When the fog is thick but you need to get stuff done...

[Ashley_K]

What do you do? Sometimes I'm so crippled by the desire to dress that I can't seem to get other stuff done, whether that's at work or home, and it's suffocating. How do you break out of the fog?

I'm currently working on some meditation practices to see if that will help. Ideas?

[kimdl93]

The best way to handle a simple mindset is to do something. If you get up and do something....like washing the dishes or mowing the lawn, or spending time with friends, you'll find your mind will follow your body. Of course, you could do all of those things dressed too, which would be the bet possible outcome.

[Lori Kurtz]

Since, for me, it was always a sexual experience, I would sometimes simply skip over the actual dressing-up phase of the process, and proceed directly to the git-er-done phase, where I would stimulate myself to the point of satisfaction. That was nearly always enough to lift the fog. And then I could get on with whatever else was happening in my life.

[Jennie2]

I went through a period like this over a year ago and realised that if I didn't do something I would suffer some sort of stress breakdown. I wasn't getting a chance to Cross-dress, and I needed to.
So I made an affirmation, that I would, at least, wear panties every day. I got a selection of panties and other hand me downs, as soon as I got up in the morning I put on panties and wore them for as long as I could, if possible I would wear more. This took the pressure off, and I was able to relax more. I have now developed this and wear a nightie and panties every morning. even under my dressing gown in front of my wife. That gives me a real buzz, It takes a bit of planning, keeping my nighties and panties where I can easily get to them, but it is worth it. I am now much more relaxed, and not stressed at all.
When you are not stressed and needing to cross-dress, you can plan better and take more control.
I have now summoned the courage to visit a sex shop, talked openly to the staff about my cross-dressing, (that was liberating) I now shop for women's clothes openly, buying make up, a bra, panties. I love to shop in charity shops and often the assistant will say something like that's pretty I hope it suits you, Now I always say yes I'm sure it will. All of this came from me making that affirmation to wear panties every day and sticking to it. Good Luck, let me know how you get on.

[Junius]

I, too, would like to know some way to break out of that fog. It's not crippling for me. Life will go on if I can't present how I feel but it does cause me discomfort and sours the whole day. I do notice that I'm quicker to anger and self damage on these days so the distress is real.

So far the only trick I've got is opting for a more androgynous appearance. Incorporating women's jeans and tee with mens over shirt, for example. This works fine until it's time for a laundry. Once my ears heal I'll be able to switch jewellery to fit my mood, so maybe this will work too.

[phylis anne]

interesting thread "you'll find your mind will follow your body" sounds good except in my case it has been mentioned by my wife I lost my mind along time ago so if those 2 ever find each other should be heck of a show:tongueout and like others here i have started underdressing daily for work I do not wear my bra to work will wait til it gets colder so that the heavy shirt will mask it (have started wearing one more often as the dr has mentioned that my dose of gyneco mastica might soon require some support) definitely wear panties every day and the funny thing is that is has been mentioned that my normal curmudgingly attitude has eased up a bit :D
hugs phylis

[Ashley_K]

Well, what if I haven't underdressed for the day and I'm still stuck sitting at my desk? :)

[Allisa]

Just log in to this site and read to get your "fix". It's all in your mind you know.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Ashley, If you find the answer please let me know:hugs:.

[Diane Smith]

The answer for me was to make standing appointments where I am known only as Diane -- hair, nails, waxing, tattoos -- and to make sure I have to go out of the house dressed at least once a week or so. Sometimes, frankly, I am tired or stressed and don't feel like it -- but giving myself some regular commitments seems to keep the fog at bay the rest of the time. Those outings are certainly not the only times I dress, but they insure I'll put in at least a few hours' effort every week, and give me the motivation to follow up with regular hair removal, watching my weight and such.

- Diane

[Elli87]

You have to disassociate if you can, I want to dress and do a bunch of other things, but I can't do anything until I get things done. Or that's not my friend that's just a body I can mourn when the fights over

[gailbridges]

What do you do? Sometimes I'm so crippled by the desire to dress that I can't seem to get other stuff done, whether that's at work or home, and it's suffocating. How do you break out of the fog?

I'm currently working on some meditation practices to see if that will help. Ideas?

This is very topical for me right now. I've been out of work for 8 months, and it is far too easy for the Pink Fog to drift in and block my vision.
One of the methods that's helping is some shareware I bought (It's called Anti-social. Might be available for Windows too. But there are a number of programs out there that do this.) and installed which blocks me from going to certain websites. It took a few days for me to block all the sites I know of that can feed the beast. I've found that the internet is a giant distraction machine, and when any random thought wanders into your head, and you can quickly do a search on it.... well.. it's a problem.
Some days I will go so far as to other distractions (facebook, IMDB, NNDB, youtube) just so I can think straight.
This DOES help me.

The other thing that I'm reading is "Do Over" by Matt Theriault.... which is for people like me who, quite frankly, have let themselves get into a place where their life needs to change. It's a business book, but I need big change.

I'm also reading "The Greatest Salesman in the World" by Og Mandino. (If you google it, there is a free pdf you can download.) It's the book Matthew McConaughey read to launch his career and get focused.

Good Luck, Ashley.
PM me if you want to get quick help. I'm trying to keep my exposure here minimal. Got to get a new career pronto.

Best
Gail

[sometimes_miss]

I can't seem to get other stuff done, whether that's at work or home, and it's suffocating. How do you break out of the fog?
It's simply a matter of will power. I've found that once Im immersed in a task the desire for crossdressing is pushed into the background until the task is done. Of course then the desire to crossdress returns with a vengeance, but at least I got something accomplished. There are times when, if I don't crossdress for a while, suppressing the desire takes a lot out of me, and I have trouble functioning too. Which is why I dress up at home often, including when I sleep at night. That seems to make daytimes as a guy much easier to handle. Sure, I still get the urge every time I see a pretty girl, but it passes much quicker than if I hadn't 'indulged' for a week or so.

[Traceyjo]

Whenever I have the opportunity to dress, I always take maximum advantage of it. Other things I have to do are put on hold whenever possible. I love it when I know I have a day or two when I am free to dress and I don't have any other urgent commitments and I can totally enjoy myself.

[Janet Bern]

I usually give in.. Wearing panties and slips underdressing etc just makes me want to do more...
So I deal with it. Only throw on a bra breastforms and a skirt or dress and put a time limit on it.