Could you handle the attention

[Lyla]

Today shopping for my last few Christmas presents, I realized that in the probably two hours I was shopping I must have checkout 30 different girls. Now then multiply that by the 200 plus guys in the mall how many times do you think a girl gets checked out while their shopping. Granted they do not catch every guy that checks them out, but it's got to annoy them after awhile I've even seen some become uncomfortable in certain situations.

Do you think you could handle having guys check you out 10-15 times a day? Then what about the ones that are brave enough to flirt with you? Or the ones that go to far an get a little handsy?

A lot of people don't like public speaking due to being the centre of attention and being put on the spot, no thing about being an attractive girl in a room or place alone with guys?

[ReineD]

I think it's a given that most men look or glance at every female that walks by, sometimes even absent-mindedly. The pretty ones get a second look. The others? Not so much. :p

I never felt annoyed. I look at people too. :)

[Robin414]

To answer your question Lyla...nope, not yet at least! As a GG probably but as a 《insert non-conforming label of choice here》, there's always the nagging, confidence busting, explosive diarrhea inducing question "Why the gosh darn golly gee are you looking at me, hmmm!?" 😒

[docrobbysherry]

I'm sure I get plenty of looks from behind. But, when I turn around the guys suddenly turn away to find a restroom in case they barf!:doh:

[sometimes_miss]

It all comes down to this: If you feel too many of the opposite sex checking you out, there are always places where you can go to get out of the public eye. OTOH, if you're on the opposite side of the fence, and are someone who is routinely IGNORED by the ones you are desperately attracted to, there's really nowhere to go which would reverse THAT situation. Growing up, I would have loved to be attractive enough for so many people to be interested in me. Pretty women ARE deluged with attention from the moment they reach puberty until they reach the 'no longer hot' age, and get a rude awakening the first time that a young hot guy lets go of the doors that used to be held open for her.

Yeah, I could take the heat. Make me young, hot and pretty. Where's that magic pill??

[GenieGirl]

I normally am uncomfortable with guys checking me out. I always ignore it whether they just look or try to talk to me and be friendly....For the most part I assume they are trying to figure out if i'm a cis or trans female when they keep staring at me but maybe i'm just self conscious on that end as a female in public. I also a lot of female gaze at me often too which I am unsure of if they are admiring my beauty, wondering if cis or trans, or see me as competition?

[faltenrock]

I do get a lot of looks, it usually doesn't bother me much, Girls, women and guys seem to check me out, is this a guy or a woman.... I'm used to it and can handle it well.

[Kate Simmons]

I guess that would depend a lot on our motivation for looking. Granted a lot of it is automatic and biological but beyond that I, personally, am interested in people in general, so I look at both guys and girls, how they move and interact with others. :)

[kittie60]

I am able to take all the checking out they want to. No problem. I still do it. The only difference is I'm looking at what they wear..the shoes,blouses etc. As far as them coming up and engaging in small talk,no problem either. I have thirty years of training my voice and it is good. As far as getting handstand I draw the line there. I know I get lots of looks, we all do. However it is nice to still be able to turn a head and watch them "check you out" head to toe at 60 years old

[Krisi]

Not every female gets "checked out" and not every guy goes to the mall to "check out" females. Some people dress to attract attention, most do not. If you don't want to attract attention don't dress for it. Leave the six inch heels and leopard print tights in the closet.

[Belle De Mer]

I find that the attention gives me confidence. As a guy, I have never once in my life received a compliment about my clothing or looks. En femme, I have received dozens of compliments from strangers of both genders on my shoes, clothes, and just in general . Whats not to like about that ?:)

[Sky]

Do you think you could handle having guys check you out 10-15 times a day? Then what about the ones that are brave enough to flirt with you? Or the ones that go to far an get a little handsy?

Bring'em on! Single line please! :heehee:

[Teresa]

Lyla,
Sorry to put the dampener on this but sometimes we must consider GGs do have more important things on their minds than being checked out by guys !
It might be interesting if you stopped some and asked if they knew how many had checked them out I doubt many wouldn't have even thought about it .
As CDers it appears more intriguing to know how many would check us out before we were read !
OK I admit I wore a Wonderbra in drab when shopping in my local high street , I didn't think it showed under my loose sweater but most of the attention came from guys giving a second look ! I guess there is a difference between how moobs look and wearing a bra without forms but with the the enhancers in !
The attention just made me smile, it was just another step to being out !

[Tracii G]

I really don't mind being checked out. Its going to happen so you need to get used to it.
What is nice is getting checked out and the person makes eye contact and gives you a warm smile.
I find that guys will let you pass then turn and check you out.I guess the have to see you come and go to get a complete picture ha ha.
Women I find will look me first in the face(maybe looking at the hair or wig) then up and down to see your outfit and how put together you are.
I found most women will just send a warm small smile,guys not so much.

[Angela Marie]

I'm always thinking that people will read me when I go out. I have been in discussion groups with GG's and they have told me that I pass well and my voice is great. However we are our own worst critics and I will always wonder when I am out and about. It is much less so than it used to be but it's always wise to have your guard up even if just a bit.

[Beverley Sims]

I probably get checked out but I do keep on going if I have to pass a lineup of onlookers.

With my girlfriends years ago they stood out and the group always got checked out, I usually kept a low profile unless we engaged in animated conversation.

[AngelaYVR]

Despite not wearing six inch heels and leopard print tights, I get my share of attention. Women (and other CDs I presume!) will check out your shoes and scan you up and down trying to figure it all out. Guys will stare at your legs and/or boobs. I don't mind any of it. If you want to continuously fly under the radar, you're missing out on a lot of the fun of wearing nice clothes.*


*for those who are challenged by subtlety (yes, certain members here), you can dress to stand out without looking sl*tty. It's called good taste.

[AllieSF]

Heck, just being men in female clothes we get checked out all the time for being just that. So, I am far beyond the point of worrying or caring who is checking me out. If they think that I am even a little bit attractive that is a plus for me!

[Shelly Preston]

If your going out you have to expect guys will check you out at some point. How often will depend on your presentation.

Only today I had to thank one guy who moved his trolley out of my way. During which he never took his eyes of me with no sign of having read me. Another opened a door for me. Nothing unusual you might say. It was the delay he took waiting for me to get to the door before opening it, yes he was checking me out.

[countrygirl]

I would not mind being checked out by guys at all.

[CynthiaD]

As long as the situation is non-threatening, GGs like being checked out by men, and would miss it if it didn't happen. It may not seem that way, because GGs must protect themselves by seeming aloof. If they offer the slightest bit of encouragement, male aggressiveness will take over and the situation will go from non-threatening to threatening very quickly.

I don't have to worry about being checked out. Few men are interested in women my age. The only men who've paid any attention to me were trying to sell me something.

[Jonni Lin]

No I wouldn't like it, well maybe a little. One thing I found about being a CD is the understanding of why GGs take so long getting ready lol. I think back with my ex's and how I was always piss at all the time they spent in the bathroom, standing in front of the closet and shopping. Damn it feels good to know those feelings and to have them.

[gokatiegirl]

I look at all the girls too and some guys!

[mikayla1964]

I don't think I would mind it at all. I never get anyone checking me out. Matter alone anyone holding a door open for me.

[prene]

I had not really given it much thought.
I mean if they do not bother me ... I do not really care.

When dressed if I catch a guy checking me out, I mostly like it(if it is a good checkout), Makes me feel like I look OK and feminine.

[Patty Phose]

My first time out dressed was for a Halloween party at college. I got lots of compliments and got hit on constantly by both girls and guys. It was weird but wonderful and flattering at the same time. It was a crash course in girl power for me.

[Acastina]

If you're going to go out, especially in everyday settings (i.e., not to a TG-friendly club environment), you're going to get looked at. What's important to remember is that you may in fact be getting just what you would hope to get, other people pausing a moment to check you out because you've caught their eye by presenting attractively; you attract their attention if you're doing your job with your looks, regardless of age, immutable physical features, and similar issues. It's easy, especially when you're new at this, to presume that the attention is negative, that you're being read by someone who will likely disapprove (or worse). However, since so few strangers are so uncouth or rude as to confront you negatively, you might as well tell yourself to presume that a lingering look is an implicit compliment, that they like what they see (even if it's just a fleeting glance). As many have said here and elsewhere, it's not so much "passing" conclusively as blending in with all the other people in ways that make you feel socially accepted, and the more you go out without some kind of traumatic episode, the more your confidence and self-assurance should grow.

When I lived full-time for eight years two decades ago, believe me, it gets very much routine, so much so that the self-consciousness that beginners feel recedes dramatically. In the words of that song "What if God Was One of Us": you're "just a stranger on the bus, trying to make your way home". If you can turn that corner and recognize that you don't have a spotlight on you, it gets a lot easier to just relax and be yourself.

One tip for doubters: there are lots and lots of reflective surfaces in places like shopping malls and sidewalks; use them as rear-view mirrors to see others' reactions once they pass by and presume you aren't checking out THEIR behavior. If they just walk on by without turning for a double-take, hug that little warm feeling inside and go about your day serenely. If a guy does turn for a second look, look for the absence of an overtly disapproving expression. Maybe he just likes your legs or your butt, or that sweater that fits you perfectly and flows when you walk.

Most people don't notice all that much detail, and more and more seem to care less these days about being or looking different, the younger generations especially.