If you could would you sacrifice.....

[Princess Chantal]

For those that are able to crossdress everyday but for some reason are limited to the confines of their house/property
Would you sacrifice crossdressing everyday to crossdress for once in a while special socializing occasions (conventions, girls nights outs, etc)?

For those that are able to once in a while attend special socializing occasions and are limited for whatever reasons to not crossdress whenever you want at home
Would you sacrifice the once in a while special socializing crossdressing to be able to crossdress whenever you want at home?

[Princess Chantal]

The questions are one or the other, please refrain if you can't answer appropriately as it defeats the purpose of the questions

[Krisi]

I can't imagine a situation where that question would be valid. If you dress at home, why would you not be able to dress for "special occasions"? And vice versa?

[Princess Chantal]

Krisi I have read countless reasons why and have many local friends that are restricted in one or the other situations. Take my friend Rhaina for example. She is in a DADT situation with her spouse. Rhaina is asked to refrain from dressing at home, however is able with her spouses okay to crossdress at conventions, social crossdressing group meetings, or for a weekend of fun activities here in Winnipeg (she lives 2 hours away). She was actually the inspiration for my post. I have asked her the question in which implies to her and her reply was " not at all" as she is very satisfied with the current situation and looks forward to the next occasion

[Meghan4now]

It's is a good and valid question Princess. Hmmm, toughy. I do so enjoy getting out in public, and I'm not looking to transition, so I think I will continue with the way things are. Plus if I were full time at home, I would probably be alone at home. That is not a sacrifice I am willing to make.

[Karen RHT]

Your question relates directly to my situation Chantal, so I'll try to answer best I can.

Although my wife accepts me dressing, she is becoming more concerned (paranoid?) about someone seeing me while I'm dressed inside our home. For example she now asks that I stay away from windows at the front of the house when the drapes aren't drawn. The last time Purolator delivered to our home, she commented about being thankful I wasn't dressed at the time. I've told her of my plans to attend a girls night out, or go shopping in cities and hour or so away. Once again, her concern that I might be seen and recognized either leaving from home, on my return, or while I was there, was raised. My main objective is to wear what I want, where I want, when I want. On that basis, I don't see how trading one for the other would get me to where I want to be. No...I wouldn't sacrifice.


Karen

[Katey888]

Fair question Chantal... another one of those behaviour things that differentiates us... :)

In fact I could dress a little everyday if I wanted - but don't have the desire to. I fall easily into the second camp and I would not want to give up the socialising/ special occasion aspect of what I do and how I do it. Interaction, socialising and getting out is by far the most satisfying aspect, although a full dressing session at home does help when nothing else beckons... Personally, I need to have the full transform to feel right about myself.

To each their own... :)

Katey x

[michelleddg]

Your hypothetical is pretty much where I am. My dressing is pretty much limited to when my wife is out of town. I do not indulge when she's at home, out of respect, and she's OK with my doing my thing when she's away, again out of respect. So, I might go months without getting dolled up but when I do it's full on with lots of outings and activity. I am happy with the arrangement :-) Hugs, Michelle

[Stephanie47]

Under my DADT life I am able to be en femme when my wife is at work. That gives me about seven hours of femme time up to five days per week. I don't have the inclination to be out and about en femme and interact with the populace. When I do have the opportunity to go out at night I will go for strolls, but, still not interact with people. I think it is all about my comfort zone. Decades ago when my wife and I had "the talk," she told me she was OK with the idea of me attending a support group. That would be in the early 1980's. There weren't any around. When I did find a "hot line" to call I asked where I could find like minded individuals. The person I talked to was immature and rude. I sincerely hoped the person would never be answering calls on a suicide hot line.

Annually there is a convention held in Port Angeles, Washington that I sometimes consider attending. I think I would need an ice breaker of some kind before I would attend a large gathering. I've seen many pictures here and on the internet of the activities there and in Atlanta. I think I would like to attend if I knew someone.

The only thing in my cross dressing life that I would really like is to be able to have some degree of acceptance and participation from my wife. I dream of preparing dinner for her after she comes home from work, and, getting a nice pat on my ass and a nice comment to go along with it, 'I love your dress today."

A true DADT is akin to really not telling your wife. It is really like being in total isolation. If the stars were aligned I'd probably be willing to forego five days of dressing in isolation for one day of mingling with others.

[Princess Chantal]

Thanks all for the great reads so far!

[Ashley01]

For the last few months I have been able to dress at home pretty much any day I want to. I don't feel any desire to go out in public and my SO wouldn't be keen on that idea. I dress because of the way the dressing makes me feel and I don't get the feeling I'm not sure that being seen by others would make me feel any better -- especially as not everyone would necessarily be accepting.

From reading what people have said on here it does look like many people's views and desires seem to change over time. So... if you ask me next year my answer could easily be very different.

As an aside, I never thought that I would like being dressed (at home) in front of my SO but in fact I find it makes me really happy - and she is happy too, I hasten to add.

[Diane Smith]

I live alone in my own house, so there are no restrictions on my dressing here. But as my interests and experience have evolved, going out and being with people has become the sole focus of my crossdressing activity, so around the house I just don't have much interest in bothering with it. I do try things on once in awhile to see what kinds of outfits I can put together and what may be appropriate for a particular occasion, but that's just "prep work" prior to the real deal, which is to go out and be seen.

One exception is that I do wear high heels around the house most of the time. I find that if I don't exercise in them for a few hours each day, they feel awkward and uncomfortable when I have the chance to go out. And I can use that time to break in new shoes and assess their fit before I commit to wearing them outside.

- Diane

[MissTee]

I dress whenever I want at home, and I do not go out. I would not trade it either. Dressing at home either alone or with my wife as company is relaxing and helps me recharge. I have no desire to give that up to go out.

[Princess Chantal]

Diane your post almost mirrors my situation and preference. I'm not all that for being seen though, more so for having fun.
I find that crossdressing for special occasions and/or for socializing (eventhough it could be a couple days a month) to be more satisfying then dressing at home everyday. Quality over quantity I guess could be said for my crossdressing. I tend to love looking forward to the special event and looking back at it months or even years after to remember the fun that was had.
However, I do understand and respect those that take pleasure in dressing everyday and deem it to be quality time. Spending time and sharing their crossdressing with a spouse or just some alone time within their home could very be satisfying as expressed in some of the comments!

[sometimes_miss]

No. For me it's about expressing TO ME who and what I am, not to the rest of the world.

[Ally 2112]

I also live alone and can pretty well crossdress when ever i want .If i could find a nice group of ladies near were i live and not cost a fortune i just might consider giving up some of my time to go out .Im just not ready to do that as much as i would like to

[bridget thronton]

Chantal - if I had as many interesting places to visit as you do I would opt for special event dressing too