STACY B
12-08-2015, 08:39 AM
Do you realize that some of us Trans people here do figure out after the fact lots of things? One thing I figured out is the Invisible bridge,, Yea there is a Bridge you have to cross here believe it or not? Yep and like I said you can't see it because the costumes are blocking the entrance.
Over and Over you hear the same thing,, I want to Dress,, I want to be able to be myself, I want to look like other women, I want to be able to wear what I want,, I would love to stay dress all day, I want people to think I am a Real woman. I can't tell my kids, My wife won't let me, My family will disown me, So on and so on.
Don't you think for some of us that Dressing is just another way of self medicating all over again just like our former addictions were? Weather it was Drugs , Alcohol, Food, Gambling or whatever. Just like a Junkie,, Trade one addiction for another.An you have to do it the right way,, Sorry,, Therapist, Find Doctor that is will to treat a Trans person, An so on,, Yea it sucks,, Yea it takes time but it took you a long time to get here so if you start now a year from now yull be well on your way,, Just think if you would have started last year where you would be?
But you have to cross the Bridge first,, Without crossing that bridge or even taking that first step you while continue wanting and needing to Dress and present. Bridge you ask? What bridge? Well it's the commitment ,, Acceptance, Relent, Rebuild, Bridge.
And it's not all the same for everyone but here was mine,, H.R.T. Was the tipping point for me, And not the Patch, It was the injections,, Like I said this is MINE and I OWN it !! Not the same for all here just ME.
I too used to think Boy ol Boy if I could only LOOK---LOOK Like a Woman and then I got it made! No No No and I don't expect you to see what I mean nor do I want you to believe me because it does not matter to me. I took the meds and it kinda sorts took a little of the edge off, Then the doc said the patch wasn't working,, And I know why for the simple fact of falling off and lack of meds I am sure but anyway once she put me on the injections and not long after that I found out that I was actually crossing the Bridge. I stepped on it when I went for H.R.T and just stayed with one foot on one foot off and after the shots I began to walk across it or more like float across.
So some of the ones that this whole Clothes thing drives you so Crazy and you can't see the bridge because of your closets, Heels, Makeup, No matter how many trips to the Mall or Mac or out shopping and looking Great will put you on that Bridge. Believe me I tried !! If I had all that money that I spent on that crap my face would be cleared of hair right now,,lol
The whole problem of your family and friends seeing you as Trans is the Outfits,, Outfits are not your friend,, They see you one way right now,, Jumping out of the closet wearing something totally different is Not the way to go about being trans,, Once you change then you dress the person.
Clothes don't do it,, Me and my wife can wear the same exact thing,, Shorts T shirt and flip flops,,All gender neutral stuff, And if you look female after the medicine kicks in your there. Most can't get there without it,, So forget the Outfits believe it or not. If you jump out in a Gorilla costume then what do you think they would say?
If you look male dress male,, If you look in between dress in between,, If you look female dress female. It will come after and only after you Step on the Bridge. I just wish I could let you step on the Bridge to see but I can't,, Only you can do it,, No number of post and advice can help here,, It can educate and help guide you to it but you have to take a leap of faith!
Over and Over you hear the same thing,, I want to Dress,, I want to be able to be myself, I want to look like other women, I want to be able to wear what I want,, I would love to stay dress all day, I want people to think I am a Real woman. I can't tell my kids, My wife won't let me, My family will disown me, So on and so on.
Don't you think for some of us that Dressing is just another way of self medicating all over again just like our former addictions were? Weather it was Drugs , Alcohol, Food, Gambling or whatever. Just like a Junkie,, Trade one addiction for another.An you have to do it the right way,, Sorry,, Therapist, Find Doctor that is will to treat a Trans person, An so on,, Yea it sucks,, Yea it takes time but it took you a long time to get here so if you start now a year from now yull be well on your way,, Just think if you would have started last year where you would be?
But you have to cross the Bridge first,, Without crossing that bridge or even taking that first step you while continue wanting and needing to Dress and present. Bridge you ask? What bridge? Well it's the commitment ,, Acceptance, Relent, Rebuild, Bridge.
And it's not all the same for everyone but here was mine,, H.R.T. Was the tipping point for me, And not the Patch, It was the injections,, Like I said this is MINE and I OWN it !! Not the same for all here just ME.
I too used to think Boy ol Boy if I could only LOOK---LOOK Like a Woman and then I got it made! No No No and I don't expect you to see what I mean nor do I want you to believe me because it does not matter to me. I took the meds and it kinda sorts took a little of the edge off, Then the doc said the patch wasn't working,, And I know why for the simple fact of falling off and lack of meds I am sure but anyway once she put me on the injections and not long after that I found out that I was actually crossing the Bridge. I stepped on it when I went for H.R.T and just stayed with one foot on one foot off and after the shots I began to walk across it or more like float across.
So some of the ones that this whole Clothes thing drives you so Crazy and you can't see the bridge because of your closets, Heels, Makeup, No matter how many trips to the Mall or Mac or out shopping and looking Great will put you on that Bridge. Believe me I tried !! If I had all that money that I spent on that crap my face would be cleared of hair right now,,lol
The whole problem of your family and friends seeing you as Trans is the Outfits,, Outfits are not your friend,, They see you one way right now,, Jumping out of the closet wearing something totally different is Not the way to go about being trans,, Once you change then you dress the person.
Clothes don't do it,, Me and my wife can wear the same exact thing,, Shorts T shirt and flip flops,,All gender neutral stuff, And if you look female after the medicine kicks in your there. Most can't get there without it,, So forget the Outfits believe it or not. If you jump out in a Gorilla costume then what do you think they would say?
If you look male dress male,, If you look in between dress in between,, If you look female dress female. It will come after and only after you Step on the Bridge. I just wish I could let you step on the Bridge to see but I can't,, Only you can do it,, No number of post and advice can help here,, It can educate and help guide you to it but you have to take a leap of faith!