crossdressing in the bedroom

[kimberly c]

Has anyone here brought your crossdressing into the bedroom. I have for many years and the experience has brought my wife and I much closer as a couple. I go total femme, sexy lingerie including forms. I am sometimes the submissive partner and enjoy this role. It keeps life exciting.


Love Kim

[CONSUELO]

As I always wear a nightgown to bed, I suppose I have "brought it into the bedroom".

[Mink]

here's a trick:

1) dress up like a lady... pretend you ARE an actual lady... the wife of your wife who is now your husband
2) pretend that SHE is a crossdressing submissive male... you order "him" to dress up and be all submissive ... while you get all dominate and aggressive...
3) ???

[Dana44]

Probably it is a good place to try master/slave and dominate her. I find that a fem can't really dominate me. Yet I find that she does like the submissive.

[Candee]

I wear panties and nightgowns to bed and my SO is ok with that but if we plan on getting intimate she wants the "male" in bed with her so no panties or nightgown......

[TrishaLake]

I have done this as well, and for me it makes me most relaxed and comfortable. She does not want the wig or makeup but everything else is fair game. I sometimes am submissive and some dominant but I always really enjoy it. I love my wife for at least accepting this part of me.

[notready4public]

My CDing is strictly for this purpose. I do it more as a fetish than anything else. That probably makes me some kind of oddball, not in a self-deprecating way, since I think most CDs do it because of who they identify as more than it arousing them. But it doesn't mean my reason for doing it is any less real or acceptable. I think that is my main reason for not doing it publicly. I can't imagine how uncomfortable I would be trying to walk around 'fully dressed' and trying to keep my arousal discretely concealed.
I have not ever done full on makeup, forms and wigs. For me it is only clothing items. I even maintain a shaved head and a goatee. I do not present publicly as being the slightest bit feminine. I have on rare occasions done what I think is being referred to as 'underdressing'. Where I will wear stockings or women's undergarments beneath my men's clothing. The most exciting time I did this was many years ago when I drove a limousine for a living and was chauffeuring a bachelorette party for the night.

[Maryesther M.]

MOH doesn't approve at all, so any CD item(s) never get an airing in the bedroom, more the pity!

M.

[AussieJess]

Yup. Sometimes the wife is the girl sometimes I'm the girl. I picked her up from the city the other night en femme... Made for an interesting drive home ;)
Bedroom CDing is the most fun CDing in my opinion.

[Chrissy1966]

Has anyone here brought your crossdressing into the bedroom. I have for many years and the experience has brought my wife and I much closer as a couple. I go total femme, sexy lingerie including forms. I am sometimes the submissive partner and enjoy this role. It keeps life exciting.


Love Kim

I've been dressing for years but only came out to my wife a few months ago.

To my surprise (and joy), she is into it. You're right. It has brought us so much closer, I still can't believe it. I was such a mess with guilt and shame. We had sex maybe 4 times in two years. I had convinced myself that I was gay because I dressed. How messed up is that, eh?

Now we can't get enough of each other. And all it took was something as simple as talking/communicating. Who knew.

We have role played a couple of times and have some fun adventures planned but........once again........kids/school. Will you leave already!! HaHa. Maybe I can bribe the school to let her move into her dorm early?

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kim, Been there and done that, But now it's DA/DT.:daydreaming:

[Krisi]

I have a couple of times but my wife's comment is usually "I am not a lesbian." So it's off with the girl stuff before it's all over with.

In the end, it's impossible to finish with the roles reversed because of the plumbing.

[Amanda James]

I wear a bra ,Panties and a nightgown every night and my wife has never said anything about it . It's so nice when I get up early, sit at the computer, have a coffee and read the new posts on crossdresser.com.

[Riddhima.mehra]

I only crossdress in bedroom.. like u hav a bathroom singer.. i m a bedroom crossdresser!!

[Samantha Clark]

Nope. Strict rule in my house is I don't wear any girly stuff in bed. I'm ok with that because it's not a $ex thing for me anyway.

[Danitgirl1]

I have a couple of times but my wife's comment is usually "I am not a lesbian." So it's off with the girl stuff before it's all over with.

In the end, it's impossible to finish with the roles reversed because of the plumbing.

With a bit of imagination and some flexibility a great deal is possible.
Just saying...

[megan_thomas]

Use to do it all the time! Then we were blessed with our first child. So we can't find time for that anytime soon.

[Alice_2014_B]

I have but only in high heels (so far).
:)

[Jaylyn]

We have played in the bedroom with us both in our nighties. I believe it brings a whole new deminsion to the bedroom. My wife is not the least bit into women but she accepts that I need to be dressed and we enjoy talking about what we are going to wear to bed when that love bug bites us. I really love my dark red lipstick and she will fix my lips for me then tell me to kiss her and get her lips red as mine. After several applications we will have little kisses in all the right spots to make for a great evening. I love my soul mate.

[Jennifer0874]

All the time. We took baby steps at first. Maybe we would wear matching panties and just kiss for a while. Then one day I got fully dressed, she wore a t-shirt and boxers, and we reversed roles in both clothing and actions. It's been a while since I was the man in bed and we're both happier for it.

[Athena_]

Cross-dressing in the bedroom, yes, but only alone. My wife is strictly DADT. She did have me model some panties once shortly after she found out about my cross-dressing, but I now suspect that it was to reinforce to her that I was actually a cross-dresser vs. having a girlfriend.

[Brenda456]

I wear a nightie of some kind every night.

[audreyinalbany]

does wearing sweatpants or flannel count?

[Lacy PJs]

In the bedroom is about the only place I dress. But it's not always at bed time; there are days (especially crummy ones, weather-wise) when some babydolls, a leotard & tights or even on rare occasions, a skirt, blouse & pantyhose help to chase the weather blues away.

Sometimes, in the evening, we will have a "pajama party" with (close to) matching outfits... I'll leave it at that. :)

Lacy PJs


here's a trick:

1) dress up like a lady... pretend you ARE an actual lady... the wife of your wife who is now your husband
2) pretend that SHE is a crossdressing submissive male... you order "him" to dress up and be all submissive ... while you get all dominate and aggressive...
3) ???

I think I'll need a flowchart to figure this one out... :)

Lacy PJs

[Jenniferathome]

I can't help but think that those who think their wives are cool with this (or will be cool with this) might be mistaking a wives capacity to try something new or tolerate something FOR HER HUSBAND with being into it.

To anyone thinking of taking this into the bedroom, talk to your wife first and with total honesty about what you are thinking. You can't sneak this in. That is the only way you will know she actually cool with it and not being kind.

[notready4public]

Jennifer, you are absolutely right. Early on, my wife was uncomfortable with it but tolerant. Even now I wouldn't say she is "cool" with it but she does indulge me sometimes. Even asking me to put some stockings or lingerie on. This does not mean she is into it. It means that she loves me, accepts that it is part of who I am, and is willing to do things that she is not fully comfortable with to make me happy. And her willingness to do things that make me happy only make me love her that much more.

[Gillian Gigs]

I'm not the kind to kiss and tell, but I have great liberty in the bedroom. I give her what she wants and I get what I want, with one exception, I always lead. This is a small price to pay for wearing the lingerie I want.

[Anita Cosmolover]

My wife only found out about my cross-dressing 20 months ago. It all came about when she found one of my Cosmo's I'd accidently left outside when reading it during the day out in the sun. I have been reading and collecting Cosmo since I was 14. This was quite a shock for her, as I had been keeping it a secret since we were married 12 years ago. I've been in love with Cosmo most of my life - I have a very strong Cosmo Girl inside of me!
She had all the usual questions - am I gay - No. Do I like women's clothes - well, yes I admitted - lingerie. That she is not happy with, but she at least lets me wear a silk night robe/dressing gown inside. I've pushed things a bit and let her see me wearing a silk slip underneath my night robe a few times and she just gets pissed off. She says she needs me as a "manly man" - pity the real me isn't like this! All my closest friends growing up and in my 20's and 30's have been women. I do not identify with other males that well.
My wife at least is understanding and accepting of my "hobby" collecting COSMOPOLITAN of which I have literally many hundreds of issues. I can at least wear my silk robe at night time and she's at least accepting that I need to wear lingerie when alone. She just can't accept me wearing lingerie in front of her as it's just too much of a turn off - she's basically said no sex if I wear lingerie in bed :-( This does piss me off royally, but I have to accept her views and feelings in this regard. She has come a long way in a short period. It must have been a big shock she discovering her husband is a cross-dresser. It's just something that comes from deep within me and makes me feel so good. I'll never stop wearing lingerie. I've had two complete "transformations" - make up, lingerie, dress ,shoes - the works. It was a great deal of fun and I will do this from time to time. On a day to day experience, lingerie is generally enough for me at this stage. Fingers crossed my wife will get more used to me loving to wear lingerie in time and I will be able to wear my beloved lingerie freely in bed.

[psion128]

It was fun with my ex. She would pretend that we were both girls having fun only to have a nice surprise.

[Donna St. Marten]

My wife and I routinely wear sexy lingerie, stockings and high heels in the bedroom. In fact, we did this before I started dressing on a regular basis over 15 years ago. Yes, I know I am one of the lucky ones.

[Alaina Ann]

I wear a bra , panties and a nightgown to bed every night and my wife likes it that way. We often dress alike. She has one condition though that allows me to do this. When we have sex, she and I both perform as females. Everything must be done exactly as a female would do it including masturbation. My wife truly is a love.

[Missy43]

My wife will allow some panties and lingerie on occassion. It's great fun

[Isabella Ross]

I too am one of the lucky ones in this regard. Besides the joy of this, there is no greater expression of acceptance that a GG or SO can offer. On the flip side, always careful to be in male mode as required...something I have no problem with.

[Missy43]

I agree. It is nice to have an accepting SO. I just have to make sure I don't push the limits of acceptance too quickly

[Maria Blackwood]

Technically it's a bedroom, but it's setup for much more.

[Gwinnie]

2 ball gowns is the best ever. So much fluff. So much work to get where you want to go. It's great

[Lee Andrews]

Ah, we use to but over the years something changed for her and I find myself in a DADT situation when crossdressing.

[Claire Cook]

I often sleep in a nightie or sleepy tee and always wear panties. But never when it 's intimate time. We are just more comfortable that way.

[Diane Smith]

My ex-GF liked it when I, or better yet both of us, wore garter belts and stockings to bed. She also liked to play with my earrings. She tolerated me in high heels, but didn't want me to wear any of it outside the house in her presence.

- Diane

[Jen_Amber]

It sure would be nice to have someone that accepting.

[TrishaLake]

Just to clarify, I do understand my wife wouldn't ask to have me dress...that said we are in Love. I do many things for her that I wouldn't do if I was single, and as a result she does things for me...thats called love and marriage (not to be confused with the TV show!).....I always make sure we has a good time always

[Mink]

crossdressing in the BATHROOM!

[LydiaG]

Before me and my girlfriend were even dating we were playing around in her bedroom and she wanted me to wear her dress. I felt uncomfortable but she kept asking! So I did, we had a lot of fun with it. Now a year later I sleep with forms and lingerie about 3 times a week. On a few occasions we'll be playing around and she'll ask me to go dress up and come back. She likes it! She'll cuddle me and hold my forms at night, it's a great feeling waking up like this! It really makes me feel loved and accepted. When I'm in female mode she usually becomes dominant. I try my best to keep a good balance of male mode and female mode.

[Robin414]

Ummm, wow! 😯(but in a good way 😀)

[Patrica Gil]

Yes and it has been wonderful...........Wonderful!

[psion128]

Has anyone here brought your crossdressing into the bedroom. I have for many years and the experience has brought my wife and I much closer as a couple. I go total femme, sexy lingerie including forms. I am sometimes the submissive partner and enjoy this role. It keeps life exciting.


Love Kim

I have several times with a few of my ex's. They kind of like it. I did get the vibe that they didn't want it all the time but they liked the twist on bedroom play time.

[CrossKimmy]

Sounds like a lovely time.

That only happens in my imagination.

[KarynDavis]

My wife has somewhat, reluctantly accepted Karyn. I wear panties 24/7 - always to bed. Maybe once a month she allows me to dress completely - makeup, wig, bra, breastforms (glued on), pantyhose and heels - then crawl into bed. I love cuddling having her up tight against my boobs -one things leads to another and we make love. Wish we could do it more often

[CarlaWestin]

Nope. Strict rule in my house is I don't wear any girly stuff in bed. I'm ok with that because it's not a $ex thing for me anyway.

With me and wifey, my CD is strictly DADT and IDWTSI.


I wear a bra ,Panties and a nightgown every night and my wife has never said anything about it . It's so nice when I get up early, sit at the computer, have a coffee and read the new posts on crossdresser.com.

Yup! This is me. Just add forms. I get up at about 3am every morning. Carla time. Of course, we usually sleep in separate rooms due to my early schedule.


I can't help but think that those who think their wives are cool with this (or will be cool with this) might be mistaking a wives capacity to try something new or tolerate something FOR HER HUSBAND with being into it. To anyone thinking of taking this into the bedroom, talk to your wife first and with total honesty about what you are thinking. You can't sneak this in. That is the only way you will know she actually cool with it and not being kind.

Jennifer, I agree with you. Ever see the wife that takes on the manly hobbies of her husband or, the whole sports worship nonsense, just to conform? To you unmarried CD's. She might think it's cool now but, a wedding ring will snuff that out.

[Tora]

My Bride helped purchase my first long nylon nightgown, 20 years ago. Since then I took over the purchase duty. Many Miss Elaine, and Shadowline later we have a good selection. Panties, cami, and a few slips, also. She still does not agree to any other items. The rest is in a storage locker, off site.

[Jennie2]

No not at home only when I'm away on business. However I slip in to a nightie and panties every morning for a couple of hours before my wife gets up. During this time I shower and pamper myself.

[Cynthiasfcd]

I dress when my wife is away. I love spending the day or night dressed up. I love to pose and take pictures. Sipping a glass of wine and chatting with other girls and admirers is so much fun.

[Cara Lacey]

When I first met my wife, she let me know that she was cool with my crossdressing as long as she didn't get a steady diet of it, so I usually let her call the shots.

Saturday night my wife was getting undressed and I noticed her new bra and panties. She has been losing weight, so she has been wearing a lot of new stuff lately.
I helped her out of her bra and she asked if I would like to try it on.
Of course I did, but we could not get it hooked. I am sure we could have stretched it to get it on...I have fit into 34s before, but I didn't want to ruin her pretty new bra, she absolutely looks better in a bra than me, and I have plenty of my own anyways.

Too bad, it seems to be an end of an era... I loved when my wife would occasionally and out of the blue, dress me up in her undies.
On the other hand she has gone from a 38DD to a 34F and is looking fantastic!

[theresa renee]

Theresa-Renee currently only exists in my bedroom. the whole thing began as a kink, but in my heart of hearts, it felt a little more serious than that, the depths to which i do not yet know. i do know that i'd like to walk around my own home dressed however i like, but it would not go over so well with me and my current male housemate.

a GG companion with whom i spend some "quality time" is extremely supportive, and that's more of an intimate matter; however, two GG friends will soon be taking over for my male housemate - they have been made aware of my "predilection", and are totally cool with me wandering about the house dressed, and it's in a non-sexual way. i guess you could say i'm evolving from outside the bedroom, and something about that feels much more rewarding to me.

[ChubbyLeahCD]

I had a girlfriend of mine who enjoyed dominating me when we were both in lingerie.
The feeling of spreading me legs and wrapping them around her back was so hot.
I like the idea of one day being my wife's girlfriend.
Problem is she's not at all attracted to women so who knows if she would ever get into it.

[BillieAnneJean]

I just get lost in the sensuousness of merely being with my wife. When we spoon I can't help but smile. Her body is the very definition of erotic. So I don't need any other "enhancements" to make it totally pleasurable. She just IS.
What she sees in my man body I will never understand. But I am lucky that I have what she wants.
I prefer, when with her, to revert to the roles we were born with and I feel lucky that the me-guy/SO-gal thing works for me.
I understand that it doesn't work for all.
That is why I feel lucky.
I can crossdress as I wish but when it comes to having sex or sleeping or just being around her, for me and luckily (for me) to her, the guy and gal works just great. I have no desire to bring any "girl"/girl in to our time together.
Sure I go OUT enfemme. And yes she does join me some of the time. But when I am out with her I enjoy it more if I am dressed as a guy. So the time we are out together with me enfemme will always be significantly less than the times I am enfemme. That is also because we spend a LOT of time together. We just enjoy each other's company. If you knew her, you would understand why.
Crossdressing can be a part of my life without negatively affecting the other parts of my life. It wasn't easy at first. I told her before I started late in life. But the internet told her all kind of things that caused her great concern, panic. But after a while she started listening to me. I was totally honest and open. She realized that I was "just" a crossdresser.
I don't need to nor want to bring CDing in to other parts of our marriage. IF I DID I wouldn't because it risks damaging what means the most to me, HER.

[Stephanie47]

Hi Kim, Been there and done that, But now it's DA/DT.:daydreaming:

That's my situation. Decades ago when we were first married I use to wear a nylon nightgown to be on occasion. We even shopped together for gowns for me. I had a pink knee length peignoir, a floor length black gown, a red knee length peignoir, and used one of her white ones that was too big for her. It wasn't always, but, everything was OK until........She realized there was more to this than just liking the feel of nylon, which I do love. Then, after the usual "talk," it became DADT. That was way before I started buying a lot of women's clothing. Sometimes I wonder if the occasional wearing of a nightgown would have satisfied my urges or kept my interests to that level?

[Beverley Sims]

I was twelve when I last wore male pajamas.

[Patrica Gil]

What goes on in the bedroom is secret. Let me say however pretty dress, silk stockings, and CFM heels are wonderful!!!

[Melanie 0339]

Being in the closet pretty much all my dressing is in the bedroom. And what goes on in there is between me my mirror and my double AA friend xxx

[franlee]

Yes. It is a very enjoyable experience and when I want to indulge it she has no problem with it and on occasion it is her desire to initiate it. It aint taboo unless you make it that way.

[StacyCD]

My SO went from DA/DT to letting me wear pretty much whatever I want to bed--usually its a bra, forms, panties and an nightgown. I feel pretty lucky!!

[Jane G]

We have done me dressesed en fem many times over the years. My wife excepts it. I'm pretty sure she enjoys it. But its not her natrual preference never will be.

[lovenighties]

iam new here and like it a lot i love to wear vintage double layer nightgowns to bed and wife loves it. i have been doing this for 4 years now and i consider myself to be a lucky guy and i love the feel of the nighties on me and she calls me sexy. i have always loved nightgowns especially the double layer kind from the 1960s and 70s beautiful gowns anybody else love to do this and thanks for reading this i also wear them around the house in the morning sometimes