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AbigailJordan
07-08-2015, 12:11 PM
It's been an interesting week. As some of you will know, I've recently confided in a few more close friends which has given me a little more freedom when it comes to visitors etc.

Anyway.. I was talking to one of those friends the other day, and she commented that she hadn't seen Abi for ages and when was she coming round again. I commented that I couldn't come round as Abi when certain people who knew me but not her were around, referring to one of our mutual friends who was leaving as I arrived. This led to her telling me that he already knew, and that apparently, quite a lot of people in town know about it already, far more than I was aware of or had confided in. As I've mentioned before I live in a relatively small rural town where gossip reigns supreme and minds can be somewhat smaller than usual..

Now the "problem" is that this mutual friend is also best mates with a guy who isn't my biggest fan.. and who also happens to be a taxi driver and one of the biggest gossips ever to walk the face of the earth. So at this point, I have to accept that as he knows, half of the entire town knows by now.

So.. I decided that I had two choices.. continue to hide away and let people talk behind my back.. or get out there and give them something to talk about.. so I chose to own it.

The following day, after doing some banking in my fave skinny jeans and cute capped sleeve black t-shirt (in guy mode still), I began the "process".. the works of course.. hair.. nails.. makeup.. heels and a smart but not overly flaunting outfit.. cream silk tailored trousers and a purple crosswrapped top, 3" navy heels with a navy jacket.. packed my handbag with essentials.. and headed out to my friends for the afternoon.. hung out at hers for a bit.. took her down town to run some errands.. stayed in Abi mode for the rest of the day, including another trip out to a friends house which ended up including a couple of total strangers meeting Abi too.

The strangest part of all this in my eyes, is that previously, even though I only ever used to go out late at night under cover of darkness, I would still always be nervous about the possibility of a neighbour seeing me.. or someone recognising my car and wondering who was driving it etc.. But when I decided to go out in full daylight (1:30pm on Monday afternoon) all dolled up, I don't recall even the faintest twinge of nerves as I stepped out of the door. I didn't rush. I took my time locking the door.. walking to the car etc.. same when I got out at the other end.. I totally did not care who saw me.. whether I was recognised.. or made.. and even when the strangers met me and I saw that slight narrowing of the eyes as the thought went through their head.. I just smiled and found it amusing rather than uncomfortable.

Obviously now I've done it once I'm pretty sure I will be taking more chances to get Abi out and about.. I wonder if it's the same for every girl who decides to come out in this way.. once you've decided "f**k it.. let's just do this".. all the nerves and the caring about who sees and what they think or say just disappears instantly.

Anyway.. sorry for the blog like nature, but I just wanted to share and maybe give some other girls in similar situations the confidence to just be themselves.

pamela7
07-08-2015, 12:31 PM
Congratulations Abi, that looks like the way to go from my perspective. Once you let rip and no longer care, it gets easier. It's in our own minds, fear. No fear = no problem.

Dana44
07-08-2015, 12:35 PM
I agree, no fear= no problem. Now you can run drab or fem on how you feel each day when you wake up. People will accept you as you are.

Mjane
07-08-2015, 02:09 PM
Wow! Congratulations Abi! So happy that you were able to do this and have fun while you were at it :) here's to many more such wonderful days :) Cheers!

MsVal
07-08-2015, 03:37 PM
It won't be long Abi, and you will wonder why you didn't do that sooner.

Best wishes
MsVal

Sarah-RT
07-08-2015, 03:39 PM
Hey Abi, as annoying as it can be for others to know your business, as we get older, and more comfortable with ourselves then it really does become "who gives a f..."
Say you get in the cab with that guy and he says "oh look it's the tranny" or something to get your goat, if you say and what? Or what's your point they usually back down, most people with the childish nature to insult others don't like confrontation. Hope all stays well!

Sarah x

Pat
07-08-2015, 04:29 PM
I wonder if it's the same for every girl who decides to come out in this way.. once you've decided "f**k it.. let's just do this".. all the nerves and the caring about who sees and what they think or say just disappears instantly.

I believe that's exactly what happens. Congratulations on getting there. ;)

natalie_cheryl
07-08-2015, 04:35 PM
good for you! i totally know the felling and am at the same point myself.

Alice Torn
07-08-2015, 05:30 PM
It sounds like i need to do what you did, and go out once in a while, but not in this small town! The six foot ten in heels tranny!

phylis anne
07-08-2015, 05:41 PM
congrats on your"owning it" to quote a saying I saw "well as long as I'm going to hell anyway it's go big or go home " this is lol of course as to the short minders just keep thinking -----at least I got the guts to do this --how bout you ?? gauranteed to end the remarks
hugs phylis anne

kimdl93
07-08-2015, 05:56 PM
Yeah, I had that moment some years ago....when it was clear that people in my immediate neighborhood knew and there were no mobs with pitchforks outside my door. From that point forward, (most of) my nervousness evaporated. It's a relief as much as anything, to be freed from worrying about who knows and who doesn't know. And I guess in a real sense it's also taking control over ones life instead of yielding that control to others.

DaphneMiller
07-08-2015, 06:01 PM
once you've decided "f**k it.. let's just do this".. all the nerves and the caring about who sees and what they think or say just disappears instantly.

This reminds me of headline on the Daily Mash (A satirical news website) that read something like 'Male anxiety about baldness cured by not giving a cr@p'

:)

Great post, good to hear you're out and about.

flatlander_48
07-08-2015, 06:17 PM
So.. I decided that I had two choices.. continue to hide away and let people talk behind my back.. or get out there and give them something to talk about.. so I chose to own it.

Bonnie Raitt song:

Let's give them something to talk about
A little mystery to figure out...

Anyway, what you are experiencing is the power of a conscious decision. And that, as they say, makes all the difference in the world...

DeeAnn

justmetoo
07-08-2015, 09:20 PM
Good for you, Abi! Sounds great!

Marcelle
07-09-2015, 07:35 AM
Hi Abi,

I think you just about summed it up . . . once you have decided "f**k it . . . let's just do this" and launch yourself out into the Vanilla world in the light of day . . . you seldom go back. CONGRATS!

Cheers

Isha

Heelios
07-09-2015, 04:53 PM
This reminds me of headline on the Daily Mash (A satirical news website) that read something like 'Male anxiety about baldness cured by not giving a cr@p'

That is hilarious!! Proper LOL! :laughing:

AbigailJordan
07-10-2015, 04:33 PM
hehe.. good to know that lots of others have felt that weight lift from them too. Well.. tomorrow is Saturday.. time to get myself out and about again :)

One other thing I've found.. is that as well as going out en femme.. I find I now want to push the "gender blender" boundaries.. obviously I dress in neutral (ish) femme clothing whenever possible, but never anything too obvious.. And not that I want to go out wearing a dress in guy mode or anything (alll my dresses are way too cute to waste on that!!!).. but things like jumpsuits and blouses etc I find I'm wanting to wear more and more on those occasions that I can't do the full Abi.. Roll on the day where clothing no longer has a gender!!!

Lots of Luv
Abi x x x

BLUE ORCHID
07-10-2015, 04:44 PM
Hi Abigail, You are out there now, There's no turning back now.:daydreaming:

AbigailJordan
07-11-2015, 08:36 AM
Oh absolutely Blue Orchid, why would I ever want to turn back.. got to wear my new playsuit out today.. finally, all these clothes that I used to begrudge myself because I could only really wear them at home.. now that limitation is lifted too :D