Bummer

[Allisa]

Had a day off between jobs, so got up early to begin the process of femme expression after fully dressed and made up more femme than my usual casual style, planning my day out for a brunch and some window shopping when my work associate called and we engaged in a very manly work related conversation and after the call I felt some what less femme and lost my desire to go out and be that side of me, so off to the bathroom to go into homme mode and dress. I guess my mind was now focused on work and all that goes along with it. As I think about how I was dressed when on the phone I have to laugh, talk about your bummers now I have to plan a day out maybe a weekend to make up for a lost out time. Boy this duality can be hard sometimes, would I change it?, I think not. I count my lucky stars that I can separate myself and still be as one. Well enough of my rambling, have a good rest of your day and night. Bye.

[CynthiaD]

Work tends to shift me back into male mode as well. But if have to write a lot, and when I'm writing something I can work from home. When working at home, I generally wear one of my "office girl" outfits.

[Heidi Stevens]

As another famous Arkansan said, Allisa, " I feel your pain"! I was out this morning having a wonderful time shopping as Heidi, when I noticed it was time to head back home. Dang it! My wife was out for only the morning and our compromise is that she can never meet or see Heidi. I wanted to go have lunch, but had to get back to the house and change back. Almost as bad as not dressing at all.

[Elli87]

thats my dream, To be a reclusive writer that no one ever see's unless he's releasing a new book "wink"

[kimdl93]

You'll get over it. I worked from home, en femme, for several years and made the vocal shifts back and forth when necessary, but otherwise, I was and am the same person. The people who see me in male mode just don't know it's a facade.

[Allisa]

It seems we got off the point or maybe I didn't relate quite well, I don't work from home nor am I a writer. My point was that I can change inner self with just the slightest of stimuli and still be good with it, just missed a time out that's all. Bummer.

[Teresa]

Allisa,
I know exactly what you mean, Sunday was my planned day, I'd helped my son all day Saturday to demolish some walls and he doesn't usually need me on Sundays. My plan was to walk some fields freshly harvested with my dog fully dressed plus wig , 9.00am the phone goes and I spend most of that day knocking more walls down ! By mid afternoon I was tired, my nails looked awful and I still had the house to clean and cook the meal before the wife arrived home from work at 4.00pm ! Bummer puts it mildly !!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Allisa, What's this work thing that you speak of ?? :daydreaming:

[Robin414]

I'll say, especially if your 'clocked' at the same time, LOL! I was reading at a park one evening and got an emergency call from a coworker that I had to take just as I guy was walking his dog towards me; needless to say the conversation was anything but feminine and the poor guy turned 180 degrees, good way to avoid unwanted attention I suppose 😂 To the point of the OP though, didn't phase me at all (being clocked or the conversation), cuz I yam what's i yam...well, you know the rest ☺

[Victoria Demeanor]

Oh yes big Bummer and fully understand. Been there, done that. Kind of funny like a light switch sometimes. Well sorry your plans got changed, but glad you took it in stride.

Oh and my apologies about not commenting on your last couple of post. I absolutely love the outfit you posted a couple days ago and reading about your shopping trip. I just haven't been very vocal lately. Life just get ahead of me sometimes.

[Krisi]

I've had to talk on the phone as a male many times while dressed as a female. It doesn't change anything, I'm back to Krisi as soon as I hang up. The only problem I have is sometimes my earrings bang on the phone and make noise on the other end.

[daviolin]

I'm so glad I'm retired. I can keep Daviolin in the forefront were she belongs. Daviolin

[Stephanie47]

Allisa, I know your pain.

The worst case of being interrupted during a femme day happened several years ago. When our daughter lived in the mid-West my wife would visit her in the fall for seven to ten days. It was great. As a retiree Stephanie could exist 24/7. During her visits I had ample time to go 100%, including nail polish. Anyway, here I am all dolled up in the morning and the telephone rings. My daughter-in-law and granddaughter locked the keys to the car in the house, and, they had to get to school and work. They lived four minutes away. I had to wash off my makeup and strip off the nail polish, get out of my outer garments and heels, don my boy clothes, grabbed my set of their house keys and headed over. By the time I got there they did not need me. My D-I-L had called my son and got the code to open the garage door. It was a bummer. It broke the mood for a while but fortunately I just went home and redid Stephanie, sans makeup.

I had learned a long time ago to make sure I was going to have at least 7-8 hours of femme time. Here I had 24/7 and plans still go messed up.

[Junius]

I know that feeling Allisa. Give yourself the time and space to be yourself. Everything else is secondary.