Feelings

[Lyla]

There's a girl on here that ever since I layed eyes on her I've had feelings that I've never had before for some one that isn't a GG. She's beautiful, has a smile that makes the my world go round, and a witty yet level headed mind and sense of humour. Although shes 10 years younger then me I can't help but feel a connection, but unfortunately she hasn't been on here since June. I've tried to contact her but haven't gotten a reply.

This post isn't about her or me, I just wanted to set some back ground for understanding. Sexuality aside, whats the best way for us to manage and pursue this feelings as there are extra conditions with TG relationships.

[melissa247]

i bet every gurl reading this will be like(is it me???) haha..i guess just being open and maybe just pming a friendship first..then asking if they are openly into other gurls like themselves..and if they would like to go on a date?if they say no..well try to stay friendly..it is flattering but not everyone wants to be hit on..i left a site for that reason..but it wasn't a nice site like this either..it was a kind of a fetish site so i should have guessed that would take place..I was looking for a place like this.good luck

[Robin414]

Interesting post Lyla. I'm a happily married lesb...err, biologically heterosexual individual but I see 'us' as the third gender (I know, the spectrum is WAY too broad for that but for the sake of a quick post), that said, I absolutely love everyone here, especially the people I chat with, I think this is kinda how GGs interact with each other, no 'macho' BS like 'dude, I just got some barb wire underwear, hurts like crap but I can bench twice as much when I'm wearing it 😠' or 'I can totally smash a beer bottle on my face man, chics love that 😠 '

I HATE barb wire underwear and smashing a beer bottle on my face!!?? That's sooo...yesterday! 😴

[IamWren]

Did anyone else immediately have this playing in their head when they saw the title?....
"FEELINGS! Whoa whoa feelings! Trying to forget my feelings of lovvvvve!!!"

I was pretty sure Lyla was talking about me because I'm pretty witty (at least here on the forum where I have time google search the perfect word to craft a response) I have a body to die for (at least when my nerf football bewb forms haven't drifted up to my collar bone)and I look pretty young when my hijab gives me my instant facelift.

Lyla dear, the point of my sentence is that except for the trans ladies who are on hormones or/and post-op, 99% of us are casting illusions. Your feelings I'm afraid are not based on a reality, unless of course you're eyeing Robin who is in fact, one hot enchilada! :D

[docrobbysherry]

This is NOT a dating site, Layla. I've been here 8 years and only been flirted with maybe twice? All clean, above board, and done in private. At the same time I came here, I joined a CD dating site. I went there looking for GG dates. But, it was/is a sausage fest!:doh:

If u r looking for CD dates? Message me and I'll give the site. If u r interested in T girls here? PM them like u did. If u don't get a reply? They probably aren't interested!:sad:

[Robin414]

I don't think Lyla was looking for a hook up per se, GGs relate differently, and I think we do as well....more emotional than 'sexual'...it's not weird (well maybe from a full on brick head guy perspective) but from a 'GG' perspective...just...normal?

[Krisi]

Lyla, you should be aware that many of us don't look as good in person as we do in photos. Remember, we select only the best photos to post.

More importantly, the photos posted here may not be actual photos of the person posting. There's nothing in the rules (and it couldn't be enforced anyway) saying our photos must be photos of us. Someone could easily post photos of a wife, girlfriend or random stranger. That beautiful young crossdresser you are lusting for might actually be a seventy year old man.

[Meghan4now]

There Are rules saying that any photo you purport to be you must be you. That is what got Jorja banned from what little I know. However, editing is not forbidden, and there are photos that I've seen that are blatantly and unashamedly retouched that other members ohh and ahh over. I don't mind that IF the poster admits it, but it irritates me when they pretend that it's a good representation.

I also do not agree that you always look better in the photo than real life. I was really dissapointed in my last set of photos, but you get what you pay for asking a random person to snap a photo versus a professional photographer. I have since read and viewed some you tube advice on better posing so your neck and jaw doesn't look so fat. Plus certain lighting versus makeup has a huge effect. I've been told I'm cuter in person than photo, but then again they may just be trying to be nice.

[pamela7]

i would reckon normal social programming represses LGBT, and even among this demographic there is much evidence of suppressing G among the CD-T. Probably you might be awakening to what I see as the more natural B that humans would be without social programming-conditioning. There is nothing wrong, no bounds as such. This site is a support site, use dating ones or T groups to meet others, for example there are larger annual events with many attendees. Like dating a GG - its not all online or the disco.

[Karren H]

Did anyone else immediately have this playing in their head when they saw the title?....
"FEELINGS! Whoa whoa feelings! Trying to forget my feelings of lovvvvve!!!"
:D

Now it's stuck in my head for the rest of the day!

She couldn't be talking about because she couldn't be 10 years older than I am!!

[pamela7]

Shrek After Party ... the executioner singing "feelings"?

[reb.femme]

...Although shes 10 years younger then me...but unfortunately she hasn't been on here since June....

So I fail on both counts. In my 50s and I can't keep my nose out for more than a few days at a time. Personally, unless you get a reply to a PM there is nothing to pursue, but there is no harm in asking. Even a haggered old hetero like me should not be offended by a such a PM but just don't expect a positive reply. That's me assuming I could expect such a PM :heehee:.



Lyla, you should be aware that many of us don't look as good in person as we do in photos. Remember, we select only the best photos to post...That beautiful young cross dresser you are lusting for might actually be a seventy year old man.

Oh contraire Krisi, I select any old pic, each one as good as the last (hides growing Pinocchio nose) :heehee:. As per Krisis's last comment, you never really know who is under the makeup. I put my base coat on with a trowel.

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Did anyone else immediately have this playing in their head when they saw the title?....
"FEELINGS! Whoa whoa feelings! Trying to forget my feelings of lovvvvve!!!"

Yep, me! It reminds me of my wife, when she was the worse for wear back in the early 70s, singing that into my ear.


Becky

[Amy Fakley]

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that dweam wifin a dweam :-)

sorry, I couldn't help myself.

[Lyla]

Oh youre all so vain you think this threads about you... I thought I left enough vague clues that it would narrow it down to a few girls, as I didn't want to call or single her out.

[Adriana Moretti]

This post isn't about her or me, I just wanted to set some back ground for understanding. Sexuality aside, whats the best way for us to manage and pursue this feelings as there are extra conditions with TG relationships.

I think the best way is to get OUT and meet others . It will come alot quicker and easier. The internet is full of gals in the closet dreaming and fantasizing but unless the stars all align and the seas part, will never actually meet and turn it into a reality. So you will spend most of the time online at dead ends even on dating sites. Out & about though though is a different breed of gals who are pretty open, friendly and accepting from all walks of life. good luck xoxo