. But when we are intimate I love it. When I have a stressful day, just a pair of panties to bed can be comforting. Who knows why, but it is true....

[wanda66]

Like everyone else the urge is stronger as i get older fortunately.iam able to dress frequently .when iam not dressed iam thinking about it. I wear a nightgown at night home or away.which helps . Panties every day.

[lily1974]

This seems to be a general issue with everyones I have read so far. As for me I know I have the pink fog most of the time anymore. Even while underdressing.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Brooke, part of you wants to get outed.

Be very sure the other part of you can handle that.

[Kate Simmons]

We all feel the urges but it takes some real effort sometimes to control the process rather than have it control us, not necessarily to our benefit.:)

[pamela7]

are we not fighting nature and our natures, what would happen if every CD-er came out the same day, everywhere, worldwide ... if we were 5% or even more, suddenly, it would be so normal, it would be "game over" ... how about it?

[Brooke H]

I appreciate the support from everyone. I dont know if ill ever come out to anyone so my dressing cant really get to out of hand. I just have the want to dress most the time. Megan nicole i am 28.

[Krisi]

If your crossdressing isn't getting in the way of your life, it's not a problem. Wearing a skirt and then changing at the job site could be a problem if co-workers see you. And if you're in construction, there's a chance of an accident which could reveal your panties and women's shirt.

Think about what you are doing and what could go wrong. I think it's best to keep crossdressing and work as far apart as possible. You need the job.

[wanda66]

Good advice

[Robin414]

I think someone could write a thesis, masters at least) on this topic 😉 IMHO it has to do with naturally decreasing T in males with age COMBINED with a genuine predisposition to the feminine condition (mosaic kleinfelters more common than we think perhaps???) Just food for thought ☺

[Diversity]

You are certainly not alone. I have these same urges and find they are continually getting stronger and more frequent. Underdressing is a big help but I am now getting bolder by wearing bras and blouses more frequently, rather than just panties, which I wear everyday. My wife is fine with panties but would not be fine with the rest. I say, do what you feel you are comfortable with, taking into account your relationships with family, friends, and society in general, should you get caught out. Enjoy your journey.
Di

[Rachelakld]

Keep it away from work!!!
At 50, the urge is nearly every waking moment, and I'm worried about that, but I try to pencil in girl time regularly

[Catherine383]

I understand your feelings. I think as long as you don't overdo it, you will be ok. Just try to keep it low-key and you will be ok.

[jigna]

Although I am allowed to wear only undergarments, I feel strong urge daily night & whenever I am alone.
Morning, I never liked to take it out and wear my male dresses.
At times, I have taken bath wearing under garments Bra and nicker.

[irene9999]

The feeling comes and goes for me, sometimes that's all I can think about and other times the urge is not as strong

[Natasha V]

I have a gut feeling Hormones are the culprit of the desire or urges to dress when my testosterone is low the pink fog increases with a vengeance. When its high I totally fade for months. Still keeping tabs to see if changes occur.

[Maxi]

I am newly out. After getting caught by my neighbor on Memorial weekend, I went overboard showing off pictures of my new hobby, and Caitlyn Jenner really help with me using the line, "I had Wheaties for breakfast, and look what happened." I even put a bumper sticker on my van that reads, "When Life's a Drag, Dress Accordingly". I think I was so pent up about hiding it, that I just had to come out.
When I first went public, people were so nice to me, it really took me by surprise. Everybody I work with, and all my friends know. Our relationships have not changed at all. I now feel I am free!

I am so hook on the feeling it brings, The positive event from the weekend keep me energized till about Wednesday, then then thought of what I'm doing the next weekend carries me through the week. I am so much more productive, and so much happier on the job since I came out. Every Tuesday at our meeting, my fellow coworker like to see my pictures from the prior weekend, and are curious as to why this makes me so happy.

I ran into an old guy I used to fight against in the market. 20 year ago I tried to kick his A** for messing with my products. Now he is a big guy, Probably 4" and 60lbs over me. He walked away. When I saw him today, I told him I have soften up a bit in my old age, and showed him a pictures of me dressed, in Dress Barn. He was so blown away when he figured out that face is me. It really made his day. We had a good laugh, and talked a few minutes. He thought it was great that I had the gut to dress, and go out in public. He never would have expected that from me. Attached is the picture I showed him.

Once you get the look so you are happy with it, be proud, and use the positive sell. People will buy it.

The more you come out the more you will get hooked on it, and live to dress. Life will take on a much more positive feeling, when you don't have to hide it.

I took the risk, and it payed off big.

Good luck with your venture.

[sfwarbonnet]

Brooke, try these. All are OK out in public in either "boy" or “girl” mode. Wearing clothes usually associated with the opposite sex rapidly becomes normal. Underdressing also provides a “head-start” for presenting as a woman since you are already wearing a bra, panties, slip, and nylons! Items that could be spotted as women’s clothes when underdressing, such as a bra and nylons, are more of a challenge in “boy” mode; but when there is no reaction from either men or women that invites one to wear only womenswear. I have found these items both acceptable and practical; they are readily available and, in fact, are mass-market items in the women’s department.

!) Slacks: Women’s pull on pants are much easier to put on than men’s belted pants. They do not need a fake fly, as the absence of it is usually not apparent, but I prefer non-figured and solid color, non-pastel pants so they are not readily identified as women’s clothing.

2) Panties: Underwear with a fly is unnecessary with womens pull-on pants. Although there are no-fly briefs in the men’s department, women’s full-cut briefs work just as well, and are often cheaper.

3) Slips: Shirttails tend to readily pull out of pull on pants. This can expose panty and pantyhose tops. A “solution” is to wear a full slip that is short enough to be worn with slacks. Also slips are usually made of material that makes it easier to pull on and straighten pants.

4) Bra: Although wearing a bra in public in “boy” mode can make one nervous and it is a challenge to “hide” it, wearing a bra can make one feel feminine and can be practical in “boy’ mode to keep non-adjustable straps on a slip from falling off the shoulders.

5) Nylons: Although wearing them in public can also make one nervous, an MD suggested that I wear pantyhose to avoid the indentation in my lower legs that mid-calf or knee-high socks make. Pantyhose do not require anything that is not also needed with women’s pull-on pants. Opaque ones are best, as they aren't readily identified as women's hosiery, but that isn't necessary and sheer nylons are OK and are more available. I actually prefer thigh highs as they are easier to put on than pantyhose, they do not need to be lowered to go to the bathroom, and only one leg needs to be thrown out when a run becomes apparent.

Finding women’s clothes that fit a GM is a challenge, as a bust and an hourglass figure are often presumed in women’s clothes. Particular examples are all-in-ones and garter belts. In the former, if one gets a large bandwidth, the cups are usually too large for underdressing, and garter belts, which are supposed to keep stockings from falling down, often fall down themselves as GM’s usually do not have a large difference between waist and hip measurements. For me, a short 38 slip with no bust darts makes an OK undershirt, although most of my shirts are 42-44 and narrow, non-adjustable straps on a slip fall off my shoulders (probably due to lack of boobs) unless I wear a bra with adjustable straps. To get an appropriate bra size, use the largest chest measurement as the bandwidth, and get an AA cup.