Donnagirl
07-15-2015, 08:03 AM
I've read too many posts of late where there appears to be a problem, difficulty, reticence or fear of people meeting fellow CD/TS/TG... Others seem almost desperate to find someone to talk too but cannot work out how, when, where, what or why. Whereas I'm no expert on this matter can I offer the following:
Find a local group... The first time I spoke out loud about my wants and desires was to a local group, six prettily dress individuals... I was in drab (and regretted it). These six form some of my closest friends now...
Use the Internet... This forum introduced me to someone who, although they live over 1000 miles away has become my BFF. For many months we chatted via Facebook, shared our deepest secrets, bared our soles, eventually she visited me, then I visited her... Those early times online help so much to gain confidence. We had theme nights, we talked til dawn, it was the best substitute for not actually getting out. I know this person as a boy and as a girl better than I know anyone else... (You know who you are xx xx xx)
Use social media... Although Facebook may initially draw a few loonies and perverts, it does help make friends. I have a wonderful group of friends in the major cities around me and I love actually meeting them. This weekend I'm driving 400 miles with a girl I met at the local group to spend a weekend with the girls we both know in that city... I will make personal contact with another twenty or so Facebook friends and make so many more new ones.
Talk to those you may accidentally meet... Some weeks ago I observed an obvious CD in the local mall. Dressed fully in drab, I was working, I introduced myself as Donna... We had a coffee, a chat and now she has joined our social group and already attended one restaurant dinner.
Find other forums (sorry!)... One lovely CD and her wife are our closest friends and we met via another site. She would not play locally as her family all lived here and she was in fear of discovery, so she limited partying to interstate... She is not a member here... Best of all her wife and mine are now best of friends and provide wonderful support to each other.
Talk to your employer... Ok so I work in a fairly large government department that, although not nearly as progressive as Isha's, does have a fairly supportive LGBTI policy. I started a group early this year and so far have a skilled counsellor and three other trans available to help those that ask, need or want help.
I have met a doctor who transitioned a while ago who joins us socially and is, understandably, a subject matter expert. She is now my doctor and provided the referrals I required to the best psychiatrist and endocrinologist available.
Ok, so I'm not afraid to leap in where angels fear to tread but, please, don't live in fear or isolation. Talk to others, it is liberating and so very therapeutic. I think I can truthfully say it saved me... (And if anyone wants, or needs, PM me and I will gladly FaceTime or Skype.)
Must pack now... Have two social events this weekend, one a little on the BDSM fetish side, one an elegant formal ball. Both will be fun and will extend my circle of friends many fold!!!
Many months ago I said it sucks to be me... Not any more!!!
Find a local group... The first time I spoke out loud about my wants and desires was to a local group, six prettily dress individuals... I was in drab (and regretted it). These six form some of my closest friends now...
Use the Internet... This forum introduced me to someone who, although they live over 1000 miles away has become my BFF. For many months we chatted via Facebook, shared our deepest secrets, bared our soles, eventually she visited me, then I visited her... Those early times online help so much to gain confidence. We had theme nights, we talked til dawn, it was the best substitute for not actually getting out. I know this person as a boy and as a girl better than I know anyone else... (You know who you are xx xx xx)
Use social media... Although Facebook may initially draw a few loonies and perverts, it does help make friends. I have a wonderful group of friends in the major cities around me and I love actually meeting them. This weekend I'm driving 400 miles with a girl I met at the local group to spend a weekend with the girls we both know in that city... I will make personal contact with another twenty or so Facebook friends and make so many more new ones.
Talk to those you may accidentally meet... Some weeks ago I observed an obvious CD in the local mall. Dressed fully in drab, I was working, I introduced myself as Donna... We had a coffee, a chat and now she has joined our social group and already attended one restaurant dinner.
Find other forums (sorry!)... One lovely CD and her wife are our closest friends and we met via another site. She would not play locally as her family all lived here and she was in fear of discovery, so she limited partying to interstate... She is not a member here... Best of all her wife and mine are now best of friends and provide wonderful support to each other.
Talk to your employer... Ok so I work in a fairly large government department that, although not nearly as progressive as Isha's, does have a fairly supportive LGBTI policy. I started a group early this year and so far have a skilled counsellor and three other trans available to help those that ask, need or want help.
I have met a doctor who transitioned a while ago who joins us socially and is, understandably, a subject matter expert. She is now my doctor and provided the referrals I required to the best psychiatrist and endocrinologist available.
Ok, so I'm not afraid to leap in where angels fear to tread but, please, don't live in fear or isolation. Talk to others, it is liberating and so very therapeutic. I think I can truthfully say it saved me... (And if anyone wants, or needs, PM me and I will gladly FaceTime or Skype.)
Must pack now... Have two social events this weekend, one a little on the BDSM fetish side, one an elegant formal ball. Both will be fun and will extend my circle of friends many fold!!!
Many months ago I said it sucks to be me... Not any more!!!