I'm not a CrossDresser

[Judy-Somthing]

I just like/love/need to wear women's clothing.
Heels, pantyhose, girdle, Bra, slip, dress, jewelry, makeup, and wig.
And when I'm not doing that I'll do construction or car repair but not in my dress, wouldn't want to rip it or get it dirty.
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[MissDanielle]

If you aren't CD, you're trans.

[Rachelakld]

Know how you feel, I've got to get changed just to spray paint wife car as metalic silver would kill my dress.

[AllieSF]

Call yourself whatever you like or leave that space blank. However, people will call you what they think you are from CD to TG, to the unknowing maybe a TS, or pervert, weirdo, whatever. Not knowing anymore than what you have stated here, I would call you a TG/CD.

[Judy-Somthing]

well I guess I am a Cross-dresser.
In the passed I Purged/threw out so many collections of cloths.

I wish my wife could part of this, she so cool but Cross-dressing scars her to death.

This if FUN right?

[AllieSF]

Yes Judy it is or can be fun. I am not sure if you are out to your wife, but as others will recommend do that if you can. What you have will probably not go away. If you get a workable don't ask - don't tell result, that can be very workable for some and is much better than being totally in the closet. As for having your wife actually participate in this, you need to let her know that "this" exists. That takes good communication. With good communication and the white elephant out in the room somewhere, you have a better chance to eventually get her more used to this side of you. However, SO participation is rare on this site so don't get your hopes up too high for that one. Good luck and enjoy.

[flatlander_48]

Conversely, I have never purged although I have been building a wardrobe for ~10 years...

DeeAnn

[Judy-Somthing]

I've purged about four times over the Years thinking (this is Ft up what am I doing) then I would have to collect all the items again.
Now I think this is cool, this is me.
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[Tonya Rose]

Judy, Dont be afraid of messing up a dress ,skirt, heels , nails ,ETC, working around the house in them. THEY ARE REPLACEABLE!!!!!!!!! Enjoy wearing them whatever you are doing. Whenever you can YOLO! I an in construction also and have a farm. And wear all I can whenever i can and dont worry about it!

[Dana44]

Yeah I've purged a few times and now I'm not doing that again. Wish I had some of the things I got rid of. But if your wife does not understand. Look up some of the DADT threads and see if that will work for you.

[tanyagurl76]

Yeah, I have purged several times. I have often thought about what a waste. But then I re-build my wardrobe, including dresses, bras, panties, corsets, stockings, HEELS, (OMG Heels), wigs, make up, jewelry. Looking forward to an upcoming trip to Florida so I can go out again.

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Yeah, I have purged several times. I have often thought about what a waste. But then I re-build my wardrobe, including dresses, bras, panties, corsets, stockings, HEELS, (OMG Heels), wigs, make up, jewelry. Looking forward to an upcoming trip to Florida so I can go out again.

[Meghan4now]

Reminds me of a scene in the Shawshank Redemption. Andy is asked what he did to get sent to prison
Andy says "Nothing, I'm innocent". He then asks "what did you do?"

"Nothing, we're all innocent"

[SHY KIM]

Judy,
I like that phrase "this is me"
I just spent $300 on a dress, some tops, shoes and a nice black full slip from Full Beauty
But it ok, because this is me.
Now I have to convince my SO to think so
Kim

I purged 3 times over the years

[Robin414]

I'm not a CDer myself either, I don't wear 'women's' clothing, I wear my own freakin clothing! I don't dress like a 'woman', I dress in a way I'm comfortable with myself! If you happen to think I'm a woman, ummm, OK ☺

[reb.femme]

I'm genetically male and a CD because I wear clothes designed with women in mind...oh and I love it :heehee:. I'm easily pigeon holed but not everyone is.

Perish the thought on purging, I have enough trouble throwing out my worn or wrong-sized girl clothes. I would just keep on buying clothes, shoes and accessories if I was single, probably leading to financial ruin, so good news that I have a wife to keep me in check :o.

Nice piccy!

Becky

[Teresa]

Judy,
OK so you're a car mechanic that wears inappropriate clothes !

Sorry but transvestite/ crossdresser is the label, like it or not !
Are you ashamed to admit it , otherwise what label would you use when you admit to enjoying wearing clothes of the opposite sex ! Sorry I don't understand statements like this !

I wish my wife could be part of it ! Thinking about I suppose she is , the hate part !!

[Stephanie Julianna]

I understand how you feel. I am not a crossdresser either. I am a person who loves to feel and look feminine at times. I stopped trying to figure out what I'm about. I do believe that I am more female than male in personality even though there is nothing overtly girly about me when in drab. That being said, I have come to enjoy who I am and embrace who I am and use that to the best of my ability. This self appreciation was what gave me the courage to quit the corporate world and become a nurse when I was 45 which I love being and think I am very good at. Twenty one years later I still love nursing and fell I am a better person for the experience. Just wish I could wear my wig and makeup to work.

[jenniferinsf]

nice story stephanie....i try to wear what i can when i can....which is most of the time.

my tool belt however does look better on a red capri pants than my mini skirt......or does it really?

[Angela Marie]

I try not to let stereotyping define my gender. There are always men and women who will do "guy" or "girl" things. From an early age I had feminine feelings. The dressing highlighted and strengthened them. At this point in my life I try to let my feelings and mannerisms flow naturally.

[BillieAnneJean]

All that matters is you are happy. The label is immaterial.

[Angie G]

Well I 'm a crossdresser and love being one. Being called a crossdresser or whatever is not for nothing you are what you are.:hugs:
Angie

[Krisi]

I went through that stage, denying that I was a crossdresser and claiming it was just something I liked to do now and then. I finally admitted to myself that I was, in fact, a crossdresser. It was a big relief to admit it.

It's a bit like going from playing golf now and then to buying all the stuff and playing whenever you get the chance and maybe even traveling to other cities to play golf. At this point you're not just a guy who plays golf, you are a golfer.

[Krististeph]

I like wearing pretty things that I can get dirty- washable stuff. I do a lot of construction about the house, cute khakis & a denim blouse. Work gloves and boots or shoes too. But sometimes I will wear a dress when working- cotton denim or such, like a bygone era farm girl maybe. My wife give me some guff if I'm dressed up doing certain "man things", but that's mostly just teasing and cutting down the silliness of gender activity association.

I also have clothes i would not get anywhere near dirty stuff- not even put the dishes away in!

You can pick what ever you like and dress for it how you want to, that is the point. I think one of the main themes regardless of what we call ourselves or how or why we dress, is that many girls do not appreciate the niceties (I know that might not be considered a 'real' word) they have access to and get to wear in public.

[bridget thronton]

Labels are not important - enjoy what you do if you can.

[Suzie Petersen]

Maybe the Duck test applies here!:

"If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck."

The test implies that a person can identify an unknown subject by observing that subject's habitual characteristics.

On the other hand, things (people) are not always what they seem:


Jessica Rabbit: "I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way"

;)

[Judy-Somthing]

Well I did the math and I figured that I've dressed up at least 3,000 times So I guess I am.

When I was sixteen my mother caught myself and two friends dressed up and said it was a phase I was going through.

Little dose she know that the phase hasn't ended yet.

[trishacd]

Ive purged probably 4 times and still miss some of cutest clothes,once you accept who you are it feels a lot better

[Marianne T]

I just like/love/need to wear women's clothing.
Heels, pantyhose, girdle, Bra, slip, dress, jewelry, makeup, and wig.
And when I'm not doing that I'll do construction or car repair but not in my dress, wouldn't want to rip it or get it dirty.
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You look great in this and the other photo too. You obviously put a lot of time and care into how you look.

But what do you do when you put on a female appearance? There are all sorts of reasons why men put on womens' clothing: Comedic performance (Monty Python, Milton Berle, etc.), sexual fetish, expression of true female self-identity (TSs), attract men (drag queens and gay CDs), expression of suppressed homosexual/bisexual desires, etc. I'm sure there are other reasons that I can't think of off the top of my head.

I find it odd that you needed to specifically say "I'm not a CrossDresser" when you've put in enough effort to look passable as a gg.

Maybe you need to go out and interact with others, meet some CDs, TSs, and others to find out where it is that you want to go with your dressing?

[sabrinaedwards]

I understand your statement. I am a strong male and I enjoy dressing as a female. I feel like a light switch; turn it one way and I am completely male. Turn the switch and I enjoy being a girl. Call it whatever you want, but I enjoy both!
Love, Sabrina

[Meghan4now]

Have you considered that Judy was just making a joke? Really, 3000 home runs and gorgeous photos that I wish I looked as good!

[Judy-Somthing]

I'm sorry, of course it's a joke.
It's hard for me to know exactly why I love it, but I do.

I've been thinking lately and find it kind of strange I spend very little time on my appearance when dressing as a man.
Things like shaving, grooming my hair, choosing clothes.

I had a good laugh while Christmas shopping.

I was at MACY's and took a look in the intimates dept. I had a worn out coat with ripped pockets, pants were wrinkled, hair was a mess, hadn't shaved in days.

They had some very annoying music on and I then made a comment out loud to myself about it. I then noticed a woman near me as she nervously walked away. LOL

[docrobbysherry]

I'm not a CD either, Judy. I'm a female impersonator!:D

And, I beg to differ with u. After seeing your photos, I don't believe u r a CD. You're a female!:battingeyelashes:

[PaulaQ]

Strangely enough, unlike virtually everyone else in the thread, I'm really not a crossdresser! I tried to be one though, if that counts...

[Tanya+]

This week I'm going with 'female role-player'.

[Sky]

I'm not a cd either. I'm an old fag in a dress. :tongueout

[Bruce64]

No dening here, I am a Cross dresser.

[JessiFoxx]

For myself I would say I am not a CD as that to me implies a man in woman's clothes. As I identify myself as wanting to be 100% girl when I dress, but that's just me!

[Rachel Sanders]

I've purged about four times over the Years thinking (this is Ft up what am I doing) then I would have to collect all the items again.
Now I think this is cool, this is me.
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Love this picture! You look so natural.

[Julogden]

I'm puzzled: what do you think a crossdresser is???

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Judy:hugs:, I've been in this program for 69 yrs now and I've been a card carrying member of this awesome forum for over 7yrs. now

I guess that both of those means that I'm a Crossdresser.

I've never purged although I've made some donations over the years. ~~...:daydreaming:...

[Jane G]

Not a cross dresser here either. Society just encourages me to dress like a guy all day at work. So I go along with it for a simple life.

[Maryesther M.]

I CD strictly for private pleasure and haven't come 'out' to anyone. MOH knows, however, having discovered evidence from time to time, which she instantly bins.

I wouldn't dream of attempting to work 'en femme', but a bit of gentle rowing didn't hurt!

M.

[Tracii G]

Krisi I call golf pasture pool.
Golf is an excuse to wear silly clothes that don't match.
All guys that golf are gay because they wear Izod shirts.
I'm not a crossdresser and I'm not really here posting this.
Seriously you can call yourself whatever you want but if you wear womens clothes and you are male you are a crossdresser.

[Lacey New]

I'm not a crossdresser either. I remind myself of that every time I finish doing some wiring, plumbing, tree trimming and working on the cars, then take a shower, put on panties, a bra, pantyhose, a slip and a dress. Then I sit back and say, "Nope, I'm not a crossdresser."

[leannejacobs]

Just take a look at the site you took the time to join to share this information lol accept it girl, you're a Crossdresser.

[Claire Cook]

Well, I don't want to get into the label thing but maybe we are all somewhere in that great transgender spectrum. Judy, I hope you did not purge that lovely dress in pic #10 because it looks great on you!

[Bruce64]

What is Crossdressing? Who knows.

[Mollyanne]

Personally I think you lovely, very feminine looking!!!!!

Molly

[Rabecca]

Don't need a title just haven fun

[Alice_2014_B]

When I'm at work I am almost always thinking about dressing up.
I have purged so many nice heels in the past, of which I've never been able to find again.

[Chelsea B]

Funny, but you look so natural, I see the point.

Inspires me to see how far I could go, If I could only lose the goatee (wife would have to weigh in on that one).