Very interested to know why most people here have female names for their usernames.

[mikeyp]

No, I'm not baiting people into a troll thread. I'm being completely serious. I haven't really made one for myself, or even wanted to yet. Does this come through years of CDing? Did you know what you wanted your name to be when you started? Seems like the majority of people here have em. Guess I have to make mine soon?

[Heidi Stevens]

Hey Mike, there are as many reasons as there are names. A lot of us are deep enough into our dressing that we need a female name to hang our adventures on. Then there are those of us, my self included, who know the female has always been a part or all of your persona, your being. And you're right that it can also provide you with a cover name for activity on the web. Hope you realize your female name soon.

[Krisi]

It would seem rather silly to talk about our boobs, heels, wigs, etc. and post photos of ourselves trying our best to look and act like women and then sign our names "Homer" or "Jason".

You don't have to give yourself a female name but you do have an advantage in being able to choose it yourself instead of using a name your parents gave you when you were born.

Hint: Try something sensible and appropriate for your age. Susan, Betty, Patty, etc. Names like "BettyJeanPeggieSue" just sound silly.

[Jenniferathome]

Mike, it's really just convention for me. My male name is incongruous to my female image. I needed a user name and I made one up. I like Jennifer as a name so I took that. Simple really

[Ninna]

maybe instead of asking you: why these people using a female name, you should choose one for you, see how you feel! maybe that helps calm your anxiety and approach your feminine side!

[Ezekiel]

No Mikey you dont have to choose a female name if you don't want to. Look at me, I don't use a female name. Even though I love to look like a female, I am not female and don't feel female, my identity is male.


It would seem rather silly to talk about our boobs, heels, wigs, etc. and post photos of ourselves trying our best to look and act like women and then sign our names "Homer" or "Jason".

Silly in your opinion, not as a fact, Krisi.

[Shelly Preston]

I use my name like anyone else.

Its for identifying me

[AngelaYVR]

While there can be many factors, for me it came down to the fact that I was dressing completely and (at the time) was planning on going out (now a reality). Standing in front of the mirror for the first time in wig and makeup, I knew that I needed to have that final touch. But when I was just a casual dresser the idea of having a female name seemed very strange.

[Rachael Leigh]

Mike I've used a couple of names but my female name now is kinda a female version of my male one now so I stuck with it.

[Jennie2]

Hi Mike, I act differently when I'm dressed so why not have a different name, my name reflects who I think I am and suits me and means something to me. I use it in my username simply in these days of multiple passwords and pin, it's easy to remember.

[NicoleScott]

I identify as a guy, just one that likes to dress up. I dressed for decades without a femme name because I didn't need one. I went out a lot but I didn't interact. I chose a name when I went online because I didn't want to use my real name. So why not a girl's name?
The first time I went into a tg-friendly club, the first thing I heard was "Welcome. What's your name?" It just seems right to have a girl's name. Even for someone who always knows he's a guy. It's for external reasons only.

[Kate Simmons]

I don't have a problem using my guy name but a girl name just seems to flow off of the tongue better. :battingeyelashes::)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Mike When I joined this wonderful forum I wanted a feminine type name that had no connection
to anyone in my life past or present, I thought long and hard and Blue is my favorite color and
the Orchid is my favorite flower, And Blue Orchid was born Dec. 21st. 2008. :daydreaming:

[Pat]

At the time it helped me organize my life into male and female which is what I thought was correct -- I thought I had two personalities one of which would be "in charge" at any given moment. Over a lifetime I found out I'm always the same person, but the Jennie identity still makes it easier to deal with everyone outside of my head. ;) The muggles get confused enough -- asking them to use my male name would just be cruel.

[LucyNewport]

I chose my lady name about a decade ago when I started presenting myself to the world as a woman. I just like it. Its a little silly, like me!

[AmyVanessa]

I just figure I have my cute girl clothes, I might as well have a cute girl username to go with them.
Amy is nothing like my real name, I chose that because it's different from my male self

[Ceera]

For me, my 'girl name' is as much a part of my presentation as my wig or my breast forms, or at least trying to sound female when I talk. When I transform into Ceera for a night of dancing at a club, I'm not 'a guy in a dress', and I don't want to be perceived as one. I also only use my female name when I am Dressed, as a way to maintain a separation between what I do as a lady and what I do as a male.

My feminine identity predates my actual cross dressing by more than ten years. It's a name that I devised for a female roleplaying character to use in interactive on-line adventures. I played both male and female characters, and tried to give each of them a realistic presence. I played that girl character well enough that the vast majority of the people I interacted with on-line were quite certain it was a real girl at my side of the keyboard, and didn't suspect the same person also played some of the male characters that they interacted with. Later, that same female character did business on-line as a virtual world content creator, and I had even registered the name as a legal 'business name', and set up a bank account in that name! The surname I use as a girl has evolved with the character, but by the time I decided I wanted to try cross dressing and seriously admitted to myself that I wanted to step out that door as a girl and interact with others, 'she' was very much a part of me. So it was natural for me to use "Ceera" as my name when presenting as a girl.

[Beverley Sims]

I would have thought that was obvious. :)

My boy Bill doesn't work for me.

[Lacy PJs]

Mine is sort of a play on words. It's female-sounding but also refers to my interest in women's robes, gowns, baby dolls and pajamas.

Lacy PJs

[Confucius]

As an older CDer I have no need for a feminine name.

However, with that said I do understand why many here use them. Crossdressing included a wide, wide spectrum. It can include everything from a man who enjoys wearing one or two articles of clothing, to men who want to go 24/7 dressed to pass as a woman. Some CDers experience personality changes when they crossdress, and taking on feminine mannerisms. For myself, I enjoy crossdressing, but I never try to pass as a woman. For me, I am just a man in a dress. I am the same person in spite of how I may dress.

So while using a feminine name may help complete the female image, I am not trying to pass as a woman, only to enjoy some pretty clothes.

[Allisa]

Had a femme name but wanted something else and being in somewhat of denial when I joined I added the feminine, minus the e because that donates the femme in language.

[Rachelakld]

Names are a form of Label
"Titanic" is known as a boat, "Tomcat" is known as a fighter jet
It kind of helps define the differences between 2 personalities, Mike might be the bloke who likes football and racing cars, Michelle might like pink shoes - as an example

[Jazzy Jaz]

Jasmine has been my female name for a long time. Its the name i would've wanted to have had i been born a girl.

[Donnagirl]

It's like the CD/TG rite of passage... First you choose your 'girl name', there can be so many reasons, but it's yours and only you know.... Next you use it as cover, as anonymity in places such as this... After that comes the first time someone else uses it to refer to you, to speak to you. That's a real surreal moment...
Finally it's you, it's who you are.... It's what you are...

[JohnH]

Mike,

I used to sign my name on Crossdressers.com and MenWearBras as "Johanna" as a feminine variation of my real name John. I have started M2F HRT almost 4 years ago and am continuing. I also am growing my hair out. So I look very much like a genetic woman, with no need for wigs or breast forms.

One thing I have decided is that I will not raise the pitch of my voice to mimic a genetic woman. I have also decided to use my real masculine name John for my signature block for both Crossdressers and MenWearBras.

I'm contented to be what Native Americans describe as a Two Spirit individual with masculine and feminine attributes. I do not have a boy mode and girl mode; I have only one mode whether I am wearing a flannel shirt and jeans or if I wear a dress, so that's another reason why I go with my name John.

John

[Carmen]

Welcome to the forum Mikey.

I learned a long time ago that in all things CD to always lead with your femme name.
I identify with my name and I have always admired the name Carmen.

[grace7777]

When I first started going out dressed en femme, I did not have a female name. At the time I did not consider it necessary. After periodically going out in girl mode for many months it seemed that I should have a name to match how I am presenting.

In picking out the girl name I decided to go with one that had the same initial as my male name. Now that I am considering the idea of transitioning I have decided my middle name, should I change it, will have the same initial as my current middle name. So if I change it I will be Grace Naomi.

[Katey888]

Hi Mikey,

Not compulsory by any means, as you probably now realise... :)

For me, primary reason is for anonymity on joining this barmy place (no, my father did not name me Katherine in order that I would grow up a mean, hard-fightin' SoB when he wasn't at home... ;)) - and (long story short) some French colleagues decades ago would mispronounce my actual name as 'Kate' - and a GF in the office used to take the mick out of me over it, so I stuck with a femme name I was used to... :D

And how often does anyone get to choose a name for themselves? Enjoy the opportunity...

Katey x

[CynthiaD]

I dislike the male name I was born with. Besides, I'm female (despite appearances), so why shouldn't I have a female name?

[sometimes_miss]

When I came here, pretty much everyone else had a female name of some type. As I am unwilling to put up my full male name anywhere in conjunction with anything cd related, I invented a female name based on the male name that i would have picked for myself had I the choice. It's just easier to refer to someone as Lexi than say, 'blizardstar[333499'. When in Rome........

[Rhian]

I was a sheep and did it because the majority of other members had.

[Saikotsu]

I only recently came upon my female name (relatively at least). When I first jumped on the site, I wanted to remain relatively anonymous so I went with my old gamer tag. Its served me well all these years, so why not? Plus at the time I wasn't sure where I was going with all this. I embraced a female name after finally accepting I was transgender. For me it was a natural step in that process. And since my sister used to tease me and call me Addy, I took the name Adyson. It holds the fondness and warmth of my old nickname, so it's a cherished moniker.

[steftoday]

Steftoday is not "Stef T O'Day".
I decided when I joined that I was "Stef...today".
I use Stephanie Ann, formally. "Stephanie", because I've always liked that name, and "Ann" in honor of my best friend GG, who has "Ann" as part of her name.

[Aleca]

I wouldn't mind using my male name of Alec at.all. I've made up several names in the past and all felt too fictitious, so I decided a few years ago to keep my pretend name as close to my male name as possible and it's only one letter off.

[Ashley_K]

I felt I had to pick one as a key to community, and it helped me feel more feminine. But as a wise transwoman recently told me, "you see, your name is the very first thing you have absolute control over and probably one of the most important. Everyone's journey is different and thus their needs and timing [for being referred to by your femme name] are different as well." So if you don't want a female name or you don't know what you want yet if ever, no worries. Take your time and no pressure!

[Heelios]

Personally, i dont feel the need for a female name. I feel like man even when im dressed up and i'm quite happy with that.

[Ally 2112]

Like some of the ladies have said when they dress they like to have a girls name .Im the same way to me it just fits the way i am dressed at the moment :)

[Kaze_]

I couldn't imagine not using a female name here. \o/

No reason to miss an opportunity to a cute name.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I wanted a feminine name when I joined thus forum. It just felt better to me.

And it was not long afterwards that I met some CD friends and started going out as a girl with them. Then it really made sense to have a girl name.

[Maxi]

I fly some really large model rockets. My largest is a blow up of the Estes Omega. at 20ft 6&3/8in tall, it is named Maxi-Omega. Because of this, I am called Maxi out on the range. I am used to answering to it. It has now evolved into Maxine with the crossdressing.

[Jorja]

What else would I call myself? George? I don't think so!

[flatlander_48]

I guess I'm the contrarian. The Username I have here is the same one that I use in all other forums where I am a member (LGBT, crossdressing, motorsports, travel, etc.) with the exception of the underbar. Some places don't allow it in Usernames.

I didn't adopt a fem name until a couple of years ago. Phoebe Cross asked me if I had picked one and it got me to thinking, but I rarely refer to myself in the 3rd person. My choice does have a story associated with it, but I have no plans to change my Username.

DeeAnn

[kimdl93]

I'm one of the few fortunate individuals whose birth name was feminine. I didn't have to make one up.

[MelanieAnne]

No, I'm not baiting people into a troll thread.
Ummm, I think you are.


I'm being completely serious.

Ummm, don't think so.

[Deborah447]

This is one of the few places I can use my female name.

[Alexa Lynne]

My birth middle name is Alexander. At first, I chose Mackenzie, but after thinking about it, because eventually, I will get a legal name change, I wanted something that would closely resemble part of my birth name, so I chose Alexandria.

[Sandra119]

When I wear female clothes I like to be called be my female name Sandra it makes sense to me also any emails related to my crossdressing go the to my female named email address

[Alice_2014_B]

I just like having a name to match the dressing.
:)

[Jamie Christopher]

When I'm in my feminine mode, I'm Jamie; simple really.

Jamie

[melanie206]

First, it's the easiest thing to do compared to finding clothes, makeup and shaving. And, speaking for myself, it's a step toward completing my concept of myself as a female though I know complete is impossible.

[abby054]

It goes with the territory: wear female clothes, wear a female name. In my case, Abby is my male nickname as well as my femme name. Psychologists that I have read on the subject tell us that a femme name often resembles the transgender person's male name in order to preserve the underlying personality in the person's identity. Works for me.

[StephanieH]

Because when in guy mode, I use my guy name - when in girl mode, I use my feminine name. Whenever I'm on this forum, I'm pretty much thinking in girl mode, thus, girl name makes more sense to me.

[Judith96a]

I have a female username for three reasons:-

I'm in the closet - family and friends don't know about my cross dressing. Using a female name here and elsewhere online is part of the 'disguise'
A male username would feel incongruous
Getting to be 'Judith' online most days allows me to indulge the fantasy during the long periods when I can't get dressed up as I would like.

[Suzie Petersen]

For me, the girl side was always really a different personality with very little overlap. Also, for me, gender presentations do not mix, it is either one or the other. I know others here on the forum enjoy blurring the lines and mixing up the clothing and presentation, but I could never do that.

So as for a name, for me, it has to be a female name for the female identity! Simple as that.

I picked Suzie Petersen many many years ago and have used it ever since. There is a reason behind that choice, but I'll keep that little secret for another time :-)

- Suzie

[Tina_gm]

Not everyone has a female name and if you don't want one no one is going to think less of it. Or definitely shouldn't. For myself, other than not using my birth name for the obvious, I was trying to think of a female name, but since I do not have any female persona, its just me regardless of how dressed, I couldn't really come up with one I felt I could connect to. Soo, I then tried to come up with something that is descriptive of me, and hence I came up with my name.

[Sallee]

Just needed a name that would fit my outward appearance. Obviously Jason or stewart wouldn't do. So Sallee it was and still is If I had a male name like Kim or Dana that might go both ways I would have probably used that.

[Angela Marie]

I just thought it was appropriate given my feminine persona. I always liked the name Angela so I chose that. I guess it also depends where you are in the male/female continuum. I would guess that the closer you are to the female side the more appropriate the female name. But like everything else to each their own.

[alwayshave]

I did not go by a feminine name for years, just dressed at home. However, once I started venturing out, a name was essential.

[bridget thronton]

Many of my online friends only know me as Bridget and I have become conditioned to respond to that name in social media and virtual worlds.

[OCCarly]

I chose Carly because when I dress, it's always a good time.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H7HmzwI67ec

[Mia001]

Hi Mike,

I used my male name for ages on here and, like you, never really had a female name. When I started going out it was easier to have a female name so I chose one with help from some of my friends.

Once I had Mia as a female name this seemed to be the ideal forum to use it on so I updated my information. It's quite a strange thing to pick a new name for yourself and using it on here helped me adjust to being addressed as Mia rather than Mark.

If you're happy with Mike then great. If at some point in the future you want to change your profile name to something else then it's easy to do.

Mia.

[Sarah Doepner]

Mike, I didn't really pick a female name until I was about to go out and be with others in public settings. It just make sense that I would attract less unwanted attention when someone called me Sarah when I was presenting as a female. As I moved into more on-line communities, like this one, the name followed me. It's who I am to so many others, as well as who I feel I am much of the time.

[Madeleine Quinn]

Mike,

You don't need to come up with a female name if you don't want one. I know of at least one other crossdressing forum that does require a female name in order to register, and it strikes me as odd that the site uses that as some sort of test of whether someone is a real/sincere/genuine crossdresser.

Not all crossdressers feel that they're inhabiting different personae while dressed; if you don't recognize yourself in those descriptions of other people's experiences, there's no need to think you should, or that you're somehow doing crossdressing wrong if you don't.

So, by all means, go by Mike if that suits you. I adopted a female name when I started signing up for online discussion groups like this one, for really absolutely no other reason than that it seemed to be the thing to do. I had never considered it before signing up for accounts here and elsewhere, and I still have never gone by Madeleine Quinn in real life, offline, in any setting whatsoever. It's an online pseudonym that I don't really consider to be different from any other username I've come up with for any other online forum I've ever registered for. I don't identify wth "Madeleine Quinn" any more than I do with the nickname/callsign I used to sign up for the flight simming message boards I've registered for, for example.

It is handy for opening a separate crossdresding Facebook account—something I did, not because I feel like crossdressing gives me a different persona that requires its own account/identity, but rather just because I have relatives and professional associates who don't need to know about my crossdressing, and I find Facebook's privacy settings woefully inadequate (e.g., announcing one's membership, even in closed groups, to one's friends via the "recommended groups" feature). Between that and the requirement to have a female name on some other crossdressing sites, there are a few pragmatic reasons to have one, in addition to the "everyone else is doing it" rationale. But you just go ahead and do you, whether that means coming up with a female name for yourself (or ever actually using it in certain contexts) or not.

[CONSUELO]

Well, I'm a cross dresser. I love to create a credible facsimile of femininity when I dress up. I interact with other cross dressers and members of the wider TS community. Given all of that I decided that when presenting as a female I did not want to be called Barney.

[LydiaG]

Well pretty much like everyone else, When I'm out dressed and people ask my name I didn't want to use my male name so I came up with a female name for people to address me as. It was just easiest to make that my username here...

[Teresa]

Mike,
When I joined the forum I didn't have a name, it was the best thing I did, it suddenly gave me an identity for that part of me. It's really a derivative of my male name which I find I'm very comfortable with.
The funny thing was at the end of my counselling session I'd shown her my pictures and as I left she said see you next week Teresa, she then held her hand over her mouth gesturing an apology. I hadn't told her, so I asked how she knew ? She said it was so logical it just slipped out, even in male mode it felt so good to hear my name.

[Tracii G]

Just needed a female name so I chose Tracii because I could use it as male or female depending on the spelling.

[lynda]

Hi , since I have always felt female, Its just natruel I use a female name, because all my life inside I have felt more like a Lynda then a male namem its just me love peace Lynda

[AussieJess]

I was supposed to called Jessica as I was expected to be born a girl... Surprise!
But on here, it really just preserves my and my families anonymity. I'm a dude in a dress, and I love "playing" the part of fem, but transition is not for me at this point of my life...

[Robin414]

Cuz that's my name, OK 😡

[Ninna]

Haha perfect answer Robin!! I think that Mike dont understand a few things too.

[2B Natasha]

Well troll or no troll. Serious or not. Why I have a female sounding name on here. Because I like it. I feel connected to it. It suits me. My male name is Ty. I feel no connection with it. It's just a place holder. It doesn't feel like me. When I ask my parent why I got this name. Even they don't really have an answer. So Here I use and out in society, Natasha.

Cheers

[Lacyfem]

Who wants to dress all fem and hopefully beautiful and then be called "Bob"!

[Stephanie kirby]

for me because it gives me my identity, basically its me

[Lacey New]

Because sometimes I dress up like a woman

[Taylor186]

I did not go by a feminine name for years, just dressed at home. However, once I started venturing out, a name was essential.

Same for me. I would add that I also wanted a femme nom-de-plume for my online presence as I'm still in the closet, mostly.

[Stephanie47]

In my very youthful years I had heard from the lips of my mother her opinion of the perfect family: husband, wife, son and daughter. Well, the son was born first. That is my older brother. So, I was to be a girl. But, alas, my father's sperm thought differently. So, out popped me! Another son. Mom had already picked out a name for a girl; Stephanie, which was the American/English equivalent of my grandmother's name. Mind you, my mother thought so strongly I was to be a girl, she used the name I was given as my brother's middle name. So, when the time name to finally join this site I decided I would use the name I would have been given, if I had been born a girl.

I often wonder if there was some pre-birth nurturing my mother did that gave me a push toward cross dressing. I was a rough and tumble boy in elementary school and junior high. I got into lots of little boy trouble. It was only when sexual feelings started to arise in the mid teen years that a love for feminine attire started to take hold.

Anyway, if a man is going to emulate a woman, dress like a woman, pack a bra with fake boobs, it only seems totally natural to complete the personna with a feminine name.

PS: A decade after I was born mom and dad finally had a daughter. Guess what name she got? Yes, I took her name on the premise I really had first dibs on it.

[ShriekCassandra]

I prefer this name I chose myself to my male birth name that was assigned to me by someone else. No other reason.

[JJGirl]

When using my crossdress social pages, I use my female name.

[LaSirenaBella]

I know that for me, it's a plausible (less and less so over time) a layer of Internet "anonymity." My birth name is androgynous, closer toward feminine these days, but the name that I use online and in general company (except for those who know me in either presentation, who often just address me by my birth name), or the one that use here, is a play on my online name.

Did that even make sense? I need more coffee.

Sirena

[Melanie 0339]

I have the name Melanie because that's my female name it's a big part of my female identity when I dress I'm no longer a man in a dress, I'm Melanie the girl xxx

[Bobbi46]

I chose my female name because it did not feel right to have a male name and to have had one would in my mind defeat the whole object of being able to cross dress, to like lingerie and make up and everything else and feel feminine and gentle. For me it helps to bring out my feminine side, and go into a beautiful if you like fancy world of being and feeling womanly.

[Cheryl T]

I chose my first feminine name when I was about 14. I've changed it a few times over the years but have come to feel that my present name suits me and I love it.
Why I chose one? Well, forever I wanted to be able to be ME in public and I just could never see being all dressed, makeup, wig, etc out with others and having someone say "So Walter, what do you think?" (Walter is not my name by the way). Even now, when I go out I have this need to be called Cheryl. It's who I am and I deserve to be referred to in this way.
I know others who say when they are out, say at a restaurant, that they dislike it when the waiter says, "so what can I get you guys" or something like that. That doesn't bother me as I see it all the time when my wife and I go out with others (drab). It's just how people casually address others, but if someone is addressing me personally I really want them to use my name, the one that reflects my presentation and inner feelings.

[MirandaAlicia]

I don't really know why I have a feminine name other than it helps me ascribe things and behaviors and wishes to whichever side of myself I am at the time, "that's x's hobby, that's something y would like to wear or do," etc. Not in a functional multiple personalities sort of way, but more in a compartmentalization of interests way.

When I was a kid, and allowed to play dress up, I didn't really care. It was just me. When I started again in high school, I'd mentally referred to myself as Andrea, being the feminized part of at least part of my real name. It never felt 'right' but it was 'close enough' so it worked. Then a couple of years later I became Corinne, because I thought it was a pretty name and I'd recently met a Corinne that I'd thought was pretty cute. But, around 13 years ago I started thinking of myself as Alicia, and that's pretty much what I've been since then... until very recently, when my wife told me she couldn't think of me as an Alicia, and in her mind I was more of a Miranda. So I took the two and made Alicia my working 'middle' name, but the sort of thing where it would be "Hi, I'm Miranda Alicia, but only my close family and friends call me Miranda - everyone else calls me Alicia and that's fine."

[Mayo]

I have a RPG gaming character who is sort of an alter ego, and she's my female name/self, at least to some degree, though I don't 'identify' as that name. I don't use it here as it would be too easy to connect these accounts. If I were to dress and/or transition more publicly, I would probably choose another name for myself (most likely it would be 'Joanna', but I'm not sure yet).

I just picked 'Mayo' for my forum name as a bad joke.