Perspective

[KrissyP]

How we look at the world at different times is interesting. I find that as I dress more and more en femme I look at the world a little differently. This is particularly noticeable regarding women.

Let me be clear, I like women...a lot. My wife is till my fantasy girl in so many ways.

However as I see women around me these days, I realize I am looking at them more closely than ever. Yes, I still notice their figure and whether they are attractive, but find that I am just as likely to be assessing their outfit. Does it go together well? What does that style do for their figure and presentation? How is their makeup and hair done?

All my life up until this point as a guy, I would notice the outward, but might feel the sexual arousal. Now it is more about how would that outfit look on me? Where does she shop? How does that look fit with my personal style? OMG, I can't believe she is wearing that!

I think I stare even more closely than ever, but with a different perspective. Not sure what to make of that except that I enjoy the new level of analysis. My sexual interests haven't really changed, but I do think I am more sensitive to how a woman/me would present herself and protect herself with a man.

Does anyone else get challenged by new or different perspectives on gender/sexuality as well?

[pamela7]

yes, it would be natural for anyone to start noticing differences. There's a old indian saying about first walking 100 miles in another man's moccasins before criticising him. We learn so much about the female by dressing and observing nonsexually.

[kittie60]

Yes I have and still do the same thing. Its funny how you learn things by watching.

[Sarah Louise]

Yes, while I may notice an attractive woman, I'm more likely admiring what she wears. It's the whole woman package that I find attractive.

[docrobbysherry]

Hell yes. Altho in my case old age may play a role in how I look at women now.

But, all those perspectives and more have changed for me and continue to.

If those guys that hit on me last week had done so when I first started dressing, I mayhave run awayor decked them.

[Dana44]

I remember when I was a consultant. I was at a company and on a break, I saw a female. Nice tall heels, blue skirt and white blouse very pretty. walking across the parking lot where I had the side view of her. I was totally mesmerized by her female beauty. I'm quite sure that we do look at their ways far more than men do with a different perspective. But oh yes the other thoughts also.

[Beverley Sims]

I have learned over the years that being a good observer gives me a different outlook to regular males as to how I view women.

[Rachael Leigh]

No question I look at womens attire and makeup and such much more then I use to now that I go out dressed. I don't want to look to strange, even if I am a guy presenting as a women.

[Rachelakld]

I think age is also a factor, when I was younger and more motivated, T&A where the focus points, but now I'm fussier and want the whole package (like my wife has).
Having said that, my girl side has the hots for this 1 special guy

[Kandi Robbins]

I have had the same sort of change in my perspective. I am still very attracted to a beautiful woman, but much more so in how she presents herself. Beautiful eyes and an excellent makeup job draw my attention much more than ever. I'm not going to lie, I'm a breast man, but for me it's all about how they're presented, not necessarily size or even how much skin is visible. Now my mind immediately calculates the whole outfit in terms of that split second assessment as to whether or not to continue looking at a woman. Also, my definition of beauty has changed (not to sound maudlin here) as I have begun to see beauty in terms of how kind the person is and that is simply because in my first year presenting myself as female on occasion (and fooling no one), I have received far too many kindnesses to even count at this time. And I remember each and every one of them. Funny how this whole thing has changed me.

[Teresa]

Krissy,
I find it hard not to look, the observations are sometimes at different levels, sometimes pure attraction male to female, then just how they dress without thinking what people think, or how I'd love to put that outfit together to finally thinking I'd never look like that, did she really look in the mirror this morning.

Have you ever thought where these thoughts come from, if it's a female side do GGs have similar thoughts about other women apart from the attraction of course.
I'm sure we've all seen the way women look each other up and down, and I have to smile sometimes when I overhear my wife on the phone to her sister or friend talk about what someone was wearing, the things they say !!

[Karen RHT]

How a woman presents herself has always fascinated me. I admire and respect well dressed women of any age, shape, etc. When they carry them self well, smile, and come across as approachable and friendly, I smile back and compliment them for their style and charm. I doubt that part of me has changed, and hopefully, it never will.

What has changed, is how much thought and effort I've put in trying to emulate a well dressed woman. I find myself thinking more and more about what I can do to improve my presentation.


Karen

[KrissyP]

Yes, I have often heard that women check out each much more critically. Now I am one! (sort of)

[Tracii G]

Sure I think most of us here have felt that way.

[Robin777]

Krissy
I think the same way. So you aren't the only one. The older I get the more I have been doing it. When I was younger, it was a lot of checking out the figure and the attributes that I am attracted to and little on how they were dressed. Now I still check out their attractiveness, but now its more on overall presentation. What they are wearing ,how they have their hair.how the outfit looks on them. I also wonder where they got the clothes If I like the outfit. Then there are the ones I wonder what they were thinking before they walked out the door. I make comments to my wife when I see those. Sometimes I wonder what she thinks when I discreetly point them out. If she thinks that I am getting a little too feminine.

[Donna St. Marten]

It use to be when I saw an attracative well dressed woman I would wonder what it would be like to be with her. Now I wonder what it would be like to be wearing her clothes.

[Jane G]

I think once we get past the initial thrill of dressing, we most all start to observe women differently, It's only natual, we like to wear the same things, so we observe and compete to some extent.