Sexual arousal

[thomson737]

Hello,

I hope this post is appropriate.

I just wondered if any other males get aroused when dressing up in either lingerie or in full woman mode? The reason I ask is I wondered if there was a way at all to control it? Id love to be able to slip things on without getting a fully aroused. I think the best solution is to not think about it all that much. After a while, my 'excitement' does fade and I go back to normal as if I'm wearing normal male clothes. But sometimes it can't be helped. The most annoying thing is trying slip on some underwear, which is impossible without anything slipping out.

So, generally do men get aroused or does it have to be something specific when getting changed into feminine garments? Any solutions?

[JanePeterson]

Used too.. With practice not quite so bad anymore, just a low but constant sensation of feeling sexy ;)

[Beverley Sims]

No solution as I see it is a natural phenomenon, you just have to learn to regulate it.

[Sky]

Keep your panties in the freezer until you wear them.

[pamela7]

it varies, familiarity can reduce it, but surely the arousal is a big part for many of us, of the whole experience ;-)

[adrienner99]

Ummm...YES. Always get aroused during the process of dressing. Makes me wonder how much of my situation is true crossdressing or just a fetish for heels, satin, lipstick....

[vixenvicki]

Not so much anymore. When I was younger I was dressing for the arousal. Something about it being taboo I think. As my femme side matured, I started to dress like an everyday girl, instead of always putting on lingerie, and just wanted to express my femme self. With that, the arousal part went away.

Every now and again, I'll still put on lingerie to heighten arousal, but it's no longer the primary goal of dressing for me.

[Rachael Leigh]

I would say it's very common fetish or not I mean being able to dress pretty should get you excited.
For me it's not so much anymore sense it's so much more normal for me now.
However it still does happen usually when the makeup starts to go on

[docrobbysherry]

Many here say that for them it was a "passing phase" of their dressing.

I'm 72 and have been dressing for 18 years. I'm STILL waiting for this exciting side effect of my dressing to pass!:o

[ClosetED]

Many crossdressers progress from that stage. Some start during ealy puberty and sexual release often ends the session of dressing and guilt remains. There are labels for that-fetishistic tranvestism. As many years of this pass, many move to stage where there is arousal but not ending in orgasm. Then many move to where there is no sexual arousal from dressing, but a feeling of being at peace, calm, happiness. I get aroused now with thoughts of having someone be excited and desire to be with me while I am dressed. Having a DADT wife makes that very difficult.
Hugs, Ellen

[kittie60]

It use to, but not anymore. I guess living full time. I have gotten use to it. Or he has.

[Tracii G]

Maybe the first few times.

[Amy Fakley]

No solution as I see it is a natural phenomenon, you just have to learn to regulate it.

254384

What you did there. I see it, lol

[tiffanynjcd24]

I always have that type of feeling everytime I thinking about dressing up. It's too explicit to say on here

[gokatiegirl]

Yes, I get sexual rush getting dressed. Always have and suspect I always will.

[LelaK]

It was never much of a problem for me. I'd get aroused occasionally, esp. if I hadn't dressed for a while. But it's mostly always been just a nice feeling wearing feminine skirts etc.

[Crissy Kay]

I still get turned on every so often while I am dressing, or dressed. But for me now, it is just the fun of dressing that I enjoy.

[ronni white]

Sometimes when first getting dressed. It passes very quickly and I get settled in.

[Sallee]

I think it is common for younger cds but it fades with time. It is still a turn but not always sexual. I think we are kidding ourselves if we say it isn't

[EllieMayxxx]

Im 19 on the 28th and whenever i get dressed i get aroused, it usually lasts 30 minutes or so then it's like im wearing normal clothes.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Being that im 27, I'm still get that excitement of wearing women stuff

[Teresa]

Thomson,
I checked your age and think back to the same age, I didn't dress for any length of time, it was purely sexual mostly with a partner . Dressing and arousal wasn't a problem , I also didn't have the time to spend dressed for any length of time even if I wanted to, that didn't really come until my forties when dressing and sexual needs began to even out .

[JessieA]

If dressing sexy for effect yes. But normally not and when it does I think it more the sensual feeling of soft silky fabrics on freshly shave legs then the act of dressing.

[Brooke B]

When I first started dressing I did all the time. As time went on and as I dressed more frequently, it slowly passed. It isn't as prominent as it used to be but I still get the sexy feeling any time I dress.

[Vickie_CDTV]

At the risk of sounding very, well, male... why is it being arousing a problem?

Being a transvestic fetishist does not make someone a bad person.

[JanePeterson]

When I first started dressing I did all the time. As time went on and as I dressed more frequently, it slowly passed. It isn't as prominent as it used to be but I still get the sexy feeling any time I dress.

thats exactly how i feel!!

[Jamie390]

Like so many others have commented, I used to. But it has faded with time. I still get excited, but now it is more of a sexy feeling, not sexual arousal.

[Lori Kurtz]

As a fetishistic crossdresser, my dressing was all about the sexual arousal. I would have to accomplish my tucking before putting on any makeup or female clothing of any kind--otherwise the tuck would become impossible. Although I no longer actively dress, I'm sure that if I tried it, I would still get the same thrill, and that every dressing session would end the way they always used to when I did (even though at my age, I would look ridiculous if I tried to become the hot-looking babe . I still get plenty of vicarious thrills from some of the postings of the girls here.

[JosieH]

I don't get aroused by dressing but, I do get aroused by guys being aroused by my dressing.
Although, so far, that's not been in person.
Let's see how THAT goes.
Frankly, I think I'm going to feel very vulnerable.
It's hard to fight or even run in 5" stillettoes. Lol

[MissDanielle]

I only get aroused when I have trans related thoughts, not putting on the clothing. The clothing makes me feel sexier than any men's clothing ever will.

[Victoria Demeanor]

Okay I guess I'm the odd on this. For me it actually has an opposite affect. This was a big problem for me when I was trying to figure this out. For a long time I tried to convince myself that this was a sexual fetish and couldn't figure out why I lost interest as soon as I started to put on anything girly. I have so many feelings when I wear women's cloths and become Victoria, but arousal isn't one of them. don't get me wrong I'm not downing anyone as I really wish that was the case for me.

[Laura28]

When i was young yes and even as i was older and didnt dress that much as i was busy with family and life, now as i am older and have more time no i dont get aroused, for me it a form of relaxing and feeling comfortable. I do find it sexy and with the right thoughts i do get aroused.

[Janine cd]

Having reached my senior years, the occasion when any sexual arousal occurs has diminished exponentially.

[Robin414]

Oddly enough, no desire at all when I'm a chic....despite the fact I'm not gay and I kinda turn me on...still nothing 😐

[Adriana Moretti]

Im not gunna lie....i still get a little wet if I put the right outfit on...just a little

[Gretchen_To_Be]

The moment you slip your foot in the first heel...then, as you watch yourself in the mirror, admiring your smoothly shaved legs in sheer hose, you raise one leg upwards behind you to don the other heel. You straighten your skirt, loving the sheen on your legs and how the heels lengthen them...

[Angie G]

Not always but it happens to me now and then.

[PaulaQ]

Some thoughts:
1. Sexual arousal doesn't make what you are experiencing any more or any less legitimate.
2. My sexual arousal while CDing continued up until the time I came out to myself as a woman, and then it ended rather abruptly. Not too much longer after that, my entire sex drive crashed, and I had none. This was all prior to HRT.
3. One weird consequence of that - and I think this is pretty unique to me - is that my interest in pornography and in masturbating are both basically non-existent. I have a sex drive, it's fine. But despite the fact that I had an enormous porn collection - nearly a terabyte (long since deleted), and that I used to masturbate quite a lot because sex with my wife was so terribly unsatisfying - I've not been able to get much of anything from either of those activities. I have sex quite often now, but I just don't care about porn or masturbation. It's not that anything is wrong with them - I think they are totally fine. They just do nothing for me anymore.
4. If you aren't in a hurry to get out of your clothes when CDed, and / or the sexual desire has gone away, my gender therapist asserts that this is a sign your gender issues are more about gender identity, rather than just expression.

[Usulsjourney]

With me there is a range of feeling from mildly erotic up to complete arousal. I have never dressed longer then a few hours at a time to see if it fades, but it would be just fine with me if it did not. That may take some of the fun out of it for me. Just being able to feel a strap rubbing across my thigh or the snugness of the nylon on my legs under my cloths keeps me excited.

[Michele14]

I used to get aroused when I first dressed but now not as as much. I like it the most when I would add forms to my bra and wore a skirt

[Julie Denier]

The moment you slip your foot in the first heel...then, as you watch yourself in the mirror, admiring your smoothly shaved legs in sheer hose, you raise one leg upwards behind you to don the other heel. You straighten your skirt, loving the sheen on your legs and how the heels lengthen them...

Yeah, that would do it ... ;)

[Lily Catherine]

I'm still young enough to get aroused by even thinking of dressing. It does annoy me a little. Unless I'm wearing something exceptionally sexy, it subsides after a short while.

[Helen_Highwater]

If I get the opportunity to dress then I'm usually so focused on the process of becoming fem that arousal doesn't rear it's ugly head, if you'll pardon the saying. That wasn't the case in the early years as not understanding myself I thought of it as more of a fetish. Better self understanding of what it is that I want from being dressed has changed what I see in the mirror. I suppose it's no longer dressing to be a sexy woman it's dressing to be womanly.

[tictac43]

exactly how I feel most of the time :)


Used too.. With practice not quite so bad anymore, just a low but constant sensation of feeling sexy ;)

[Alytv]

I think I'm the same as many others by the sounds of it. Definitely when younger but that may be due to a range of factors. There is less instant "arousal" these days when I get in to Aly mode but there are still times when that does happen - the same as when in guy mode I guess. For Aly, it may just be the feeling of the dress lining or moving my foot in and out of a heeled shoe that does it. Needless to say when younger that would have turned me into an instant rocketship!

Aly

[Dana44]

Yeah we get aroused. My SO said that she gets it from me in girl mode too often. LOL Now, I think that shows that we are great when we are fem.

[Laurana]

At some point clothes will be clothes and you won't get aroused.

[sometimes_miss]

So, generally do men get aroused
Yes. Generally men get aroused, well, pretty much all the time. At one point right after puberty I thought that the clothes had something to do with it, but it turned out I was just horny all the time, so it didn't really matter whether I was dressed as a boy, a girl, or naked. I was just horny. Pretty much all the time. Louis CK explains is best: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTok5l45OJo

[Buttercup's Princess]

Hehe, I certainly think that my boyfriend gets aroused when he gets dressed, its very adorable to watch him become aroused by himself as he slips on his underwear. When he is not around, and I am arousing myself, I find that the thought of him dressed can bring me to organism. I'm not really sure why this is, it's silly to admit, but it has been working.

[gokatiegirl]

Being a transvestic fetishist does not make someone a bad person.

Kinda makes them a tv not just a cd

[Vintage4sarah]

Even at my age, I still get aroused when I become Sarah. During the "prep" time, I concentrate so much on getting my looks right that the arousal takes second place to the total package that I see in the mirror. The more time I spend enfemme when I get the chance and when I am with others a feeling of serenity and joy at being Sarah replaces the urges that I use to get 20+ years ago. Of course, there are those times when all this excitement can lead to the "great release".

[Lacey New]

Oh hell, I won't lie. Of course I can get excited. when I was younger, it was instantaneous - put on panties and away we go. As I have gotten older, things are much more controlled - but the right look will do it.

[prene]

I can when I start, but not as much now.

I tuck very well so I may get tight but I am under control and no signs.

[DonnaP]

:battingeyelashes:I believe in time you will get dressed and you will not be aroused I know when I first started I would be hard for Hours then In time I could dress and just be so comfortable in Women's clothing. I can't remember the last time I was aroused while dressed it just becomes the norm. At least for me. Follow your dream and all will work out.

Hugs DonnaP:battingeyelashes:

[Lacy PJs]

Age & certain meds have really curtailed my excitement but I still notice a "stirring" if I se something that I think I'd like to wear.

Lacy PJs

[glynnis]

I always get aroused when dressed,maybe theats why my much younger wife encourages me.

[MarciManseau]

I always get aroused when dressed, maybe that's why my much younger wife encourages me.

You go, girlfriend :) Love making is always better when you're wearing something pretty

[Gillian Gigs]

PaulaQ quote;
4. If you aren't in a hurry to get out of your clothes when CDed, and / or the sexual desire has gone away, my gender therapist asserts that this is a sign your gender issues are more about gender identity, rather than just expression.

There may be a some truth to this, but not necessarily for everyone. I remember that I couldn't get out of the clothes fast enough after the deed, and some one on another site suggested that I needed to get past this point. Surpising to me, it was more difficult than I could have imagined. Yet, I pushed through and I am glad that I did. It is like a different state of mind, in which I have a peace within me, and that I have nothing to prove to myself. This is probably when I accept myself the most without any conditions.

Until the libido reaches zero there is still sexual arousal, it can just take alot more time than when I was younger. That's ok too.

[ashleyjane15]

Normally when I dress, I don't get aroused. But it's the intimacy, like when my s/o does my make up on occasion that arouses me. But when I do all this stuff myself... nothing.

[steffigirl37]

Although I am almost 60, I still quickly become aroused when dressing, thinking of dressing, or seeing something I really would like to wear. I don't feel as if it will ever fade.

I do like to dress and become fully en fem, sit and relax and let the arousal subside. To me it feels very euphoric.

[BLUE ORCHID]

At your tender young age I would say that everything sounds normal. ...:daydreaming:...

[Lorna]

Several contributors have put it well. Arousal might once have been the goal but when I realised that this happened too quickly and, in effect, prevented me from enjoying the clothes for longer, I slowly learned to control it. That allowed me to dress, enjoy being dressed and doing other things while dressed, making the whole experience more satisfying. Very rarely, when the opportunity presented itself, I could be dressed most of the day, go to bed and get up next morning to put my femeinine clothes back on for the start of the second day...and still control the arousal.

[LydiaL]

Generally for me dressing and wearing women's clothing does not lead to much arousal. I just feel so good when I dress that I get into my "pink fog" comfort zone.

The exception is when dressed in lingerie and lying in bed dreaming about being taken. No control at all. :cheer:

[Vicky Peters]

Yes, I still get aroused while getting dressed, it just takes more time to arrive.

[CarlaWestin]

I'm still young enough to get aroused by even thinking of dressing. It does annoy me a little. Unless I'm wearing something exceptionally sexy, it subsides after a short while.

Yeah, I'm still young enough, too! And, it doesn't annoy me at all.
My CD'ing started >50 years ago as a way to be in the physical company of a female of my choosing and desire.

[GeorgeA]

Yes, I get sexual rush getting dressed. Always have and suspect I always will.

Don't say "always will", you will get old like many of us here.
Then you "will always" wish for it.

Note the reversal of the phrase.

[lingerieLiz]

It depends getting dressed to have clothes on doesn't excite me. On the other hand getting dressed to be sexy can. I believe women go through the same thing. Think about it getting up and throwing on clothes doesn't turn women on. Putting on sexy lingerie and a pretty dress is a prelude to sexy times.

[Dana3]

Not so much anymore. When I was younger I was dressing for the arousal. Something about it being taboo I think. As my femme side matured, I started to dress like an everyday girl, instead of always putting on lingerie, and just wanted to express my femme self. With that, the arousal part went away.

Every now and again, I'll still put on lingerie to heighten arousal, but it's no longer the primary goal of dressing for me.

Pretty much the same for me? When I wan younger? Most definately, but now? Its more about self expression

[Nancie64]

:)pDidn't know as a male and slipping on some soft, sexy clothes, that I wasn't suppose to get aroused. I have been dressing for just over 50 years and still get excited when dressing. Usual end the session making love with my SO and off for a cozy evening and a good night rest. Last evening Nancie picked up my SO from work and went to the next bigger town and she put gas on, went and picked up a pizza and went to the lake and ate. I (Nancie) took a walk along the lake. It was a cool 35 degrees but felt good on the stockings and under the skirt. Got home and had a wonderful evening of love making, only the skirt came off. Thanks for my accepting SO. Love her

[irene9999]

I do get turned on thinking about dressing in a sexy outfit or even after looking at myself in the mirror while dressed. I guess it makes dressing more fun :)

[Bunty]

The moment you slip your foot in the first heel...then, as you watch yourself in the mirror, admiring your smoothly shaved legs in sheer hose, you raise one leg upwards behind you to don the other heel. You straighten your skirt, loving the sheen on your legs and how the heels lengthen them...

Heaven! :o

I am under no illusions. I have a fetishistic interest in female elegance. It is a thrill to see it and it is a thrill to experience it. Nothing turns me on more than the combination of the two. Feminisation makes all the difference to me, to the extent that I love to be penetrated myself. My most explosive orgasms come when my wife and I are both clad in hosiery, heels and lingerie and she takes me as much as I take her.

Why look for a "solution" to sheer pleasure? :)

[MissDanielle]

I don't even get aroused by the VS website anymore.

[Katie01]

I am often sexually aroused when shopping and/or wearing girl clothes. I also have a heightened sense of awareness, of my body and my surroundings the few times I've ventured out dressed. I enjoy both states.

[Amanda Monica]

Even at my age, I still get aroused when I become Sarah. During the "prep" time, I concentrate so much on getting my looks right that the arousal takes second place to the total package that I see in the mirror. The more time I spend enfemme when I get the chance and when I am with others a feeling of serenity and joy at being Sarah replaces the urges that I use to get 20+ years ago. Of course, there are those times when all this excitement can lead to the "great release".

Well said. Prep time, when trying to complete a look, requires focus and puts arousal on the back burner for me. At least the sexual kind.
Yet I have noticed a different kind of arousal -- a more tactile, sensual one.

[MarciManseau]

Sometimes I get a mental or emotional arousal when I look really good. It's like taking a drug (which I don't ever do) and I feel high on live. Maybe it's that I love how I look so much when I really fuss.

[Amanda Monica]

I am often sexually aroused when shopping and/or wearing girl clothes. I also have a heightened sense of awareness, of my body and my surroundings the few times I've ventured out dressed. I enjoy both states.

You're onto something with awareness. When I finally ventured out dressed, I become more aware of my body, for the better. Especially walking and how/where my body is centered.

[Maryesther M.]

Yep. Sexual arousal is where it's at! The whole process, browsing, buying, receiving, handling, selecting, dressing, narcism, taking photographs of poses, editing and viewing CD photos all have a sexual motivation.....and I'm now 73!

I never take revealing or pornographic photos, however.

M.

[prettytoes]

Add another to the "Yes" column. Especially if it's something new or different. There is only time it becomes a slight problem. When I get a pedicure and the super-hot nail tech is polishing my toenails, it takes a bit until I can get out of the chair and stand up. There's just something about a really hot girl painting my toes...Oh baby! I usually wear tighter panties and thicker men's underwear on top to help control it a little bit.

[XdresserAshley]

I started around age 12 and am now 27 and I still get very excited every dang time. Sometimes it's a curse and shortens my time dressed hehe :)

Ash

[JanePeterson]

I posted on this thread a few weeks ago, but updating to report the arousal is gone... Completely... Bit of a relief actually

[Acastina]

Some thoughts:

4. If you aren't in a hurry to get out of your clothes when CDed, and / or the sexual desire has gone away, my gender therapist asserts that this is a sign your gender issues are more about gender identity, rather than just expression.

I think your therapist is spot-on. I'm pretty much full-time at home, and habitually casual. If you do this all the time, it becomes a little strange to be clacking around the hard floors in heels and hose; girl jeans, a nice top, and flats for me, plus jewelry and light makeup.

I'm sorry for my fellow senior citizens who report that the physical thrill doesn't work for them any more. Mine shows no sign of letting up at 67, and in fact seems even a little stronger than ever, but it's a sometimes thing. To use your therapist's terminology, the expression (especially full-boat femmy) is arousing for most of us and leads to the usual mechanism of release, but if it's identity as well (or instead), it's hardly an every-time trigger.

There is an emotional arousal that's inescapable, a feeling of rightness and relief. I can clean up in a suit and tie and look the part, but, meh; doesn't do a thing for me, mildly depressing, in fact. Any form of girly and that emotional thing is just there, a peculiar combination of mild excitement and serenity.

The only time I'm in a hurry to get out of my clothes is to respond to unexpected company that can't be ignored...:notlistening:

[jjacobson]

When I first started it was mainly sexual arousal, now though after being able to dress much more regularly it has just started to feel right (if that makes sense). Even if I climax dressed it just feels like is should still be dressed up, no more guilt, shame or desire to undress etc.

[1958Candi]

Absolutely yes! I always get aroused when getting dressed, particularly when putting on stockings. But after a few minutes the body returns to normal so I never viewed it as a problem that required a solution..

[Bruce64]

I let it linger and it fades away, if I dwell on the arousal part then I do not enjoy wearing the fem stuff

[docrobbysherry]

Yep. Sexual arousal is where it's at! The whole process, browsing, buying, receiving, handling, selecting, dressing, narcism, taking photographs of poses, editing and viewing CD photos all have a sexual motivation.....and I'm now 73!

I never take revealing or pornographic photos, however.

M.
I'm younger than u of course, Mary. Only 72. And, about 9 out of 10 every pics I take of Sherry can't be posted here or on FB!:o

[ShelbyDawn]

My earliest memories of cross dressing are at the age of five or six. I am pretty sure it was not a sexual thing then and it really never has been for me.
There is a certain feminine aspect of my personality that has always just needed to be expressed.

We are all different and there is no right or wrong way to enjoy dressing. We all have something a little different we want or need to get from it.
Take your time and enjoy yourself, whatever that means to you. As with most things you do, your enjoyment will grow and mature as you do.

[Tanya+]

Arousal can so mess with the fit of a girl's panties and skirts. I use tape and plenty of it, partly to conceal and partly to bind/deter. Something tucked between the cheeks also helps with a nice girly walk, somehow. Self restraint for me has always been easier when using actual restraints.

[thomson737]

I just wanted to say that I've been reading through each response. I have to say thank you to all for the responses. The only thing that kills it for me is trying to wear underwear without getting excited.

[Sarah-RT]

The only time I get aroused from dressing is when im tucking for obvious reasons but I can become aroused while dressed for separate reasons such as something raunchy on tv or whatever. The only other exception would be if I go to sleep as sarah and then when I wake up and natures runs its course.

[Julia1984]

"Mild excitement and serenity". You hit my nail square on the head. Mind you I'm not even 50...yet!

[Jenny22]

Sexual arousal, dressing? At 80, absolutely ....... no way!!! I don't even think about such matters, now. I don't even have to tuck anymore to keep "it" controlled ... one of the lesser accepted benefits of extreme aging.
Jenny22

[Lori Kurtz]

I'm younger ... Only 72. And, about 9 out of 10 every pics I take of Sherry can't be posted here or on FB!:o

I'm even younger ... only 70. So if you've posted those 9 out of 10 pics of Sherry anywhere, I'd sure find it exciting to see them!

[Tina Davis]

It's not the dressing that arouses me, it what happens after. Let's just say that being a damsel in distress is one of my biggest turn ons. ;)

[daviolin]

It used to be problem with me. But now that I'm older its just the way I dress. Yes it is still very sensual, but not awkward, if you know what I mean. Daviolin

[Cheryl T]

I would pose the question..."Don't some women get excited when they dress?"
I used to, but over time it became less and less the objective while enjoying expressing my femininity became the goal.

[Sandie70]

Humm... When I'm getting dressed it's all about achieving the "look," becoming a woman for a day or night. Then I'm faced with a number of things when it comes to sexuality: :o

1. If I'm wearing pants, I have to tuck - tightly. This tends to keep any sexual arousal purely on a cerebral level.

2. However, when I wear a skirt, I don't have to tuck. This helps to free my libido quite a bit... allowing me to flirt - or even consider more "physical" considerations. Without worrying about, well, you know what.

3. But mostly it's about transforming into the woman within... looking good and feeling feminine. Sexual thoughts are fun and good, but are never a key player in my crossdressing.

[Kiersten]

I still get aroused but its not as prominent as it once was.

[Tanya+]

Well I was a bit too "cocky" when i replied, then yesterday i had a rare chance to dress and had just squeezed into my new faux leather pants over pantyhose (with bra and lace top.. i was feeling a bit ****ty). i was tightly taped and tucked away, with no room for any funny business, and just bending over to secure the buckles on my 4 1/2" heels.. and uh oh.. out of nowhere a wet day-dream. So embarrassed.

[threeheavenshigh]

I am very much into CD for arousal.

[Julia Welch]

Every time !

[MsVal]

My experience is quite different from most, and is similar to PaulaQ's.

Like others, I was quite fond of explicit images and self-satisfaction. That desire diminished considerably when I began this journey thinking that I was a crossdresser. It vanished entirely when I accepted my gender dysphoria for what it is and embraced my transgender femininity.

Now, they are just clothes. Feminine clothing gets me no more aroused than masculine clothing.

While I do enjoy dressing up and looking good, it's not for sexual arousal.

Best Wishes
MsVal

[CONSUELO]

When very young it was extremely sexual. Even now being dressed gives one a pleasant sensual/sexual buzz but that does not always result in sexual gratification. However the reverse is always true. I cannot contemplate sexual activity without being dressed. Sex in male mode has no interest.

[MarciManseau]

Well I was a bit too "cocky" when i replied, then yesterday i had a rare chance to dress and had just squeezed into my new faux leather pants over pantyhose (with bra and lace top.. i was feeling a bit ****ty). i was tightly taped and tucked away, with no room for any funny business, and just bending over to secure the buckles on my 4 1/2" heels.. and uh oh.. out of nowhere a wet day-dream. So embarrassed.

That's why I always wear an Always thin maxipad in my panties - takes care of unexpected thrills :)

[Robyn2006]

This used to be a problem when I was younger. Back then, I'd... well, you know, satisfy myself. Afterwards was nice to just relax into my femme world.
Not so much problem these days where it's all about just being myself.

[SHY KIM]

I find dressing quite arousing. Although I don't feel the need to pleasure myself as I used to. Instead I enjoy the sensual charge that fills me.
A similar type of sensation like the "pink fog" but different in it's own sense. Over the years I learned that it's the chase that's more exhilarating then the actual "kill".

[Lucy Lou]

I am glad that you posted this thread. I find the whole dressing thing arousing. Make up, the lingerie and all. I do feel that this is a part of the feeling of wanting to be feminine, at least for me, and I do feel sensual while dressed and during the process. But, I must say that it isn't just the knowing what I am doing, I think women have such wonderful choices of what they can wear. Every part of the regalia has so many different styles and moods that men's clothing just doesn't have.

I have talked to my sister about this subject, she knows about me and is totally supportive about it, and she can understand why I do what I do.

I usually feel more aroused when I have something new to wear and sometimes when I try a new eye shadow or lip stick. It is not wrong to feel this and I don't always become someone excited while dressing and many others here have said that very thing. If one does feel different while dressed then that is good, but it is not for all. I will alway feel aroused when dressed and am happy about that as should anybody else who feels it. Be what you are, in whatever way it takes.

Kisses Lucy Lou xx

[Brandie.n]

it happens when my nylon covered legs rub each other and my skirt gently brushes my knees.Sends chills up my spine

[Raychel]

When I was younger arousal was a problem, and dressing didn't help at all.
now that I am older I have it more under control, and not an issue at all when dressing
a tight tuck solves that issue. :thinking:

[Annajose]

What I do is I tuck first, once you are properly tucked arrousal does not happen, at least for me

[Claire Cook]

I find Paula and MsVal's responses very intriguing. I wonder if that is part of the difference between CD and TS?

[Mollyanne]

The secret to "not getting aroused" is -----AGE!!!!! Once you get to a certain age the arousal effect almost, I mean ALMOST disappears. Yes, I am at that age but still need, want and will become the woman I was meant to be.

Molly

[glynnis]

I still get aroused when dresssed and I am 73 so age didnt change me.

[threeheavenshigh]

When very young it was extremely sexual. Even now being dressed gives one a pleasant sensual/sexual buzz but that does not always result in sexual gratification. However the reverse is always true. I cannot contemplate sexual activity without being dressed. Sex in male mode has no interest.

Here too. I have zero arousal in male mode or (hope this isn't TMI) sex via penetration. Actually, keeps me out of trouble.

[MelanieAnne]

I got major aroused when I was younger. I used to spray a little sunburn spray on myself, which had a cooling and numbing effect. I had an orgasm a couple times while walking down the street, in heels, when my pantyhose were rubbing just a little too much on the front of me, and feeling way too good. I felt my knees buckling, and leaned against a building until it passed, and hoped no one saw me and thought I needed help. True story. Don't have that problem anymore, but I still get aroused.

[Judy-Somthing]

To be serious, I use to get aroused much easier years ago. Now in my late 50s it takes allot more work.

I have to look in the mirror and see a woman, it's allot more work doing makeup and hair but when your reach your goal it's so worth it.

Have fun to slow down the arousal leading to the fireworks wear looser fitting garments in the crotch area.

[Wen4cd]

I've read this entire thread, and now I feel like I'm missing out on something. I've dressed singe I was 7, and I've never been able to be aroused by it at all. I can observe, "yeah, that's an attractive presentation." I know whan I look good and when I don't.

I occasionally try to be aroused drssed, and sometimes I can, but only if I pull other fantasy content into the mix that I DO fetishize, making the dressing esentailly a non-factor in the equation. I've had sex in both modes, and it's essentially the same.

I think I'm a tough nut to crack, even for myself, because I had to be that way in a rough sort of childhood. Sometimes I feel I keep waiting for this magic key to unlock this floodgate of sexual repression, and unleash some repressed highly sexual being within, but maybe I'm just not overly sexual in drive.

Sometimes I wish I had a sexual fetish that owned me. It would be arousing to not be in control of it. Actually, for my, the lack of control would be the arousing part. heh. In a sexual catch 22 I guess.

[Sarasometimes]

I think how long this lasts and to what degree depends on the person. For me it doesn't happen all the time or it may even happen after being dressed for a while. One reason I use control garments for my tuck is this unknown.
My guess is that transexuals may not experience this or if so the reason may be different. Because this happens, doesn't make me a transvestic fetishist or a bad person.

[Lori Kurtz]

Wow ... I'm surprised that some of the girls here report that tucking prevents or reduces sexual arousal. This was never the case for me. Getting tucked--which I always had to do first, because as soon as I had put on anything feminine, the arousal would occur and tucking would become impossible--was a sexy thing in itself, and I found the appearance of that part of my body while tucked to be a very exciting part of my dressup routine. I could be fully aroused while dressed up and tucked, and like some others, could even have an orgasm that way.

[wanda66]

Dressing makes me feel wonderful if arousal is a product of that feeling So be it.
I don't dress to become aroused but I'm sure the ladys become aroused as they put on their silky undies and tuck their breasts into their bra. I believe it's only natural

[Ceera]

Honestly, I have found that tucking properly almost completely eliminates any visible signs of arousal. When I am en-femme, I can read and enjoy porn and yet not be visibly aroused. Mentally I may still enjoy it, but tucking blocks the additional blood flow.

[Sarasometimes]

To clarify, tucking needs to be done first or not at all for me. And as Lori said, the effects of tucking is in itself arousing, that is to see the smooth flat front is a snug pair of leggings or a skirt is awesome. Ceera hit on another point that I can be aroused without the physical effect and I've approached orgasm that way as well.
Coincidentally enough, tomorrow this is a topic I have planned to discuss with my therapist. I would like to better understand this reaction for me. Just FYI, I Don't go to her to be cured!

[gabriella1964]

For me arousal has not happened when dressed, its more like when im dressed i want to be fem and not think about my male side whatsoever. and also as many have said when you get to that age its harder to walk around with a boner like when we was in our 20s. maybe im not the normal.

[kymmieLorain]

in the beginning it was sexual but not so much any more. I think that since I have been dressing ( mostly underdressing) for 20+ years. it became common place. At times I do get a thrill out of dressing. I am human after all. I think.

Kymmie

[Kimberley May]

Course I do. I love women so I enjoy the harmless fetish roleplay. I think there'd be something wrong with me if I didn't get aroused by it. Now if only I had the right understanding woman to intimately share it with, including the chicken fillets. That would be my idea of bliss.

[Diversity]

It used to be a normal part of dressing for me when I was in my teens. Then over the years, the sexual arousal when dressing slowly diminished. Now, it comes and goes, depending on how I am feeling. For the most part, it is not there and my enjoyment comes through the joy of being dressed en-femme, at odd times, when my wife is out of the house shopping or visiting with her girlfriends, and I have a few hours of 'me-time'.
Di