Mixed Signals

[deebra]

For the last month or so the pink fog has had it's way with me regarding shoes so yesterday I left home running errands knowing I might stop by a store and try on some shoes. Sure enough I went to a large department store and then to the women's shoes, saw a pair of black suede ankle boots with spiked heels, no one was around so wearing hose under my girl jeans I sat down and tried one boot on and then had to try the other one on ( they slipped on so easily wearing the hose and felt so perfect ) I had to walk in them up and down the aisles. It was just me, then two middle age ladies came in my aisle and I immediately wondered what would be their reaction, as I continued walking I heard one of them say "I wish I could walk in those shoes as nice as he does". I walked up to them and said thank you for saying that, I appreciate the compliment. I then said you know these are women's boots, what do you think of me wearing them, they both said I see nothing wrong with it and they make your feet look smaller. Two days before the SA's in Payless was very helpful in helping me pick out a pair of pumps and said wear them in the mall, anything goes in the mall. A few weeks prior to that I was in another Payless and was complimented by three elderly women on how well I walked in heels. Bought the heels and walked in the mall and received some laughs and looks.

Just wondering how to process these mixed reviews, perhaps the answer is like I've read on here many times before, ignore the negative people and wear what you want.

[CourtneyBme]

I would forget the negative and build on the positive. Keep doing what you're doing and life will be grand :)

[pamela7]

the problem with soliciting feedback is you get both sides. choose what you like, what the mirror shows you that you like, and then you don't have to worry about the mixed signals.

[Robin414]

I agree, focus on the positive and ignore the negative, I'd say overall an awesome experience and a confidence booster! 😀

[Jennifer_Ph]

I wear heels and hose in guy mode all the time... Compliments out weigh the complaints by a long shot.

[Beverley Sims]

There are so many positive comments out there I never dwell on the negative.

Womens boots can be worn by a man quite well and look smart.

Just ask me I will tell you. :)

[Krisi]

Relatively high heeled men's boots are nothing new. Think "cowboy boots". I've worn them for years playing music. In the sixties, the Beatles wore high heeled boots and the band I was in then did as well.

As for negative and positive comments, most strangers are polite enough to either say something nice or say nothing at all. Salespeople will say something nice to sell a product regardless of what they may really think.

It doesn't really matter what strangers think but if you're walking around the store in a pair of women's high heeled shoes and your boss or preacher happens to walk by, it might be cause for concern.