Just a regular mom!

[Suzanne F]

I have been down a little this week since I had to go out twice as male. It has been a hot topic concerning being full time around here lately. Sorry that I was a little defensive about it. I have to admit that it is hurting more and more to hide from work. I am dying to scream i am a woman to my company.

So I was feeling sorry for myself when it hit me tonight how lucky I am. I had told my son I would take him to see The Fantastic Four and he could invite a friend. Well it turned out to be him and three other 12 year old boys. I had met two of the parents before and the other mom dropped her son off at the movie and asked if I could bring him home. So there I was just a mom with 4 boys! We had a great time and I got them all home safe.

It hit me that I am so lucky to be living as a woman most of the time. Yes it won't be long until all of the time. How grateful I am that my son not only loves and accepts me but expects his friends to also accept me. The boys really never seems to notice that I was a little different. They thanked me and just acted like good rowdy boys.

I am living my life as me! Things are going to be ok. I don't want to miss the good stuff worrying about what I don't have yet.

Suzanne

[Persephone]

:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

What a wonderful and inspiring post!

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Marcelle]

Hi Suzanne,

What a great story and thanks for sharing.

Cheers

Isha

[Jennifer-GWN]

Suzanne;

Yes indeed celebrate the moments. Your coming out at work will come soon enough and when the timing is right. I can sympathize having been in that space building up to going full time and still sucks as work though the electro on face stuff. These final vestiges of maleness can be hard and will completely vanish in time.

Cheers... Jennifer

[steftoday]

congrats Suzanne..things seem to be getting more and more "normal" for you. it's wonderful to hear your son is so accepting as well.

[I Am Paula]

A wonderfully upbeat post. Transition can be hard at times, but it can have it's golden moments.

[Eringirl]

Thanks for sharing such a lovely anecdote! I can see how that would be such a validating experience for you. I totally get the presenting as male thing. I too am full time except at work so have the same feelings about going back to male mode. But my timeline for going full time including work is in motion and my organization is working with me to develop a communication plan etc.

So we will get there. Hang in there kiddo, any keep focusing on the good stuff !

[I Am Paula]

Eringirl. In the last few months before full time, the switching back and forth made my GD MUCH worse. Are you finding that?

[PretzelGirl]

I am wondering if it is not only the switching, but having your eye on the plan. I switched for years where work, a little family, and in-laws (somewhat rare) only saw the old male presentation and I was authentic otherwise. It was a gradual shift until I decided there wasn't much left and I made a decision. Comparing that to yours and Erin's path, I wonder if because you are working on completing transition, it makes male mode tougher on how it affects your state of mind. Once my decision was made, it was about about 7-8 months and that couldn't happen fast enough and it was a busy time, so that helped.

But it is wonderful when our kids accept it and just continue on with no apparent issues. The normalization is a wonderful thing!

[Leah Lynn]

That is so cool!

Hugs,

Leah

[Robin414]

Wow Suzanne, I'm soooo happy for you! I'm not 'there' yet but thinking about it and I absolutely love your post 😊

[Kaitlyn Michele]

My experience has been similar...after some adjustment my daughters got more comfortable and over the years i've driven and hosted dozens of kids and attended school functions and pretty much took care of them like it was always this..

i'm super happy for you that its going the same way so far for you and your son

[charlenesomeone]

Suzanne, what a wonderful story and attitude.
And a great Mom.

[Starling]

...So there I was just a mom with 4 boys! We had a great time and I got them all home safe...I am living my life as me! Things are going to be ok...

I bet you're a great mom! You've certainly worked hard to get there.


Eringirl. In the last few months before full time, the switching back and forth made my GD MUCH worse. Are you finding that?

I'm not Eringirl, but I'd like to answer for myself: I hate that. It's the worst feeling in the world.

:) Lallie

[Eringirl]

I'm not Eringirl, but I'd like to answer for myself: I hate that. It's the worst feeling in the world.

:) Lallie

I resemble that remark!! ;)
Erin
AKA Eringirl

[AllieSF]

Yes, you are such a woman, taking the kids to soccer practice, attending the PTA meetings, discussing the trials and tribulations with you house mom friends about being a housewife with so much to do and so little time, and then so little recognition for all the extra effort put into it. It is good to see that this Birkenstock wearing mother can also party hard into the wee hours of the morning talking more than one person into a mild stupor where the only word out of their mouths is "Marquette"! Happy Mother's Day.

[Hell on Heels]

Marquette !

[Suzanne F]

No that is Julie!

[Eringirl]

Eringirl. In the last few months before full time, the switching back and forth made my GD MUCH worse. Are you finding that?

Paula: yes, it is getting harder and harder to switch. Fortunately in my conversation today with the "big boss" (see my journal entry for today), he suggested that if there are days when my GD is high and I am not feeling great or particularly strong, that I work from home so I can be more comfortable and be Erin. It was such a grand gesture on his part!!!

[Starling]

That's spectacular, Erin! Talk about good role models...

:) Lallie

[wanagione]

What a happy experience! I'm glad you had fun.

[Bria]

Sometimes in life we need a real pick-me-up moment to make up for the other times!!

Hugs, Bria

[Janelle_C]

What a wonderful story! I can appreciate how hard it is to have to go back and forth.

[grace7777]

Nice to hear about the good things happening in your life.

So do your son's friends now call you Ms. Ford?

[Suzanne F]

One of the boys was so sweet. He said thank you Mrs Ford for such a wonderful time!
Suzanne