Day time outing

[Candice June Lee]

Hi all, today is a holiday in the US. I had originally planned to be in Kandia mode all weekend. But job planned differentlyso today was it.
I got up did some chores reluctantly and then took a shower. Afterwards got my make up on myself for the first time in years. When my wife got up i asked if we could go driving. So off we went, i was scared tl death getting to the car and from it. So we drove around lookkng at housing. Then to the sonic for a milk shake, and off to the Mississippi river. I was enjoying some things as we walked around the crowded boat ramp at the river.
. My mind racing of others thoughts not that it really mattered. Mostly whe we were at sonic and i had to interact with the car hop, and the many people at the river.
So no matter my fears, they are just that, mine. No one really cared as has been said here many times. Even at the gas station not one person looked, gawked or snickered. Everyone is mostly to busy on thier own affairs to deal with others during the day. Night time after a bar at waffle house, a completly differnt story.
To every one who is fearful or scared, its not all that bad. I have been out with some others at night and the bar was friendly, we regular there now as group. Day time was lovely, i am not a night person except sleeping. So i had fun and fear today. Out of my element, along with my wife. Who for some reason was out of sorts. Maybe all this was a shock for her more than i thought as well.
Kandia got to play some today, nerve racking as it was i am glad we did it.

[Persephone]

Sounds like a lovely day, Kandia!

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Rachael Leigh]

Sounds like a great time, always fun to get out every now and then

[Candice June Lee]

Yeas its been a fun day. Thanks all. I am glad i wasnt in texas where i came from. My face would hqve melted more than it did.

[jenniferinsf]

well done, so happy for you that it went well

[Megan b]

Hey Kandia, sounds like fun day. I love going to the river or any kind of water front, so glad you got to enjoy your day off with your wife. That will make these moments more special. Every time you go out, it will get a little easier and then will almost become normal. I love getting out.

[Marcelle]

Hi Kandia,

Sounds like a great day out in the Vanilla world . . . thanks for sharing.

Cheers

Isha

[Karen RHT]

As someone who is planning for, but hasn't had that "first time out" experience, I enjoyed your post Kandia. Kudos to you for taking those first steps, and to your wife for being there with you. You mentioned her being "out of sorts" so I hope she now feels as positive about the experience as you are.


Karen

[Rhonda Jean]

I don't get to Memphis often anymore, but back when I was married it was my frequent, get away. For more than a decade I made the short trek there about 15 times a year to spend a few days in girl mode. Like most cities, you have to know where to go, but I had such awesome experiences there. I was never in male mode there. You're lucky to live in such an accepting city!

[Angie G]

You go girl. Sounds like a great time hun.:hugs:
Angie

[Katya@]

I am so glad for you! Great that you have a supportive wife!

[Sarah Doepner]

I keyed on your comment about your wife being "out of sorts" and it sounds like it may be a good idea to do a bit of a debrief with her eventually. Some of it may be the newness of the experience and her concern for your welfare, but you need to thank her for being your partner on a day that meant a lot to you. Then you need to see if there are things that would make it a better experience for her when you venture out again.

[Heidi Stevens]

And today, Tuesday, is just so ordinary right Kandia? I'm so glad you got out and did some things together. Every trip out is another learning opportunity for Kandia. Keep on exploring!

[Candice June Lee]

Yes Heidi, just another bummer day. Today Wednesday is the same. I hope today goes as quickly as yesterday.
I can't wait to get out again. Maybe do some shopping. But being in Memphis I hate going out alone in female mode. Though most people don't really care. Which is my peace I have now after Monday.

My wife and I did have a discussion afterwards. I assured her that her awkwardness was noted and I didn't intend to get her feeling wierd. I also let her know that I was out of sorts in this to. We both know that all this new water for us and there will be more days here and there and it will get easier. I did take her to lunch yesterday and made sure she was OK. Having our "posse" with us makes her feel more at ease and that wasn't available Monday. We discussed that I need more than a once a month bar trip with the others.