prettytoes
09-24-2015, 11:50 AM
My wife of over 30 years found out about my dressing a little over 3 years ago. She was okay with it...not approving, and certainly not participating, but tolerant because she loves me, and it made me happy.
She is not one to give up her feelings easily, and she bottles things up inside. I can often tell when something is bothering her, but I have stopped asking "what's wrong?" because I always got the same answer..."nothing".
We have been having a rough time in our relationship recently, and we decided to seek counseling. After discussing several issues, the counselor kept saying "it seems like that's not all there is going on". Well, she let loose about my laundry and all the panties and bras. The counselor didn't say much, but I could see that that was really bothering my wife. She had never said anything to me about it.
I have since moved all my skirts, dresses, etc., into a spare bedroom where she won't have to see them every time she goes in the MB closet. I have also put a laundry bag next to the hamper to put my intimates in. I can wash them separately when there's enough...I have enough panties to go for about 2 months without washing! lol
I never knew that it was a problem for her. I wear capris and yoga pants around the house, and I sleep in women's sleepwear (usually PJ's). I shave my legs, and paint my toes.
I knew that she did not want me wearing anything feminine during bedroom playtime...no big deal.
I don't know what else to do. I moved everything so it's not so much in her face, and I keep my intimate laundry separated. I don't overdo it in front of her.
I don't want to lose her, but I don't know if I could give up dressing completely, now that the Jeannie has been left out of the bottle.
She is not one to give up her feelings easily, and she bottles things up inside. I can often tell when something is bothering her, but I have stopped asking "what's wrong?" because I always got the same answer..."nothing".
We have been having a rough time in our relationship recently, and we decided to seek counseling. After discussing several issues, the counselor kept saying "it seems like that's not all there is going on". Well, she let loose about my laundry and all the panties and bras. The counselor didn't say much, but I could see that that was really bothering my wife. She had never said anything to me about it.
I have since moved all my skirts, dresses, etc., into a spare bedroom where she won't have to see them every time she goes in the MB closet. I have also put a laundry bag next to the hamper to put my intimates in. I can wash them separately when there's enough...I have enough panties to go for about 2 months without washing! lol
I never knew that it was a problem for her. I wear capris and yoga pants around the house, and I sleep in women's sleepwear (usually PJ's). I shave my legs, and paint my toes.
I knew that she did not want me wearing anything feminine during bedroom playtime...no big deal.
I don't know what else to do. I moved everything so it's not so much in her face, and I keep my intimate laundry separated. I don't overdo it in front of her.
I don't want to lose her, but I don't know if I could give up dressing completely, now that the Jeannie has been left out of the bottle.