If You Could Change....

[Donna Indelco]

....who you are, I'm assuming your a cd,tv,tg,etc., would you do it? No questions asked, no repercussions, no going back, just flip a switch and you're done with it. Of course this is ridiculous but personally I would stay just the way I am today. I accepted and embraced that side of me a long time ago and have no desire to change that. What would you do?

[TaraGrace]

Hmm, no.. although I would like to be able to snap my fingers or wiggle my nose to switch back and forth as I'd like

[Lauri K]

Well Donna,

To tell you the truth I have been looking on the master panel console for that switch for many years, sadly it doesn't seem to exist, but if it did I would switch it to warp speed girl mode.

Fun to dream of such of a thing as a flip of a switch though

[SHY KIM]

I'm with Tara. My first reaction would be to say that I'd go back and forth on a whim BUT something tells me once would be enough. Just to feel the real thing - just one time!

[Nadine Robles]

Same. Just back and forth once and I could die in peace

[Judy-Somthing]

I like who I am and it's been so fun over the last forty year, I wish my wife could be part of it.

[Ashley Lyn]

My wife has known for years, but since my step-daughter found out and is very supportive, my wife has been thrilled..
Certainly, I would love to be a girl for a week or so (I think), but I enjoy my 'Guy time' too..
I'd like the world to accept the 'guy who wants to present himself as a girl' be an OK thing....
I can picture myself wearing a skirt/blouse and knee high boots shooting pool with my buddies.. Why not!!

[kittie60]

Yup. I'd throw that switch and.never look back. Would be building a new life.

[Robin777]

I don't think so. I have no desire to change. I have no regrets.

[Robin414]

Like. ...the world...OK

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QvuZup6lAkM

[Joanne108]

Nothing I like the way I am.

[S. Lisa Smith]

I am also happy in both modes. Wish my nose were smaller, however.

[MissDanielle]

It would either be born a girl from the get go or not be trans. It's already made my life hellish enough as it is. With my religious beliefs, it's already tough on me as it is.

[sometimes_miss]

Of course. Life is difficult enough without more unnecessary complications that don't have a solution.

[Ceera]

For me, no, I would not want a 'cure' for being born male and desiring to present female and experience both sides. if someone offered to rid me of those urges, I woud say no.

Perhaps, if the 'cure' consisted not of a cessation of the feminine urges and desires, but of an immediate and 100% transformation to truly female, including being shorter and properly proportioned, I might go for that.

Though as others said, what I would really love would be to be able to switch back and forth at will. In my case, I would be doing that switching a lot. I seriously doubt one time would do it for me, at all.

But at this point in my life I am quite enjoying being gender fluid, and it's harming nothing for me.

[Katey888]

I understand the whole 'love yourself' concept. But to choose such a difficult thing to deal with by choice is kind of, well, a bad choice. It's like choosing to be blind or deaf or a double amputee. If you're already there, well, then yes, do the best you can. But choose that? No.

^This too... :)

If this was the only thing that I could change I would change it... Lexi's right - I think most of us are confusing making the best of something versus starting over. But having said that, there are other things in life I would rather change if this was one of those three, generic wish thingys... I'd be happy to live with this and bury it if I could have my wife healthy... :(

Katey x

[charlene#2]

i really think that if a person that has went thru the change from male to female would answer this question we would have a more quality answer(either way male to female---or female to male).i would like to hear if its all they expected or wanted.

[Sarah Beth]

If I would have had that choice back in my late teens or earl twenties I would have chosen to flip that switch and change it all. Now after all these years and everything I have gone through I wouldn't do it. It would be like closing the barn door after all the horses have gotten out. There wouldn't be a point to it.

[Kate Simmons]

If I'm in charge of my own destiny, I don't think it matters too much. :battingeyelashes::)

[donnaS]

Definantly yes for me.

[BillieAnneJean]

I would absolutely NOT flip a one time switch. It is too much fun being a guy and even more so because I can escape the solemnity of it now and then by cross dressing. And besides, it seems that women have to deal with so many social and cultural pressures of appearance and behavior. And the safety issues. No thanks to that on a daily basis.

Now if there was a bi directional switch and I could experience the real thing knowing I could escape back to the guy life............... Then maybe once, or once in a while, for a few hours. But I would always go back to the original me. Certainly a big part of that is the joy I get of being with my SO. THAT is my main reward for being a guy. I could NEVER give that up.

[Lilly Diadem]

Once upon a time many years ago I may have thought the change was the solution to my 'problems'; but now I know who I am, I am happy with that and would not swap my anything for my life with my wife.

Lilly x

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Donna:hugs:, I'm very happy having the best of both worlds. ~~...:daydreaming:...

[Tina_gm]

Yes, I would hit the switch , take the pill, whatever, and be done with cding. It is not that I dislike myself (anymore ) or am afraid of it, where it might go etc etc. It is about making life a lot less complex. Perhaps, if I had begun my own acceptance much earlier, or lived in a more accepting environment I might feel differently.

[Kandi Robbins]

In a heartbeat, I'd flip the switch. Life is difficult enough without the complications CDing presents (even with an accepting wife).

However, since that is not an option, I will live with who I am and love myself as I am. Since it took me almost 50 years to get to where I am, it would be disingenuous to say I would not flip that switch.

[Cd_scarlett]

I would not change. As hard as it is to accept my femme side sometimes, I do love the art of the transformation. I love going from masculine man to gorgeous woman. That's the appeal for me and I think flipping a switch would ruin that for me.

[AndrewJenny]

I would excise Kat from my life, but I'd absolutely make her "another part of ME (as an integrated, otherwise self-stable man)" instead of "the borderline force-of-nature who takes over my body for days at a time".

What I'd really like is to give her her own body so we could go through life together in the right bodies we were both meant to have.

Kat

[OCCarly]

These days, every time I dress male for more than half a day, my blood pressure rises. I'm a girl, it seems, and if I could instantly change my body to conform to that, I would do it immediately and never go back.

[grace7777]

If I could flip a switch I would want be born a female.

[Lily Catherine]

I see no point in starting over. The proverbial bell's been rung anyway. Everything since the first day I wore that gorgeous silk ensemble has shaped me somewhat to who I am now (and by no means does that attach itself to a simple label) so I wouldn't change that for a totally different route that left this aspect unexplored.

No doubt my religion's texts had a notable bit to say about this issue, and I indeed feel that I've had an overdose of vanity one too many times, but if this my burden to bear, I can only bear it the best I can. And I strongly doubt that being a crossdresser is something you choose let alone wish upon another.

Hugs and regards
Lily

[Patty's panties]

disingenuous, Good word.

I like being a guy and I'm just starting to like myself. Kinda a work in progress. So no big switch here.


Peace....

[Kellitgdet]

I would have to say no, I love both sides of me. Although I do fantasize and do wish at times that I was born a girl.

[Tiffany Jane]

Perhaps, if I had begun my own acceptance much earlier, or lived in a more accepting environment I might feel differently.

My feelings exactly after twenty-five years of slowly building walls. Only to find I just wanted to accept myself and be seen for who I feel I am.

[Jenny22]

This sorta ties to "I wish I had been born a girl." You flip the switch or get your wish and shazam, you are a girl. But, would you ever remember that you were previously a boy who wanted to be a girl and GOT your wish? Are you presuming that when the change happened, you'd be the same race, beautiful, perfectly proportioned, no physical deformities, of sound mind, same religion, with wonderful, non-abusive parents etc.?? Would you be willing to risk the negatives of these by making the change, or would your status quo now seem to be more to your liking. I wouldn't change!

[Madilyn A.]

If not for the reality of life, I would dress as a male only around family; the rest of the time I would be dressed as I prefer, as Madilyn.

[Georgette_USA]

To Charlene

As a MtF someone who had to go thru all the Gender Dysphoria and work to fix that a reality. It would have been nice to have magic or pill to make the physical change. Know many that had to go thru all the hell for too many years.

Yes on the wanted. I feel that my first 25 years made me who I am now. As for the expected, I always try to not over expect anything. I am a realist / practical and a survivor of life. As for someone who has lived as ME for the last 38 years, some things weren't as hoped, but is anything in life that way.

Some things I wish I could change in my life, but the transition of MtF is something I have not any regrets, and am glad I was able to do it at a fairly early age of 24-26.

[Krisi]

It's a good thing this switch doesn't exist because I would have a hard time making a decision.

I'm going on the assumption that this "switch" just makes my body externally female, like all the surgery transsexuals endure, but without the red tape, expense and pain. If there was another switch to turn me back, yes, of course I would do it. I would love to try the other side for a week or two, possibly longer.

A permanent change? Well, I have a wife, children, grandchildren, brothers, in-laws, etc. and it would be very hard to explain to them why Homer now has boobs and a vagina and dresses as a woman. Same for friends and neighbors. The answer is probably "No".

My personal fantasy is that this switch or pill would allow me to switch bodies with my wife for a week or two. This would allow me to experience the female side with a safe partner.

[rocval2001]

Interesting question - I love my female self - so I think the answer is no unless I could switch to female and be done with it.

[Georgina]

I am me and I don't need to change that. Male dress is good for work and female dress is good for leisure.

[CarlaWestin]

I'd flip the switch the other way. Then it would be outrageous butt and breast implants.

[karynspanties]

Yes I would. I would rather be a woman.

[Amy Lynn3]

First, let me say...I love being a crossdresser. I would answer your question this way. If I could just drop the cding part of my life, I would, provided I would not remember ever having been a cder. I would never want to go back to being just one gender and still be able to remember I had another, different half. Greedy, I guess. If I ever get something I want to keep it.:2c:

[CathyWallace]

I would hold my breath for a long time, and then flip the switch and become a woman.

[rockerreds]

I would feel more comfortable as a female.

[PattyT]

I would not change. I am quite content to be a male, and have a lot of male interests. However, there is also the female aspect of me that needs to be expressed. I dress for this reason.

[~Katelyn~]

I'm quite content being a guy! I just like wearing the clothes! If there was a switch I would go back and fourth just once.

[karen inside]

are conditions allowed??? As long as i get to keep my health, youthfull genetics- hell yea! I love putting on my jean leggings, heels, red nail polish and loose shirt that ties around the waist- then putting on some dance musik!!! OH YEA-love the life. Good girls go to heaven, bad girls go everywhere!

[Saikotsu]

I'd stay the same. It hasn't always been easy. It won't always be easy. But I'm proud of who I am.

[Tommie.]

definitely switch to gg.... even at 63... as long as I could stay with my SO.....

[Alice Torn]

I know my 61 yrs as an unwanted single loner guy, from a hellish family, going against religion beliefs, has been emotional living hell, and i have felt like ending it all, many many times. To be come a woman the same age i am, sounds kind of nice. And if am as attractive as i am when dressed, with great legs, I would find out what most GG.s deal with: lots of male attention, wanted or not wanted! So, I would have to think a long time about turning the switch. I would consider turning it, to "no more desire to dress', OR, "become a woman for a while, then go back", and might consider "become Alice in reality. But, it would have to weigh everything.

[DonnaCD]

I have been crossdressing off and on since back in the 70's. I underdress 24/7. If I found suck a switch My hand would turn it so fast.

[kymmieLorain]

Interesting question for me. It would depend, Know if I could go back 30 years and start there. It would be tempting. Sometimes I thing and dream about being female( don't most of us) If I could try it for a while, month or two.

Kymmie

[Annajose]

I would, not because i dislike what I am, but I dislike the pain and stress tha causes to my wife and could cause my daughters.
Some might tell me that I should not care of what others think, but I love them and cannot avoid to care.
But no such switch exists, so... I continue to live and enjoy my very unique set of circumstances, i have many things for which I am grateful to God.

[Sherrii]

Probably not a permanent change but it would cause a lot of thinking. I like the idea of a switch where you could change back and forth. Wouldn't that be fun! Sherrii

[Diversity]

I'm a CD , but no, I wouldn't change as I love being a man and doing 'man' things as well. What I would change is the societal norms, do that it would be perfectly acceptable for everyone to wear any item of clothing, anytime, and anywhere. We should all be free to express our male and female sides. Hopefully in the not too distant future, we will all be classified as 'other' 😊.
Perhaps this is Heaven..,,,
DI

[sara.rafaela]

No, being a girl would take the fun out of dressing.

[JeanTG]

With my religious beliefs, it's already tough on me as it is.

Different religion, same problem...

Yes, I'd flip the switch. In a heartbeat. I don't care what it would make me, as long as it would make me content with what it made me into.

[rebecca_ns]

I would flip the switch and never look back. I enjoy my guy activities too, but I can still shoot a pistol or rifle with a ponytail and lipstick.

[HollyGreene]

As long as I can remember, I've wished I'd been born female.
There must have been some point in the womb where the DNA said "this is a boy". Assuming that it could have gone either way, I would only flip the switch if it meant that the switch had been flipped at that time and I was actually born a girl. So it would mean that I would have led a totally different life to the one I have lived so far.
I wouldn't flip the switch if nothing else changed. I'd have to be the natural mother of my sons instead of their father, etc.

[Jennifer0874]

No. During my first marriage my ex and I were in therapy. My crossdressing of course came up. My ex was very accepting but started to feel like we were just platonic girlfriends.The therapist thought I should work on what caused me to dress and try to stop dressing.

I was like lady that is 110% off the table. I really like who I am.

[Mollyanne]

What a question, for me anyway.------Here is my answer; I WOULD FLIP THE SWITCH, I WOULD TAKE THE PINK PILL, I WOULD BURN ANY/ALL GUY CLOTHES IN MY CLOSET, I guess you understand the answer.

Molly

[Jeri Ann]

I would flip the switch and then super glue it in place so that it couldn't be inadvertently switched back.

Jeri

[mechamoose]

If I could have done it at age 8 or 10, maybe.

Once the hormones kicked in, it was too late. I still liked pretties and liked both girls and boys. I didn't like one or the other, I found them both worth liking, but for very different reasons. Both were attractive, just *different*.

If I was born an XX, I'm betting that would not be different

[Tina_gm]

I think the original question was would you take a pill to end the female gender expression, not to become a female entirely....

[lisa_vin]

No, I wouldn't want the one-time switch. I like who I am as a combination of my male and female sides. What I would like is the ability to change back and forth any time I like and have it be instantaneous. Therefore, I'd either like the "Elder Wand" from Harry Potter or the witch's (Michelle Pfeiffer) power in the movie Stardust!

(The part where she changes the boy into a girl is priceless as the very first thing he/she does is pull out the dress a little and stare down at his/her breasts with a BIG smile.) :D

[Georgette_USA]

Gendermutt
Not sure on the OP's original question, was not framed very well. I know some that would have done the end of the Gender Dysphoria, if it was done early so we could have grown without all the confusion. It would have made some of our lives a lot simpler.

Lisa_vin and others

Lets skip the whole sexual aspect of this switch for now. As we know sexual identity or preferences are not necessarily directly connected to Gender identity.

Are you not now doing a flip back and forth. Or is it that you want the female parts also.

As for the combination of the male/female sides, or the idea of doing the "man/guy/male" stuff. For my own clarification just what are these "male" stuff that you wouldn't be able to do as a female. When growing up my parents did not limit us to just "boy or girl" stuff. Mother felt we should be independent.

As someone who has made a permanent physical change, not thru some magical way, but thru a long drawn out and at times a painful process. My partner and I still did a lot of the old "male" stuff, as a female can do most things a man can. In fact not sure what can't be done.
Times are changing, but when I was younger, people would question the loss of male privilege and why become a 2nd class person. Plus you had the whole pay inequalities. Back then women were shunted into less paying type jobs.

[Ally 2112]

After all the effort i have tried to get to the point of near acceptance no way i truly enjoy it to much now :)

[Krisi]

I find it a bit odd that so many people claim they would flip the switch and become female. Have you considered the effect this would have on your wives and children? Other family members? Your career and co-workers? Your neighbors?

And if you are 6' 4" and 260 lb, would you really want to be this size female?

Obviously, this "switch" doesn't exist, but if it did, it would be a very serious life event to flip it.

[Suzanne F]

I did flip the switch. Hormones for the last year with SRS scheduled May 12th. It can be done! My wife and children have been supportive and we are together. More of us are flipping that switch now than ever. Of course, inside the switch had always been at the other setting. I am here to say that we can be ourselves!
Suzanne

[Natasha V]

I starting to believe deep in my heart I would do it and enjoy the rest of my life. Hope one day I can be 100% sure.

[mechamoose]

All issues aside, you are YOU, right?

Expression is the public face of that, it doesn't change who you are.

All as confused CD/TS/TG people are just trying to figure out how we fit into our own lives.

I don't care how flaming you are in any sense of the word.

We are who we are. Try not to be so afraid of yourself.

Been there, done that.

Kitty / Moose

[Robyn2006]

I know many are happy just being who they are, enjoying that leap back and forth over the gender fence. That's not me. All of this drives me nuts. I'm only me when I'm my female self. if I won the lottery, I'd be on HRT the next day.

[lisa_vin]

Hi Georgette!

I was merely stating that I would like to be able to magically switch to the full female experience.......fully female parts, body and brain whenever I wanted to. That's why I'd love the magical power to be able to switch instantly back and forth with no permanent results/consequences. I know with HRT and surgery, you can obtain the visible female external body. But, that then becomes permanent and if that is what you want then more power to you. However, I don't want to be permanently physically changed or, especially, to experience the long, drawn-out and painful process that you and others describe. You and others have made a brave and difficult decision to transition to a female presentation/persona and I applaud all of you for your courage and determination. I am, for the most part, happy as a man but love the soft, fuzzy, mellow, calm and blissful feelings that wearing women's clothing AWARDS to me, even if it's just under-dressing with panties and/or pantyhose. It's a far better stress-buster for me than any alcohol or sedative can provide. And, more importantly, it somehow balances me and makes me feel plugged-in, whole and content. And, better equipped to face the world and it's daily challenges.