Gay crossdresser

[tiffanynjcd24]

I want to let everyone know that I love to dress up as a woman. I also love guys and other cds attractive. I find them very attractive especially guys. I can't not deny who I am anymore. I thought that i was straight and confused before but i relize the idea of being with a hamdsome sexy guy excites me. I also want to date a sexy cd being that it turns me on. I want to say that I am a gay crossdresser.

BTW I don't find generic girls attractive anymore

[Dana44]

Tiffany, Yeah I understand. I'm bi and the guys I was with said that men do not give them the emotional BS that men don't have.
That's why they like men. Still, I'm with a girl now. They are attractive but I guess can't live with them and can't live without them. I keep thinking I want a man also. LOL

[tiffanynjcd24]

Well its actually true that I feel this way. I am having a hard finding a generic girl especially around my area. I feel that they want me to give up crossdressing. The idea of me dating another cd is awesome like I can relate to them in so many ways. I also thought about dating guys too. I just don't find generic women attractive anymore like they aren't out there

[Adelaide]

When dressed, I continue being sexually aroused by women.....but to a lesser degree. She needs to make me feel like a real woman to be 100% aroused. I also find myself more & more attracted physically to men/CD/Trans. They also seem to respect more who I really am....I also find that I can relate with CD/Trans so much more....

[larry]

Lucky you are so far away. hehehe

[Katey888]

Well done Tiff! :)

It's nice when any of us reaches any sort of conclusion about ourselves and any minor epiphany that helps to dispel our own confusion and build our self-acceptance has to be a good thing, I think... :thinking:

Obviously you realise you're not alone here, and I wish you luck in your search for a kindred soul...

(BTW: Any attractive GGs that like CDs you may come across and discard - feel free to point them in my direction... ;))

Katey x

[Jenny123]

I'm bisexual and find my sexual preferences tend to vary slightly based on who I am around. I also have found that when dressed as a woman, I am much more attracted to men.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Everytime when I tend to dress up or even thinking about dressing up, I always get sexualy aroused by cds and guys more. However I never date a cd or a guy or start a relationship before

It was hard for me to date a gg as a cd being that I live in nj/ny area

Also I have those dreams and desires to date a guy or a cd

[docrobbysherry]

I believe life truly is about trying everything so you'll know what u like. The other side of that coin is u find out what u don't like also!:doh:

Many CD's fantasize about being the woman with a man. I was one.:o

But, over time I realized men were like whale blubber. I don't need to try them to know I won't like male parts!:thumbsdn:

[Robin414]

Congratulations on the self realization/acceptance Tiffany, that's a big thing!

[tiffanynjcd24]

Robin thank you

Sherry at first I didn't want to think about dating a guy but I realize that I having a hard time of finding a gg. I don't know. It just I feel that I want to date a cd or a guy. That's what I like and how I feel. For a long time I always want to date a cd.

[JanePeterson]

I have a hunch that many peoples' CD drive is rooted deeply in unaknowledged/repressed sexual questions.... Myself included - good for you for "going there" - the more truthful one is to themselves the easier/better decisions become ��

[tiffanynjcd24]

Thank you jane. I have to admit it wasn't easy. I pretend that I was just heterosexual cd until I realize that even when I dress up and put on makeup, I am attractive to guys and other cds. It's like how I want to be treated as a woman by a guy

[AmandaM]

Well, don't decide until you see how it goes. You might decide men are "meh".

[tiffanynjcd24]

To be honest, I still think about women but like I said before, it's hard to find women who accepts me as a cd around my area. I feel like I kind of lost interest in dating women or pursing a relationship with women. Last time I tried to date guys, I kind of didn't like it

Amanda you think that I probably would go back to dating a woman?

I haven't date a woman in a long time

[Krisi]

If you're gay, you are gay, that's fine. I'm not too sure about being gay because you can't find a woman who will accept you as a crossdresser though. "Gay" has nothing to do with your clothing.

I would say though that if a gay man wanted to attract another gay man, dressing as a woman wouldn't be the way to do it. A gay man would be looking for another gay man.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Anyway as a crossdresser, who I should date then like who does like crossdressers

I haven't been in a relationship with a woman for a long time. Last time I been in a relationship was like 6 years ago and it didn't turn out well. Plus I kind of lost interest in women because there is not enough women in my area and most of them have emotional baggage that I don't want to deal with.

Like it's hard on me to find a woman. Then I find other cds attractive like I want to date one.

I just feel that I gave up on finding a woman like I don't want to deal with a woman who can be manipulative and telling me that it's OK for me to dress up when in reality she doesn't accept it

[Teresa]

Tiffany,
I think it's great you are in a position to admit your preferences, as long you are happy with it and will no one else will be hurt enjoy your life but stay safe !

I'm totally the other way, I prefer women no matter how I'm dressed, men don't come into my thinking at all !

Krisi,
There are no set rules, each one to their own, who we are attracted to has no boundaries or guidelines !

[KrissyP]

Aren't we all looking for relationship in one form or another? I do think we need to be careful not to simply follow the path of least resistance. You have to admit that for a heterosexual male, cross dressing does not make it any easier to find a GG who is attracted to you. I am semi-surprised (though given that I am on this forum I shouldn't be) to find that some of you have inferred there are actually GGs who are interested in CDs. In any event, if you want to build authentic relationships through CD you have probably limited the pool of candidates significantly. Any relationship though takes time, trust and effort. No shortcuts.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Oh like me I just have to change my preference. Like I prefer to date other crossdressers like myself. I also prefer to date guys by any chance. But as far me dating a gg, it would be horrible like I would have to give up my crossdressing just for her. I can't not do that to myself and that's like suppressing it as to make others happy. I want to be happy and I do love myself.

Besides I don't have to date girls in which I am not in a relationship with any girls at all

[hunnybun]

Interesting thread this one, I'm not gay but I can't say that with 100% conviction, as others have said desires and fantasises change when dressed as a woman, I'm hoping this is normal, this morning I had just put on my tights and making sure they were smooth, the strangest feeling came over me, it was like someone else was feeling my legs, I can't describe the feeling but it was good. Live life as it comes, that's my motto.

Hunny

[tiffanynjcd24]

I have that same feeling it's like how I like when I dress up as tiffany, I feel feminine like all I can think about is dating cds or guys

[Tracii G]

I have found at least in my area gay guys aren't really interested in men that CD or ones that are more feminine than most guys.
They are interested in a regular guy.
Being gay and a CD/TG has been kind of pain as far as finding Mr right for me anyway it could be totally different for you.

[tiffanynjcd24]

What about me dating another cd now that is something that I want to do

I did came across those guys in my area and you are right like some guys would say that they accept me as a cd, yet they want me to be the guy for them

[countrygirl]

Welcome, as a fellow crossdresser who is gay also we are a minority but we are here as well.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Thank you amanda. I appreciate it

How many of gay crossdressers are in here

[Teresa]

Tiffany,
I guess to some that's a double whammy !
Finding the courage to sign up to the forum and then admit you're gay !!
Please don't forget you are the open part of the forum , anyone can read this , some will not admit to being a CDer and use a real avatar and name let alone reveal their sexual preferences !

[tiffanynjcd24]

I see maybe I shouldn't put it out there. But I felt that it was a way to express my true feelings about who I am. Yes I would say that before I was believing that I was a hetrosexual cd who thinks that a woman would want to date me. I realized that when I am tiffany, I could only think about dating a guy or another cd. I would never want to think about gg. I haven't been with a relationship with a gg for a long time.

[Teresa]

Tiffany,
Don't feel it's wrong , you're being honest, the point I was making is others can't be as open and honest !

[tiffanynjcd24]

Thank you teresa.

I hated that I was lying to myself about being a straight CD. I knew that the moment that I like other cds and/or guys is the moment that I am a gay cd. It took me a long time to admit that I am gay and I love to cd. Even loving a cd or a guy really excites me

[Sky]

How many of gay crossdressers are in here

A lot. :)

[tiffanynjcd24]

Wow I did not know. I know I am not the first that is for sure

[Tracii G]

Finding someone I am interested in is hard for me so thats a big part of my problem as far as dating goes.
I'm really picky when it comes to what I like in a guy.

[Katey888]

How many of gay crossdressers are in here

Tiff - you must have seen the following thread: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?230852-Have-you-been-with-a-guy

Quite a few there, it seems... and an older thread for the sentimental among us: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?208133-So-Just-how-straight-of-a-guy-are-you

You're certainly not alone here, but it's fair to say some folk probably are still unwilling to talk about it here because of the same discrimination that exists in the vanilla world... seems improbable, but true... :)

Just be happy you've reached a harmonious point for yourself - and you live in a region with a very active CD and gay community (as I understand), and you're young, single and pretty... So have fun and be careful... :yahoo:

Katey x

[gokatiegirl]

Tiffany,
I an so happy you have found yourself. My offer still stands, in the spring I will take you to Asbury Park. The bars are packed full of hot guys and sexy cross dressers.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Kate can I date a cd. I am just curious.

BTW Kate I will take you up on your offer

[Tracii G]

You can date whoever you want I would think.

[TrishaLake]

Everyday that I find more of myself is a good day and it sounds like this was a good day for you. I have been with men and women and I can still say I like women more. They are just sexy to me. My wife always turns me on. I think with men there is less feelings and more just fun...while with a women I feel more. That is just me. Follow your heart and all that will matter is you will be happy...

[paulaprimo]

omg a gay crossdresser... what's this world coming to. :eek:
good thing i'm straight and just like men! :heehee:

wishing you the very best!! :)

[tiffanynjcd24]

Thanks it's not easy at all to be myself. I still thinking about girls. It's just around my area I couldn't find that acceptance with them.

[AmandaM]

If you're still thinking about girls, don't count them out. I think u need to keep all your options open.

[josrphine]

Hi All, As being one of the most senior members 75 , I have going the whole route. If you look at my proflie you will see my picture, I can't for some reason get it on with my name. I have been told by women an men I don't look or act my age. What I have found out is to br carefull in who u pick to go with. I have found great satisfaction with both. I feel that if I looklike a women an some one comes on to me I will ck it out. I present my self as what I am a older looking women. I am married an have a wonderfull women that is great to me. If you look like a women an present your self as a women be a women . It works for me. Jo

[tiffanynjcd24]

Are you sure there are girls out there who like crossdressers? Maybe I can find beautiful girl who accepto me for me as well as my crossdressing. Maybe there are still a chance for me to be with a girl

I haven't been in a relationship with a girl for a long time

I don't want to waste my time to trying be in a relationship with a woman if I know it's not going to happen.

There this one girl I talked to but I don't trust her at all. Yes she's interested in me but I can't be with a person because she might tell my secret and then others probably spread my secret around

I just feel that I find other crossdressers and guys attractive more. Like maybe I wasted my time with girls

[Krisi]

I think you're going about this all wrong. You should be looking to date someone who you are attracted to and who is attracted to you, not looking for someone who is attracted to a crossdresser. Sexual preference should not be based on who is willing to date you, it should be based on who you are attracted to.

I suggest putting the crossdressing in the back of your mind when not dressed (working, shopping, going to church, etc.) and looking for someone that shares your other interests and seems compatible with you. Someone you enjoy being around.

Then you can ask this person if they want to "hang out" or go on a date.

If it seems like this could turn into a long term relationship, that is the time to bring up the crossdressing thing.

That's the way most of us have done it, some after many years of marriage. If this person really loves and cares about you, the crossdressing will be accepted or at least tolerated.

[desertrider]

From being on this site long enough, I'm quite sure every possible combination of gender and sexuality identities and preferences is out there. I'd certainly be interested if I could get my heart now into my body 20 years ago (family now, no regrets tho).

I can say from experience, going out 50/50 is good for an occasional guy's number. Lol. I used to be so scared people might think I was gay. Now I'm feeling more like myself when I'm looking queer. Queer isn't exactly gay for me (although I'm attracted to anyone sporty without too much body hair), it's more of a culture that just fits me too well having accepted myself.

So then I went to some support groups and found it waaay heavy. Then I started going to some of the independent/fun stuff around town, like the WTF (women,trans,femme) nights at the bike/maker/art houses and I met a bunch of really awesome friends. Friends with other friends of the sort who don't have society's hangups about who they might want to date...

People are attracted to people being themselves! There's lots of people out there without other filters messing that up, and I believe you'll find them (you found us after all, now go check out the city(s) and kick over some rocks if you can!)

Hugs & Luck,
Summer

[tiffanynjcd24]

Problem is there is not enough girls around my area. Even if I give up dressing, I feel as I am making them happy and making my self miserable. Like I feel that oh they say they love it but they actually don't.

Like I know like most girls wouldn't want to date a cd or being seen with them. Some girls would accept it depends on where I do find them and it's hard to find them.

[1958Candi]

I am not gay, I am bi. I am "mostly" straight but when I have the urge to dress it is usually combined with the desire to be with a man. Although it seems like most in here are straight, this forum has made me feel so much better ... I don't feel like I am alone anymore.

[Krisi]

"not enough girls around my area" ????

The population on earth is somewhere around 50 -50 men vs. women. What sort of place are you where there are not enough girls?

[flatlander_48]

t:

You know, if this was easy, everybody would be doing it!!

My best to you for making a major admission to yourself. It's pretty scary to realize that where you should be is the road less travelled as that flies in the face of so much of what we've been told growing up.

I think that whenever we come to a decision such as you have, it can allow other topics to come to the surface. We realize that the world, and our thinking, doesn't need to be as rigid as we once thought. We can consider other possibilities and the notion bubbles up that what society has told us about gender identity, sexuality, etc. may not be entirely true.

Good Luck on your journey,

DeeAnn

[tiffanynjcd24]

I live in nj. The reason I said that being that there are crazy girls around my area, girls that married and had kids, girls that are manipulative, etc

Candi what about you dating other cds

[Krisi]

Girls in NJ are no different than girls anywhere else. They may talk funny but they are no different.

[tiffanynjcd24]

But yea I seem to lost interest in girls. Like there are no girls out there that want to date me who dress as a woman.

Besides I lost my virginity to a cd

[1958Candi]

I am married so I don't date anyone. My fantasies are all in my head!

[tiffanynjcd24]

But for me, I actually want to act out on my fantasy on being with a cd. I keep thinking about it

[1958Candi]

When I am dressed, I fantasize about being with a man, not a CD. When I am in "man mode" my fantasies turn towards CDs. Funny but I don't have the CD to CD fantasy.

[tiffanynjcd24]

But I want to experience it for real

[Tracii G]

Tiffany I know what you mean about some girls being crazy and very hard to trust at times.
Its a different world out there these days and some girls act more like men.By that I mean fight and have a big mouth or want men just to use them to pay their bills or pay for their kids they had by other guys.
Its really hard to find one that has common sense sometimes.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Yes that's too. That's why I might as well date another cd which I do have in common with, a guy or a transgender girl

[Tracii G]

That makes a lot of sense Tiffany it really does.
I have one CD friend that lives in inner city Chicago and he tells me the same thing the women are totally crazy.
He turned me on to TJsotomayor on YT and I see what he meant about women in his area.
Not sure if you live in or out of a major city but there are crazy women all over so finding one that is cool with you can be quite a task.
I have only found one girl in my area that was ok with me as I am. She wanted more than I could giver her so we broke up.

[tiffanynjcd24]

I understand tracii

[Robin414]

OK, If I weren't so far away (geographically), and very happily married 😆 ...I'd TOTALLY let you ask me out on a date (or vise versa 😉 ) Tiffany!

[tiffanynjcd24]

I'm am still bisexual. It's just that I like other cds and guys more especially when I dress up as tiffany.

I could never get the chance to experience it

[Princess Chantal]

So you are not gay. You are a bisexual or pansexual who is somewhat giving up on seeking a committed relationship with women and now focusing on having a relationship with a crossdresser or a man. I have been in a relationship with another crossdresser for over a decade, we both identify as pansexual with preference sexually leaning towards women. Emotionally we are committed to each other, however we have an open relationship pertaining to sexual activities.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Well yes I am pansexual. I still haven't give up on women yet but at the same time it's hard to date them and idk exactly why

Yes I am still interested in dating another cd more.

[CONSUELO]

I congratulate you on just being yourself and telling others. I wish you the very best.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Thank you I have to admit yes I like other cds more. I would say I want to get women another chance but at the same time it's not easy. Right now I am talking to this woman and she knows I'm a cd so she accepts me. (Due to the fact she can be noisy) But I can't date her

[Lorileah]

Tiffany, I think we get the fact you like "CDs more" Let it go

[Tracii G]

Being pansexual does give you more options.
Just keep looking and I'm sure you will find someone.
The way I look at it I really don't have to be in a relationship to be happy but I understand some feel they need to be in one.
Good luck Tiffany.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Well I was talking to that girl and she wants me to give up my lifestyle

[Adelaide]

Why should you give up your lifestyle? A true partner that really appreciate you would never want you to give up part of who you really are. A true partner would not only appreciate part of you...he/she would relish the fact that you are genuine. This girl doesn't deserve you.

[Dana44]

Tiffany,I agree don't give up your lifestyle for a girl. A CD or a guy. It is what you are and find one of those that accepts you for what you are. It may take a little time but keep looking.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Thanks I will keep looking. What if I wait for that someone

[Lexi Moralas]

Good for you girl !! Be true to yourself.
So many of us struggle with the coulda woulda BS on one level or another.
I am glad you are free to pursue what brings you happiness.
And I think the GG's want to to stop dressing because OMG are you stunning ! Am I right girls ? No GG wants to date a guy who turns more heads than she does lol

[Tracii G]

Don't change for anyone ever. Stand your ground and be yourself.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Thanks girls. Besides she basically stop me from being myself at times by constantly call me and I have to drive them around on weekends

[Tracii G]

Sounds like she was just using you and real friends don't do that.

[tiffanynjcd24]

You are right. I'm not worry about that anymore. Hey who knows I might hook up with another cd at a party (just make sure I need to bring protection). All I'm saying is that I am happy who I am. It's just kind of hard of not be able to find someone that understands you or dating a cd that is like you or dating a woman that accepts you for you. It's hard for me to hang out with other cds too.

Yes tracii every weekend I have to take them places. I bought the girl foods, ps4, phones, etc because I care about her at the time. But I turned around and I am hearing oh you need to give up cding

[Krisi]

I will admit to not being an expert on gayness but from what I've heard and read from gay people, being gay does not come from not being able to find a partner of the opposite sex, being gay comes from within. Most say it's something you are born with.

I do know that if I were to go to sea with an all male crew, not being able to be with a woman would not turn me gay. I think most men would agree with me on this.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Yes you are probably right krisi. I don't know it's just sometimes it's frustrating but at the same time I don't even think about it like that. Only thing I do is play video games that's it. Then when I do talk to a girl like her, only thing she want from me is to change my ways like give up crossdressing for good if I want to be with her


Not only that but i also work in the IT department. I do want to go out as tiffany.

It's just that the area I live in, there are not a lot girls that are into cds like me. Even if I do get into a relationship with a girl, it's always going be like oh you need to give up cding for good.

Anyway i do love myself and I care about my self.