Things change very fast

[Maria 60]

Sorry have to vent. Boy do things change fast, my son quit his part time job on the weekends and he use to work shift work but he now has full time hours and my mother in law hasn't been feeling well lately and has been spending time living with us depending on how she feels.
Last night we went out for dinner and my wife told me she knows alone time hasn't been kind to me lately but has noticed and was wondering why I haven't even been underdressing lately and is concerned. I told her things changed so fast, I once had so much time to dress and now when I'm home everyone's home, when iam out the house is empty and I also explained to her that it's just been a rough month for Maria. Last week I had a doctors appointment and took the day off and rushed home to dress but when I got home my son left work early because he wasn't feeling well, what was the chance he hasn't missed a day since. She told me that she sees a big difference in me, I'm more nervous and snappy lately. I told her I'm under more pressure at work, she instantly gave me a bulls&$t answer and told me that's the only part she hates about the dressing, when I had my time I was a calm, focused and at piece and now I'm a nervous reck. She told me people are not lucky, sometimes you have to make your own luck, just like things changed so fast we have to make chances in our life so I could find some time for myself, maybe a car ride or a motel or hotel for the day or we can go for short overnight trips.
I'm so lucky to have a wife so supportive but change sucks when you don't want things to change, it all sounds good but I miss my full time at the comfort of my own home. Long road ahead. Thanks for listening to me vent I will try to see the cup half full instead of half empty. It's hard to go back to eating chicken when you have been eating steak. The only good thing that could come out of this thread is, don't take your dressing time for granted because trust me thing change very fast.

[Jacqueline StGermain]

Hi Maria, Know exactly what that's about.
When I'm under a lot of stress, dressing is just like a big sigh of relief.
My SO sees this too. When I'm really stressed it shows, she'll ask me if I want to go out. She's awesome

[colleen ps]

I feel your pain. I am also in a changed situation. My son, who spent all his time out with his mates, has now settled down with his girlfriend and for the last year she has been pretty much staying at ours. This means i no longer get those nice evenings in, dressed comfortably watching TV with my wife. This summer, she suggested we take breaks away to allow me to wind down and relax. This worked really well for us and we had a delightful break in the country. Mind you, we spent most of our time shopping for new clothes, make up and shoes for both of us so not the cheap week away we had planned. Two of the days were wet so we stayed in and just watched TV.
The other advantage i have is that my son and his girl are used to seeing me in a skirt and nylons due to severe leg problems, so its not all bad.

So go for it, have a few long weekends and go shopping with your wife away from all the hassle.

Colleen

[ChristinaK]

Hi Maria,
I too feel your pain. The last couple of weeks I could only dress once and not even go out. For the next two weeks my family will be home. Then, in December, they will be home again for 3 weeks.

I love my family and really like it when they're here, but Christina has to hide and that makes me want to dress even more.

It's a very selfish thing to think about myself instead of just embracing the time I'm going to have with my family and that brings me much guilt.

[Debra Russell]

.....ditto on your situation, wife lost job - son and daughter both move in with varying work hours - my femm time has been cut from out dressed 2 or 3 days a week / shopping and going out or just being out among the muggles to ZIP or a few minutes stolen here or there......it sucks.....enjoy whatever time you have or can make..sincerely..........................Debra

[Rachelakld]

Sorry to hear about your changes, and a day off to a motel would be a good way to relax.
I sometimes get a hour of swimming in (in girl mode) during the day, but then it's normally straight back in to my work uniform.
It's not much, but it helps (and they have private change rooms).
My intolerant eldest is returning next year, so I will have to slowly introduce her to my girl side otherwise I'ld be getting to stressed as well.

[Isabella Ross]

Perhaps give the offspring a gentle nudge out of the nest? Just sayin'...

[SHINY-J]

I live alone now and can now dress however and whenever I please... However, I do understand your situation as I was once married - not only was my wife at the time not supportive, but her father would stay with us for long periods of time as he worked between two different states across the country and would stay with us when he was working here. Add in, that her brother would always come to stay there on Xmas and summer breaks during college. Even on the rare instances when her family was not around and it was just her and myself, I couldn't really dress due to her intolerance of it. At best I could underdress and wear panties, but I never was able to dress the way I really love to dress in my outrageous lingerie, platform heels, big wigs, huge breast forms, etc. I can say that in the few times where I had the entire house to myself for a long weekend and I was able to really go all out, that I milked it for everything it was worth!

This may not work for you depending on your job, but the way I learned to satisfy my urges at the time was to dress at work after everyone else had left. I would often work late and be the last person to leave my office. I always kept my most outrageous clothes, breast forms, and my platform heels and boots in a few duffle bags that I had safely hidden away in a crawl space in my garage. Before work, I would grab a duffle bag and throw it in the trunk. Most of the time, I would just leave a bag in my trunk and only take it out when I wanted a different outfit or if I knew she would be driving my car or we would be doing something where the trunk would be needed.

I would take the bag into work as it just looked like a gym bag with workout clothes. Most employees at most jobs don't want to stay late so it was really easy for me to be the "unlucky" person who would lock up. :battingeyelashes: lol little did they know that I was ecstatic! Once everyone was gone, I would change into my full garb from head to toe and spend anywhere from 30 mins to an hour walking around the entire office... Up and down stairs.... Up and down the hallways... From room to room... Around the parking lot... Around the building... Etc. Even if it was for no more than an hour, I can't tell you how thrilling it was to be completely dressed as my latex and vinyl clad, trashy alter-ego with big hair, massive boobs, and platform boots strutting and prancing around the very same office where, during the day, I'm looked at as a "man's man"! :devil: I cannot over-emphasize how exciting it is and the sheer thrill you will feel you by doing this! At least, that's the experience I have... I can't imagine anyone not getting the same emotional rush!

Even now that I live alone, I still do this to this day! It's a safe and easy way to dress outside of the confines of my home where I get a completely different experience and feeling but still maintain my secret! It's not the same as having a full day and night in a hotel room, but it's cheaper than a hotel room..... you don't have to call in sick at work or take a day off... I also think it's certainly more thrilling and a better dressing experience to be in that environment where it's so out of the norm as opposed to the seclusion of a small hotel room. Besides.. It naughty! :devil: doesn't that just make it SOOOOOOO much better?!?!:heehee::devil:

[jenni_xx]

Shiny J

Clearly for you it's a fetish, a sexual kink, one that when you dress you get your rocks off. Dressing for you turns you on.

All I will say is that I'm glad that you do it in private, be it at home or out while no one else is about. Because cross-dressers such as yourself shouldn't enact with the public, and so I'm glad that you don't.

[SHINY-J]

That's exactly the reason why I do keep it to myself and behind closed doors. I don't want to do ANYTHING that would give the dressing community anymore of a black eye than it already has... Even if it's unwarranted.

[jenni_xx]

Thumbs up from me :)

[Acastina]

When privacy is a luxury, and its absence suppresses what is for many of us an essential stress-reliever, it really drives home the tragedy of having to hide what is really pretty innocuous behavior in the larger scheme of things. It's just clothing, after all, and it's only because human societies set up and maintain rigid gender boundaries that it matters at all. I'm lucky that a majority of our occasional house-guests know about me, so I am free to live in my own home on the femme side of androgynous, and we're way beyond the age of having young-adult children and their SOs camping out indefinitely. But then, my dressing is more TG than CD, so it's comfy casual, light makeup, a bit of jewelry, and my own long hair without the little topper hairpiece that I wear when out.

I've also found that aging, for all of its physical downsides, can be liberating. I don't care so much anymore what people might think. I've obviously used up more time than I have left, so I plan to live it my way.

[jenni_xx]

It's just clothing, after all

For some it's clearly not just clothing. It's a fetish, a sexual activity. (Shiny J herself saying that this is what it is for her). That is best kept private.

On a different note, you say that for you your dressing is more TG than CD. What exactly are you inferring with that?