pick-up line?

[Allisa]

As usual my weekends are my female self time, so first thing in the morning the clean up begins and today was more femme than usual, so dressing to the 8's(9's are for special occasions),off to run my errands, I guess somewhat over dressed; padded foundation,the "girls" affixed, black and white maxi, white with black striped sweater top, black and white striped long (knee length) cardigan, and my new knee high black wedge heeled boots(can't see them with maxi but they make me feel femme), full face, nails painted a purplish red and all silver jewelry(prefer silver over gold)and hair done and sprayed to stay in the wind. So whilst in the Deli line an older gentleman in his 60's,just a few years older than I (dressed nicely, pants not pulled up to his chest with suspenders, you all know the look) startled me when he approached and used the old pick-up line "do you come here often?", I was taken aback, I've never had a man try a line on me before,(I don't frequent bars or clubs) I'm not passable so maybe he had bad eyesight but no glasses in sight. I responded with a lilt in my voice (almost a giggle) and stated that his line was as old as dirt, to with he answered "I know but I didn't how to break the ice with such a lovely lady", I almost passed out, I've never been on this side of a pick-up line and yet be thought of as a woman. You could cut the tension with a knife, then the voice of the deli worker broke the air and after putting in my order, I decided to talk turkey (literally) with this man, small talk ensued and I believe I used my learned voice tricks such as inflection, pronunciation, and smiling the whole time, was I flirting with this man? I bet I was batting lashes some what and using my hands too, I said good-bye and moved away with a slight wiggle in back. I don't know what came over me I'm not into men or trying to attract them or lead them on, now I'm thinking he might be a CDer admirer, gay, or have some other agenda on his mind, now I'm kind of worried about going back to the deli, what if he's there and want's to converse again? Should I have been cold and ignorant towards him, maybe I should have told him from the start that I was physically male. I find it hard to believe that he didn't know, too many tells on my part. Yet one more first in my life since expressing my femme side out in the world. I guess I'm used to the negative aspects of being out. I must admit that I'm feeling so femme now that my dressing is working in my way of expressing myself. Just had to tell some one of my morning, I'm still processing what happened.

[Lorileah]

If he's there you could just...converse? Why does everyone think there is a hidden agenda behind every person trying to be friendly? There is this wonderful word in the English language-no. He goes somewhere with the conversation you don't want to go..."No" He makes move you don't like "no". He wants your number "no". It's simple...unless you have desires for this man, you can be friends and set limits.

Otherwise, you need a new Deli

Trust me he knows you're physically male

[Amy Lynn3]

If you go there again and he strikes up another conversation with you....out of ear shot of others.....come right out and ask him. Say, you do know I am a male crossdresser, right ? Go from there.

[Jazzy Jaz]

I wouldn't neccesarily be so sure that he knows. I havn't looked close at your pics so am speaking generally, but for those who at least have the potential of being able to pass, and depending on your voice skills; the one thing we overlook being overly critical of ourselves is that most people are not expecting to come across a cder. Im not saying its hard to spot us and im specifically speaking about those with passing potential, but there are women with manly features ( having hundreds of relatives living in my neighborhood, i've seen many and know ther're ggs). For an older man with possible bad vision who has it in his head that he's seen a pretty lady that may be in his target dating range, its quite possible that his butterflies may have (like the pink fog) clouded his perception and only allowed him to see what he wanted to see. Im not saying this is what happened, just that it may be a possibility.

[kittie60]

It's always a thrill when someone out of the blue strikes up a conversation while out in femme. Most likely he saw a nice looking lady and wanted to chat. Doubtful he knew you were a cd'er. But on the off chance he did know its still nice. I had that happen twice the same day at the same store. One older gentleman said I would look very nice in that dress. I said well thank you,I have a Christmas party to go to. He said yes ma'am you'll look very nice, he's a lucky man. Merry Christmas he said then he was gone about his business. Never seen him again. The other one I won't even talk about. He was a young jerk. Anyway you might see him again and if you do strike up the conversation. It's always nice to talk to someone and make new people. Have fun

[Robin414]

Say, you do know I am a male crossdresser, right ? Go from there.

Hi Allisa, I'd take it a a compliment!

@Amy - I've totally done that once when a guy tried to start a conversation "Don't blow my cover man, I'm an undercover vice cop on a stake out! 😠 "

[Jacqueline StGermain]

To add to what Lorileah said about a hidden agenda, I was washing the car at the DIY car wash yesterday, I always spend lots of time detailing it after the wash, I was waxing ( the car, not my legs), a guy about my age parked next to me to dry his off, he made a comment " why do we bother to wash our cars, probably going to rain mud tonight...", I thought it may have been a pu line, until I saw his wife sitting in the car. He continued to make small talk asking me how I liked my car etc.
It was kinda nice
Sometimes people are just being friendly, happens often in Boulder.

[Pat]

I can't speak for him, but I know at this age most guys who are looking for an encounter are chatting up the 23 year olds thinking, "Yeah, I still got it." ;) Guys who approach women our age generally are just looking for a little reassurance that they still exist because they spend a lot of time feeling invisible. Smile, answer back and drop the conversation just as easily as it started up -- there are no obligations in deli line conversations.

[docrobbysherry]

U sound like a lot of American women. They don't know how to say "No".

There's no reason for u to avoid anyone. Just tell him u aren't interested in men. Except as possible friends? But then, only if u care for any. Honesty IS the best policy, I believe.:straightface:

[tanya_cd]

Its nice receiving validation for being attractive to someone. I see no need to avoid the deli. The next time you want someone to be nice to you and accept you as the beautiful woman you are, go grab a sandwich! :)

[NicoleScott]

I see no reason to tell him you're a guy just because he started a conversation. If he asks you out, it may be the right time then.

[Christie ann]

I know as a guy out doing errands and chores I like talking to the people around me and as many of us have said, I would rather talk with a girl than with another guy. I don't think I have used any of the usual pick up lines, but you have to admit it got you to talk with him. While out in girl mode, I have had plenty of women start conversations but never a guy. Might have to put that on my CD bucket list.

[AngelaYVR]

News flash: guys interested in CDs will treat you as a lady.

[Sky]

It's probably normal to panic the first time a man approaches you. The next time, take the plunge and engage in conversation. The only way to find out what somebody wants is to ask. Does he want to get a room or just be nice? Ask him. How brash you are is up to you, but you have to find out somehow. And of course it also depends on who you are and what you want. Are you a flirt? Or a hermit? Think about it and be ready next time it happens (because it will happen again).