Is it true?

[Bruce64]

is it true? That once I starting dressing up like a Girl, down the road and this may take years 40, 50 years who knows, that I would end up dressing fully and openly as a Woman.

[Sandie70]

Remember what Doris Day once sang?

"Que sera, sera / Whatever will be, will be / The future's not ours to see / Que sera, sera."

Don't start focusing on what hasn't happened yet that you don't enjoy the journey.

[Tracii G]

No I wouldn't think so but we all are different so who knows?
Like Sandie said don't focus on the what hasn't happened.
Its lines of thought like this that will drive you crazy.

[Allisa]

Life is like a box of chocolates..., who knows what will happen or how far you'll progress, if it feels good and doesn't hurt anyone enjoy yourself. I'm sure there are plenty of men who go as far only wearing a few items for their own enjoyment and relaxation. There are more important things to worry about in life, just go with the flow.

[Bruce64]

The reason I asked that question is that I am getting more obsessed with Feminine clothing and I am going to stores and purchasing them and enjoying wearing them. I think also that attributes itself , since I have my own quarters now I am a bit more free.

[Heidi Stevens]

Have you been reading my bio, Bruce? :heehee:

[NicoleScott]

When I was single again, living alone with a good job in a new town, the escalation bug hit me. I could dress as much as I wanted (not at work, but I didn't want to do that), and as it turned out, it was 3-4 times a week. There were other interests. That time was the most I ever dressed. Life happened, and changes came. I always knew I was and am a crossdresser, happy to occasionally dress in private.

[heatherdress]

Bruce - The future is unknown. You may want to want to dress full time some day or you may not. There are no set answers, no statistics, no guarantees. It is your life. Learn, explore, develop, grow, enjoy. Live your life the best you can.

[I Am Paula]

Absolutely untrue. It was 20 years.

[carhill2mn]

Not necessarily. It may happen for various reasons as you and your circumstances change.

[kittie60]

It will depend on what you want to do with yourself later on in life. I wouldn't worry about that now just enjoy your life now.

[GeorgeA]

Since you said "dressing like a girl" I assume you dress completely: wigs, make-up, shoes etc. but it does not have to be so. Read what Feminin Alissa said: plenty of men who go as far only wearing a few items for their own enjoyment and relaxation.. I am like that and I have been doing it much longer than you specified. I am in a skirt & lingerie all the time, even if sometimes just underdressed, but I am a man at all times and never try to look or feel like a woman. It all depends on what you feel is right for you. I have been criticised or at least put down on this forum as not being a "true crosdresser", but it does not bother me at all, and I feel right at home here, even though I might be an "odd man out". And I know there are several others like me.

[Sky]

Why 40 years? Is your blouse that tight?

[Tracii G]

Just from you using the word obsessing it sounds like the pink fog has gotten a hold of you right now.
Some people get into a hobby or activity they go all in and buy every accessory associated with that hobby or activity and that pretty much is an obsession.

[CarolBrown]

As Tracii has suggested, it also sounds to me like a hefty cloud of pink fog has surrounded you. It will lift again, but, for now, try to keep your focus on a comfortable goal, a few days away rather than decades down the road.

We are who we are, and we all are at different stages. I consider myself a cross dresser, yet only really have the opportunity once every few months and fumble through the pink fog quite frequently.

[prene]

You need to wait that long?

Nooooooo .....

[sarahcsc]

Bruce,

It is as true as you want it to be.

You decide if its going to be 40 years, or 40 seconds.

Don't let anybody set a goal for you. Its your life, your responsibility.

Love,
S

[pamela7]

Bruce, the answer is "no, it's not true". For most people here they remain CD and have occasional pink fogs, and the small minority transition. Just compare the posts on the transsexual forum to the CD forum to get an idea of the ratios.

[CarlaWestin]

What has actually happened to me is that I really started caring less about male clothing and I'm obsessed with feminine attire.
I had trouble finding a male business/casual pants and shirt for an event at work.
But, my walk in closet has an amazing assortment of dresses and costumes.
Then there's two dressers full of bras and other lingerie. And shoes! Wigs!
For me, portraying male is just a holding pattern between times of being lovely.

[Bruce64]

Something is happening to me, I bought a stay up and a bra, never did that before, I still haven't got that pretty mini slip, probably this week. And by the way what is the " pink fog " ? I suddenly get a Girly feeling, I can say by by joining this forum, I just want to explore a bit more, I just saw on you tube two pretty girls giving sissy training, I will love to have that for fun.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Bruce:hugs:, I've been in this dressing up program for over 69yrs. now and that hasn't happened to me yet. ~~...:daydreaming:...

[Heidi Stevens]

Pink fog, Bruce, is the mental state you get into when you will do anything, buy anything from your female side of thinking. You think of nothing else, you stop all rational thinking in the pursuit of everything Fem! You are in a fog, a Pink Fog. It's when you come out of the fog that you notice that you may have done some wild things and bought some interesting items. Beware the Pink Fog!

[ClosetED]

It is not true. You are currently free from typical social pressures at home and are exploring. You can search this site for "pink fog" but a good thread started by Jenniferathome is http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?220111-Is-progression-inevitable-and-endless/page2
You say you now have your own quarters, so you can dress all you want in private, so you are exploring as much as your desire. You are trying to catching up to all the things you imagined doing and so are lost in that wonderful set of sensations and dreams. The graph shows that many go thru this pink fog stage and then find their own set point of what they need. Some will decide that they experienced it and that was enough and need little more. Others will find they found their true selves and want to do this full time or transition. Just enjoy the journey and be glad that society is now more accepting of this than 40 years ago.
Hugs, Ellen

[Adriana Moretti]

oh its totally true.....really.....not really ..if we were all the same life would be very boring

[Bruce64]

Thanks all for the feedback and advise, your responses are well appreciated. Thanks a Million.

[Krisi]

is it true? That once I starting dressing up like a Girl, down the road and this may take years 40, 50 years who knows, that I would end up dressing fully and openly as a Woman.

According to some of the posts on this forum, you may turn gay from dressing.

Seriously, how you "end up" is entirely up to you. You won't end up living as a woman unless you decide you want to. This part of your life is entirely under your control.

If you stop and give it some serious thought, living as a woman when you have a male body is no piece of cake. As a crossdresser you can get up in the morning and decide if you want to go to all the trouble of shaving (your face, legs and arms), applying makeup, breast forms, hip and butt padding, perhaps a girdle and female clothing, jewelry and shoes or just throw on a pair of jeans and a T shirt and hitting the road.

Once you decide to live as a woman, the choice goes away and you have to go through this process every day. You can't switch back and forth. And you won't be able to fool all the people all the time. Some will see through you.

[Rachelakld]

Life changes and we change - that much I can guarantee
If you dress, it might start feeling "normal" in later life (or more likely you stop caring about what other people may think)
If you don't dress, for the urge may becomes stronger until it screws with your head, or you might win Lotto and buy a boat instead.

[Robin414]

Yah, maybe!?

[Dana44]

It may be true, yet some of us don't fully live like a woman. We have managed to stay male, but we still crossdress.

[SHY KIM]

Don't force the issue and certainly don't fight it! Enjoy the journey and eventually you will end up in a happy place in your life:battingeyelashes:
In my case when I become somewhat obsessed or in the PINK FOG (luv that phrase) I'm quite happy

[Diversity]

All in time.....😊. It's what you want it to become, that will be the outcome.
Have fun!
Di

[Tina_gm]

For some. It will progress. That progression is IMO in reality a person coming to a true understanding and comfort of themselves. Time will tell for you. There are people on here who were convinced it would never become a full time/transition thing. Then lster did. Others who thought they were on a one way ticket to female but later realized that it was not really where they were best to be.

[Cheryl T]

Yes, yes, yes...it's an unavoidable consequence that you will proceed to more and more dressing, ultimately going full time, having surgery and becoming a woman.
The same is true for Marijuana, it leads inevitably to hard drugs. Coca cola destines you to a lifetime of rum drinking, sometimes with fruit and a little umbrella.

C'mon, there are no cause and effects here. It is what it is and you go where you need to go. It's different for everyone.
The only certainty in this world is that if you earn money, the government will try to take it away...and so will your wife....LOL

[docrobbysherry]

U want the TRUTH, Bruce? I'd tell u. But, I'm not sure u can handle the TRUTH!:devil:

[Sarah Doepner]

Bruce,

My advice is don't be afraid of what you are feeling, but be aware of what you are doing. All our choices have consequences, some good and some not so good. While I agree with those comments stating you are in control of what you do, I also remember the times where I needed to do more than I had planned on. You are learning about something new in your life and that can be very exciting and rewarding. However it is also something that can be all consuming if you allow it. If you find yourself doing things or spending time in ways that become a conflict with your everyday responsibilities, you may need some help. If you find yourself uncomfortable or ashamed by what you are doing, consider getting counseling. But if you are having a good time with it, enjoy the trip. It will end up where it matches your needs eventually, even if you don't know what those needs are at this moment.

[Catriona]

Go with Sandie! Who knows? Just be true to yourself, and consider those who love you and thos whom you lovw.

[Bruce64]

So far all good here, I made an actual bra fitting appointment and the lady is telling me don't be worried , come on down, gonna be fun.I suddenly get an urge to dress up and I am really enjoying it.

[threeheavenshigh]

Pink fog, Bruce, is the mental state you get into when you will do anything, buy anything from your female side of thinking. You think of nothing else, you stop all rational thinking in the pursuit of everything Fem! You are in a fog, a Pink Fog. It's when you come out of the fog that you notice that you may have done some wild things and bought some interesting items. Beware the Pink Fog!

Pink Fog is awesome. I'd move there forever if I could. :)

Personally, after figuring out what I was, I get dressed whenever I can. That ends up being rarely, but I take what I can get.