Conversation with Mom

[Abby Kae]

Yesterday, as I was over at my parents' house, giving them some much-needed time with their grandkids, the following conversation took place.

Me: Oh, by the way, I'm transgender.
Mom: Okay. Which flavor?
*laughter*
Me: The flavor that is both male and female on the inside, dresses mostly male but will be starting to express femininity through crossdressing.
Mom: Well I've known that for 29 years (I'm 33 now). Not the crossdressing part, but your twin-spirit nature. I'm looking forward to meeting your female expression!

She was confused a bit by the transgender terminology, as she didn't know that it was different from transsexual, but once that was cleared up, it was just a conversation about how I came to this realization and the practicalities of transformation. She even offered her closet, which I politely declined because she dresses in a style I have no desire to mimic. ;)

Then she and my dad bought us all lunch.

All in all, it was a pretty good day!

[countrygirl]

Wow. Congratulations on coming out.

[Ceera]

Wow! Sounds like you have amazingly wonderful parents. Lucky you! So glad it went well for you.

My mom might have taken that sort of conversation in stride, but my father never could have. So I never got to have such a wonderful conversation with them. Both are gone now, so I'll never know for sure if my mom would have been so accepting.

[Sarah-RT]

Congratulations Abby, I had a similar experience yesterday myself, Your mom sounds like a real Gem! I know what you mean about the wardrobe thing though, Wouldnt be for me either :heehee:

Sarah x

[Belle Cri]

Congratulations Abby I hope to be having the same conversation soon while she is still around.

[Marcelle]

Hi Abby,

Congrats on a such a wonderful outing to your mom.

Cheers

Isha

[Pat]

You poor thing! What a heart-wrenching ordeal! :lol: I'm glad it went so effortlessly -- were you expecting turbulence or did this play out pretty much how you thought it would?

[Tracy Hazel Lee]

Her response had about as much hostility as saying "Hey, I bought a new car"... "Okay. What color?" :)

I would NEVER expect that kind of acceptance. That is absolutely amazing. I can't imagine how great that must have made you feel!

[Katey888]

Astounding... :cheer:

Would you be prepared to let your parents go on a global lecture tour entitled: "How to accept your kid as their own person, whatever their apparent gender orientation.." I think spreading that word would do a lot of good in the world. :)

You know you have shot right to the top of the 'lucky person' chart here..??? Envy will follow shortly but enjoy your good fortune and your wonderful family. :D

And good tip for newbies too - never, EVER try to emulate your mother's dressing style... :facepalm:

Katey x

[cheryl reeves]

congratulations,almost sounds like my mom when i told her,my mom has even met cheryl and didnt recognize me,til angie my so came in behind me..since then my mom has been fine with it. my dad prob would have never accepted this for he tried his best to make me male..

[Rachael Leigh]

Sounds really cool, moms can be great and such a surprise just when we least expect it.

[JamieG]

Wonderful story. I sincerely doubt I'd get that reaction from my mom.

[Jorja]

I hope you jumped up and ran over to give mom a big hug and a kiss. Not many have that type of reaction to coming out to their mom. Good for you both!

[Angie G]

ongrats on you great talk nd what a great mom you have. Buy thatl adysome flowers girl.:hugs:
Angie

[Abby Kae]

You poor thing! What a heart-wrenching ordeal! :lol: I'm glad it went so effortlessly -- were you expecting turbulence or did this play out pretty much how you thought it would?

I've always been able to talk to my mom about anything, so I knew going into it that it wasn't going to be a big deal. My dad is just as accepting, and he was there for the conversation, but he's the very, very, very quiet type. All he did was give me a little smile.

As Tracy said, it was exactly like telling them I bought a new car.

And thank you all for the warm thoughts. It really did make my day to tell them. :)

[Sarah Smith]

Yay! Congratulations, I hope the next steps go equally smoothly and the introduction of your 'female expression' goes down well! :) I wish i could expect the same of my parents however I cant imagine it sadly!

Looking forward to the next chapter in this story

hugs

Clara xx

[I Am Paula]

Sounds just like my parents, which is fantastic!!! Give them a hug and a kiss for me.

[LeslieSD]

It must felt like a huge weight off when finding your parents are so accepting and understanding. :-)

[pamela7]

absolutely fabulous, every mum should aspire to be like yours!

[mikayla1964]

Congrats on it all.I wish y mom was still around so I could talk to her about it. She would have been like your mom but my dad is another story .. So again congrats..

[EmmaNicole]

Congrats to you, Abby. I hope I can pluck up the courage sometime soon to do the same with my mom and rest of the family!

[kimdl93]

What a great Mom. Isn't it interesting that she knew something about your nature from early childhood? As a matter of courtesy, try to pick out one or two outfits that your mom really likes...even if you don't.

[mechamoose]

Yesterday, as I was over at my parents' house, giving them some much-needed time with their grandkids, the following conversation took place.

Me: Oh, by the way, I'm transgender.
Mom: Okay. Which flavor?



Orange cream


*laughter*
Me: The flavor that is both male and female on the inside, dresses mostly male but will be starting to express femininity through crossdressing.
Mom: Well I've known that for 29 years (I'm 33 now). Not the crossdressing part, but your twin-spirit nature. I'm looking forward to meeting your female expression!

She was confused a bit by the transgender terminology, as she didn't know that it was different from transsexual, but once that was cleared up, it was just a conversation about how I came to this realization and the practicalities of transformation. She even offered her closet, which I politely declined because she dresses in a style I have no desire to mimic. ;)

Then she and myhat dad bought us all lunch.

All in all, it was a pretty good day!

That is great to have such 'bumpless' parents.

- MM

[Belle Cri]

Astounding... :cheer:


And good tip for newbies too - never, EVER try to emulate your mother's dressing style... :facepalm:

Katey x

Oh that is so true, but it is where I got my style cues from. Rome in the late 60's, la dolce vita, and an absolutely gorgeous, showstopping mother. How could I not?

[justmetoo]

Congratulations, Abby Kae! Sounds like you have great parents! :)

[phylis anne]

congrats!!!!!!:love: your parents represent the poster children we all wish we could have while facing what probably our greatest fear ----and that is telling those close to us how we need to be so congrats on your journey no matter what "flavor "you choose
hugs phylis anne

[Amy Lynn3]

Congrats, on having wonderful parents. My Mom has passed, but I came out to my ex mother in law and she was well with it. She even saw me dressed, but she never offered me the contents of her closet. I loved her taste and would have been happy to borrow her cloths.

[MissTee]

That's just awesome!

[kinkyboots]

Lucky you. My parents are hard core consertive Christians, if i let them know i would have the whole church camped in my front yard