Yeah, I can be casual

[JocelynJames]

Since confessing years back that I cd to my wife, I've always dressed as though going out on the town and never thought much of casual although I have skinny jeans, yogas, tees, Camis and the like. Just last weekend I decided to take full advantage of days with not much to do and dressed casual in these items for the whole day. If we went out I had to change shoes, but that's it. Light foundation and my own carefree hair and it was like dressing is almost all new to me again. I guess I don't need to be( but really love it) dressed to the 9s.

[josrphine]

Hi Jocelyn, I have been doing the same thing for last 6 mo. Like u said its new an I love the feeling. I now blend in with women at the super market an shows I can even go to Walmart an no one gives me that second look. My wife has said less is more. Was from Connecticut now down here were 60 is consider cold. Jo

[Beverley Sims]

Jocelyn,

Sometimes we are slow learners. :-)

[margararet]

Although I prefer to dress as if going out in the evening but years have taught that dressing for the occasion is the better part of valor.
I am very observant of women in different settings and I dress appropriately for the venue and the occasion

[Kevyn53]

Jocelyn, My wife and I have had many discussions about how GGs don't get dressed up hardly at all any more. So if I want to blend, that's what I do. The most I'll wear femme is a jeans skirt with whatever blouse. I've got my favorite skinny jeans that I wear a lot. If we're going out to eat at night I'll dress up. We have a tendency to pick really nice places to have dinner together, so we're both pretty fancy. And I love heels!

[AngelaYVR]

Serious question: why is a skirt considered to be "dressy"? My mum is 76 and always goes out in a long skirt and her 1" heels, even grocery shopping. Items with two legs are for gardening in. I guess I got my love of dressing up from her.

[Jonni Lin]

I don't even own a dress, unless you count a kilt as one, guess I'm a tomboy at heart. My Dad told his best friend who known me since I was 7, said that I should of been the girl and my sister the boy, thanks dad. I love my leggings. Here in bum #uck MN the only time I see women with a dress on is after age 60 or going to church. I kayak fish and next year plan on doing that as Jonni Lin, might have to glue my wig on, lol.

[tanya_cd]

Jocelyn,

I like the casual look as well and it sounds like you had an enjoyable experience with it. Im still trying to work my way into going out in public in it, but the more positive experiences I read seems to be chipping away at any unwillingness.

When I started dressing in my adult life, it was ALWAYS something over the top. 6-inch high heels, stockings, make-up and more make-up. It wasn't until I started thinking about really going out in public that I wanted to "blend." I actually look (at least to myself) and feel more feminine wearing "nice girl" stuff. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy looking like a porn star :heehee: , but I know that's not going to work in public.

Speaking of casual looks...Do you own any flats? Im crazy about flats!! lol I just ordered two pair and cant wait till they get here.

Happy shopping ;)

[Krististeph]

The full dress up to me was never about going out- but part of an image I wanted to be- a fantasy for sure. But dreams are things we are supposed to shoot for. Martin Luther king had a dream, and while maybe we are not racially equal yet, and certainly not non-discriminatory, we don't give up on the hope that people can see each other as equals.

The casual look is both easier, and harder, to pull off, especially for the CD: First images make a big impression on passing, and there is nothing like a nice dress that says 'girl'. Jeans, a blouse, short boots- much harder to pull off. Especially with less makeup. For me- i have not tried it yet- I'll just wear androgynous looking female items and still present as male.

Granted a pink sweatshirt can be a little hard to pull off, for instance, but I've not had any guff over it yet.

That said, light makeup with only one thing as the focus- eyelashes or eyeliner (not both) can be one of my favorite looks, even if it does not look all that good on me. Once of the most incredibly gorgeous women I ever saw was wearing light makeup. Blond curly hair made a big difference (medium short) and large framed glasses (this was mid-late 80s), and had on a man-tailored grey heather pantsuit... one of the few times I was too intimidated by a women's great looks. (I was not even shy about walking up and introducing myself to Cindy Crawford [she was very nice and personable] telling her I was a fan)- and this happened even before the aforementioned blonde-in-the-pantsuit incident.

[lingerieLiz]

I think that the key to acceptance is looking real. I don't wear wigs and makeup and don't really try to pass. I do wear what most of the women I meet do. If I wore a dress or tried to pass it would be a distraction.

[Jessicajane]

254629

Yey to the post like both casual and dressy my issues blending don't particularly rest with the look lol more the walk ...!!...

[kittie60]

I can do casual when the time calls for it, but I still like my skirts though. Have several just for that look. Kind of refreshing it is a times.

[Angie G]

Caasual is a great way to relax. I do it often just lounging around the house. Welcome to the simpler way of dressing Jocelyn.:hugs:
Angie

[irene9999]

That's why I prefer the summertime, you can wear a cute summer dress that shows a lot of skin and still look casual!