A Transition?

[Daniela Nguyen]

When I crossdressed yesterday, I realized that I wanted to have real boobs, real hair not those wigs. I want to have sex with guys. What should I do? I'm so confused.

[Erica Marie]

A few things to think about. Do you have those feelings also when you are not dressed? If you do then it may be time to consider seeing a gender counselor, if you only get those feelings dressed then it may be more of a fetish.

[pamela7]

welcome Daniela, take your time, do nothing until you are crystal clear sure. These are feelings we might all have transiently, but do they persist? Unless you have a strong belief (sense of identity) that you are a woman in a man's body, then you're most likely experiencing the feminine aspect of being male, and it is okay to have these feelings.

[Teresa]

Daniela,
Very difficult to give an answer we have very little information to go on ! Checked your profile no mention of age or partner status.
All I can say is most of us have feelings at some point to want it all but eventually it settles down and we find a comfortable level.

[Daniela Nguyen]

I'm 24 and I'm single .

[Kate Simmons]

I'd say talk to a gender therapist Hon and take it from there. You need to know why you have these feelings for sure. :)

[Laurana]

Grow your hair, go find a guy to have sex with. Hell, you can even get implants and you've got all your bases covered.

I know those answers seem blunt but it's the truth. Unless you're wanting to actually become a women, then you should do as the others have suggested.

[Katey888]

Dear Daniela,

One day and those feelings are unlikely to be definitive for any sort of transition... :)

Two suggestions:
- Talk to a counsellor - initially I'd suggest any counsellor will be sufficient, as you'll likely have other things that may need to be considered, and they can ultimately refer you to a more specialised therapist if they think appropriate
- Read a lot more here - you'll find many more experiences that will give you a broader idea of what you might be facing...

Katey x

[Daniela Nguyen]

I want to have sex as a girl

[Jaylyn]

I have had those feelings when I have been dressed usually though after a few hours they would pass. At 24 I would just talk with a professional and take the next steps at a very slow pace. I am actually glad I didn't transition I found the love of my life and also realized that I really enjoy my man hood but also enjoy my other side and that is the dressing. If I had to put a percentage on it I'd say I'm about a 35-40% feminine. Not enough for me to think of transitioning.

[Daniela Nguyen]

Do you have a boyfriend?

[Beverley Sims]

Daniella,
I think that is a question we would ask of you.

If you do maybe he helps fill your requirements.

I think counseling or some professional guidance is important for you.

[Krisi]

When I crossdressed yesterday, I realized that I wanted to have real boobs, real hair not those wigs. I want to have sex with guys. What should I do? I'm so confused.

You can do all of that except the boobs part right now (unless you are bald). Let your hair grow out, have sex with guys.

Seriously though, I suggest professional help and a realistic look at how difficult and expensive it is to transition. Perhaps you should ask on the transsexual forum.

[arbon]

Just go get some hormones and a BA and transition. Nothing to it and so much fun to have big boobs!

[Robin414]

Wow hon, pretty profound out of the gate (and your post was even 'filed down' by Lorileah) 😉 I also recommend seeing a gender therapist to see if it's 'real' (which it may very well be) or fantasy (which is OK)!

[Daniela Nguyen]

I want to do the boob job but I can't do it as a guy

[char GG]

Are you putting us on? You can get whatever your money can buy.

[Daniela Nguyen]

Don't you think it's weird when a man have big boobs?

[Dana44]

I do really think you need to see a therapist.

[Daniela Nguyen]

I've met the doctor and he told me to think properly before making that decison

[DressyJenny]

Well it takes a lot longer than one visit to make that kind of decision. Its very possible you were just enjoying being femme. Sometimes I think about what it would be like to have breasts but I diffinitly don't want to actually transition. Just take your time. You took the right step in seeing the therapist. You will find the answer in time.

[Tracii G]

Do you want to have sex with a man when you are not crossdressed?
You should see a gender professional.
Just starting out you will have all kinds of feelings, some of which are fetish related and some not .Sounds like you are dealing with "pink fog" right now.
Take your time and don't obsess over the feelings.
Just because you like to dress doesn't mean you are gay.

[Robin414]

I've met the doctor and he told me to think properly before making that decison

Absolutely! Many changes are hard to reverse (coming out to family and friends is impossible to reverse! ) But in the' enchanted forest'...follow my signature link!

[Tracii G]

Just talking to a Dr isn't going to help if they don't know about gender therapy.
Do you want to be a guy with boobs? Think about it are you ready to have people make fun of you possibly lose friends too?

[Daniela Nguyen]

I want to have sex as a girl,have a curve blonde long hair and as a girl , I can wear bra all day

[debstar]

Yeah we get it already. Sorry but please develop a few more thoughts for us in a single post or I'm calling troll on this.

[Daniela Nguyen]

I've broken up third times so I started CD-ing and I have a bf. So I found my girly part and acted more girly since then. But my man part is still inside . I haven't told him about who I really am

[Dana44]

More to come... And...

[Daniela Nguyen]

I don't know what I should do

[debstar]

"24 and I'm single" or "I have a bf"?

[Daniela Nguyen]

First I didn't want you guys to know my relationship status but I have to

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Can you tell me what I should do?

[char GG]

I think Debstar is right. Is this a troll?

[Katey888]

Well, this is just descending into nonsense...

To Daniela: You have to be able to properly communicate your issues in the language of this board and in sufficient detail that other members can have a reasonable discussion with you. Please consider this and the other advice here before posting again.


To All Members: Please don't take the thread off course with speculation about whether the poster is a troll or not. :) There is a report function in the lower left corner of every post - if you think someone is trolling or spamming here, you have a responsibility to report it.

This one is closed...

Katey
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