Am I sexist?

[Lena]

This morning, my wife is away at the hospital. (For her mom.) So, I needed to clean house. I got my hair, lipstick, skirt and blouse. I then started cleaning the house.

It's something that I don't usually enjoy but when dressed, I prance around cleaning dishes, floors, cabinets refrigerator.

Am I sexist because I subliminally associate house cleaning as feminine? Am i stereotyping women as housewives?

I know others do the same, so I'm interested in seeing your responses.

[kittie60]

Maybe you just enjoy doing the housework better in female mode. If so I wouldn't call it sexist,just enjoying your self.

[flatlander_48]

Well, Suzy Homemaker was, well, Suzy Homemaker...

DeeAnn

[Cheryl_Layton]

I think a lot of stereotypical behavours are imprinted during childhood which are usually hard to dispel.
Not only that, I would still reckon that in a good number of households, the woman still does the housework. How many of us males (and others that we know of) clean the toilet?

[debstar]

I can ;)

[CONSUELO]

No, I enjoy cleaning and often do it when dressed.

[josrphine]

I clean the house all the time, it is just in me. When I get dressed nice who wants to clean house. O K today I am dressed an a girl friend of my wife is coming over , so just like anyother women I clean up. Now the hard part her friend has never seen me as Josephine . I told my wife i would change , but she said what for you are who you are. Now how is that for a wife.

[Tracii G]

Yes you are being sexist.
Now stop prancing and cleaning.

[Allisa]

Probably in some way, but maybe you just like a clean house. I know I do and I tie my hair up, put my face on(but I do that anyway), grab my rubber gloves and cleaning solutions(all natural and bio- degradable), usually a pair of jeans(bending over a lot) and off I go. Yes Cheryl I clean the toilets, and the rest of the bathroom. Oh yeah I'm single and live alone, silly me!!! I guess I would make a great "house wife".

[Kate Simmons]

Yes but I don't notmally do it en femme as I don't want to mess up my good stuff. It's not like some elf is going to do it if I don't although that's what the family tends to think I believe. :battingeyelashes::)

[Paula Siemen]

I hope you whistled while you worked?

[Michelle 78]

I must admit it's more fun doing housework when I'm dressed, as I'm fully dressed all the time at home these days the place is spotless!!LOL:)

[pamela7]

of course it's sexist, however, if you get to do something in the home otherwise you would not, then you're balancing things out, so that sort of counters the inherent sexism of association. It would be perhaps more sexist to see such roles as lesser than breadwinning.

[CarlaWestin]

It's just fun, babe. Don't worry about it.

[xNicolex]

I feel my best when I'm dressed sure I can feel good in stylish guy clothes but there's nothing like strutting your stuff around the house en femme no matter what your doing its fun :)

[kaleyg]

probably sexist, but harmlessly. it depends on what you say and do in public and what you allow other to say and do when you're around. as I've become more feminist, I've become more questioning of my cross dressing. it is a crazy mixed up world. I do wonder how this is different from wanting to be black, dressing up like a black person and doing stereotypical black things, which would seem racist. why isn't there such a thing as trans-race? or if it is a thing, why isn't there more of it? questions and more questions.

[Scarlett Viktoria]

Unless you expect that from a woman then no I wouldn't say you are sexist. You are choosing on your own to partake in activities that society generaly sees, or saw, as "woman's work". If you don't expect that out of an SO, or any other woman, then by all means, play into the stereotypes if that is what makes you feel more feminine.

[Sky]

I cannot do squat when en femme. Washing dishes with fake nails? Mopping the floor in heels? Hell no. On the other hand, I do lots of house chores when in drab.

[Diane Smith]

Maybe you were just making something uninteresting (the housework) more tolerable by combining it with something fun (the dressing). The "spoonful of sugar" principle.

- Diane

[ReineD]

It's not sexist to enjoy dressing up and combining this activity with other things you need to do, like housework. You're killing two birds with one stone. And if your fantasies take you to the 50's housewife stereotype (https://envisioningtheamericandream.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/housewives-cleaning-family.jpg) or something like it, then that's just a fantasy.

It is sexist if you believe that housework is only a woman's job. But it doesn't sound as if you do believe this.

And if you couldn't dress up ... say you and your wife were expecting your boss for dinner and the carpet needed vacuuming. Would you refuse to do this dressed in your regular clothes and secretly think that this was your wife's job? If the answer is no, then you are not sexist.

[Helen Waite]

If you expect that kind of behavior from others who are dressed that way, it may be sexist. If you actually enjoy the cleaning when dressed, probably not. I would do SO much housework in a proper French maid uniform if I were allowed to have/wear one at home!

[Nikki Elle]

Depends on which side of the coin you want to land - personally, I"m not offended either way. Do what you like and enjoy it. Let's put it into perspective, the average person has around 27,000 days to live - the first 9,000 you try to figure out who you are, the next 9,000 you work toward success and your future, the last 9,000 most live in regret they didn't do things while younger and healthier!

Political correctness is the term of the day to cover any transgression There are some people that feel the need to be victims regardless because we teach this mentality. Sexist or not-sexist, I'm not concerned about social media, stigma's, stereo-typing, or whatever label you want to apply - I've better things to do in my life.

Go live your life to the fullest!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lena:hugs: , Dressed up doing house work just makes it fun for me.
If it was good enough for June Cleaver it's good enough for me. ~~...:daydreaming:...

[Jackie7]

In our division of labor I do all the dusting and vacuuming, clean the kitchen and do the dishes, and scrub the bath, while she shops for food, cooks wonderful meals, and does all our laundry. I do my chores regardless of what I am wearing, but on days like yesterday, when I planned to spend the day dusting vacuuming, and scrubbing the outsides of all the kitchen cabinets, I like to wear my black housemaid dress, wig and forms with lipstick and a dab of eyeliner, plus stockings and full-on complicated female underwear, of course. It doesn't occur to me that it might be sexist and I don't care if anyone else judges it so, it's just fun.... Especially when my darling wife reaches under my skirt to molest me, as she did yesterday when she came home from the gym and found me on the stepladder scrubbing grease off the kitchen ceiling fan. Oh my.

For the safety-minded among you, I always swap my heels for flats when climbing stairs and ladders. But I don't wear rubber gloves unless it is one of those rare occasions when I have also just had a manicure.

[Beverley Sims]

Nothing sexist in what you do, I think you are overthinking the situation.

If I were you I would be calm, relaxed and enjoying life.

[Gillian Gigs]

It's Tuesday morning, I have the day off and the house needs to be vacuumed, bathroom cleaned, and towels need to be washed. My wife and I split and share the load around the house, I make it messy too. Of course I get dressed, no wig, or makeup, I'm working. I often thought I should get a maids uniform, why not. If I can make the work fun, then it isn't work. This isn't sexist either, I am carrying you share of the load, what difference does it make how one dresses, as long as the work gets done.

[docrobbysherry]

It's something. But, no, it's NOT sexist. It sounds more like a fetish to me! Like all these goldarn pantie threads!:sad:

Why would changing your clothes make u want to house work otherwise!?:eek:

[flatlander_48]

doc:

Then again, why would changing clothes make folks desire a different sex partner?

Curious, isn't it?

DeeAnn

[Taylor186]

I was single for most of my forties and found out quickly, regarding household chores, that if I didn't do it, it didn't get done. As a consequence there is no household chore that I view as gendered and/or that I will not do. This carried over when I remarried and I now happily and equally share the load -- not that I like doing chores (except strangely I like doing the laundry). Most of these tasks I do in male mode but I have been known to reward myself (during or after) for a job well done. :)

Luckily, I can partially to mostly dress around the house almost any time I want to as long as we are not expecting company and/or I don't do it too frequently. And, sometimes knowing I can reward myself is as good as actually doing it.

[Teresa]

Lena,
I do most of the cooking and cleaning anyway to help my wife when she's at work, I enjoy it far more dressed, am I sexist ? As far as my wife is concerned I'm a **** !
Now days she jokes about Mrs Mop needs to get the cleaning done, I would be quite happy mowing the lawn and gardening dressed , that could be hardly sexist but what my wife would call me then would take a page of * !

[Judith96a]

I don't think that you're being sexist by subliminally associating any activity as 'feminine'. I'm willing to bet that if you get inside the head of the most ardent feminist you would discover that they subliminally associate certain activities as being 'masculine' or 'feminine' - not that you'll get them to admit it. So don't sweat it!

[carrie001]

I think part of the reason I do alot of housework dressed is just to feel the movement of the clothes.

[Jacqueline StGermain]

Just like the Donna Reed t.v. Show way back when.
Dress, heels, pearls.

[SandraInHose]

Since I already do the majority of the housework I relish those rare opportunities when I can dress as a 'French Maid' and do the housework. Why not? It makes the mundane tasks a little more interesting and a heck of a lot more fun!

Over the years, there have only been a handful of these opportunities to dress the part, but bending over vacuuming the stairs while wearing a short dress, heels, garter belt & stockings always makes me a happier person!

Is that sexist? Possibly to some, but I don't see it that way at all. In my own way, I'm paying homage to those who started that style.