I learned the easy way why one doesn't share old name.

[Nicole Erin]

Not being sarcastic either.
I had this on and off friend for about a year whom tonight pretty much marked the end of communication.
Yeah we dated a bit but mostly a platonic thing. She was making a fuss because I have been blowing her off. Well forgive me, I have a life and a lot of stress right now.

So anyways i sent a rude text saying i was tired of hearing her complain about the same junk constantly. That didn't go over well. This was after she pointed out for the umpteenth time that I didn't drop my life to go watch her feel sorry for herself.
Not much of what was said bothered me except she had to say something to the effect of "You might have changed your name and wear woman'e clothes but you are still a man". At that point i could have said something SUPER rude like, "You are right, i am not a real woman, I will never have the chance to (do something she seriously regrets but did of her own free will)"

I got to thinking, what if I had given her my real name at some point? I almost did a couple times. I know that name would have come up during our fight.

Folks, there is a reason you don't share more than you have to. I see plenty of threads where people brag about their name change and say "as of such date, I am no longer Bob Johnson, I am Meleena Sage" or whatever.
people, why do you do this? People might know or figure out you are TS but there is NO reason to share the old name or whatever else you can hide.
Friendships run their course and they are done. Sometimes they just fade, sometimes they blow up like a nuke. In our case when they explode, the other person wants to be as rude as possible so they bring up the TS thing.

I don;t know how you all feel but for me - if they want to put me down for my gender, they better be absolutely sure they are ready to sever all contact. After remarks like that, it proves a person cannot be trusted with anything.

[Michelle789]

I agree. I wouldn't share old name, photo, or anything else about my past unless I really got to know a person and trust them. It is really none of their business.

This was also an easy (or maybe hard) lesson that the woman who said those things to you is someone you should steer clear of. She is obviously not worth your attention, not worth engaging, and not your friend. Stick with those who are supportive and treat you right.

[ReineD]

OK, first you know I like you. I always have, we go back a long time. :)

Second, I know this is not the main point of your post, but I need to say that you might have worded your response to your friend differently if you didn't want her to call up the man card. Maybe I'm dating myself and maybe young women today are more direct, but I've noticed over the years that the women I know find ways to convey messages that are more empathetic. Something like, "Sorry you're feeling bad, but I'm feeling overwhelmed with my own stuff right now and I can't help you the way you need me to. Can we talk in a few days?" And then a few days later, in person, something like, "I hope you'll take this the right way but you keep going through the same stuff over and over again and I feel awful when I see you so unhappy. I think you'd be happier if you tried to adopt a more positive outlook by (and then get into specifics).

Last, I agree that it is good she doesn't know your male name. She has no reason to, since this is not who you are.

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I'm editing this to add that your friend was socialized as a woman, and likely her expectations were that you would react to her as if you had been socialized as a woman too. You learned to deal with the world more directly and perhaps more forcefully than GGs. Maybe your friend in her emotional state was taken aback at your reaction and this is why she said this to you, even though she shouldn't have. People who have been socialized as women can lash out too, except they do it differently than people who have been socialized as men. It's just a guess, I may be completely off base.

[Jennifer-GWN]

Reine... Thanks from me for your post. Nice big sisterly advice. To be internalized for the future.

[MissDanielle]

Try having a not-so-common last name and a huge digital footprint. If I shared more than I wanted, people could easily find me online--that is how public I am. As long as I still have a relationship with my family, I'll be happy.

[Badtranny]

I'm with Nicole. I don't need anymore friends, and I certainly don't need anyone in my life who likes to bring up my past when she's upset.

Bye Felicia.

[JenniferZ2009]

I dont share my old name. It just feels weird.