Today's the Day

[Jennifercrossdress]

When I first came out to my wife that I liked crossdressing she was put off to say the least. We didn't really talk about for a year or so. Then one day not too long ago she suggested that I see a therapist, not to be mean or as a form of rejection but because she genuinely cares about me. Fast forward to last week. My wife and I are laying in bed and (on the behest of my therapist) I began giving my wife the rundown of what we've been talking about etc. etc. I think the key was that I began the conversation by acknowledging how hard it was for me to talk about. We've been together since high school, married for fifteen years, and all this time I had kept it from her out of embarrassment and fear. After I said my peace, she told me that she doesn't want to be an active part of it, that much I knew, but then she proceeded to blow my mind. She said from now on I should take at least one day a week to crossdress. She'll either leave for the day or I can hang out in the basement and play video games or whatever I want to do. After all those years of secrets I had to calm myself and act like that wasn't' a big deal. Then she said, "I don't want you to feel embarrassment when you go shopping either, so if you want I'll go shopping with you. I just don't want to see you wearing it, ok?"

Long story short, it's Friday and I'm hanging out in my basement rocking out to Me First and The Gimme Gimmes. My wife is amazing. :)

[NicoleScott]

Jennifer, that's good news. Now you know the rules. Stick to them. This is a pretty classic example of DADT. She acknowledges your need to crossdress, but she doesn't want to see it. She/you didn't say why, but it might be that it would affect how she sees you as her man, and she doesn't want that to happen. When you are alone to crossdress, you can do whatever pleases you. But at other times, be the man she married and keep the CDing from her eyes. It's great that she is supportive, but remember that her support has limits.

[Taragirl427]

+1 to what Nicole said. congratulations.

[alwayshave]

Jennifer, that's great news. She cares about you, you need to do something for her.

[flatlander_48]

Jcd:

Sometimes life turns out better than you could have wished for and that is always just amazing!!

DeeAnn

[livefree83]

Hi Jennifer, this is great news. Your wife obviously loves and cares about you and acknowledges that this is a permanent part of your life.

One piece of advice: be sure to respect the boundaries and not test the limits. Also, try to be open to discussing your crossdressing with your wife while, at the same time, not overwhelming her with the subject.

No relationship can be sustained without honesty and trust.

[Gabby6790]

So happy to hear such a positive post. I agree with the idea of doing something for her. Maybe a spa treatment or something.

[Ally 2112]

Great post and like the ladies have said do something for her and do not push the rules unless there is very open communication .I have made these mistakes and it took it's toll on my marriage

[Brandy Mathews]

That was so sweet of her to at least do that for you Jennifer, she obviously cares very much about you.
Hugs,
Bree :)