what makes you kinky when crossdressed?

[junemay]

So what will make you kinky while crossdressed ..?
1)attracting males?
2)attracting females?
3)fetish like embarrassment of being caught?
4)any other kinky-ness?

[jenni_xx]

None of the above.

[Sarah.Jane]

Nope, nor me......

[Erica Marie]

Honestly nothing. For me being transgender if about coming to terms with who I am, not how how womens cloths causes me to act.

[Jennifer_Ph]

I hate loaded questions. I hate being accused. What makes me kinky makes me kinky no matter what I am wearing.

[Kimberley May]

Well, I won't lie and say it doesn't make me feel a little sensuous :o

But honestly, if me dressing up to compensate for the lack of close adult female intimacy in my life, and which makes me feel more calmer than usual, and that I find that I actually just enjoy wearing femme attire makes me somehow kinky, then I'm unashamedly guilty of it. It's just pieces of cloth at the end of the day, and didn't the rich elite posh nobs of the 18th century in England wear lots of makeup too?

Of course though if I had a wife or girlfriend who would happily be more than willing to share my clothes passion with and make love with the impression that she's making love to a woman although she isn't really, and she is straight, then of course for her at least it would be as kinky as it gets :)

[sometimes_miss]

So what will make you kinky while crossdressed ..?
Isn't being crossdressed, and feeling like I'm supposed to BE the girl, while wanting to be WITH a girl, kinky enough??

[Kimberley May]

Definitely, and no harm in that too. I'd say it's far more kinkier to dress as Tarzan and Jane, the teacher and the schoolgirl, or Batman and Robin :lol2:

[Katey888]

Define 'kinky'...? :)

1) If you can put on a good enough 'show' to attract males when expressing your feminine side, that may make them kinky, but not necessarily you...

2) Ditto

3) Ah, now... I think if you read enough here you will agree that there is something in this one. :thinking: While so many of us retain a residual feeling of wrongness thanks to decades of programming, we can't help but feel that even when we're expressing our internal rightness - and where would that be more evident than if someone caught one of us Closeteers in the act... :eek:

4) Other stuff? Oodles of kinkyness... but not related to this expression and none of your darned business.... :p

Katey x

[Jenniferathome]

Why do you assume that one becomes "kinky" when dressed?

While some cross dressers dress for a kink, many do not.

[Krisi]

What makes me "kinky when dressed"? Nothing. Nothing at all. I can't explain why I want to dress like a female but it's not about being kinky. Never has been.

[Lacy PJs]

That question may be interpreted in two different ways...
1. As most people have taken it, is being dressed kind of "kinky" in and of itself? Or...
2. When you ARE dressed, what would make you do kinky things?

Perhaps the OP can clarify a little...

Lacy PJs

[Laurana]

Not a damned thing. I don't dress the way I do for some sort of sexual thrill. I don't go out trolling bars for unsuspecting guys to surprise. I dress like this because it's how I want to dress. Nothing kinky about that.

[Adriana Moretti]

Booze.....is that a good enough answer.......LOL.....

[pamela7]

what's kinky?

[paulaprimo]

maybe its my age but nothing will make me kinky when dressed. i dress for me,
it makes me feel good and i enjoy going out just to be out... so i guess my answer
would be N/A to all of the questions.
now with that said, if a nice mature gentleman approached me while out, i just might
show him some "kink"... LOL ;)

[Eryn]

Very small curlers.

That said, many (most?) TG people don't dress for sexual reasons. In fact, getting aroused is the last thing most CDers want when dressed.

I really wish we could get rid of the "kink" connotation of dressing. It trivializes what most of us do and makes it attractive to prurient interests. If someone wants to spice up their sex life with clothing of the opposite sex, fine, but let's call it what it is, fetishism, not crossdressing.

[Dana44]

No kinky for me. Why is anything kinky. I dress because. My SO asked me that the other day. After silence for several hours I told her that no one on this entire site knows why and I do not either.

[Maryesther M.]

Kinky?.....Nope. My CD-ing is camouflage.

M.

[Mink]

eh it's both? transvestic fetishism IS both fetishism AND crossdressing!

it's so weird on this board how people really REALLY like to downplay / pretend this side of CDing doesn't exist... ?

or marginalize it / put it down as much as possible!

it's kinda similar to My Little Pony and the bronies! and the darker side! or anime!

hmm!

tut tut!



While some cross dressers dress for a kink, many do not.

one could also say:

While some crossdressers don't dress as a kinky activity... many DO!

it goes both ways!

as Reine and others have stated... search up for crossdressing and transvestite and traps and all that jazz in google or whatnot... whether text (naughty stories! porn!) or pictures...

look up sissies and guys in panties and tumblr sites of wanting to BE a girl... hypno vids... it's all there

and people on here and certain other more legitimate TG sites like to conveniently ignore it or downplay it

or brush Those People aside as dirty deviant perverts

(much like the regular crowd of normies / smuggles would us!)

eyah!

don't kink shame me, bro!

[ReineD]

Hmmm ... Junemay, I would have asked your question a different way in order to get answers. A lot of people don't like to think of themselves as kinky.

I would have given a choice of what sexual interests there are when dressed, and if they are different than when not dressed: males, females, other CDers, or solo-dressing, and also if any situations are particularly exciting (which will likely only apply to newbies) like the possibility of getting caught, forced feminization, etc. And I would have followed up my question with,

"If you are past feeling sexual when you are dressed, how would you have answered this question when you first started out?"


... but, if it is sexual for you and you are wanting to connect with other people like you, I'm guessing that CDers for whom this is purely sexual don't hang out here much because of the non-sex-talk rules. We don't have all that many regular posters, I'm guessing only a few hundred people.

[Kimberley May]

The true fact is, lots of CD's are highly sexed people, but that doesn't mean most, and what sexual orientation isn't highly sexed anyway? Although I don't believe CD is actually a sexual orientation.

Many of the hairy pantie wearers (as I'm personally seeing atm) are really the majority of the most highly sexed (if we're really honest). And also those who call themselves sissy girls wearing all those frilly cosplay little girl costumes are pretty blatant. Hey, no GG would be seen dead in what they wear, all the sissy's who love to be dominated are all about kinky only, no bones about it. Some are downright dirty.

They are not hard to find at all, they're all over the net and all after one thing only, and that is c**k. I am still inundated with offers. I find it flattering and I guess I pricktease them a little, but I'm not really interested. I'm a str8 guy (I think or at the most temporary fussily heteroflexible). It's as far as it really goes with me.

But hey, it's all the same thing either with the gay, bi or straight community anyway. In other words, our sexual appetite has nothing to do with how we dress.

[Karren H]

Over the last few years I have started kinking it up..... dabbling into breast bondage.... and have this thing about cow milking machines.... moooo.... lol Kind of independent from actual crossdressing but very related to feminizing my body and growing breasts.

[junemay]

ahh girls ....if kinky is not so good word i'll reframe the question...like many have suggested ....thanks to the few who have answered frankly :).....

Kinky I meant here is .....Everbody will be having some sexual feelings and when you are dressed as a girl how you feel that ? ..I certainly know the rules but I am not really breaking the rules I believe :)

[Karren H]

Ohhhhh... Sexual feelings.... I have none... zip... nothing. I should have been a nun.....

[Robin414]

I kinda wish I had some but it's only in my hair, my 'drive' drove off and left me at the side of the road many months ago, must the hormones I'm not taking (is there an endocrinologist in the house) 😕

[Valery L]

All of the above.

[UNDERDRESSER]

Very small curlers.

For a second or two, I tried to grasp what could be kinky about rollers, small or otherwise.....then I snorted my tea through my nose. You owe me a keyboard!

[junemay]

It could be anything .....I heard crossdresser saying when she dresses she gets kinky for her hairs swaying down her back ...other one mentioned she loves her frilly skirt gets flowing...for some its getting "mam-ed" ...Or shall i say feminine feelings?!!!! I sure have to learn how to talk with girls :(

[PaulaQ]

I always had sexual feelings about crossdressing, until I just didn't. They stopped over a period of about two weeks a bit after I came out to myself as a woman.

If you start out having sexual feelings about crossdressing, and those feelings go away over time - particularly if they go away rather quickly - then it's pretty likely that your crossdressing is really about gender identity. That was my experience, and the experience of other transwomen I know. Unfortunately, crossdressing with a sexual component doesn't preclude eventually needing to gender transition.

I've heard the idea that it does from some folks here, and also from a fair number of straight transwomen whom I know. They are generally surprised when I tell them that there was a sexual component of it for me for the longest time. (It's really weird, by the way, to hear women who formerly incorrectly identified as gay men, and who probably masturbated quite frequently, get all squeamish when someone else does the same thing in a pair of panties.)

By the way, since the OP mentioned kink, quite a lot of trans people are kinky. I mean a lot of us. I certainly always have been - I had feelings about kink before I had feelings about sex when I was quite young.

My own experiences tell me that my feelings about kink were unrelated to my feelings about my gender. Both had a sexual component though, so it was easy enough to confuse them. Ultimately, my feelings about gender were many, many times stronger than anything I've ever felt about kink. Of course, like many others, I initially tried to pass off my crossdressing as a fetish or kink. Oh if only...

A historical note about bad gender theories: The connection between sex / kink / MtF CDs / queer trans women was probably the only good observation Ray Blanchard ever made. There really do seem to be a LOT of lesbian or bisexual trans women who are into kink. (I'm sure some straight trans women are also into kink, I'm less certain of the prevalence of that, though.) Unfortunately, his theory that queer MtF trans women are simply men who've fetishized themselves into the opposite sex is demonstrably bunk. His ideas about straight MtF's, that they are gay men who seek to maximize their available male partners by becoming women, is equally stupid and insulting. Maybe that seemed really smart in the mid 80's when Blanchard gathered his ridiculously small and totally uncontrolled sample data, but today, if you are a guy who wants to be with another guy, you don't need a sex change - you just need grindr!

[Nancy Sue]

... That said, many (most?) TG people don't dress for sexual reasons. In fact, getting aroused is the last thing most CDers want when dressed.

Many (most?) crossdressers (with time?) realize that they had feelings of wanting to dress feminine long before they made sperm, or had any sexual thoughts whatsoever. When those thoughts and feelings came, many of them mistakenly began to equate the two, and think they dressed "because of" their sexual jones. With time, and careful thought, they may realize, as Eryn noted, they do not want to be aroused when dressed. Many (most?) realize that as they get older, and the juices slow down a little, their desire to dress/present as female actually increases - and they see that, perhaps, the sexual arousal/excitement part of their life may have been obscuring the better part; dressing/presenting as/becoming their true womanly self.

[NicoleScott]

Years ago I read a definition of crossdressing which, following the wearing of clothing language, added "for sexual or emotional reasons". Today I checked several online dictionaries and none of them included a motive. Wikipedia specifically excludes a motive - it's simply the wearing of the clothing, which includes costumes and disguises (Tootsie, Doubtfire...). To me, it takes two things to be a crossdresser: an inner desire to wear clothing normally worn by the opposite sex, and the act of wearing the clothing. Without the former, disguise and costume wearers are excluded, and without the latter, those who desire to wear the clothes but never have (yes, there are such people) are excluded. But Webster didn't ask for my opinion, so motive doesn't matter.
You see two men dressed as women. Which one is a crossdresser, and which one a fetishist? You can't know unless you determine their motives? Even if you could, it's not all or nothing. For many of us, there is a sexual aspect to dressing, but there are non-sexual aspects as well.
This is all an attempt to distance the all-girly-inside dressers from sex-crazed deviants by those fearing the association. As one who enjoys the sexual excitement crossdressing brings, if someone thinks I'm all girly inside, I can handle it. haha
I always find it interesting (and irritating) when a dressing-for-sexual-excitement thread prompts those whose dressing is non-sexual to drive the point home. Is this really necessary.
I dress up as a woman. I'm a crossdresser. Or am I?

[Meghan4now]

I like the old joke about the difference between adventuresome and kinky. Adventuresome uses a feather duster, kinky uses the whole chicken.

I tend to agree with Nicole. In an attempt to distance the TG umbrella away from what is perceived as Deviant (euphemism for bad), we often like to ignore that sexual side. However, it is actually quite natural to have urges and feelings of a sensual nature, even long before puberty. We do not always recognize or understand these feelings, they vary in intensity, and may be triggered by multiple stimuli. I understand that people are also creeped out by others sexuality when it is expresses in an unusual way. There is a natural fear of overt or "abnormal" expression. Not that it is rational, but the fear of being abused, attacked or subverted (or having you family thus subjegated) exists, even in the back of a big burly dudes mind.

I for one, would not want to be classified in the same category as a pedophile, but let's face it, that is a pervading nuance to our public perception. Otherwise, we wouldn't have to protect our children from being exposed to "those" people.

As far as my own feelings in the matter, yes I still have feelings of sensuality with dressing. Is it to a level of lack of self control, or overt enough to cause discomfort to others? I certainly hope not. Also there are many other feelings of enjoyment and self satisfaction that accompany my dressing that are not really sensually related.

[Mayo]

I'm bi, so I'm happy to attract either sex, but it has little to do with dressing - the kinks I have all pretty much predate it. I consider myself to be an autogynephile (not to give any credence to Blanchard's 'stupid and insulting' theories, as PaulaQ aptly puts it) rather than a fetish crossdresser, so my CDing is to me more of an expression of my desire to feel female than a sexual thing. I've recently been thinking about being with a guy while dressed, though, so that's new for me :o but I think that may just be because I now (as a CDer) have a way to concretely realize that desire to feel more like a woman (given my male body) in a specifically sexual situation, rather than seeing it simply as a gay encounter (which it would be without the clothes). Did that make any sense to anyone?

[PaulaQ]

I think very little of the cross dressing that goes on here is really kink or fetish related. Crossdressing can be extremely sexual, but in my opinion a big part of that is that for people who's libido is driven by testosterone, everything tends to become sexual very easily, and if one has even a partial female identity, it makes sense to be sexually stimulated while expressing that identity. If part of you feels feminine, how else is that part going to express itself except by presenting as a woman? The extreme case, trans women, tend to fantasize about being women during sexual activities because they ARE women. I don't believe that most women, when they fantasize about sex, imagine themselves as being anything other than women in their sexual fantasies.

[Mayo]

If part of you feels feminine, how else is that part going to express itself except by presenting as a woman? The extreme case, trans women, tend to fantasize about being women during sexual activities because they ARE women. I don't believe that most women, when they fantasize about sex, imagine themselves as being anything other than women in their sexual fantasies.
Exactly. I can tell from your previous post that you're familiar with the objections to Blanchard's work. I only call myself an autogynephile because I'm not (yet?) convinced that I am a woman, only that I sometimes want to be one, and that label (in its strictest sense and without Blanchard's interpretations) seems to fit me best at the moment. I'm certainly not a gay man who feels that being female is a better route to getting it on with other guys because I can do that just fine as a bisexual male. I don't have the fantasy because I'm CDing, but dressing during sex with a guy might help me make that particular fantasy a bit more 'real'.

[Tracii G]

I'm the most unkinky girl on the planet.
I dress for me to complete me.

[ReineD]

I always find it interesting (and irritating) when a dressing-for-sexual-excitement thread prompts those whose dressing is non-sexual to drive the point home. Is this really necessary.

The positive reaction to initially strong sexual gratification does rewire the brain and eventually it does change a person's personality, even after libido has decreased. Maybe the people for whom it is no longer or rarely sexual have selective memory?

[pamela7]

"No Sex Please, We're Prudes Here."

[PaulaQ]

@pamela7 - yep, that's pretty much the situation. We're really hung up on sex and sexuality, particularly in the United States. And so anything having to do with sex is seen as less legitimate - and I do mean anything. Of course the irony is that sex sells, so our culture is just steeped in it.

There are a number of reasons though, why someone for whom dressing isn't sexual might chime in. I women people now who CDed from a VERY young age, or performed in drag at a later age, and claim it was never sexual for them. I'm inclined to believe them, as they've been forthcoming with me enough about other sensitive topics that I think they'd admit it were it the case.

There are trans women who NEVER put on a stitch of women's clothing until several months after starting HRT. None of this was sexual for them, ever.

So for people in those first two groups, it's pretty hard to imagine something like that, because the idea is so foreign to them.

I know people for whom CDing was highly sexual, including me . There is a very powerful impulse in the trans community, I think, to tell "the one true trans story," i.e. you knew from birth you were a girl, it was never sexual, you're straight, etc. Telling people - "yup, I would put on women's garments and masturbate," just makes the rest of the narrative seem less real. We're all really embarrassed that we do that, right? (Well, many of us seem to be!) By the way, these feelings stopped for me after I came out - so it really is pretty hard to imagine feeling sexual about wearing clothes, but I remember well how I used to feel. It was highly sexual - until suddenly it just wasn't. I'm just not ashamed to admit it, but I suspect some of us are.

I'd actually say more about my own experience, but I'm probably pushing the envelope here...

[Jennifer0874]

I will say that my dressing has led my wife to be more open about her own sexuality. In turn we have tried some kinky things. Those kinky things often center around my dressing.

Just the same I can be dressed for several days in a row without any kind of sexual interaction and I'm happy just the same.

[Rachel PT]

I was alluding to this when I asked in a thread about "Where I fit". I am kinky, but not "all-inclusive" kinky. My kink manifests itself in my CDing, being submissive, wanting a woman to "Catch me" and have her way with me (including tying me up!), my love of hosiery and heels (On me and on most women!). For me, CDing is very sexual. For you? Well I'll leave that to you!

I don't think all this makes me "bad", it just makes me, me! Each here has their own reason(s) for why they are here, including for most, some sort of understanding/acceptance that isn't readily available in our "normal" (often judgmental) world!

[IamWren]

"yup, I would put on women's garments and masturbate," just makes the rest of the narrative seem less real. We're all really embarrassed that we do that, right? (Well, many of us seem to be!)

It's a little personal and yes, I'm a bit embarrassed but... I guess I am one of those gals. In fact, if I don't get that out of the way pretty much right after I step into a pair of heels there is not a way I'll be able to tuck the dangly bits away or even think of doing anything else to try and transform. Not every time but much of the time.

But with the forum having the culture that we do of putting sex, eroticism, arousal, kink, fetishism way, way, way in the background where we don't see it much, don't you think it offers a bit more legitimacy to this site over the thousands of others where the sexual aspect is constantly talked about or in your face? I don't know. Maybe. Not trying to turn the thread... more of a rhetorical question.

Paula's comment above though (plus several of the others) helps me feel like I'm not weird though for needing to touch myself once I start putting on my girl stuff.

[Lorileah]

OK people back ON track with the OP. Read it and quit arguing over WHY

[sometimes_miss]

The positive reaction to initially strong sexual gratification does rewire the brain and eventually it does change a person's personality, even after libido has decreased. Maybe the people for whom it is no longer or rarely sexual have selective memory?
I kind of wonder; my initial crossdressing encounters were for someone else's sexual pleasure, and it did involve sexual behavior, though at the time there was no sexual excitement on my part at all. That would come much later in my life, but still, it wasn't connected to the clothing I was wearing, but to the concept of doing what a girl would do in whatever situation I was in at the moment. So even though there was a period in my life when I would get sexually aroused when dressed as a girl, it wasn't the dressing up as a girl that initiated the arousal, but more that I was just a horny young male who was horny pretty much all the time, so it was inevitable that it would occur sometimes when I was in 'girl mode'. Still, it didn't 'rewire my brain', because as my libido declined a bit, it's still not connected to crossdressing. I don't know if anyone else has had similar experience.

[Rene L]

In the interest of getting back to the OP

1. I fantasize about attracting males and have one acquaintance that likes it when I can dress for him.
2. Not so much for attracting females, would like to "fit in" sometime at least once.
3. YES! Makes me want to get caught, "punished", and made to do things, but all in a controlled environment. (I won't post details here so as no to violate any rules. Pm me if you want more information.)
4. I LOVE heels and handcuffs. :o.

[AnnieMac]

Lola . . L O L A Lola . . . Lo, Lo Lo Lo Loooolaaaaaaa!

[anton jon]

Hi have no attraction to men in any way, I have no interest in attracting men or women with cding. I am a one woman man.
Now with that said I am by far the kinkiest person I have ever met. I will try anything but not with men and cding has never been part of that.
Don't get me wrong because I have had fun alone in dress over the years and over the last week my wife and I have tried a colection of things and have a list of other things we wish to try with me as anton jon . We have had a lot more action with me as anthony.
We are very very very active with our sex life, many times a day and most days :) but me as anton jon only expanded our options it didn't change everything else we do.
I don't want to be a woman I don't need to look like a woman, I am a little angry with the fact that my wife could walk down the road wearing any of my male clothes and no one would care in the least bit but if I walked down the road wearing what I am wearing every single person would look, most would not have a problem with it, I am shy and don't want anyone looking at me.
I dress because I look good in that style I don't look like a woman I just look good now with that said I do like when I do look like a woman but it has nothing to do with sex. By the way I am wearing alime green ladys american football style tshirt with matching lace panties with white skinny jeans that flare out at the bottom and I have a pair of lime green ladys slippers on. I don't look like a woman I look gay, I wish I had a pure white wig on and my very gem filled glam make up on. Then I would look like a woman to other but not too me, to me I would just look hot.
So with that explained no to attracting anyone else it to be attractive to me and not for any thing sex related.

Hope that was not too off point but it did answer the question.

Love
Anton jon

[CD Tammy]

For me it is the naughtiness of it. I like wearing clothes that are tight and I do self bondage. I haven't tried to be passable, yet.

[Laurie A]

The positive reaction to initially strong sexual gratification does rewire the brain and eventually it does change a person's personality, even after libido has decreased. Maybe the people for whom it is no longer or rarely sexual have selective memory?

Interesting you should say that, as I think that is what happened to me, except that I do remember, and I actually miss my libido..... What was once kinky to me is now more or less meh

[Judith96a]

Very small curlers.

Nice one Eryn! I nearly fell off my chair laughing. Right answer.

[baldy1]

The definition of kinky "involving or given to unusual sexual behaviour"

Me being a man dressing as a woman is unusual but does not lead to unusual sexual behaviour so not kinky (unfortunately)

Julie

[Tanya+]

The nub of the kink for me is the 'wrongness' of dressing, even though i have a high degree of acceptance for other people; for me i like it to be taboo, illicit and a guilty pleasure on the rare occasion my libido kicks in when i have the freedom to play. So, in FantasyLand, the man/men and/or woman ensure that I learn to be the very worst kind of bad-girl, no matter how long it takes.

[CarlaWestin]

What MAKES you kinky while eating peanut butter?

[Lily Catherine]

I don't derive sexual gratification from dressing, nor do I consider it a fetish on my part. Most of my sexually charged dressing sessions were highly awkward and were far from kinky. I did try to striptease in front of a mirror (strip to just lingerie) but it felt outright sad and empty by the time I reached there. That was as bad as it got for me.

I never enjoyed the more stereotypical fetish aspects - getting caught has been the furthest thing from sexy to me, and guilty pleasures always end up more guilty than pleasurable.

[AnnieMac]

oooooooh . . . .peanut butter !

[Sallee]

It seems like most are saying its not kinky but still no definition of kink. I don't the meaning either BUT Yes it is KINKY and I like it. What makes it kinky the stealth at least for me and some other things too but still no definition of kinky I guess I'll know it when I see it or feel it :heehee: :devil:

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Found the definition
adj. Engaging in some form of BDSM or enjoying nonstandard sexual or sensual stimulation. The opposite of vanilla.
My boyfriend and I are sort of kinky. Last night was great, but I still have rope burns on my wrists.F

[ReineD]

It seems like most are saying its not kinky but still no definition of kink. ...
Found the definition
adj. Engaging in some form of BDSM or enjoying nonstandard sexual or sensual stimulation. The opposite of vanilla.

The thing is, what we consider non-vanilla or "kinky" changes with time and with different pockets of people. Generations ago, sexual practices that are considered within the normal range today were thought of as deviant. I don't want to be explicit, but just imagine a prim and proper wife during the Victorian era who would not let her husband see her naked (they didn't even show skin when they went swimming), who lay immobile without participating in any way while her husband did his thing, and who considered that anything outside of those bounds was vulgar and depraved. And now think of the things we do today when we have sex and the things that are common fodder in any porn video, which are also so common that Playboy announced recently they would stop publishing images of naked women, because the images are too tame compared to all the porn out there they cannot compete with. :p Is light bondage kinky? Some people would say yes, and others would say no because they regularly enjoy it. What about the plethora of non-missionary style positions that people take, and all the different parts of the body that are pleasured in different ways. All of this used to be considered deviant for some people and now they aren't. Gosh, and toys! Been to any adult store lately and seen the huge volume of choices? And all of this is for mainstream people! lol

This discussion isn't so much about where along the spectrum is the sliding marker for what is "kink" and not "kink", it's the whole idea that some people become sexually aroused when they dress all the time, others do not at all and they never did, others used to become aroused and now they don't (this is a whole other discussion), others become aroused most of the time but not always, others become aroused only sometimes and not most of the time, and so on. lol

I think the hidden agenda in many of the responses here is that CDing is not fetish, it is an expression of identity. Well, it is for some people and it isn't for others. And I dare say that for some people, nothing is sexually arousing ever.

[PaulaQ]

Some of us are saying dressing can be sexually arousing AND still be an expression of identity.

[Laurie A]

What MAKES you kinky while eating peanut butter?

Jif Extra Crunchy, gets my motor running everytime