No desire for six months then back again....

[Sarah Louise]

As the title suggests, I've had no desire to dress whatsoever.

One day, about six months ago, I just stopped wanting to do it. I even thought I was over it and contemplated purging the stash (wisely, I didn't as so many on this forum have advised against it). I wondered how I could be such an idiot to contemplate telling my wife and was so glad I never plucked up the courage to do so. I very rarely viewed the forum and if I did, I didn't feel I had much in common with anyone. I got so much done around the house and garden and caught up on my favourite TV shows.

Then, quite suddenly, I find myself fantasising about dressing up, looking longingly at on-line clothes shops and planning my next session. Boy, it was good to be back but I've no idea what triggered it.

What's great about back:


It just feels good.


What's great about taking time off:


No espionage
No creeping around,
No jumping out of my skin every time there's a noise downstairs
No inner turmoil of whether to tell or not
The house and garden won't suffer
I seem to have more spare cash!

[Brandy Mathews]

Sarah
That is so strange how that happens. I'm sure that happens to a lot of people on here. Has happened to me too. I know not to purge though because I know that "Bree" will want out again soon.
Hugs,
Bree :)

[Pat]

It happens. Enough people report it that it must be part of a natural cycle. I wouldn't worry about it. Just take a note that next time it happens, put your stuff away neatly for later retrieval. ;)

[JanePeterson]

I have felt/gone thru this process just as you described about every 4 to 6 months for the past 12 years until coming out to my wife a month ago

[Jenniferathome]

...






No espionage
No creeping around,
No jumping out of my skin every time there's a noise downstairs
No inner turmoil of whether to tell or not



I'll add one more: No fear of your wife finding your clothes.

And this is why one should tell one's wife. It never goes away. Whatever lulls occur, the desire is there. Imagine a life with no fears.... it's nice. We all reach a point of needing to confide. I hope that occurs before you are accidentally discovered.

[gokatiegirl]

I just got off a one month hiatus, last week I got dressed and took some pictures. Feels good to dress don't know why I stopped.

[Adriana Moretti]

That sounds about right...especially this time of year....once the fall ( halloween) hits ...followed usually by a peak in January.....winter brings it out in some...not that its a seasonal thing...but in a way it is for some. I and others have noticed this trend and Jan is usually the peak. . Like in summer...this place is a graveyard for obvious reasons...I have also had a manufacturer contact me in early fall to tell me about new products for the "crossdressing season" ...so it must be a thing...either way girls come...girls go...but they ALWAYS come back...xoxo

[Tracii G]

Pretty normal so no need to worry.

[Katey888]

Nice to see you back Sarah... :hugs: I suppose... (I mean, you may have wanted it to stop, right...? And you wouldn't need to come back here... :))

You might have had a longer break (I've had years off...) and don't worry about not feeling you have anything in common with the forum in general - it's a big mixture here (I feel the same a lot of the time) and us part-timers are definitely in the minority of posters... Imagine if you consider revealing again and then you have another, longer-term break... :eek: If you're like me, and the need disappears for long periods (or permanently...) that strikes me as a compelling reason why one should keep it to oneself... :)

If you need to immerse yourself in getting all girled-out, you could always just spend a little time away from home and have a bit of an outing...? I can recommend it... :D

Katey x

[Allison-chan]

I have gone thru it. Sadly for me I had rid of my things, which made me regret few years later. But in a positive view my wardrobe got bigger.

[Sarah Louise]

That sounds about right...especially this time of year....once the fall ( halloween) hits ...followed usually by a peak in January....

There might be something in this. Seeing all the girls in their tights makes me think I'm missing out. Bare legs doesn't do it for me.

[docrobbysherry]

I second Katey's suggestion: While you're feeling it? Be Sarah as often as u need to be.

When the desire passes? Do all the things that get neglected when Sarah needs your attention. That way, when Sarah returns, u can devote yourself to her with less interruptions!:D

[Jacky Aikou]

Hi Sarah,
I fall into the same cycle every year - roughly half the year dressing and half the year surpressing.
I call it my seasonal gender disorder. ;)
Actually my last hiatus was about a year and a half - spring 2014 to fall 2015 - but that was mostly due to our preschooler and growing baby draining my time and energy.
Like you I've learned never to purge, merely to stow away until next time.
I'm lucky in that my wife knows and accepts, so I don't have to stash too deeply. I'll second Jennifer's suggestion that you find a way to confide in your wife soon - it really is such a blessing to have an ally or confidante at home, or at least one less person to hide from!