Katya@
10-27-2015, 10:34 PM
Hi friends,
Just wanted to share a personal great experience. So my wife knows about me being a CD for probably 10 years or so but acceptance was coming slowly to her and frankly, I only accepted myself for who I am only in the past year or so. So it is not surprising perhaps that it started mostly as DADT, and was slowly progressing to me wearing some but not others items in her presence first. Recently, I started to dress (nothing too fancy) when my kids are not in the bed (they still young though). I was not complaining about my situation but deep down there was that feeling that I wished my wife was more at ease with it rather then avoiding/ignoring it. So as my birthday was approaching, she asked what would I like as a gift. Deep down, I knew I want more clothing. All I have is mostly for summer and it is getting cold here now. I didn't have any interest in getting more stuff this year. I mentioned that to her that I want to have something to wear and was planning to buy it perhaps in Salvation Army or some other places. At one point she even gave me a remark that she won't be buying me women clothes. I was cool with that, although I was a bit saddened by this as I bought her clothes on numerous occasions and she liked them all. So I said that this year, I would rather not to have any gifts and just use some saved money to go and buy some clothes myself.
To make long story short - thanks to advises of others on this forum, I learned not to push, and take it easy. Be grateful for what I have and l let things take time. So today is my birthday. I woke up, got out of the shower, and by my bed there was a bag with gifts. I pulled few items - stuff (although something good, and something I needed), and then there it was - a beautiful new women short and a sweater. I couldn't believe my eyes. I was so touched by it. It meant so much to me. It really made my day. I didn't know if this day will ever come, but it did and I love her so much.
Just wanted to share a personal great experience. So my wife knows about me being a CD for probably 10 years or so but acceptance was coming slowly to her and frankly, I only accepted myself for who I am only in the past year or so. So it is not surprising perhaps that it started mostly as DADT, and was slowly progressing to me wearing some but not others items in her presence first. Recently, I started to dress (nothing too fancy) when my kids are not in the bed (they still young though). I was not complaining about my situation but deep down there was that feeling that I wished my wife was more at ease with it rather then avoiding/ignoring it. So as my birthday was approaching, she asked what would I like as a gift. Deep down, I knew I want more clothing. All I have is mostly for summer and it is getting cold here now. I didn't have any interest in getting more stuff this year. I mentioned that to her that I want to have something to wear and was planning to buy it perhaps in Salvation Army or some other places. At one point she even gave me a remark that she won't be buying me women clothes. I was cool with that, although I was a bit saddened by this as I bought her clothes on numerous occasions and she liked them all. So I said that this year, I would rather not to have any gifts and just use some saved money to go and buy some clothes myself.
To make long story short - thanks to advises of others on this forum, I learned not to push, and take it easy. Be grateful for what I have and l let things take time. So today is my birthday. I woke up, got out of the shower, and by my bed there was a bag with gifts. I pulled few items - stuff (although something good, and something I needed), and then there it was - a beautiful new women short and a sweater. I couldn't believe my eyes. I was so touched by it. It meant so much to me. It really made my day. I didn't know if this day will ever come, but it did and I love her so much.