Sarah Doepner
11-02-2015, 10:58 AM
So I've been trying to make life a little more simple, but it refuses to allow that to happen.
I was out to my wife but she passed away about 2 1/2 years ago so this summer after seeing a therapist I decided I needed to stop hiding from my kids and I let them know. They are all adults and evidently had figured it out years before, so that made things easy, right? So I thought. If they came over and had to get in the closet to help me or found me dressed, there would be no lengthy explanation or major embarrassment. But there are still the majority of the people in the world that didn't know. Like the doctor who would treat me for a sprained ankle/broken foot after I fell off a ladder. Yeah while doing a home improvement project I damaged myself, crawled into the house and realized I needed to go to urgent care. But first I needed to clean the nail polish off my toes of that foot at least. I did okay and those who looked close may have seen something, there were no questions or raised eyebrows.
In the meantime my son's best friend needed a place to stay for a while. This friend is a good person and one I call son and he calls me "Pops", so I say fine come on over. After a while it's obvious he will do better staying here and getting his car fixed and world stable instead of leaving right away. I'm fine with this because I trust him and he's also a big help while I'm dinged up. But I need to let him know that I'm trans and he may encounter things that don't make sense otherwise. So we sit down, I invite him to stay but then I decide to let him know what lies in the back of my closet and what may happen once I get the cast off my foot (because I really don't feel like dressing right now and that is another story).
He has the chance to reconsider but "Okay" he says without a blink or flinch, "I already knew." It appears that while my kids didn't use their knowledge of my Crossdressing against me, they didn't keep it too close to themselves. A followup conversation will have to happen so I can try to figure out how far this has all spread without causing much in the way of trouble on it's own.
I may be much more "out" than I ever thought and I'm the one that's been making my life complicated.
I was out to my wife but she passed away about 2 1/2 years ago so this summer after seeing a therapist I decided I needed to stop hiding from my kids and I let them know. They are all adults and evidently had figured it out years before, so that made things easy, right? So I thought. If they came over and had to get in the closet to help me or found me dressed, there would be no lengthy explanation or major embarrassment. But there are still the majority of the people in the world that didn't know. Like the doctor who would treat me for a sprained ankle/broken foot after I fell off a ladder. Yeah while doing a home improvement project I damaged myself, crawled into the house and realized I needed to go to urgent care. But first I needed to clean the nail polish off my toes of that foot at least. I did okay and those who looked close may have seen something, there were no questions or raised eyebrows.
In the meantime my son's best friend needed a place to stay for a while. This friend is a good person and one I call son and he calls me "Pops", so I say fine come on over. After a while it's obvious he will do better staying here and getting his car fixed and world stable instead of leaving right away. I'm fine with this because I trust him and he's also a big help while I'm dinged up. But I need to let him know that I'm trans and he may encounter things that don't make sense otherwise. So we sit down, I invite him to stay but then I decide to let him know what lies in the back of my closet and what may happen once I get the cast off my foot (because I really don't feel like dressing right now and that is another story).
He has the chance to reconsider but "Okay" he says without a blink or flinch, "I already knew." It appears that while my kids didn't use their knowledge of my Crossdressing against me, they didn't keep it too close to themselves. A followup conversation will have to happen so I can try to figure out how far this has all spread without causing much in the way of trouble on it's own.
I may be much more "out" than I ever thought and I'm the one that's been making my life complicated.