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[TrishaLake]

So far I have been very lucky...ist of you know I did not tell my wife when I married and in fact hid it to the point where it was changing me personally. Four years ago I came out, and slowly we have been seeing a therapist, I have been reading and working own my own, and I have slowly asked for acceptance rather than force it. Over time, I have gotten it in the bedroom sometimes, slept a few times in a satin nightgown, and gotten my clothes into the closet. Now I also am able to go to parties...
Therapy, building trust and showing her love have all assisted...and I am lucky to have a great women.

[Rachael Leigh]

Yes, you are and wow would love to know the secret, I really want my wife to accept me. I want her to know I love her but there is this thing between us and she just can't stand it. I know it's hard on her but I really want her understanding so bad

[Teresa]

Trish,
I would say you're progressing well, it's so good to hear it. Sometimes you will have to take a backward step !
I sleep in a satin nightie every night, my wife knows where my clothes are but may not make it to my wardrobe. I've had to do counselling alone, it's not easy to progress when you can't discuss it with a partner.

[MarciManseau]

If a SO loves you enough and is willing to work on your relationship, then acceptance may more easily occur. It's well worth the time and expense of seeing a therapist.

Just remember, love conquers all.... sometimes :)

[heatherdress]

Good for you, Trish. You are doing what you need to do in a caring way. Good for your wife. Your work together on this issue may also grow your intimacy, communications and love as a couple. I am happy for you.

[Heidi Stevens]

Trish, I know how special this part of your life, your wife, means to you. We have the exact same situation: we both love our wives, we kept our female sides from them, we live in a very intolerant area of the U.S., there's not much peer support nearby, and we have non supportive spouses.
That's a pretty dense mine field we are walking in, sister! We went thru both couples and individual counseling and I've worked these pat two years trying to slow expand Heidi's acceptance also. I wish you further luck as we continue on our journeys.

[TrishaLake]

Thank you guys for the comments...It is and was allot of work, time and patience for both of us...of course she was willing that is the huge part...I do love her to death but I also know she loves me....women was honesty and the ability for her mate to be patient and understanding...I am still working on it...but I see a little light...:)

[Kelly63]

I too so want my wife to meet and help Kelly but I am taking baby steps as it has only been 3 months since I was outed.

[bridget thronton]

It is a slow process - in my case it started with my being honest with my wife and then accepting her comfort level (she is now fairly accepting)