Giving compliments to women.

[Tracii G]

I know its been discussed before but don't be afraid to compliment when you feel the urge.
I was out with a bunch of friends for dinner last night at a local sports bar/wing joint.A mix of men women and kids at our tables.
Our waitress was super nice, quite attractive and she introduced herself and asked us our names.
Never had a waitress do that so me being a cut up I introduced myself as Brittany. My one friend across form me got a chuckle out of it.
All night she called me Brittany LOL.
Anyway I complimented her on her MissMe jeans and the top she had on as I was leaving.
She said OMG thanks you have just made my day!!!
My friend accused me of hitting on the waitress on the way out because he couldn't hear what I said to her.
The waitress was pretty but I'm not wired like that.
Anyway she told me where to get Miss Me jeans as I was leaving and said bye Brittany and thank you.
The two girls at the front seating people heard her say that and as I walked by I heard them say that guys name is Brittany?

[pamela7]

I'm guessing you know this, but thought I'd add:

It's part of being female - when its done its meant as truthful, sincere, not as a politeness.
When it happens to us it means we're being considered part of the female tribe. :-)

Women dress for themselves, not to attract men as such. This has been a revelation to me, and I think all men need to realise this truth.

[Tracii G]

I did explain that I dressed and really loved the jeans.
I do that a lot to let them know I'm not hitting on them but I sincerely love what they are wearing.
The reactions are usually very positive.
She was probably amazed I actually knew the brand of jeans LOL.
Here is a pic of the jeans in question I love the pockets on them.

[Kate Simmons]

When I compliment a woman, I'm always sincere and it has nothing to do with hitting on them. Evidently your waitress has good taste in jeans. :)

[jenni_xx]

I would say that you got a kick out of this. An innocent kick, but a kick nonetheless.

[Kelli Jo-ann]

I just looked those jeans up online. They are very sweet. My wife lets me wear American Eagle jeans to town. I don't think I can get these by her.lol

[carhill2mn]

Good for you! Nearly everyone likes a compliment. Complimenting someone on what they are wearing is not the same as commenting on their physical looks.

[Krisi]

First, complementing a strange woman is often taken as "hitting on her". It's a shame, but that's how it is, at least in the USA.

Second, Some males have been given traditional female names. I personally knew a Dana and a Hillary who were male.

[Tracii G]

I was just kidding with her when she said her name and my friend said hi I'm (will say Bob) and I said well call me Brittany.
She was a good enough sport to play along.I'm sure she knew my name wasn't Brittany.
Miss Me jeans are really nice but expensive.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Lovely story!

I've learnt to be very careful when complimenting women- there are many these days who love to use it as an excuse to bite- I'm talking about the rise of knee-jerk feminism.

Unless the woman is hyper-girly, I usually say 'How are you with accepting compliments?' It's really hard even for the militant ones to respond negatively to that.

[Claire Cook]

Hi Tracii,

Fun story! There's a lot in what you say. Time was when I was in guy mode I'd rarely compliment a woman what she was wearing, thinking that she'd think I was hitting on her. When I'm Out and About, I always do. Now I do so no matter what I am wearing -- maybe because I'm accepting the me inside all of the time.

[CarlaWestin]

...........as I walked by I heard them say, "That guy's name is Brittany?".................

I love the overheard comment. Once I was out dressed very curvy and as I passed by a couple, I overheard the woman say, "I read about that. A man stuck in a woman's body!"

:straightface:

[Krisi]

I used to be a "man stuck in a woman's body." Then my mother gave birth .....................

[Sarasometimes]

Great story and one thing I have learned from Cding is that those compliments shared by women feel so great to all involved. I now do it in drab under the right circumstances and get great responses nearly always. This has even changed my way of talking to men in drab where now I will make small talk or share an observation with them. An example might be a positive comment on what they are buying in a checkout line or ask about a place shown on their tee shirt...men should really pick up this habit.

[IamWren]

I used to be a "man stuck in a woman's body." Then my mother gave birth .......... *rimshot*

hee hee hee. :)

[Tracii G]

Basically its OK to compliment women be it clothing,nail polish,hair style whatever so you shouldn't be afraid to go for it.
I have found being spontaneous with your compliments seems to make them feel your compliments are genuine.

[katie_barns]

I've always gotten the impression that if you complement a woman on an item she is wearing, she acepts the complement and doesn't look at is getting hit on. She will probably assume that you are gay or very femimine to notice it.
Now or the other hand if you just tell her how hot she looks or something along that line; she will probably take it as comming on to her. It's all in your approach.
I would think that in your case Tracii, by telling her to call you Brittany, set the tone on how she reacted to you.
Great story. Shame theres not more like her.

[Tracii G]

Maybe so Katie and just coming out and telling her I CD probably made her think I'm gay which is fine too.
So she took it as a fashion thing I'm sure.

[Leah R.]

I always want to but I'm also afraid it will be taken that I'm hitting on them or that they'll read I like to CD. I see some of the cute clothes and shoes and I want to tell them I like but but I just keep it to myself...

[Ally 2112]

Nothing wrong with complimenting a women i think most will take it as just that .If you can have fun with it and she is enjoying then go for it