Lets hear it for supportive SO's

[Saikotsu]

While I know not all SO's are supportive, I wanted to give a special shout out to the ones who are.

I'm truly blessed to have such a wonderful girlfriend, a woman who loves me and cares about/for me, who doesn't judge me for what I wear or who I am. A woman who accepts me, flaws and all. I don't know what I did to deserve her, but you can bet I'll do whatever it takes to keep her happy.

So let's hear it for our SO's! And to those of us who are single, may you find one someday. To those of you who have an unsupportive SO, hopefully they come to accept this side of you in time.

[Beverley Sims]

I congratulate all SO's who work at a partnership however rocky it may be.

The grass is not greener on the other side.

[sarah378619]

I am lucky to have a supporting so Fiancee. We both love each other for who we are.She accepts the girl that is a part of me. But I make sure Sarah always has time for my fiancee and I also make sure she still has her man too. I am gender fluid or TG. I am so greatful for my Fiancee and find new ways to shown my love for her. Having that Fem side helps me to be able to express that love. I totally agree with your post.
Sarah

[cdterri]

My wife is completely supportive and has been since the first day I had the talk with her (well before we were married). She is not only supportive but buys me fem things all the time. She also does all my ironing, mending, altering and anything else I may need. If I do any of the stuff mentioned she gets upset and says I'm doing her job. I wake up every day wondering how I deserve such a wonderful woman and try to show her constantly how much I love and appreciate her. So hats off to all supportive SOs. You are very rare and I salute you.

[Jazzy Jaz]

I agree! I never imagined getting to have someone to share this with and also know that my softer side isn't only because im a nice guy. It has been very wonderful and I am really greatful for my lovely lady!

[Amanda M]

I one of the lucky ones too! Thank you all, ladies.

[Dorit]

I too have a completely supporting, even encouraging SO! It has deepened our love and friendship that I can freely express my femininity with her. She is special, and we have never been happier or enjoyed our life more after 46 years together!

[Andrea Renea]

My wife is great regarding my dressing. I dress around her all the time.
She never says anything negative.

We've been out together, but not locally,
She is afraid someone who knows us will see us.

Love her for putting up with all my other shortcomings too.

[alice clair]

My wife is also very supportive of my dressing and we have been together for 25 years. We met when we were 3 and have been married twice each. We were always friends and talked many times before. She is the love of my life. She is always buying me something pretty and when I put on something and ask her opinion she tells me whether good or bad how it looks. I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. I wish all wives were so supportive.

[tracigirl_tv]

I have been on both sides of the supportive/non-supportive SO fence. News flash: supportive is better! lol

I know I'm blessed, and I know I'll never take her for granted. Thanks for this reminder.

xoxo

Traci

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Ady :hugs:, While my :love:wife is DA/DT, she just don't want to see me while I'm dressed, She completely tolerates my dressing
and even pierced my ears for me.~~...:daydreaming:...

Over our almost 52years of marriage she has been back and forth with acceptance.

[Krisi]

I can't say my wife supports my dressing but she tolerates it and it's not DADT, I can dress around her. It could be much worse.

[fiona frisson]

I congratulate all SO's who work at a partnership however rocky it may be.

The grass is not greener on the other side.

theres a wide SO spectrum from absolute rejection to acceptance - patience, communication and love allows some adjustment or calibration
as to where the needle points on the SOAcceptance meter - hats off to those in the sweet spot

[Jacky Aikou]

Thanks for the thoughtful post, Sai!

I too am blessed with an understanding wife and do my best to reciprocate. :love:

[Eryn]

Every day I wake up thanking my lucky stars for Mimi, who is not only supportive, but encouraging.

[Robin777]

I too have a very supportive wife. We go shopping together and she picks out clothing that she knows I will like. We have been married for a wonderful 36 years.

[heatherdress]

My wife is totally supportive. She encouraged me to buy my first pair of heels, taught me how to apply make up and encourages me to dress and be dressed.

[njcddresser]

I'm also lucky to have a supportiv wife. She accepts my dressing and regularly buys me lingerie, make up, jewelry and clothes. I feel very fortunate to have her support

[josrphine]

Hi, I too am luckie, my wife of two yrs now we have been together for 9. She would rather I be Josephine than Joe, she has been sick now for 3 yrs. That is why we got married. Most women want a girl friend too talk to then there husband. We have the best of both worlds.

[Nikki Elle]

Mine is a true blessing - completely supportive in all ways. Will go out shopping for me, do my makeup, give me little tips and hints. Find little mystery gifts for me! She would take me out anywhere, I'm more cautious. She is all about Nikki!

[Danielle_cder]

Yep love my wife dearly! She is truly a blessing

[MissTee]

Grateful for my supportive wife, as well. I couldn't imagine having to shelter this important part of me from her.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Three cheers for the supporting SOs.

Unfortunately, I can only give my wife one cheer; she didn't leave me when she found out.

Other than that, not much acceptance, and I don't expect it to change.

We have a DADT relationship, and the only thing I tell her is when I'm going out and when I expect to return. She has let me go to the Keystone Conference, but she admitted then when I went the first time she thought (hoped?) it would be one and done. She has not seen my clothes (except the couple of bras she caught me packing for an out of town trip), never mind seeing me dressed. She doesn't even know my girl name. But she has given me a couple of "girl" things that she had instead of throwing them out.

The most hurtful thing she ever said to me was, "If I had known then what I know now, I'm not sure I would have married you." She repudiated our whole marriage because of crossdressing. And I'm just a CD, or maybe bi-gender, and have mo plans to transition.

However, on the plus side, I've always gotten to shop myself, and I've developed my own style which is nothing like her style. I've developed a whole group of girl friends that she has never met, and has no desire to. Steffi has more friends than I do. If I ever get kicked out of the house, one of Steffi's friends would let her crash on her couch and even rent her basement. My friend is married to a supportive spouse.

So, keep those calls and messages coming. I'm thinking of printing out this thread to so my wife that maybe she could be supporting if she could get the negative judgement out of her head.

[Melissa_59]

I'm very lucky to have met Roxy, and even luckier that she said "Yes" when I proposed to her. She's very supportive, and she buys presents for both my guy self and for Melissa. I tell her (with a smile) that she got a two-for-one deal, a husband and a wife. :)

I think I might be the luckiest person ever. My previous two marriages... well, they were not accepting at all which is why I told Roxy right up front about Melissa. I had to know before we went further with our relationship if that was a deal breaker, and she was tentative at first because she'd never known a crossdresser. She knew some drag queens, I told her "completely different critters". She met Melissa and spent some time together and she's not only fine with it, she's very supportive as well!

I really think if you're going to get into a long term relationship with someone that you should tell them right up front. I know from my previous two marriages that it can cause more problems than the marriage can stand.

~Melissa

[s.e.al]

I came out to my wife a couple of months ago and she has been great about everything. I really love her and she's the besr.

[leeann_360]

I too have a supportive wife, but she has put in a couple limits for me. She found out about my CDing before we were married, almost 35 years ago when she was still in high school and I just graduated. We had to sit down and talk things out for her to understand how I felt. She has never turned this against me in any way or told others of it as far as I know. Her biggest question was if I wanted to become a woman and I told her no. Her next was if I was having sex with guys, this I explained did happen before I met her. I still had desires to have sex like that, but we could work that out with "attachments" and that I would be faithful to her no matter what. We agreed that when we had kids that I would "tone down" my dressing to an appropriate level to not raise questions from our kids. That worked perfect and we never had problems with the kids or any of their friends finding out. Her last limits were no skirts, dresses or wigs in public. I have never had a skirt or dress, but do wear night gowns around the house often. I have never had a wig, since I know I could never pass in public. With all this in mind, I am a guy wearing 100% womans clothes and have never had any family issues. My wife even went shoe shopping with me for my first pair of heels years ago. I am very proud to have my wife in so many ways and I am so glad that I opened up to her when we first started dating, its great not having to hide things and worry what may happen.

[Kevyn53]

My wife has been so supportive since I came out to her about 2 years ago. I'd tried to deal with it, hide it, ignore it, purge it. None of it worked. When I embraced it and was honest about it with her, she jumped in with both feet. Rules are: Don't put either of us in a dangerous place. Don't ruin our local reputation ( i.e. business). Talk to her if the pink fog is getting too much. We've been doing great.

[renaej7]

Yes, the love and support is sooooo vital. I am very appreciative of my wife. She is my strength.

[Chandlyr Ellis]

Have supporting SO here as well… Loves to go shopping, finds things I would like, suggests outfits, etc. Although she suggests all too often that we go out, I am hesitant as she knows everyone (literally)… there is not a place we could go without someone recognizing her, and then putting 2 and 2 together figuring out who I am. I would go, but I just don’t want her to receive any negative reactions or comments.

Her daughter was over last week, and just loved my gold sparkle heels.

Thanks to all the girls who are willing to know the whole person.

[xNicolex]

Fantastic to hear that there are more like minded women out there that support their PIC'S (Partners in crime) lol my girl is terrific helps me shop and lets me dress whenever I want :daydreaming: for those of us fortunate enough to have found an excepting spouse cherish her :)

[Ozark]

My wife is supportive.
She has set some boundaries.... no overtly feminine tops and at least one article of clothing must be male... top, bottom or underwear. My shoes are male, well except for one pair of leather clogs....

And I am ok with that.

The past two summers we have taken extended trips in our Airstream. It was wonderful. I dressed as I felt comfortable.

A most memorable evening was spent 'boondocking' next to a river north of Bishop CA this past summer. It was a full moon and a bottle of wine....I had just changed into a clean outfit after grilling, and she suggested a fashion show.

Tonight, She is in her favorite chair and I'm sitting on the couch... in a nice Vanity Fair gown and Shadowline robe. She's drinking a Modelo and I'm having a vodka martini.

Pretty nice.

[Elli87]

at first I was a little bit skeptical about her affirmations of her acceptance and support, but she keeps pushing the issue, than she told me about some online research she did on a forum. She chose to go with the positive, Now she wants to see more lingerie in the bedroom, She wants to do make up she wants to go shopping. So yeah shout out to the Adventurous woman who fell in love with me.

[Saikotsu]

I'm thrilled to see so many people have supportive spouses. Cora was the first person to figure out my gender identity, and it was with her gentle coaxing that I was able to explore and ultimately accept this side of myself. I said it before, but I am incredibly lucky to have her at my side.

[Samantha_Smile]

To my beautiful wife, if you ever read this, please remember that I am thankful for every time I get dressed, whether you are present or not.
You know about me vs Samantha and you accept that it's just who I am and that she is part of me/him.
You make it all easier to deal with, even just by knowing, and I'm so happy when I get my face done right and you tell me that I look 'much better than normal' LOL
I know it's not easy for you, it's not easy for me either, but having my wife, best friend and co-conspirator know and accept means more than you will ever really grasp.

Thank you babe xxx

[Jenn A116]

I count myself very fortunate to have found a SO who is accepting to both sides of me. She will often suggest items when we shop, and even better steer me away from some not so good choices. She realizes that my femme side is just as much a part of me, and helps form my personality, as my homme side.

We met later in life (ie, in my late 40's) and came to accept each other as we were. We didn't go into our relationship and ultimately marriage expecting that we would change the other into something else. I told her of my CD'ing (hardest thing I ever had to do) well before I proposed (2nd hardest thing) and we've been happily married for 17+ years now.

[Vivian Best]

I really does my heart good to see so many accepting and supportive wives. I wish I could say mine was one of them. When I came out to her I thought she was going to leave me and that was the high point of the coming out!

In the years since I have tried to educate her (I'm trans) but for the most part she really doesn't care why, she has her feeling and nothing is likely to change that completely.

On a better note she is becoming reluctantly tolerant of my dressing and somewhat understanding of my gender conflict. Hopefully, with time (I don't have long because of age) she will also become supportive.

Congrats to those of you who do have that great support!

[Jaylah414]

I don't know what I'd do without my wife. She's wonderful. And, she thinks the same thing about me. I guess that sorta makes us a co-dependent couple, if that's possible. But, what really matters is that if it meant that we'd be forced to separate or live in the streets, we'd be in the streets and be happy about it!