Would you press the button?

[Luciana]

I don't know exactly what the crossdressing represents in your life. I am not talking about guys in the trangendering process, but the real crossdressers that are happy on live as a man but that have the urge of being a girl once in while.

For me it is overwhelming. The urge to dress is like a drug need that at certain point I will have to sate. Also it is very straining and even stressing to keep secrets, hide clothes, the ghost to be caught, anyway, all this burden of a double life. Don't get me wrong, I do love the girl that lives in me but mainly because I didn't have any choice unless to learn to like her. However if I could choose I would rather never had met Luciana!

Now imagine if one day a stranger knocked your door holding a box with a big red button on the top and said "You can completely wipe off of your life all the crossdress impulse and all the memories that you have done crossdressing once. All that you have to do it to push this button." (I stole it from 'The Box' movie... lol...)

Who of you would press the button?

I guess I would without think twice.

[AmandaM]

Yes, to be either 100% male or 100% would make life a lot easier.

[Barbara Jo]

The flaw of that scenario is, there is no mention or guarantee that once your memories and desire to CD are wiped out that you would be harpy as a "normal" 100% masculine male.

This is like asking a female it she would like to be 100% feminine all time and time and she will never done a pair of jeans etc.or anything traditionally related to males again.
I don't think that you will get any takers . :)

[flatlander_48]

Simply, No.

I've learned a lot from DeeAnn's perspective. When you think about how men and women function differently with each other and within society at large, it helps to complete the picture. It feels like there is significance in my developing certain understandings that are beyond my usual male persona. Time as DeeAnn facilitates that. So, if that is the price, I think I can afford it.

DeeAnn

[Joe Ann Miles]

I`m with Luciana.

Years a`go i had pressed the Button, but now, its just natural to switch from male to female mode.

Would not be just one, anymore. :-)

Hugs Joe Ann

[s.e.al]

No I would not push it, My only regret is that I didn't tell my wife a long time ago. I think we have the best of both worlds

[Dana44]

No, I would never press that button. My life was great and I would not remove one memory from it.

[Raychel]

No, definitely would not push the button.
I have some great friends, and a big part of my life is Raychel.
There is no way I would want to erase all that.

I am sure here are people in my life that would be there pushing the button for me.
but it is not there life to live. I am happy with who I am, and that is that.

[Allisa]

Not now, after all those years facing that daily challenge of being hidden and in denial, now to being the real me and enjoying myself as a total person I won this battle and am taking the spoils of my inner war. I believe my struggle has made me a stronger and more accepting person and do not want to throw all that away.

[Kate Simmons]

That would then mean that we are actually existing is a created Matrix type world then, wouldn't it? If would seem to me if that is true there exists the potential for us to control it like Neo did in the movies.:)

[deebra]

No, CDing definitely comes with it's problems but nothing else offers the pleasure it brings. Acceptance by the public would make it absolutey great.

[Sarah-RT]

No. I wouldn't have always said no but this is me, this is who I am and I know nothing else.

I love the jfk quote "we choose to go to the moon...not because it is easy but because it is hard"

I chose to accept myself and put it out for my friends and family to see the real me, not because it was easy but because it was hard. And it is hard but I've done it, and my family and friends have made it easy.

[Amy Fakley]

I used to think I would. I used to go to bed every night begging God to take this from me, but that never happened (not that I didn't try mightily on my own to make that happen).

As I've grown older, and perhaps more weary, I just don't have the energy to fight it anymore. This is who I am. This is who I have always been. To remove my female identity is to remove half (or more) of who I am. I would be a different person, and now that I think of it ... I like the person I am, and I wouldn't ever want to change. Hassles and all. No life is free from misery. So the downsides of this, are mine in this life. So are the upsides. There are certainly worse fates :-)

[debstar]

I sort of pushed the button every time I purged in the past. I'm glad now those days are behind me. Actually such a hypothetical question actually anoys me if I were honest. It brings up a lot of bad old memories and feelings.

[sometimes_miss]

The flaw of that scenario is, there is no mention or guarantee that once your memories and desire to CD are wiped out that you would be harpy as a "normal" 100% masculine male.
although, it kind of assumes that the rest of your life would be pretty much the same. So if only the crossdressing is what's keeping you from achieving what you want in life, then eliminating it actually would improve your life.


This is like asking a female it she would like to be 100% feminine all time and time and she will never done a pair of jeans etc.or anything traditionally related to males again.
Not the same thing at all. Women don't generally put on male clothing trying to emulate men and look like one; they do it in order to either do certain chores, activities that would be easier in looser more comfortable clothing, convenience (wearing her boyfriend's shirt in lieu of a robe, his jacket because it's cold and it's either warmer than hers or she doesn't have her own with her), or as a fashion statement (Athletic wear, men's fedora, men's dress shirt worn as a dress, etc.).

[OCCarly]

I used to think I would. I used to go to bed every night begging God to take this from me, but that never happened (not that I didn't try mightily on my own to make that happen).

As I've grown older, and perhaps more weary, I just don't have the energy to fight it anymore. This is who I am. This is who I have always been. To remove my female identity is to remove half (or more) of who I am. I would be a different person, and now that I think of it ... I like the person I am, and I wouldn't ever want to change. Hassles and all. No life is free from misery. So the downsides of this, are mine in this life. So are the upsides. There are certainly worse fates :-)

This. My feminine side, however much she is, is not only a part of me, she is the best and the brightest part of me. Why be a horse when you are already a unicorn?

[Tina_gm]

Yes, I would push the button. Even though I have a wife who accepts it, CDing is still very much a struggle at times. I am learning to accept it and myself, and that ultimately is my only real goal, personal acceptance. If I could press a button to be cisgender, without a doubt I would definitely press said button.

[Barbara Jo]

Not the same thing at all. Women don't generally put on male clothing trying to emulate men and look like one; they do it in order to either do certain chores, activities that would be easier in looser more comfortable clothing, convenience.............

Really?:)
Have we become so used to females wearing men's clothes that were have become oblivious to the fact to the fact that they are indeed trying to emulate men to one extent or another....... at least part of the time?

BTW I found this which pertains to how male and females deal with gender dysphoria differently ........

"For males seeking to explore the female society role, the first step is often cross-dressing. For women , the tendency is to explore being a tomboy. Why the difference? In society, the male role is a lot more restrictive. So, any outward expression of feminine traits brings immediate ridicule. In addition, men are not "allowed" by society to wear anything pertaining to the opposite sex. So, alone, at home, men exploring their gender identity will try on female clothing as an aid to imagining themselves as women, so they can act, move, and even practice speaking as a woman"

Yeah, it's that simple and by now we all know it but, sometimes it seems we forget. :)

So,the bottom line is....... men do indeed try to emulated women when " dressed" because it's deeply frowned upon for man to wear woman's.
clothes while it's perfectly acceptable for a female to wear men's clothes.
In other words, a male has no choice...... he either has to wear men's clothes or, emulate a women when wearing female clothes .

It's also possible that some male> female CDs are tuned on by the taboo aspect of it all...... at least to some degree. ...even it they are truly TG.
Now.....I know its a touchy subject but, can a touch of "autogynephilia" actually be a part of what some of us feel..... even some TS?
After all , we are all turned on by things that are taboo but, enjoyable to us. :)

[MichelleDevon]

No I would definitely not push that button. Michelle has added a whole new dimension to life and I have met people and had experiences that I would not otherwise have had...and I enjoy every minute of being Michelle

As an earlier poster said, it is not easy being "different" but I love being different

Michelle
xxx

[Rhonda Darling]

NEVER! I gotta be me, and that includes both parts of my being.

[BobbiD33]

No.

O, i need a longer answer for a yes or no question.

No.

[Ally 2112]

At one time i might of pushed that button now i do not think i would .I have come to an acceptance and finally enjoy what i do :)

[MelanieAnne]

No button pusher here. I look at it as a blessing. I live as a guy. But I get a lot of pleasure from CDing. The best of both worlds, you might say. I sort of feel sorry for guys who haven't tried it. When I'm all smooth and shaved and dressed up in a nice dress and heels, wig and makeup, and I look in the mirror, I am blown away. And I feel sorry for all the guys sitting in some smokey bar trying to get lucky. I have never even considered transitioning, but I wouldn't give up CDing for anything. What would I replace it with. It's a big part of my life, but not all of my life! And you can't get an STD from crossdressing. BONUS! :D

[GeorgeA]

No, CDing definitely comes with it's problems but nothing else offers the pleasure it brings. Acceptance by the public would make it absolutey great.
You put it very well, deebra, especially the last sentence. And no button for me.

[goodnhose]

I do like dressing up but having lived with crossing all my life like most here I would like to know what life would be like as just me. No thoughts about what clothing to buy, spending money that I probably shouldn't be spending and taking time away from life that could be better spent on other experiences. If the promise was to erase the urge and it would never come back.........I would press that button!

[Robin414]

I would seriously have to consider it, depends on whether it came with a 'blue pill' to turn me into Jason Statham though.

I'd love to star in an action movie as a super bad '----' tough guy beating the living 'poopy-poop' out of haters busting on TG/CD girls 😠

'Yah officer, we really just wanted to TALK to her and then some sasquatch came out of the dark and twisted us up like pretzels!'

Sorry boys, that was the 'hater hater pretzel maker' all I can do is get a doctor to untangle you before I lock you up 😑

[Lorileah]

wouldn't life be wonderful if you could make it perfect and never have anything that ever made you question who you are or what you are...but then, it would be awful boring and you would never experience things. So, if you pushed the button, what would you have that would interfere with yuor happiness? Because something else will replace what you erased

[Katey888]

There would have been a time when I'd have said 'YES' resoundingly... because on balance, I don't believe experiencing this condition has 'helped' me in life - like GM, it's been something to manage and accommodate and mostly in iron-bound, lead-lined secrecy.

But this is fantasy again - and while I admit that there is some escapism in following my actual expression needs, too much fantasy is just a diversion from confronting the issues in ones life that need to be dealt with and must be addressed. It's a fantasy that I could wish this away, so I just have to deal with it in the best way I can that suits my personality, my needs and my specific circumstances.

Now if someone turns up on my doorstep with my lottery winnings in a Brinks truck, I'll take that over any other fantasy as being of more practical help... :)

Katey x

[Angela Marie]

Like many others here if the question were asked years ago the answer probably would have been yes. Age and maturity gives you a better perspective on the totality of life and its meaning. This is a part of me and to wash it away takes away a great deal from my life experiences. It has given me a unique perspective and tolerance for others. If I deny a part of myself doesn't that diminish me? Lets truly look at what matters in our lives.

[Kaze_]

Away with your evil button!

Bring me some cute shoes instead.

[CarlaWestin]

Away with your evil button! Bring me some cute shoes instead.

Fo'real!

Why would you want to wipe out this fabulous passion? Personally, my proclivity transcends nearly everything else as far as fulfilling the desire to enjoy life. I'm one of the fortunate few that has found what I'm looking for. Push the button and then, what?

:straightface:

Well, WHAT?

[Lea]

Get that button out of my house.

Once I accepted myself and shed the guilt I felt for dressing it has been enjoyable. I feel complete as a person to have this side of me.

My wife accepts me and supports this side of me. She has even commented that while dressed and just after I am a happier person. I feel that it because I have the ability to fulfill a need in me and be whole as a person.

I am closeted as my employer would fire me if they found out. That is the hard part for me. The secrecy and not being able to go out.

But the peace of mind and the feelings I have dressed are worth it.

[Beverley Sims]

I would not press the button, I have enjoyed my life with the limitations I have set myself.

[Krisi]

You already have that "button". We all do. It's called "self control". Nobody is demanding that you put on that pair of panties and bra. You are doing it of your own free will. You could make the choice to wear briefs and a T shirt if you wanted to.

Like smoking, like drinking, like golf or fishing, we have the power in our minds to stop if we want or need to.

On the other hand, if we are not hurting ourselves or our loved ones, it's a harmless hobby and we don't need to quit. We still can if we really want to.

[Luciana]

I loved the answers! :)

[Martina]

I have thought many times about why I cross dress and if I would be better off just being my male self.
But then I think that it make me happy so why should I give up dressing and not be that girl within even for the limited time that I do.
So to answer the question I would have to say a firm NO to pressing the button and I will continue to be happy with the way I am and what's more why dress drab when I can feel pretty.

[Saikotsu]

I would never press that button. Even though it's more than just crossdressing to me, this is still a major part of who I am. Sure, my journey hasn't always been pleasant, but I am the sum of my experiences, both good and bad. If I pushed that button, I'd cease being me.

[Jennypowers]

My self, I'm really new to CD and I would like to explore this side of me a little bit. So... no I wouldn't "press the button"

[Pat]

No button for me, thanks. Rather than have a button that would change me into something else I'm not, I prefer to find out who I am. ;)

Perhaps the problem is not that this urge overpowers you but that you allow it to build up to those levels. I've found accepting my feminine side in my daily life regardless of how I'm presenting takes the urgency out of crossdressing and makes me happier day-to-day as well.

[Luciana]

Perhaps the problem is not that this urge overpowers you but that you allow it to build up to those levels.
You have a fantastic point!

:thumbsup:

[Cheryl T]

I'd shut the door and hope that I wake up soon....

[Ceera]

I would not, no. I enjoy living in both worlds.

[Valery L]

I would be scared about how the heck that salesman knows about my condition. After trying to speak with him to obtain the information that I want about who is him, how does he know?, how that thing works?, why is he trying to "help" me?, and many things more, depending on his attitude and his answers I would decide to do it or not, most probably not since all of that would seem like a trap or something worse. Once he left my apartment, I would start planning how to protect myself and my privacy against him and whatever he represents. I would become paranoid and perhaps I would contact the authorities. Now assuming that I just trust him, I will push the button, life would be easier for me.

[~Joanne~]

If he had a "way back" machine and came to me when i was younger, I won't lie, I probably would have pushed that button in an instant. Today? no, I wouldn't. I have traveled a very long road with this, like some stated, whenever I purged I basically pushed that button and it didn't work. While I am not out to anyone other than my SO and my CD family here, I have come to terms with this, learned to accept it and embraced the comfort that I have with it.

[mikeyp]

Hell yes I would press the button I'd also press it if I could also come back as a famous singer/entertainer as well. Sadly, life doesn't work that way, which is why I hate this question. We literally just have to make do with what we're given.

[CynthiaD]

Are you kidding? Of course not! Being a crossdresser is one of the best things that ever happened to me!

[Demi88]

I wouldn't press. I have a package on the way.

[stockings_jane]

Are we assuming that if the button existed AND you pushed it, that the magic would extend to filling the probable vaccuum left behind by no longer having this fascinating (though sometimes problematic) experience in your life?

Oh! I guess I just answered no to the question!

- - - Updated - - -

HaHa Demi! very droll! Just remembered, I too have packages on the way. Will the button cancel my purchases and refund my credit card too?

[TrishaLake]

Here is the way I look at it...if nothing else would occur yes I would push it...but my life experience tells me , everyone has something, so I would worry it would be replaced by something else...if that is the case Ill take crossdressing.

[Maria 60]

Iam not going to lie pushing that button would make life easier and maybe I would focus on other things. But don't get me wrong I would miss Maria, plus my wife thinks it's the dressing that we have such a strong relationship, and pushing that button would change who I really am. But I would believe all this hiding and secrets from my children and the fear of getting caught, pushing the button seems would probably make life easier. Thanks great question, makes one think.

[Tracii G]

No way sister I love being me.

[Lily Catherine]

Short answer: no way.

I would make a visible distinction between possessing a desire to dress and acting on said desire. The latter being both simpler and easier to control.

From how I read it, it sounds like only the impulse to dress and memories of dressing are removed. However, even when I as an individual cross-dress or admit to dressing, those affected and/or involved are also impacted. The proverbial bell has already been rung anyway.

On my part I have sustained going without dressing for a couple of months so far, restraining the external behaviour as much as I could. But the thoughts recur regardless, something I have been willing myself to control in the face of loved ones' disapproval. It was definitely my fault I didn't come to terms with it swifter; part of me must have depended on the clothes too much.

Of course the hours and energy I have spent as Lilian could well have been replaced by something else and I could well have turned out someone else otherwise. But life has dealt me this hand, and I'm not sure what the Lilian-shaped hole would be otherwise filled with. I have chosen to deal with this to the best of my abilities; I wouldn't press the button.

[AltairaMorbius]

If I could, "You can completely wipe off of your life all the male impulses and all the memories that you have been a male. All that you have to do it to push this button."

Cheers,
Amy

[Jennifer B]

I love the replies by 'Kaze_' & 'Valery L.'

For me I would not press the button. I've spent years doubting myself, being confused and strained by my proclivities. It's caused difficulties in relationships. I've had related depression and have been through self loathing and gender issues that have strained my psyche for years. But...

...I wouldn't change it because who I am is who I am. And I'm glad to be who I am with all that such a statement entails.

There is an old saying, "Nothing that is truly worthy, has ever been easy to come by." Now obviously that's not true because of Bacon Sandwiches. BUT. It still works for me. Because I would never be the person I am, if it wasn't for everything that I've been through. I am different (because of my cross dressing) from the person I would have been without it, and that is a positive thing and I embrace it.

I've learnt so much, understood so much more and experienced so much that I would never want to change it. And I'm only at the foot of the mountain of discovery still. So No I don't want to go back, I'm all for strapping on the crampons and starting to climb higher. There is a tower of learning above and an intrigued pupil on the rope.