Sure

[STACY B]

Are you SURE ? Now this thread is in the Trans forum only because I am Trans but this is for EVERYONE, Not just Trans folk. An all but the few very few ones that have Transitioned all the way and really don't need to be here but still come back and forth just because, Can also read this thread and comment for the simple fact if anyone can relate they sure can.

So I was reading something here or somewhere else and it got me to thinking about being SURE about stuff, And so I thought while I was thinking about How Sure I was about certain stuff I would tell or comment on just how sure you really are before you would argue about it or be quick to tell someone or redirect someone.So here it goes.

When I first came here ( I was Sure that I was a Fetish occasional Dresser, Sometimes,, Every once in a while ,, Time to Time.

Next I was Sure that I never wanted to leave the house just dress up and see how good I could look.

Next maybe just maybe I would just go out at night to the ATM or ride around but never go out in public.

Next maybe see if I could maybe pass in the day light early in the morning or without to many around.

Next,, Wife do you want to be a woman ? No I am Sure of it. I just like the clothes.

Next maybe I will just go out of town and we could have some fun, Wife, Are you Sure you aren't wanting to become a woman? No Never not Me.

Next going out of town to much trouble, Lets just GO out here.

Next maybe I would look better with a Makeover? Wife are you Sure? No not me.

Next maybe if I shaved my Body? Wife are you sure? No not me.

Next I need a Therapist , Wife I think you want to be a Woman? I'm NOT SURE!

Next wife maybe you should go on Hormones? I'm not sure?

Next therapist,, You are Transgender and you are a Woman and should go on Hormones.

Next Wife I told you I was SURE you were a Woman.

Now don't be to SURE of what you Think your SURE of Right Now. Because like some of you I was Sure of this and that and you couldn't tell me nothing . So when these Trans chix Talk you Better be SURE to listen because they were YOU not long ago. JUST SAYING,,,LOL,,,

[Shads_Firehawk]

That pretty much is how I felt on all of those when I dressed or the first time around 16 tyears oldt and did for years after except the wife parts (never married). I was so SURE of this or that. But ya know, the years roll by and cracks start to appear and then everything that used to be clear, isn't. Its so muddled and now I am thinking I just don't know to most of that.

[Badtranny]

excellent Stacy.

This is the first post that really shows everyone the Stacy that I met in damn Mississippi.

I talked to you in person for a few hours so I know you're smart, funny, and real, and now everyone else can get a peek.

[I Am Paula]

I love this post!
When I came here I swore up and down that I was JUST a crossdresser.
Was I ever wrong!

[AllieSF]

I am sure that I never thought about doing what I do today when I finished a happy night after a costume party where I dressed and played the role of a simple woman all night, including dancing with guys and always using the women's restroom, and that was 35 years ago. It only took me about 25 years to really start this.

I sure was interested to try dressing as a woman very late in my life. Just not sure why?

I was sure that I wanted to go out of the house after the first time I saw myself in a crappy cheap blond wig fully dressed and made up, with some help from another kindred soul.

I was not sure if that smile from that first glimpse in the mirror would ever go away. It did but still comes back regularly making me sure that I still enjoy all that I do.

I sure enjoyed that first time out only a few short months after starting from zero back in late 2006.

I sure enjoy trying different outfits and buying too many female clothes.

I am sure that I have left some of my male (actually just common sense human) obligations somewhere in the dust when I shouldn't have and still continue to do so.

I am sure spending a lot of money on my facial hair removal, and even though I have some weak excuses I am not sure why besides that it makes my female side easier to create and maintain.

I sure love spending time out in the real world meeting new people and getting into some really intimate conversations with those total strangers, some of whom are now my friends.

I sure enjoy telling others what to do, but I am not so sure that they like it so much, if at all.

I sure like all my new friends I have met doing all this, and I hope that most of them still like me.

I sure enjoyed teasing Melissa way back when, when I was not sure that she was TS. I sure know that she is ready to fight back when necessary. I am pretty sure that I do that to keep the world real and to help others to compare their own point of view to that of an interested third party's point of view. As Melissa would say a way to keep the moment and conversation real.

I am sure that I am not sure where I will end up with all this, though I like where I am at now. I am sure that time will tell, or death, whatever comes first.

I am sure I have left something significant and important from this list. I am also sure that is OK for now!

[STACY B]

I am SURE about one thing and one thing only,,, HRT or no HRT ,,, I am still CRAZY,,, An that my friends is one thing I am SURE of,, I don't think that 1,000,000,000 people can be wrong,,,lol,,, But I sure do be feeling so Good these days,, Must be the Whether ? Or Not,,, But remember Don't be to SURE about thing you haven't done. Everything isn't always what it seems to be,,,

[Kaitlyn Michele]

i was sure i was a crossdresser.. even though i knew i was a woman...even though i wished i was a girl...even though i was actually a man (at the time, but not really)

[Lorileah]

Am I sure? I never say never and always avoid always

[DaphneMiller]

I AM certain. Just a crossdresser. Absolutely 100% certain....

I started off just liking the odd item of clothing, (like the feel of bras stuffed with socks, then water balloons, then silicone forms...) then started with make up and wigs, managed to completely transform myself and then sneaked out for walks in the dark, then went into a store to buy some groceries and umm... I see where this is going...

Okay, I'm pretty certain I'm 'just' a crossdresser...

Remind me to check this thread again in ten years or so...

:)

Daphne
x

[Veronica Nicole]

I'm sure that I am just a cross dresser. No wait not sure now been thinking more and more about hormones, never been out in public not sure if I want to but who knows.

I'm sure I don't want to be a woman but I sure have been thinking about more than just cross dressing. I'm sure I will always be just a closet cd cause there is no way I could come out and hurt my family as my wife is the only one who knows.

I'm sure something is missing but not sure what it is, hope all that made sense cause I'm not really sure it did.

[LucyNewport]

I can't say that I was ever sure about where I fell on the (possibly non-existent) TG spectrum. I told myself that I was just a cross dresser for years but I kinda knew otherwise.

I am damn sure now that I am transsexual. I am sure that I have started to transition. Stuff happens.

[Dana44]

Stacy, nice thread. I'm sure I am a gender bender crossdresser. I'm sure I will never transition. When I switch to fem mode it can last days. But my male mode lasts much longer. Will that change, I don't know. But I know for sure I will never have SRS, but I may try to get my boobs larger. However, my hormones are already pretty female and my testosterone is still strong enough for a good libido. I was born this way and fathered children. I lament that I cannot be just one. For me it's forever switching back and forth. So, I am absolutely sure that I would never do a complete transition. I do know that many of you do have that issue though and appreciate you all talking about it.

[Marcelle]

Hi Stacy,

I am sure of one thing for certain . . . at this juncture I am not sure of anything :)

Cheers

Isha

[Abby Kae]

I am sure of things that people keep telling me it's impossible to be sure of.

I'm also sure that if they were in my head, they'd be sure of those same things, too.

[PretzelGirl]

I am sure I like your post. Umm....er.... hold it???? :doh:

[Robin414]

Not sure if I should post here cuz I'm not trans...but I'm not sure...Infiiiiiinite looooop 😴....click, click...ah, there we go....OMFG, I am trans...but not sure...Infiiiiiinite looooop 😴

[becky77]

I've never been sure of anything lol

[GabbiSophia]

well then I am sure of nothing anymore other than I am unsure

[CarlaWestin]

I can absolutely confirm, carved in stone, that I will never transition.

:straightface:

At least not today.

[Inna]

Stacy......are you sure?!?!

[donnalee]

I exist (subject to change without further notice).

[ErikaS]

I am sure I'm Trans and sure about stepping off into the unknown. But Sure about who I am.

Erika

[debstar]

I am not sure... also dont call me shirley ;)

[STACY B]

Stacy......are you sure?!?!

HELL NO !!! Yull NEVER hear that come out of my Mouth again,,,lol,,,, Once Bitten Twice shy !!

[ReineD]

Now this thread is in the Trans forum only because I am Trans but this is for EVERYONE, Not just Trans folk.

OK. In my opinion:

It makes sense to not want to go down a path that is generally disapproved of in our society, and therefore hope that what you do will be enough to stave off gender dysphoria. But, if people choose to follow that path and take it all the way, it is because they've always wanted to. If transition was something that was readily understood and accepted, if our society took it for granted that not everyone is born in the right body and it should be expected that some people will want to switch once they are old enough, then I think that most TSs would make the switch a lot earlier than they do. There wouldn't be as much "hoping I'm just a CDer".

The thing is, not everyone who starts dressing does it for identity reasons. It really is more about "feel-good" for a lot of people who also do not want to give up all or parts of their male identity.

[STACY B]

Agreed Reine, An don't get me wrong on this,, I am not saying all of us or even most of us will transition, I was saying that be careful of what your sure of today. Because believe it or not no matter how sure someone is today that's not what they are so sure about the next day.

An I mean Dead sure as all Hell sure today,, An they push and push more over time and after awhile it's apparent that the line in the sand moves for some of us. And the more you get away with the more it comes out and the more you learn about Yourself that you didn't even know was there until YOU got there. Make sense?

So anyway, I am talking to the one right now that maybe first starting or maybe a little further along and are Sure of it in the moment which is right now,, Just don't discount anything as being to far fetched. What I mean is people that are new or kinda new think of the Total extreme of this instead of the real truth which is Baby steps to get where the old Trans folk are. Not from CDing strait to Transition like it was some kind of Magic trick.

You have many conversation and choices and action of real life that will have to come together before anything of this nature will happen to you and none of them will happen over night . This takes time and with the world changing and gaining more acceptance over time I hope that more people don't have to endure what us Old Lady's had to endure with all of this.

You stop and think about the past for a second,, You couldn't have gotten away with half the stuff you do now. Past 10 or 20 years have been a god send for the trans folk,, Medical support alone is worth it's weight in Gold. Where I am from 30 years ago they would have locked you up for this stuff,,lol,,,,

[Abby Kae]

As one of the new ones, who went straight from wanting to CD to full on TS in a very short time span (less than three months from saying, "I want to dress up," to, "I am a woman."), I'm feeling a bit [-]defensive about[/-] compelled to respond to this, even though I know it comes from a good place with good intent.

For me personally, I have torn down the floodgates in a timeframe that many people think is brash and reckless, and they're not wrong. I am brash and reckless. When summer first started, I was still so deep in denial that I would have told anyone who asked that I loved being male.

But when those walls started coming down, one after the other like quick-paced dominoes, and I felt more and more RIGHT and at peace internally, I knew that I couldn't deny the truth any longer; I was born into the wrong body. I'm incredibly satisfied knowing that, because I'm finally free of the chains and depression that have been holding me back my whole adult life. In the last week, I've been happier and more productive than in the last year. Just because I finally know who I am.

I've challenged my therapist (who seems way more competent than at first glance) to help me uncover any doubts or fears that I may still be repressing, because I logically understand the scope of what I'm doing, even if I may not have fully internalized the difficulty. I hope he helps me find issues, but I don't believe he will. I'm open to it, but I'm also very confident that my stated truth is the right one for me.

I would like to find cracks in the walls, chinks in the armor, sand under the foundation, mud in the water, or whatever other analogy can be used here, if only for the sake of getting all the repairs done at once...

But I don't feel broken anymore. For the first time in my entire life, I am whole and complete in myself. It's strange, to be happy like this, knowing all the trauma that's coming, but I AM happy. And in that happiness lies a surety that I'm doing the right thing for me.

I wasn't sure before. I am now, and I don't feel like there's anything left to be unsure about. I've discovered how deep the rabbit hole goes; I don't see how it could possibly be any deeper. Is there anything left down there? Something more than changing, completely, the physical gender I was born with to match the gender I have in my brain?

[debstar]

if our society took it for granted that not everyone is born in the right body and it should be expected that some people will want to switch once they are old enough, then I think that most TSs would make the switch a lot earlier than they do. There wouldn't be as much "hoping I'm just a CDer".

At this stage I am genuinely hoping I am just a CDer! - not that I have anything against TG's at all but I feel the emotional whirlwind. While my mind may be going down the long path to TG for me at this stage I am feeling I would love to be (quote un quote ) normal, but I am not sure I am able to be 'normal' any more. and for who it's definitely not for me, I am trying to please other people.

Appreciate the sentiment from STACY B that the TG forum is open and welcoming to CD persons because I feel that CD is a gateway to discovering a TG side of Themselves.

I feel that even the stupid questions I ask on TG are a way to help me figure out who I am and it has been lovely getting some genuine responses even though I am not able to form my questions particularly well.

Love you all.

[Badtranny]

Excellent post Abby, but don't be defensive. It won't serve you well on the road you're about to travel.

and Jemstar, of course the TS forum is open to all for discussion. Just don't come in here making ridiculous statements like "GD will never go away".
You can say YOUR'S hasn't gone away, but we get a little testy when people try to advise others on things they haven't even done themselves. I think people like you deserve better than that.

[ReineD]

Appreciate the sentiment from STACY B that the TG forum is open and welcoming to CD persons because I feel that CD is a gateway to discovering a TG side of Themselves.

It would be interesting to know roughly the percentage of TSs who honestly believed themselves to be CD for a number of years. I think it's false to assume they all do, if this is what you are saying (I may be misunderstanding your 'gateway' term). Maybe we could take a poll.

[Kimberly Kael]

The past I am relatively certain about. The future? Not so much. Reine chimed in earlier today with a view I subscribe to wholeheartedly: there's enough riding on the admission that one is transsexual that virtually no one is going to come to that conclusion until they're ready to do something about it.

Don't make promises you can't keep. To yourself or your partner. Correspondingly, no one should expect a promise made under duress to mean much.

[debstar]

It would be interesting to know roughly the percentage of TSs who honestly believed themselves to be CD for a number of years. I think it's false to assume they all do, if this is what you are saying (I may be misunderstanding your 'gateway' term). Maybe we could take a poll.

Hi ReineD, no I was not implying that all CD's would be latent TG's.. I only meant that it is cool that this forum is not CD only or TG only.. it allows a fluid path for all peoples to go between. I agree that many CD's are happy not to transition but that the TG forum exists here at all is like a little welcoming gateway for those interested in exploring that side of themselves.


and Jemstar, of course the TS forum is open to all for discussion. Just don't come in here making ridiculous statements like "GD will never go away".
You can say YOUR'S hasn't gone away, but we get a little testy when people try to advise others on things they haven't even done themselves. I think people like you deserve better than that.

Hi Badtranny, I TRY to not make ridiculous statements but can not offer a guarantees as I am genuinely naive and expect to have many more posts deleted by admins before I come to understand the community and myself for that matter.

I respect you and am sorry if you feel I was saying my GD has not gone away? or that I was not respectful, that was not my intention nor my wording in any case. I was merely talking from my personal voice / feelings.

As I have mentioned we should accept the silly and seemingly hurtful things people say because often ( as am I ) people are ignorant and just genuinely wish to learn

[Badtranny]

As I have mentioned we should accept the silly and seemingly hurtful things people say because often ( as am I ) people are ignorant and just genuinely wish to learn

LOL, I wasn't talking about anything YOU said.

I was saying that people like you (curious and questioning) deserve better than to have people who haven't transitioned come into the TS forum and just make stuff up.

[Inna]

it is quite devastating that all the new born potential for truth is quickly stifled and squashed by pressures of conformity brought onto oneself by the environment of (loving?) caring parents, religion, pear pressure, etc.
we are conditioned to defend our selves from the get go instead of celebrating our perfection.
How can anyone wonder then that we are soooo SURE about the place in time we occupy at present, it is instilled in our psyche to be sure, to be strong, to be undeniable.
Only when pain within overpowers the dam built around the false pretense, only then the flood waters of truth swell and burst out in unstoppable flood.
To embrace the truth is to open one self to being in state of love, and not to defending or defining...

[kimdl93]

Crushingly real!