When you're crazy maker is also your biggest supporter

[Aleca]

My sister is supportive of my cross dressing and / or transgender activity. She is also having emotional problems and symptoms appear to be related to bipolar disorder. She is a very difficult person to be around. Here I was, I considered myself a victim of sibling abuse growing up. As such, yesterday she called and asked if she could come live with me for a while. I didn't say no. I was reluctant to say yes but I told her it was okay come November. At first I was really freaking out but after spending an hour journalism my thoughts I was able to decipher that I was running away from the problem rather than working with it and trying to understand it. Living with the most difficult person in my life and yet at the same time possibly take myself to unprecedented heights with my crossdressing makes me feel pretty crazy. My sister does not like psychiatrist or psychologist, uncomfortable and afraid of them so I know that trying to get her to get diagnosed with bipolar disorder is going to be very difficult but I met a friend who has it and a personality similar to my sisters and I'm hoping to get them to meet up have him come over for dinner one night and visit my sister talk to her about his bipolar condition and see if she can relate to that. You know, just like when we first discovered crossdressing and transgender on the Internet, remember how good that felt. The Lord works in mysterious ways and I really think that this eccentric situation is supposed to be. In the middle of it however here I am married. Either the marriage would have to dissolve or the transgender and cross-dressing activity would have to cease for the time being. And emotionally difficult and tough situation to be in.

[heatherdress]

Aleca - You have a lot of issues to deal with. Most important is your relationship with your wife, which you mention at the end of your thread input. It would seem to be much more important to address the marriage dissolution and your transgender/cross dressing activities before inviting your sister to live with you. I hope you have professional help and support.

As far as letting your sister live with you, it seems like inviting someone to live with you who abused you is not healthy. If she is the most difficult person in your life, why would you want to live together? You can simply tell her "No."?

Don't fool yourself by believing this is "supposed to be". The best thing you can do for your sister is to help her get medical help. The best thing you can do for yourself is to address your own issues.

Good luck.

[Aleca]

Reality hits. Thank you. You're right, indeed why depends on the support of someone who acts like this?

[Tracii G]

Just asking for more trouble IMO.

[sometimes_miss]

If she is bipolar, and you cannot get her to see a physician for this, you're in for a potentially very wild ride. It can turn your entire world upside down, cost you your marriage, job, home, well I guess it's kind of like crossdressing in a way in it's potential for ruining your life. Hope her case is mild. Best of luck. You're going to need it.

[Amy Lynn3]

I can only under score what advise that has been given to you. For your own well being I suggest you follow it. Why, do I say this ? Not long ago I was in the same position you are in. I had to say no to a family member of mine. It was hard to do, but I knew she would make my life unbearable. Hope these issues work out for you.:hugs:

[Aleca]

Thanks Amy, I'm realizing it.

[Teresa]

Aleca,
It was strange how you dropped the little comment about you marriage failing through your CDing, I'm just on the verge of that possibly happening ' I know it's going to hurt !

As for your sister you made an interesting point about her not liking professional help, my brother in law is manic and he's been all over the country trying different therapists, he then calls them quacks and goes on to the next one and plays one against the other. He then decides he's the expert and doesn't need any help and then the cycle starts again. It's hard to know where the illness ends and the attention seeking starts !

[Aleca]

Thanks for the response Teresa, that's interesting.

[OCCarly]

My brother is diagnosed bipolar. I had a cousin on my father's side who also was (he is now deceased by his own hand). Based on anecdotal evidence, it seems like most of my father's family was either bipolar or had clinical depression. And even my father had something going on. Growing up in his house was just not normal, and I had to totally re-learn how to live and how to deal with people after I got out on my own.

You have my sympathy.

[Aleca]

Wow. That is a difficult one, OC Carlyle. I hope you are doing ok.

Thanks again to all who responded here. It was a big wake up call. I realized I was about to allow my verbally abusive sibling back into my life. Someone who respects your outter but not your inner being, that ain't worth it, bring together. Won't ever work. The damage was done in childhood. I forgave her long ago but the damage is not repairable.