Breakthrough

[Miss Mandy]

Tonight, my wife surprised me by telling me that I need to come to terms with my feelings and to accept myself as I am. I asked her to elaborate, and she said that my desire for crossdressing was most likely not going anywhere and It would be something I have to live with...(has she been reading up on this?) BTW, she has known about this long before we were married

I certainly agree with her and even now, with her and my kids in bed, I am setting downstairs fully made-up as a women and just feeling...normal...

This is an interesting aspect about myself that is hard for me to come to terms with...Yet, I feel our relationship has evolved to the point that we are essentially two women married to each other. Even in male mode (90% of the time) I often feel like a women and merely go through the motions of manhood. We get along much better when I allow Mandy to come to the surface (even sans clothes, makeup, and a wig)

I have brought up the idea of partially transitioning when our children leave home and if I read her correctly, she would not be opposed to this.

[TrishaLake]

Well it sounds like you have a VERY understanding wife! Good for you. It also sounds like you become comfortable with who you actually are and again you should feel happy with it. I sometimes wonder if we push too far, and I for one want my wife to be happy....but we should be happy too no? Congrats Mandy and be you!

[LeslieSD]

You have a really wonderful wife. :-)

[Melissa in SE Tn]

Sitting downstairs , dressed as a woman and feeling normal. What true peace that is!! To share Mandy with your wife is such a blessing.

[Rachelakld]

Sounds like a wonderful place to be.
For my wife, any thoughts of transitioning would destroy her "Happy Ever After", and at this stage I'm happy with where I'm at (and I hope that doesn't change).

[Teresa]

Miss Mandy,
your wife is possibly right and it must be great that she has thought the situation through , she obviously values what she has in a partner !
It is sad that you have to consider when the kids have left home, you will still feel there's a barrier for your true feelings.

Txcrossdress,
I don't know where that push keeps coming from, I know it's not to intentionally to upset or annoy my wife but it just won't go away, it shouldn't cause the unhappiness many of us go through when we know how good it makes us feel when we do manage to dress !

[Alice K]

It would be wonderful to understand how your wife came to this point of understanding? Maybe someday you or she can share her thinking.

Alice

[kimdl93]

That's a remarkable and wonderful development.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Mandy, I need your wife to talk to my wife.:daydreaming:

[Krisi]

That's great but if you're downstairs fully made up as a woman and she or one of the kids comes downstairs, what are your plans? She knows, of course, but what about your children? It's great that you get the freedom to dress, but please don't let it go to your head and forget common sense.

And what do you mean by "partially transitioning when our children leave home" ?

[Beverley Sims]

Mandy,
with the communication lines open, take it slowly and carefully, a happy future and success could be on the horizon

[Tina_gm]

Be careful about the idea of her being ok with transition. Not saying you shouldn't if it is right for you. Have you talked to your wife about transition? Being feminine, her thinking it's ok for you to dress as a woman is still a way long way off from actually being one. I am not saying she won't accept, I am just saying that accepting femininity and dressing is not the same as being an actual woman. I wouldn't judge her acceptance to go to the very end of the spectrum.

[Katey888]

Happy for you Miss Mandy... :cheer:

Sounds like you have a great and shared understanding - take your time and keep talking... :)

Katey x

[AbigailJordan]

Congrats Miss Mandy, you don't need anyone here to tell you how lucky you are to have a wife like that. Perhaps she has seen signs of unrest or unhappiness in you when you deprive yourself of dressing and she obviously loves the person you are enough to be secure about you dressing as Mandy.

Obviously you have to decide how you're going to deal with your new found freedom as far as your kids go. Although many kids can adjust very well to changes like this, you and your wife still need to consider the possible impact on them.

As you appear to be two very well balanced people with your feet on the ground for the most part, I'm sure you will be able to deal with things well. I wish you all the best for your future exploration of yourself.

Lots of Luv
Abi x x

[heatherdress]

Mandy - I am glad you feel content and have an understanding wife. But it seems like you are saying that she is encouraging you to be content with your crossdressing and should accept who you are. That is so terrific - for both of you. But is she in the same place as you are about you feeling you are a woman? You state that you "feel like a women and merely go through the motions of manhood". That is a bit more than crossdressing. Is she OK with your thoughts of transitioning? Is she OK with being "two women married to each other". If so, terrific. I am happy for both of you.

[michelle.foster]

Miss Mandy,
Wouldn't the next step be to get the kids on board? If they are younger it shouldn't be much to convince them it's OK to see dad dressed, and if they are teenagers, they might already know or sense it and would probably be OK with it. Mine were young adults when I told them and they were all good with it. Only one had actively encouraged it, she bought me some string bikini panties for Christmas that first year and asked to see me dressed. The others three have never asked, and I don't push it around them.
Good luck.

[Josieone]

So happy for you. You do have a wonderful wife