Kate is stuck in man mode...

[gokatiegirl]

I don't know why I haven't be motivated to dress in the past 3 weeks. Been kind of depressed, almost purged last week and my makeup lady refuses to have me as a customer anymore. She told me I go against what she believes in and she could no longer contribute to that. I wanted to go out tonight and drag downtown but I'm not feeling it. Horrible makeup and bad razor stubble on my leg is keeping me grounded. No motivation to get dressed and I'm stuck on man mode. I need to get this depression addressed soon before I fall into that hole again.

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[OCCarly]

Sounds like you need a new makeup artist. And make sure the next one is a gay man, maybe. My wife's best friend is a gay makeup artist. He does makeup for some big names in movies and TV. I would send him to you but he and I are on the opposite coast, and I am not out to him because my wife wants me to keep "Miss Carly" a secret. He knows me as a macho guy and is a little attracted to me and is always joking about it. So that would make for a really interesting conversation...

It is kind of frustrating for me, having to DIY my makeup when I know one of the best around. But my wife is kind enough to share an occasional tip with me after he does her makeup.

I hope you feel better.

[Just4me]

Pour yourself a hot bath break out a razor and shave them legs that is where I start once I do that it just flows dont purge you will only regret it late I sure have

[Tracii G]

We all go thru that so don't worry too much.

[kittie60]

Hi Kate, just sit back and enjoy a nice bubble bath, if you drink have a glass of your favorite drunk and relax. Thats what I do when the gloomiest hit me. Don't purge, you'll be sorry afterwards. As far as razor stubble goes I use the spray on hair remover, leaves your legs nice and smooth, I do the same thing all over my body. Don't worry we all get the gloomiest at one time or the other.take care of your self.

[Dana44]

Kate, don't worry, just relax and sit back. It's alright to be in man mode for a while. It will come back to you and you will be fine by then.

[chelyann]

just take it easy and relax ,things will get better, what ever you dont purge

[Teresa]

Kate,
It's a shame you can't do what I do when you feel like that, I just get fully underdressed possibly with forms and take the dog for a walk ! I can please myself if I do the whole walk like that or take off the drab layer and just enjoy being out in the fresh air dressed !
I don't have the problem of someone doing my makeup because I do it myself, OK you get it wrong sometimes but so do GGs !

As for purging, you'll feel twice as bad because you know you're going to relplace and it's going to cost you !

[Claire Cook]

Yes Kate I think we've all gone through phases this yours. Lots of good advice so far (yes, a bubble bath helps shaving!). I can't add much except to say that I've been there, now fully accept myself for who I am and it's like the butterfly emerging from her chrysalis. I know it's hard to consider this, but you do have the whole rest of your life ahead of you ...

[gokatiegirl]

Kate,

I don't have the problem of someone doing my makeup because I do it myself, OK you get it wrong sometimes but so do GGs !
Thanks Teresa for all the kind advice.

I was once a master at doing my own makeup but my vision has gotten to the point where I can no longer do it without glasses. I poked my eye a few months back with a liner pencil and my makeup has been all over the place since. Also, I go out a lot and need perfect makeup to be semi passable. A makeup artist makes me look and feel like a million dollars.

[MissTee]

Sorry to hear you are down, Kate. Just go with the flow. Most of us have a calling to dress - a compulsion sometimes - but there's nothing that makes it mandatory. I sometimes go long stretches without dressing and just let myself be OK with that. The makeup lady thing is a real bust, though. Some people are going to be judgmental I suppose.

[Edie Palmer]

Whenever I feel like that I think about genetic women and what they have to go through when they're not in the mood to do it -- and how they pretty much have no choice about it, and then I think that's one of the things being feminine is about.

[Beverley Sims]

Like others have said, we all have rough patches, new ideas and situations will come along and help drag uou out of the doldrums.

One thing,,,,, don't purge, it is a wste of time resources and you may very well regret losing things you throw away.

[Ally 2112]

Don't fret it to much Kate i am pretty accepting of myself and usually have no problems with dressing .Still the odd time i just do not want to do it i don't let it worry me to much .Also do not purge you will regret it :)

[DanaR]

Find another makeup lady. I had a similar experience with one that I had been going to for over five years. When I first met her, she talked about taking me out shopping with her and after several years she introduced me to her hair stylist; which I went to for years, until she moved away. Then one day the makeup lady didn't want me as a customer, so I found another one. Call around and ask, most are open for a new customer, just be up front with them as what you are looking for.