Lindahexi
02-09-2006, 10:58 AM
Four weeks have now passed since my wife caught me wearing pantyhose, and I finally came out to her; I thought it might help others to post an update on what has transpired since.
I have overcome the initial feelings of not being able to dress, I still can't explain why I felt that way, it could have been embarrassment or the shock of finally telling her; but now I am quite comfortable wearing femme clothes in front of my wife. It's all very casual and natural, I don't parade around in front of her or go out of my way to make sure she see's me, but it is really nice not to have to worry about getting caught. Getting dressed in the mornings is now a real pleasure, I'm able to put panties and tights on and go to the bathroom etc without any worry, then if I'm staying in I can wear a skirt and top too. My wife is quite ok with it, but doesn't want me to be seen by neighbours or visitors while wearing female clothes, I think that is a reasonable compromise.
The next hurdle is for her to see me in full makeup and wig, the clothes she seems to have now accepted, and in fact still hasn't made any derogatory remarks, but on the other hand she hasn't discussed the situation, and I've adopted a 'one step at the time' attitude. I feel fortunate that she has accepted my dressing and don't want to push her too hard, it will definitely be a shock for her to see me fully made up. She knows that I use a certain amount of makeup to hide facial blemishes, and she certainly knows that I use lipstick, because she's seen it on my overnight water glass, but how will she react to the full treatment? Any advice you can offer me girls about how and when to let her see LINDA fully as a woman would be appreciated.
I have read many accounts of others coming out to their partners, but I'm not sure if the whole thing comes out in one go, or in dribs and drabs as I seem to be doing; being accepted as a cross dresser is one thing, but not all CD's use full makeup and wig; Only my niece has ever seen me fully en femme and as many will know from my previous threads she is just fine with it, but she thinks it will be a bit much for my wife to take in. One thing that I wanted to mention is that I kinda miss the excitement of thinking I might get caught, it may sound silly, but being OUT has removed the worry, but somehow diminished the rush.
I have overcome the initial feelings of not being able to dress, I still can't explain why I felt that way, it could have been embarrassment or the shock of finally telling her; but now I am quite comfortable wearing femme clothes in front of my wife. It's all very casual and natural, I don't parade around in front of her or go out of my way to make sure she see's me, but it is really nice not to have to worry about getting caught. Getting dressed in the mornings is now a real pleasure, I'm able to put panties and tights on and go to the bathroom etc without any worry, then if I'm staying in I can wear a skirt and top too. My wife is quite ok with it, but doesn't want me to be seen by neighbours or visitors while wearing female clothes, I think that is a reasonable compromise.
The next hurdle is for her to see me in full makeup and wig, the clothes she seems to have now accepted, and in fact still hasn't made any derogatory remarks, but on the other hand she hasn't discussed the situation, and I've adopted a 'one step at the time' attitude. I feel fortunate that she has accepted my dressing and don't want to push her too hard, it will definitely be a shock for her to see me fully made up. She knows that I use a certain amount of makeup to hide facial blemishes, and she certainly knows that I use lipstick, because she's seen it on my overnight water glass, but how will she react to the full treatment? Any advice you can offer me girls about how and when to let her see LINDA fully as a woman would be appreciated.
I have read many accounts of others coming out to their partners, but I'm not sure if the whole thing comes out in one go, or in dribs and drabs as I seem to be doing; being accepted as a cross dresser is one thing, but not all CD's use full makeup and wig; Only my niece has ever seen me fully en femme and as many will know from my previous threads she is just fine with it, but she thinks it will be a bit much for my wife to take in. One thing that I wanted to mention is that I kinda miss the excitement of thinking I might get caught, it may sound silly, but being OUT has removed the worry, but somehow diminished the rush.